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Backstory: So I have 4 siblings in total 3 brothers (ages of 19, 17 and 16) and 1 sister who is 12 and I am 14. Me and my sister share a room, and our brothers can eat enough for a small village. Like literally nothing lasts more than a day in my house and my parents refuse to buy anything until the week is up so the... | NTA
Who the asshole is? Your parents for not controlling their sons’ gluttony to the point their daughters feel the need to hoard food in a freaking safe. That’s just begging for eating disorders to develop. Snacks are great once in a while but they need to be eating more at main meals and not hogging all the snacks ... |
Hi all! I'm pretty sure I'm the asshole here but I wanted to be certain and maybe get a bit of advice on how to move
Me [20F] and my bf [20M] were eating lunch in the kitchen today. We were reading funny Reddit comments to each other and I found an interesting fact on bees and decided to share it.
This for context: ... | Nta
Who calls their SO a slut? Assholes- thats who. ###### |
Last year, my husband and I adopted a baby boy. We have an open adoption agreement with his biological mother, meaning we send pictures and see her once a year. There will be more contact as well as he grows up, as well.
When we met her, we knew she had an Instagram and YouTube page, where she talked about her journey... | NTA
While you are being "difficult", as you put it, as his legal parents you have every right to do so and she should respect it. It's not that big of an ask really. ###### |
I'm (27M) a dad to an amazing 3 year old boy, unluckily he is the result of a ONS with a girl (25F) Julie. For the first 7 months I never even knew he existed. One day I got a message on FB from Julie telling me I had a son, I think I passed out there and then on the spot.
I was living with my parents at the time and... | NTA
While I have some sympathy for Julie, in the end her child wanted or not is partly her responsibility. The interests of the kid comes first in a situation like this.
She doesn’t need or have to play mum, she just needs to pay up and make sure the kid has a roof over their head and food in the fridge. ###### |
So this might be a long one but here goes. My girlfriend (F22) and I (M25) have been living together for about 2 years, during those 2 years I have been studying while at the same time working a part time job while my girlfriend has been working full time.
We have seperate accounts but we split rent, electricity and ... | NTA
When you wanted to use your “joint” finances for college she told you to save up for it separately.
She’s only now changing her mind and saying you can use “our” money because your now not willing to pay for her to buy more fish and she’s realising she’s going to have to pay for them herself.
I think the tell... |
So I live next to a man, let's call him Cam, who's in his late 20's and is single. He is also openly gay. To express his identity, he attends the local pride parade every year, he hangs rainbow flags around his property and he has had multiple boyfriends, some of whom i've met. But for the past 6 months Cam's been sing... | NTA
When I started reading this, I thought, the guy’s just lonely, just be friendly and polite. Then it got into harassment territory. My opinion is you should try explaining that he’s making you uncomfortable.
If that doesn’t work (and it kinda sounds like it may not), then you may have to be more assertive in get... |
My dad died before I was born, and until I was about 7 it was just me and my mom. She started dating this guy at her work, he had 4 kids of his own all around my age. At first I liked it, cause it was nice to have a dad around and his kids were nice enough to me. The dated for about 7 years and though they weren't r... | NTA
What you feel and what you’re doing is completely normal. I too had to move away from everything of my childhood so I have an idea of what you’re going through and I did the same thing.
You’re mom however, I have mixed feelings about. I understand that she wants you to bond because she probably wants everyone to... |
This happened last year around October.
I was at home, it was a Saturday around five pm and someone knocked on my door. I'd only been home from work for about an hour after having been awake since four am, and I was sitting down eating my dinner. I went and opened the door, it was a group of people and they started si... | NTA
What gall! Your house, your property. You didn't invite them over. They imposed, they invaded, and now they think they have a right to bully and harass you? Some people have anxiety disorders, and this would be considered a bloody nightmare to endure. ###### |
Throwaway bc it’s not a very common situation...
Ok so I’m not really sure how to say this, but it happened a few months ago, and everyone keeps calling me a bad person for it.
To start, I am a lesbian, from a very anti-LGBT family. One of my friends is also gay, and she is VERY open about it, like her whole life is ... | NTA
What a weird stance for her to take!!
You absolutely don't have to come out to your family, especially while you're still living with them. And she should be more interested in your safety than in expressing her LGBT pride to a bunch of bigots who might harass one or both of you. ###### |
My GF of 5 years whom i love recently became hardcore vegan. We live at my ranch out in the country on a few acres of land. I own a flock of about 15 hens and a rooster as well. I'm not a farmer or anything but these guys are my pets. I am to emotionally attached to my hens to eat them but have no problem with eati... | NTA
Using PTSD, a very real + horrible disorder resulting from trauma, to guilt you into getting rid of your chickens (that you treat well!) is extremely manipulative and pretty insulting to anyone who actually suffers from that IMO. ###### |
Because of covid a lot of events had to be cancelled/postponed. As it happens, my nephew (let’s call him Zack) had his first birthday delayed. And that obviously sucks, I get it: celebrating the first birthday is a great milestone.
