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cb287f14b5de-1 | ••Acting in a way that makes you feel moral.
••Acting in a way that makes you feel capable and effective.
questions
1. How do I want to feel about myself after the interaction is over (whether or not I get the
results or changes I want)?
2. What do I have to do to feel that way about myself? What will work? | dbt.pdf |
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6a4ed00674a7-1 | by explaining positive effects of getting what you want or need.
if ne
cessary, also clarify the negative consequences of not getting
what you want or need.“I would be so relieved, and a lot easier to live with, if you do that.”Remember also to reward desired behavior after the fact.
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e877889d7feb-0 | 126interpersonal effectiveness Handout 5 (p. 2 of 2)
(Stay)
M indfulKeep your focus ON YOUR GOALS .
Maintain your position. Don’t be distracted. Don’t get off the topic.
“Broken record”: Keep asking, saying no, or expressing your opinion over and over and over.
Just keep replaying the same thing again and agai... | dbt.pdf |
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applying D ear man ... | dbt.pdf |
d053f47f635b-1 | starting to feel angry about it,” or “I’m not sure you think this is important for you to do.”
not: “I hate you!”, “Every time we talk about this, you get defensive,” “Stop patronizing me!”
3. assert wishes in the situation. When another person is pestering you, you can ask him
or her to stop it. When a person is refu... | dbt.pdf |
d053f47f635b-2 | me, I’ll get a restraining order against you,” “Gosh, you must be a terrible person for not doing
this/for asking me to do this.” | dbt.pdf |
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d585e6922566-1 | Listen to the other person’s point of view.
Face the person; maintain eye contact; lean toward the person rather than
away. Don’t interrupt or talk over the person.
Be sensitive to the person’s wish to have the discussion at a later time. Be
patient.
ValidateWith WORDS AND ACTIONS , show that you understand the... | dbt.pdf |
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expanding the v in ... | dbt.pdf |
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6f4109d1c095-1 | trying. 9Say no firmly; resist; negotiate; keep trying.
Ask and don’t take no for
an
answer.10 Don’t do it.
High intensity (stay firm)
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f04ec58f1876-0 | 132interpersonal effectiveness Handout 8 (p. 2 of 3)
facTorS To con SiDer
When deciding how firm or intense
you want to be in asking or saying no, think about:
1. The other person’s or your own capability.
2. Your priorities.
3. The effect of your actions on your self- respect.
4. Your or the other’s moral an... | dbt.pdf |
f04ec58f1876-1 | it wisely? If NO , raise the intensity of NO .
4.riGhTS: ••Is the person required by law or moral code to give you what you want? If YES ,
raise the intensity of ASKING .
••Are you required to give the person what he or she is asking for? Would saying no
violate the other person’s rights? If NO , raise the intensity... | dbt.pdf |
219c43f7ac76-0 | 133interpersonal effectiveness Handout 8 (p. 3 of 3)
6.relaTionShip: ••Is what you want appropriate to the current relationship? If YES , raise the intensity
of ASKING .
••Is what the person is asking for appropriate to your current relationship? If NO , raise
the intensity of NO .
7.lonG-Term
verS uS
Shor T-T... | dbt.pdf |
219c43f7ac76-1 | raise the intensity of NO .
10. Timin G: ••Is this a good time to ask? Is the person “in the mood” for listening and paying attention to you? Are you catching the person when he or she is likely to say yes to
your request? If YES , raise the intensity of ASKING .
••Is this a bad time to say no? Should you hold off ans... | dbt.pdf |
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08070da716ce-0 | 135in terpersonal e ffectiveness Handout 9 (p. 2 of 2)
4a
re my emotions getting in the way of using my skills?
Ask:
• •Do I get too upset to use my skills?
• •Are my emotions so
HIGH t
hat I am over my skills breakdown point?
5a
re worries, assumptions, and myths getting in my way?
Ask:
• •Are T
HOUGHTS a
bout ba... | dbt.pdf |
cd1016573d2c-0 | Handouts for Building Relationships
and Ending Destructive Ones | dbt.pdf |
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overview:
Buildin... | dbt.pdf |
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507fe4d9adb5-1 | learn things to talk about: Watch others; read; increase your activities and experiences.
expre SS likin G (Selec Tively).
We often like the people we think like us.