Fast forward to now, and my in-laws are now planning to throw a delayed “quarantine pa... | NTA
Until a kid is around 3, they don’t really understand birthdays. Your kid is looking forward to celebrating with you. The extended family are TAs for not being flexible about a party for a one year old. ###### |
It's always been an unspoken rule at my home that if someone buys a console everyone could use it (though the person who got it could choose where to put it and always had a right to use it first if they wanted to). Everyone agreed with that and it was really useful because we'd be able to have a wider array of console... | NTA
Unspoken rules aren't sacrosanct, and if they're not working there's nothing wrong with changing them. Besides, your brother can't expect to deny you a \*joint purchase\* on the Switch and also get to play your PS4, which you bought solely with your own money, whenever he wants.
This is a prime opportunity to te... |
We're not legally married but we have been together for more than five years. He's a combat veteran. He gas lights, uses circular logic, manipulation, and insults. We had a blow up last night. He insulted me, calls me worthless screams about the things he does for me and our baby. He apologized but says that in the hea... | NTA
Unless you count the fact that your being and asshole to yourself and your kid by putting up with this. Is this really how you want to raise your child and live the rest of your life? With a man who puts down those around him and uses leverage to manipulate the ones he should love unconditionally? ###### |
I've been married to my wife for about 3 months now, and we had her out first serious argument when I got angry with her for calling her mom to take her somewhere while I'm home and not doing anything. She always does things like this. Calling her parents for rides or help instead of me. My friends tell me that I shoul... | NTA
Unless this is a sixth sense situation where you died but haven't realized it yet. ###### |
So this happened before lockdown... normally I hate giving wait staff a hard time because I get that their jobs hard...
So I went to dinner at a tgis with my boyfriend. We ordered starters, mains and drinks all at the same time. Starters and drinks came and it was fine. But slowly we ran out of drinks and we were in ... | NTA
Two hours?? Even if they were absolutely swamped then it shouldn't take two hours for a TGI's to serve a couple of mains. ###### |
I (21M) have made the decision to go to therapy. I have many issues I need to sort out. This pleased my sister (24F) cos she's been to therapy and talked about so many benefits to it.
So I have many issues I want to sort out. But I want two distinct factors in my therapist:
1) I want a male therapist
2) I want an ... | NTA
Time to stop sharing those thoughts with your sis.
Once you've worked through some things, your therapist's gender probably won't matter much anymore. But at this time, before therapy, it matters. And that's okay. ###### |
My daughter is 23, graduated from college 3 years ago and works retail for minimum wage. She has a BA in international relations, but says she can't find a higher paying job or a career job. She has never paid a bill or rent in her life, I have taken care of everything for her from college, to bills, to her car, vacati... | NTA
Though I do want to say, it is a difficult time out there right now. I have no trouble believing that your daughter and her friends are struggling to find decent jobs. So while I don't agree that you're TA, I think you should try and be understanding of her situation and not compare her to her brother.
But, you... |
So this is kinda two AITAs but the first happened a month ago and I was confident I was in the right, I'm just double checking because the two events are connected.
I practice a martial art that has weight classes, so I monitor my weight all the time, except when I'm injured or for whatever reason not competing (Chris... | NTA
This woman sounds like an absolute pest. I'd contact HR myself and say you think she has it out for you.
I've never been "friends" with any of my coworkers (well, maybe like 2, over a course of 10 years). I come in, do a job, then go home. No need to talk to her if you are not cooperating on a project. ###### |
This isn't dramatic, or too serious.
We're back in lockdown, and it's been raining so my kids have had no way to run off some energy, so they're extra bratty right now.
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My son (10) was arguing with his sister (6). He wanted the TV volume at 25, she wanted it at 20. I stepped in and put it at 23. Th... | NTA
This was an EXCELLENT parenting move and lesson teacher.
Thank you! ###### |
We've been married for 4 years (me:24F and 25M)
We have 2 kids 8M and 2F, since I got pregnant with our lil girl I had so many health issues I had to quit my job, so I kinda lost all my." Social life"
Every since we got together I never went out o just hang out with friends anymore, there was always an excuse, he like... | NTA
This sounds so far into the controlling and abusive behaviour it is hard to believe this is exactly how things went down. If it is, you need to get into some counseling immediately and/or considering terminating the relationship as it is not healthy at all.
I hope it isn't true, but that might just be wishful th... |
So a bit of context.
I’ve been begging my husband to let me buy a car since he’s been driving me literally everywhere for over 2 years because he doesn’t want to spend money on a car or insurance. He ended up telling me no again because we need to continue putting money into our savings. I got pretty upset seeing as we... | NTA
This seemed like it was full of red flags for financial abuse, so I checked your post and comment history. My friend, you are absolutely in an abusive relationship. Your therapist is right. Not only is he controlling you financially, he's manipulating you emotionally, limiting where you can go/who you can see, an... |
Excuse my English, it is not my first language.
1 year ago my sister became vegan overnight after watching a documentary called Dominion, she quickly started making changes to our home, from making our parents change salad dressings, to have her own pans and a lot of stuff that personally bothered me.
What I did nex... | NTA
This might be an unpopular opinion but it’s your diet and no one should have control over it except yourself or a doctor (but only for health reasons not personal beliefs). You were petty do start your diet for that reason but she can’t demand you change it especially if you feel healthier now than you did before... |
Okay, so, this is an ongoing thing now dating back to my pregnancy with our baby (1). My husband likes to leave and go do his own thing, which is fine; he needs a break. Parenting is hard and we already have a 5 year old.
The problems:
-the day after we brought our baby home from a very traumatic birth (I hemorrhag... | NTA
This man is not a husband or a father. He is sperm donor who happens to live under the same roof as you.
Drag this man to couple's counseling ASAP. Or don't. You might just want to save yourself the time and file for divorce. ###### |
In December 2019, my therapist recommended I take an appointment with my doctor to be prescribed antidepressants due to how I was feeling at the time. Now, back then I was 17 so I couldn't make an appointment at my doctor's without my parents knowing. When I mentioned to my parents what the therapist recommended they d... | NTA
This is your private medical business as you are an adult. You're allowed privacy, and since your parents aren't even paying for it, it's really none of their business. Your doctors aren't making crazy or irresponsible decisions here. ###### |
I’m 17M and my step sister , Amber is 18F.
My mother has been with my stepdad for 9 years.
I usually spend two weeks of the month with my dad and Amanda usually spends every weekend with my stepdad.
I’ve never gotten along with Amber, we’re extremely different people, we usually avoid each other, when Amber wasn’t o... | NTA
This is your living environment as well, you have every right to be where you're comfortable and able to thrive in an individual basis. ###### |
Hello people I’ll keep it short. My boyfriend of 4 months recently told his mom about my eating disorder without telling me. We went to his parents house just to see how’s everyone is doing since it’s been awhile. He’s an amazing cook, so he was helping his brother with dinner I was setting the table. We were talking ... | NTA
This is such a huge violation. You know that. He didn't just share it without your permission, he shared it with someone who was then cruel about it. I am sorry your boyfriend did this to you. ###### |
My wife is a klutz, and she completely misses things that are so blatantly obvious to me that it's driving me crazy. Things like leaving glasses of liquid within reach of our one-year-old who, assuming this isn't normal, is obsessed with getting into anything and everything she shouldn't get into. My wife leaves her $8... | NTA
This is not an ADD or ADHD issue. I am not saying your wife doesn't have ADD/ADHD, it is possible that she does.
However, if this is repetitive behavior it means your wife lacks common sense and is generally careless. Your wife's actions are saying she can't be bothered to be responsible or think ahead.
I am ... |
My brother has been needing a haircut. I am a cosmetologist and I worked really hard but in the end i decided it wasn't what I wanted to do with my life. My brother has been asking me for a haircut for a few days now but the time has never worked out. My mom got it in her head he needed a haircut today. I said I could ... | NTA
This is how adult toddlers act when they dont get their way. Professional tools are not to be used by people who do noot respect them.
Not letting someone have their way is not disrespectful nor is not letting your parent treat you like you are 5 and eating paste for your pastime. ###### |
So my girlfriend was driving to my place and got pulled over by a cop for a traffic violation. She immediately calls me crying and tells me to come down to help with the situation. I try to calm her down and tell her that I'd be down there. By the time I arrive things aren't going well: she's sobbing and yelling at the... | NTA
This is how a normal person gets a ticket: step 1-try politeness/innocence (“I’m sorry officer, I didn’t realize I was going so fast.”) step 2: resignation “fine, just write the ticket already.”
They don’t 1) scream at the cop 2) sob and cry at the cop 3) take the time to call their bf while dealing with the co... |
I(20f) have been using this system since I was 18. I google pictures of penises and just send them one back.
Ignoring means they think they can escalate it to things like soft porn, or begging me for my nudes cause they sent one first so it's only fair.