Express genuine liking for the other person. But don’t try to suck up to the other person or
grovel. Find things to compliment that are not super- obvio... | dbt.pdf |
2ec877b625f5-0 | 141in terpersonal e ffectiveness Handout 11 (p. 2 of 2)
jo in an onGo inG Group co nver SaTi on.
if w
e wait for people to approach us, we may never have friends.
Sometimes we must make the first move in finding friends. This often requires us to know how
to tell if a group is open or closed, and then, when it is o... | dbt.pdf |
2ec877b625f5-1 | Stand beside them and chip in on their conversation.That might seem rude. They haven’t invited you to join them, and anyway, what exactly are you going to say when you chip in?
Go up and introduce yourself. Isn’t that overly formal? Having introduced yourself,
then what do you say? Will they introduce themselves to yo... | dbt.pdf |
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identifying Skills... | dbt.pdf |
8c5ace4ecab2-1 | regardless of what others reveal.
8B. Disclose roughly the same amount of
personal information to others as they
disclose to you.
•••••• 3a. Mix with people who share
your attitudes and interests.
3B. Mix with people with whom
you have little in common.•
• 9a. Keep good opinions of others to you... | dbt.pdf |
8c5ace4ecab2-2 | •••
11a. Rely on flattery to get what you want
when you think it will work.
11B. Don’t use flattery to influence others.
•••••• 6a. Answer questions briefly, and
seldom ask or return them.
6B. Show interest in others by
asking questions.••••••••••••12a. Stand near a friendly- look... | dbt.pdf |
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dentifying Min... | dbt.pdf |
e30374791010-1 | by attending to and learning more and more about people you care about.
7A. E valuate other people’s behaviors and
thoughts, and tell them that they are
wrong or that they should be different when you feel sure you are right.
7B. I
f you do not approve of or agree
with what another per... | dbt.pdf |
e30374791010-2 |
9B. “
I worry that you have given up.”
10A. “ I don’t think that is correct.”
10B. “
How could you possibly think that?”
4A. I n social situations, throw yourself
into interactions.
4B. St
ay reserved and watch social
interactions so you don’t make
mistakes.
11A... | dbt.pdf |
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6f5482ac384b-1 | for help with safety planning and a referral to a qualified
professional. See also the i nternational Directory of Domestic
violence a gencies ( www.hotpeachpages.net ). | dbt.pdf |
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13ad97021d9f-1 | Wise Mind, and evaluate whether to stay or leave the relationship.
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2a. Relationships should be
easy. If it’s hard to have a
relationship with someone, it’s
probably not worth it, and you
should end it.
2B. Most relationships need
problem solving to work.•
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••
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6a. If... | dbt.pdf |
13ad97021d9f-2 | •
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7a. In an abusive relationship, if the person
hits you, you should use your interpersonal
skills to tell the person you are leaving the
relationship.
7B. In an abusive relationship, you should
seek professional assistance to leave the
relationship.
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4a. To decide whether to end ... | dbt.pdf |
d2dbabcf5989-0 | Handouts for Walking
the Middle Path | dbt.pdf |
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5762bbdc7fe0-1 | 3
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Em
brace change.
Throw yourself into change: Allow it. Embrace it.
Practice radical acceptance of change when rules, circumstances, people, and
relationships change in ways you don’t like.
Practice getting used to change: Make small changes to practice this (e.g., purposely change where you sit, who ... | dbt.pdf |
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examples of o ppos... | dbt.pdf |
f0c4b7f1a93a-1 | incorrect.
12. Someone may have valid reasons for wanting something from you, AND you may have valid
reasons for saying no.
13. The day can be sunny, AND it can rain.
14. You can be mad at somebody AND also love and respect the person.
15. (You can be mad at yourself AND also love and respect yourself.)
16.... | dbt.pdf |
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b9e43d8256b5-1 | •
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••
•
••
•
•Saying:
6a. “It is hopeless. I cannot do it.”
6B. “This is a breeze. I’ve got no
problems.”
6c. “This is really hard for me, and I am going to keep trying.”
•
•
•
••
•
••
•
•Saying:
3a. “Everyone always treats me unfairly.”
3B. “I believe the coach should reconsider
his d... | dbt.pdf |
b9e43d8256b5-2 | •
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•
•
•
8a. Demand that relationships be stable
without changing.
8B. Embrace change and see it as inevitable.