Blocking has often resulted in them making new accounts to sen... | NTA
This is hilarious. If it is unsolicited and they want to harass you, I feel this is a great response. ###### |
It sounds really really wrong, but hear me out. My dad passed away 2.5 years ago when I was 17, leaving me 20F and my sister 18F with our crazy mother. She’s abusive and i moved away as soon as I could.
My dad was cremated, and she has kept his ashes hidden somewhere in her room since then, it the white box the fune... | NTA
This is a hard one, but seriously, what your mom is doing is wrong.
I wouldn't even worry about "what if she were to find out.". If you do manage to get some of your father's ashes, so what if she finds out? It's not like she can ruin her relationship with you and your sister any more than she has already done.... |
I am (22F), he is (23) and we’ve been dating for 6 months. Quite a short story.
I’m a university student and work part time. I earn a decent amount but it’s not a shit ton so I don’t exactly have thousands in savings but I’m trying to save as much as I can just for my future. I don’t even tell my mother what I save be... | NTA
This dude is a giant, man-shaped red flag. You don't live together, you've not been dating long, and you're not saving for anything that involves him. This isn't his business and he knows it. His BS gaslighty response should tell you all you need to know about what life with him will be like. ###### |
Thanks to the quarantine my boyfriend is now working his consulting job from home full time. I am currently completing my teaching degree which consisted of me being placed in a classroom with high schoolers for 20hrs/week and also working a part time job 20hrs/week. Now, with schools being shut down all of my classes... | NTA
This doesn't make any sense, does he work in a noise-proof office at work?? I doubt his coworkers are completely silent all the time.
> On the other hand, if he is just listening to the meeting through his headphones with a muted mic, he says the sink is too loud and he can’t hear what his colleagues are saying... |
So a little back ground. My BIL and SIL son (16m) lives with me and has since February. I have temporary legal guardianship of him. My food stamps recently came up for renewal and I added him on yesterday (4/27) I messaged them today to let them know and they lost their shit on me. They have been claiming him for cash ... | NTA
They've been caught. They are going to have to wear it. They never suggested to you that you not include him and, from the sound of it, you're paying for everything for him. ###### |
I have to sublet my apartment because I just bought a house. I close later in June & don’t want to overlap rent & mortgage so have been trying to get rid of it as quickly as possible. After posting on Craigslist, I got a few messages from people interested. One couple toured last week and told me that they’d ge... | NTA
They've already skipped on you multiple times, you don't have to be loyal to someone messing you around ###### |
I live in a shared house. When I'd buy groceries they would magically disapear or whenever I would cook my (older female) roomie would ask me to share.
Neither of us like cooking or doing dishes. I agreed to cook if she would wash the
dishes. She never washed the dishes.
So I've been ordering doordash like 3x a w... | NTA
They're your roommates, not your children. ###### |
To start with, I am not rich in the sense I have a mansion and luxury cars. But with the combined income of myself and my fiancé, we live comfortably. We don’t live extravagantly, we save a lot and are able to afford nice things like a few holidays a year. If we have an unexpected expense like our car breaks down, we c... | NTA
They're acting kind of bratty towards you, do you think there could be some jealousy? Siblings have a tendency to have one designated sibling to collectively hate on.
Money solves a ton of problems, and can at least help with almost all of them. However, making good money doesn't make you immune to life's troubl... |
My brother and his wife are having a hard time with paying their rent right now, so they asked if they can stay with us for awhile.
After talking it over with my husband we agreed that they could move into our RV and we could hook up the water and electricity from our house. It’s not a huge RV, but it’s got one full... | NTA
They'd be imposing greatly, you know it, they know it. Their idea of moving everybody's rooms around, having everybody living on top of each other, and taking away your whole family's sense of privacy isn't a realistic solution.
It sounds like you do NOT have the space for them, so the RV would be much better. ... |
Sup peeps, hope all of you are doing amazing,
Alright well, few years ago my parents were abusive asf. During high school we had this “ag science “ type of science and one of the requirements of the class was raising some type of farm animal. One of said options was a bunny so I’m like “hey bunnies are cute asf” so I ... | NTA
They were wrong to essentially kill your rabbit
They were wrong to demand you put your pets out of your home ###### |
Me (F) and my husband (M) are planning on getting married this August (fingers crossed we dont have to reschedule) and even with the circumstances are still planning it. Recently, I picked my bridal party, and so I face-timed my maid of honour (who will be my cousin) and my bridesmaids (2 close friends). I was original... | NTA
They need to grow the fuck up.
It’s their behavior that put you in the position of having to exclude them.