Note. Adapted in part from Miller, A. L., Rathus, J. H., & Linehan, M. M. (2007). Dialectical behavior therapy with suicidal adolescents. New York:
Guilford Press. Copyright 2007 by The Guilfor... | dbt.pdf |
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574fd74f31da-1 | directions in psychotherapy (pp. 353–392). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association. Copyright 1997 by the American Psycho -
logical Association. Adapted by permission. | dbt.pdf |
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ec946eb75bfa-1 | slumps down, say, “You look really tired. Let me look for someone else.”
4. understand:
Look for how the other person feels, is thinking, or if he or she is making sense, given the person’s history, state of mind or body, or current events (i.e. the causes)—even if you don’t approve of the person’s behavior, or if... | dbt.pdf |
ec946eb75bfa-2 | Note. Adapted from Linehan, M. M. (1997). Validation and psychotherapy. In A. Bohart & L. Greenberg (Eds.), Empathy reconsidered: New
directions in psychotherapy (pp. 353–392). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association. Copyright 1997 by the American Psycho -
logical Association. Adapted by permission. | dbt.pdf |
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d92073d62b7d-1 | •
•
••
•
••
•
•••
6a. Evaluate other people’s behaviors and
thoughts, and tell them that they are wrong or that they should be different
when you feel sure you are right.
6B. If you do not agree with what another person is doing or thinking, try to
understand how it could make sense if you understood... | dbt.pdf |
d92073d62b7d-2 | people mean.
4B. Realize that the same behavior can mean many things.••••••••8a. Assume that other people’s reactions
to you have nothing to do with yours to them.
8B. Treat each person with respect and as an equal. | dbt.pdf |
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c193320a5b5a-0 | 159interpersonal effectiveness Handout 19 (p. 2 of 2)
Be n ondefensive and c heck the f acts
Check ALL the facts to see if your responses are valid or invalid.
Check them out with someone you can trust to validate the valid.
Acknowledge when your responses don’t make sense and are not
valid.
Work to change in... | dbt.pdf |
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3c678a0c57b1-1 | wrong and being OK with that. Check
the facts.••••••••••5a. When you make a mistake, remind
yourself that you are human, and humans make mistakes.
5B. Blame and punish yourself for being wrong; avoid people who know you
were wrong.
••••••••••••••3a. When you are checking the facts
(i... | dbt.pdf |
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add612791da3-1 | to get things he or she wants, it is
most effective to stop reinforcing
those behaviors and instead give rewards when the person uses more skillful strategies to get what he or she wants or needs.
••••••••••2a. The most effective punishment
is intense anger and swift verbal criticism.
2B. The most eff... | dbt.pdf |
add612791da3-2 | •
•
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•
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7a. If a person’s mean behavior makes
you feel hurt, it is most effective to punish the behavior by taking away
gifts that you previously gave the
person.
7B. If a person’s mean behavior makes
you feel hurt, it is most effective to
punish the behavior by not doing favors for the person un... | dbt.pdf |
f90da6338a36-0 | interpersonal
effectiveness Worksheets
Worksheets for Goals and Factors
That Interfere | dbt.pdf |
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4e87071f5e9e-1 | What did you decide to do in this situation?
is this the best decision (in Wise m ind)? | dbt.pdf |
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cce6b09979e7-1 | Challenge:
10. Obviously, the problem is just in my head. If I would just think differently, I wouldn’t have to
bother everybody else.
Challenge:
11. If I don’t have what I want or need, it doesn’t make any difference; I don’t care, really.Challenge:
12. Skillfulness is a sign of weakness.
Challenge:
Other... | dbt.pdf |
a1c1ae19e175-0 | 169interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 2 (p. 2 of 2)
challenging m yths in the Way of r elationship and Self- respect e ffectiveness
For each myth, write down a challenge that makes sense to you.
13. I shouldn’t have to ask (say no); they should know what I want (and do it).
Challenge:
14. They should have know... | dbt.pdf |
dae41a24217d-0 | Worksheets for Obtaining
Objectives Skillfully | dbt.pdf |
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ec97c9614507-1 | i
h
andle the interaction (whether or not I get what I want from the other person)?
Sel
f- R
espect: How do I want to feel or think about myself because of how
i
handle the
interaction (whether or not I get what I want from the other person)?
my p
riorities in this situation: Rate priorities 1 (most important), 2 (... | dbt.pdf |
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3672da72f02c-1 | Mindful if you need it).