That being said — you’re moving into a new stage of life that requires even more maturity. Don’t feel guilty if they just get left behind overall. ###### |
My mom and sister have had plans to do stuff this weekend out of town for a while but did not tell me till yesterday. This is fine, they are adults, but they also told me that I would need to watch my twelve and thirteen year old nieces til Monday. I do not get along with my nieces, they feel that they don't need to li... | NTA
They just want to dump two kids on you for a weekend? Yeah, no. ###### |
So as a kid I (22f) was “the black sheep” aka I was the emo that everyone in the family made an effort to avoid and that carried on into my adult life (to a lesser extent) but I still wasn’t invited to things like weddings and family gatherings (I was however invited to go out clubbing).
Two years ago I’d invited all ... | NTA
They get all upset about it but didn't invite you to things when you were younger? They are hypocrites don't let them get to you. ###### |
**BACKSTORY:** My parents have been living in England for around 25 years, more than they've spent in their country. They both fled at the age of 18 and they haven't seen their parents, friends and family for 30 years, so a return to their native country was inevitable.
When I was 13, in the summer of 2017, my (16M) p... | NTA
They disrupted your education without any kind of planning.
No wonder your memories are negative. ###### |
I’m a 26F, and I’ve recently joined reddit to help me gain insight on some of my current life problems. I will try and keep this short.
I befriended a 32M at work, and we were friends for 3 years. I was transparent with my current boyfriend about our friendship. We never hung out outside of work, but we did play some ... | NTA
They didn't take your complaint seriously, if you didn't report it he could've done worst things. What an awful job I'm sorry you had to deal with those pricks. You need to be able to feel comfortable and safe at work not watch your back to see if your co-worker is gonna try to make a move. ###### |
Because of covid a lot of events had to be cancelled/postponed. As it happens, my nephew (let’s call him Zack) had his first birthday delayed. And that obviously sucks, I get it: celebrating the first birthday is a great milestone.
Fast forward to now, and my in-laws are now planning to throw a delayed “quarantine pa... | NTA
They can celebrate Zack's birthday whenever they want. And they can even miss your son's birthday to do so. They are the assholes for saying you are being difficult and unreasonable for celebrating your son's birthday on the day of. ###### |
So last week I quit my job (I got an amazing offer from an amazing company).
My almost-former boss asked why and I told her (via email due to COVID) the complete truth: microagressions, lack of diversity (or interest in bring more in), nepotism, exclusion and subtle racism, homophobia, and sexism. I copied her bosses... | NTA
They asked and you answered. You were under no obligation to let them know why, so it’s no fault of your own if they’re upset at the reason why you quit. If they don’t respond, just move on and focus on your new job. Congratulations on your new job! ###### |
I am one of three siblings. None of us are particularly well off. My parents (early 60s) are reasonably comfortable middle-class. All three siblings have kids. My parents have spent thousands on my two sisters to help them make ends meet for most of their adult lives. I have accepted help from my parents on occasion, b... | NTA
They absolutely need a will. If they don't have one, then you being executor doesn't mean much, because you'd be legally bound to distribute their estate according to your jurisdiction's intestacy laws (i.e. laws that govern how an estate's assets must be distributed in the absence of a will).
So if they want y... |
I (M21) was recently given a set of wireless ear buds, the type that hang over the ear. A coworker that im close with gave them to me as a gift since he didnt like/use them. These are expensive ones that he was otherwise going to sell online if i didnt want them.
The problem is this. Upon coming home and telling my ... | NTA
These are yours. Your mom does not deserve them, no matter how much she guilts you about it. ###### |
So my girlfriend and I live together, and my sister is staying with me mostly against my will, because otherwise she would be homeless and I can’t really in good conscious do that.
My sister used to be bulimic and anorexic, she’s mostly better now. She still eats kind of slow but other than that seems fine.
Today my... | NTA
There’s a difference between being considerate and catering to unreasonable demands. Your sister should work on understanding that. ###### |
So for a bit of background, one of my brothers and I have a history of being at odds with each other. As we’ve gotten older, I’ve grown tired of it, and I refuse to participate unless he pushes me to an extreme. He still makes fun of me regularly.
It’s gotten to the point that even my parents are telling me to push ba... | NTA
There's no benefit to you to pay for your sister's car and then trade it for your brother's car that you don't want. So, don't do it. Your brother can go buy his own car.
The fact that you even have to ask this question makes me think your brother is probably a bully. You don't ever have to do anything he wan... |
Tl;dr: My private garden was partially destroyed by a landscaper not even hired by my landlord. WIBTA if I called to complain
Okay for some context: I live in the UK in a private flat in a building of council flats (these are low income/free housing provided by the local authority). Each flat has a designated section ... | NTA
There's absolutely no good reason for him to have done this. I would he furious, especially at my bulbs being torn up.
I'd not only complain, but expect compensation for new plants and or the vegetables I would have gotten from them. ###### |
Recently we found out some information about my brother in law’s baby momma. The pair is separated, but not divorced, and share custody of their children. My husband’s sister told us that his brother’s baby mama showed up at her house driving drunk, with the children in the car. This woman and his brother have three ch... | NTA
There is never an excuse to leave a kid in a potentially dangerous home. Ever. Even if it’s “none of their business”.
Again like you said, she may not be a danger to her kids, and I would say that she shouldn’t have them taken away right now. Especially because it seems like she might be getting some help.
Bu... |
My boyfriend and I are both 26. We’ve been together for nearly 3 years and we have a 2 year old son together. He had a 6 year old son from a prior relationship. When we first got together I made it very clear that my immediate role is not to assume the position of being a step mom. He’d often push this on me and have h... | NTA
There are some serious 🚩🚩🚩 here.
No, it is not your duty to pay half of the legal fees here. He doesn't sound like the most responsible person, and he has not been the best partner to you. ###### |
So this happened about a month ago, but I’m still wondering if I was in the wrong here. Throwaway.
So I (22M) was bullied a lot growing up, all the way through high school, both verbally and physically. Some of the most common things I was called were things like “fag”, “faggot”, “homo”, “queer”, and I was often times... | NTA
There are plenty of self hating people, even more so in the gay community when they're young.
They lash out as a result.
The sheer fact that he remember what he did, is gay now, and had no interest in apologizing means he is just a shit person. He doesn't feel remotely bad about the harmful hippocrite he was/is... |
So I have this friend that is on the more overweight side of the scale. I do not hold it against her and she can be super fun to be around, but recently she has just been talking about her weight and made the people around her feel uncomfortable about their weight. Some examples are:
We would be going shopping (pre c... | NTA
The world doesn't revolve around her. Your group deciding what they want to eat has nothing to do with her. You trying on clothes for yourself has nothing to do with her. Exercising IN YOUR HOME in a SHARED SPACE also has nothing to do with her.
She should stop being a narcissist and realise that she isn't the o... |
I'm 33 and I work in a pretty famous university. I'm considered pretty senior and I often interact with the admissions office.
All my siblings have gone to this school. And we've all gotten in with our grades and activities.
My parents had a pretty bad divorce and my siblings and I have subconsciously sided with my m... | NTA
The school had a requirement and he failed to meet said requirement. He doesn't deserve to get in because he happens to be somewhat related to someone with some influence. If he really wants to go to that school he can take summer classes or extracurriculars or whatever makes him actually qualified to get in. ###... |
I have a group of friends from my old college, and we've been doing video calls often. A couple of my friends have a new friend John, and he'll join for zoom. I was nice to him at first but honestly he's been kinda creepy to me, like wanting to get my Snapchat even though I say I haven't used it in years and don't even... | NTA
The only two people who seem to be annoyed with you are the two assholes who stayed on the call with John, even though he was making you uncomfortable enough that you had to leave the call. So fuck them, they have crappy judgement anyway. ###### |
My husband and I are childfree. We don’t want kids, have never wanted kids. I actually got my tubes tied 2 years ago. We’ve been married for the past 10 years, together a total of 12 years.
Before me, my husband had one serious relationship. I knew of her because they had broken up about 2 months before we got togeth... | NTA
The only AH is the ex for keeping the child a secret from the father for 12 years. ###### |
first thing first, english is not my first language so sorry for any grammar mistakes. this happened back in January, and she still wont talk to me unless i apologize.
a little background, i am 37M. got married to the love of my life, my wife when we were both 28. unfortunately she passed away 2 years ago from cancer... | NTA
The love of your life died, and you mom's friend is trying to set you up with other women? No. That's not right. She was your one. No one can replace her, so no one should try. ###### |
Hi, this is my first post here.
I'm a 23M living in the US and recently moved away to start my career writing. I'm an author and I've already written my first book. While moving, I forgot to bring some stuff from my old house. I remembered my set of Legos, I literally had two suitcases full of Legos from when I was li... | NTA
The LEGO blocks are yours and you were right to reclaim them.
8t sounds like your Mom had plans to sell them for the money. ###### |
I don't have a relationship with my biological father. He left her when she got pregnant and never acknowledged that he had a child, always saying she was lying. She did prove paternity in court and got an order for child support. At the time at least, he had a job making well over 6 figures that was handed to him by h... | Nta
The law was on your side.
You got what is rightfully yours.
The world needs more deadbeats being held accountable for their actions. So good for you!
I would be extra petty and call his wife out for slander/defamation. ###### |
My wife will sometimes bring her Mom over to my family's events, sometimes the more intimate ones like the Holidays, Mother/Father's Day, you get the idea with more intimate events like that. Sometimes I am told by her the day of or the night before that she has invited her Mom already without consulting with me. So wh... | NTA
The hosts can invite whoever they like to their events. Its understandable your wife would want to include her mother seeing as she seems to be the only family in town on her side, but hosts set the rules.