4. re inforcing comments to make.
5. mi ndful and ap pearing confident comments to make (if needed).
6 ne gotiating comments to make, plus turn-the-table comments (if needed).
7. va lidating comments.
8. Eas y manner comments.
W
rite on the back side all the things you want to av... | dbt.pdf |
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711db3f2c819-1 | Expressed feelings/opinions? Broken record?
Asserted? Ignored attacks?
Reinforced? Appeared confident?
Give (Keeping the relationship): Negotiated?
Gentle? Interested? ... | dbt.pdf |
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interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 6 (I. E. Handout 8) (p. 1 of 2)
The Dime Game: f iguring o ut how Strongly to a sk or Say n o
Due Date: Name: Week Starting:
To figure out how strongly to ask for something or how strongly to say no, read the instructions below. Circle the dimes you ... | dbt.pdf |
746dfbd8f327-1 | 10¢ Is the person required by law or moral code to do or give
me what I want?rights Am I required by law or moral code to give or do what is wanted, or does saying no violate this person’s rights?10¢
10¢ Am I responsible for telling the person what to do? authority Is the other person responsible for telling me what t... | dbt.pdf |
432f6ec2d9e7-0 | 177interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 6 (p. 2 of 2)
aSkinG SayinG no
Don’t ask; don’t hint. 0–10¢ Do it without being asked.
Hint indirectly; take no. 20¢ Don’t complain; do it cheerfully.
Hint openly; take no. 30¢ Do it, even if you’re not cheerful about it.
Ask tentatively; take no. 40¢ Do it, but show that you’... | dbt.pdf |
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856265040288-1 | Do i know what i really want in this interaction?
2 Ask:
••Am I undecided about what I really want in this interaction?
••Am I ambivalent about my priorities?
••Am I having trouble balancing:
••Asking for too much versus not asking for anything?
••Saying no to everything versus giving in to everything?
••Is fear or sha... | dbt.pdf |
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are my emotions getting in the way of using my skills?
4 Ask:
••Do I get too upset to use my skills?
••Are my emotions so high that I am over my skills breakdown point?
yes:
Tried TIP skills.
Used self- soothing crisis survival skills before the interactio... | dbt.pdf |
53c7af098eff-1 | no:
is the environment more powerful than my skills?
6 Ask:
••Are the people who have what I want or need more powerful than I am?
••Are the people commanding me powerful and in control?
••Will others be threatened if I get what I want?
••Do others have reasons for not liking me if I get what I want?
yes:
Tried p... | dbt.pdf |
09b2fbabf386-0 | Worksheets for Building
Relationships and Ending
Destructive Ones | dbt.pdf |
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c02ca0b416a2-1 | Proximity Similarity Conversation skills Expressed liking
Describe any efforts you made to join a conversational group.
Describe any efforts you made to use your conversation skills with others.
how effective was the interaction? | dbt.pdf |
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c47ecc305f8b-1 | Threw myself into interactions with others.
Went with the flow, rather than trying to control everything.
Became one with the conversation I was in.
Other:
Describe a situation where you practiced mindfulness of others in the last week.
Who was the person you were with?
how exactly did you practice mind... | dbt.pdf |
298e77a9d946-0 | 185
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5. mindful and a ppearing confident comments to make about how and when to end (if
needed).
6. negotiating comments to make, plus turn-the-table comments to avoid getting off track and
responding to insults or diversions (if needed).
7. validating comment... | dbt.pdf |
7aa2c9479cce-0 | Worksheets for Walking
the Middle Path | dbt.pdf |
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8f6b10a5e93b-1 | Check if practicing this dialectical skill has influenced any of the following, even a little bit:
Reduced suffering Increased happiness Reduced friction with others
Decreased reactivity Increased wisdom Improved relationship
Increased connection Increased sense of personal validity
Other outcome: | dbt.pdf |
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841d2886a5ad-1 | A
ccepted reality and tried to change it
S
tayed
attached and also let go
O
ther (describe):
5 . M ade lemonade out of lemons (describe):
6 . E mbraced confusion (describe):
7 . P layed de... | dbt.pdf |
841d2886a5ad-2 | 16. P urposely made changes in small ways to get used to change (describe):
17. O ther (describe):
R
emembered that change is transactional:
18. P aid attention to my effect on others (describe):
19. P ... | dbt.pdf |
35a7641aeffd-0 | 191
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