You two could always host and invite family from both your sides, or do separate events for each side of t... |
I [30F] was at a bar with friends back when that was still a thing and was approached by a past hookup who was clearly still interested. I told him that I wasn’t and he left us alone after that, but one of my friends (childhood friend of BF) was super offended that I hadn’t disclosed that I’d had a boyfriend when I tur... | NTA
The "I have a boyfriend"-line is the worst thing you can say to guys who don't get the hint. In their mind you are basically telling them "I would totally date you, if I wasn't taken" or "If you are better than my BF, you might have a chance".
So no, you did nothing wrong! ###### |
Last night I (24) did chores for my boyfriend (30). He was cleaning out pens and told me to leave when I was done with chores;after I finished I helped him move a feeder and said goodbye. He told me that he was going to come back to the apartment once he was done.
I woke up at 5 am and he wasn’t back yet. I texted me... | NTA
That’s hard. And I only say he’s an ass because he’s dismissing your worries and didn’t let you know when he realized you’d wake up without him. It’s hard to wake up like that and not know- I’ve been there. ###### |
Throwaway maybe future account
I am a 15 year old girl who has a mom. A few years ago my dad cheated and guess what we are divorced. Anyway my mom does not like me for having a relationship with my dad and expect me to hate him for cheating. Anyway a few weeks ago my mother adopted my sister who has the same exact na... | NTA
That’s abuse...I would tell your dad and maybe live with him. ###### |
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.
This woman alway... | NTA
That's hysterical. At least her husband thought so!
No, it wasn't the most demure response, but the woman thought she could shame you, but instead you embarrassed her! She'll think twice before talking crap like that again to a perfect stranger. ###### |
I get food stamps. Not a lot but enough to pay for what I need and a little extra. Got a roommate a few months ago and everything was going great. Paid rent on time. Bought food and everything.
Now it's not so great. He doesn't buy food for the house he buys this minute microwave meals for himself which was fine. I s... | NTA
That was your food!! And he took it, made himself food, made the whole place smell like eggs and bacon and hash browns (what are grits?) and now just reading this I want a plate too. And he left a mess. How inconsiderate!
Edit: I will definitely try grits in a variety of ways next time I'm in the southern US! ##... |
So with everything going on myself, my girlfriend and many others who have been laid off have been getting $2000 CAD every month. I’ve been saving mine but I recently found out my girlfriend has been giving this money to her parents.
We’re both students, and her parents (so far) have been paying her tuition for her. ... | NTA
That sounds like fraud, taking out a student loan in someone else's name, and using it for other purposes. Maybe I'm wrong, but that sounds extremely dodgy and like your girlfriend is going to be stuck paying off a major loan with interest and getting no benefit from it. ###### |
So, I have a younger sister. She is twelve, and I am eighteen (I'm a high school Senior). Ever since we were younger, she has always asked me to do small tasks for her (such as bringing her an object, or throwing something out for her). At first, I didn't really mind. I didn't want to be mean, and it wasn't that big of... | NTA
That said, twelve year olds are insane and you'll want to think a lot about how you approach her to avoid her going crazy again and making a hassle ###### |
Since it's usually just the two of us, my daughter and I are really comfortable at home when iy comes to what we wear or rather what we don't wear. All this was fine because, again, it was just the two of us. When my boyfriend comes around to spend the night or the weekend, we'd dress more 'appropriately' for the durat... | NTA
That kitchen scene is really weird, why would she walk out in front of your boyfriend with her baps out?
She should feel comfortable in her home, however she is pushing it too far. ###### |
I'm a guy. Me and my sister still live with our parents. My sister has a girlfriend. I woke at a store that sells a lot of clothes. I get really nice discounts on stuff I buy there. My sister's girlfriend asked me if I could buy a bra for her from there, and then she'd pay me back. Its a specific and fairly expensive k... | NTA
That girl asked if you could buy something for her in the store you are working in so she could have a nice discount. You did. If your sister has a problem with that, then she should discuss it with her girlfriend. ###### |
Context: Since I was born I have had a skin condition which causes my skin to dry easily and even crack open in cold times of year. I also have never been very lovey dovey which my parents blame on me not being allowed to have skin to skin contact with them for the first to weeks of my life due to having little to no l... | NTA
Tell your parents that their armchair psychology is making everything worse. They are not experts in treating and even though they try to help they are causing a lot more harm than good. Nobody needs to accept hugs and kisses. It's called not giving consent and your parents must respect that. ###### |
So my sister (24) just gave birth to my niece barely two weeks ago, she also has a son, my nephew. After my nephew was born both me and my brother was forced to watch him, if we didn't we would be yelled at or we would be called selfish. Anyway, today she went for a drive with my nephew, didn't bother to take her daugh... | NTA
Talk to her about it, if she keeps being an asshole talk to your parents, if you dont have any other options start saving money and move out, those kids are not your responsability, if she keeps leaving them without warning you should talk to someone to start giving her warning ###### |
Don't be scared by the title, I'll explain. (I'm a bit new to reddit, sorry if I don't do everything like I should !) So, a few hours ago, my mother took a picture of me. Seems harmless right ? I was dressed, in a normal position, nothing wrong with the picture itself I guess. But here's the twisted part : She took it ... | NTA
Taking pictures of someone without their consent shows lack of respect and is a breach of privacy. Does not matter if they are for "memories", nobody should take pictures of you against your will. ###### |
Greetings everyone, I would like to begin by advising that this is my first post here so... bear with me please. With that being said, if I break any rules here please let me know, thank you :)
With *that* out of the way, here we go!
I’ll keep it brief, my name is Jay, and I have a girlfriend who lives an hour away, ... | NTA
Taking care of yourself, even in a relationship, has to be your first priority. If you haven’t had enough sleep (especially on a regular basis) then there’s no way you will be rested enough to be a good partner to her and a good person to yourself
If the only time she makes for you is 00.00 - 05.00 then that’s a... |
For context, I'm sixteen and my brother is eight and autistic.
My brother is developing an infection on his leg that's getting worse every day. Just three months ago, I had to do a major surgery on both legs for this exact infection - MRSA - and almost had to amputate. I can tell that my brother is developing the same... | NTA
Take him to the hospital and tell them repeatedly that your parents are refusing to get him medical care. ###### |
This occurred around a month ago and this incident recently came to light.
I (16M) was out with my friend (17F) at a park and these two girls (I'm guessing same age as us) saw me. They were chatting shit about us in Turkish (talking about how foreigners keep on entering their country, trying to guess where we're from ... | NTA
Sure, unprompted, that would have been pretty lewd and inappropriate. But it was in response to a racist remark being flung at you. What do they say; play shitty games, win shitty prizes?
You keep being awesome ###### |
I (26F) currently live in a 4bed flat, I have one son who’s 2, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 17 months and we decided we were ready to move in together.
My boyfriend (37) has two children, 13 and 10.
Currently my rooms are; sons room, my room and study where I work and my sons toys stay otherwise it’s a lot of clu... | NTA
Sure, everyone having a room to themselves is nicer than sharing, especially in your teenage years. But as you've said, it's only temporarily. You need your work space and with younger kids in the house, working in the living room is not really an option. Do I even have to comment on working in the bedroom? There... |
I (f,21) have been buying icecream from our local icecream shop since the corona crisis forced it shut. They now deliver. I love their icecream and I want to support local buisinesses now as much as possible, which is why I buy from them as opposed to the supermarket.
Their icecream is however really expensive. I can... | NTA
Stock some basic ice cream cups from the supermarket and give those to her when she asks. Super premium ice cream is your bliss, but if she doesn't want to buy it herself, she can eat the basic brand. ###### |
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for complime... | NTA
Steve sounds predatory in his actions towards women. ###### |
My parents announced that after everything has calmed down, they want to move to another town about four hours away from here. I don't want to go with them for a few reasons:
1. I'll be a junior in high school next year, and I don't want to start over at a new school and leave my friends behind, just to change everyth... | NTA
Sounds like you're being reasonable about it. ###### |
Due to her work schedule, my daughter's mom can only see her 4 hours a day through the week and on weekends. The past week alone, there were 4 times she was too busy/didn't have time to pick her up, reasons given were that stayed up all night drinking with her brother last weekend and slept til 5 the next day, had to s... | NTA
Sounds like you have primary custody. If she wanted to see her daughter, she would. Instead, she drinks to excess and stays up late ensuring she won’t be able to see her.
You don’t get to complain when you’re the only thing standing in your way. ###### |
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and jus... | NTA
Sounds like someone who just wants to be outraged. ###### |
I'm a 29 year old mother of a 6 year old son. He had been just the normal kid growing up, curious and enthusiastic as ever. Lately I have noticed him roleplaying feminine characters while playing, favoring more feminine attitudes and toys/games. That was completely fine by me and his father and we never discouraged it... | NTA
Sounds like someone else is insecure about his own masculinity... ###### |
I (33/f) was recently dating a guy (29/m) and spending a lot of time at his house. He lives with his brother (33/m) and his brother's girlfriend, K, (28/f) was there quite often. She and I had quite a bit in common; the biggest thing being we are both in long term recovery from substance abuse ( I go to NA and she goe... | NTA
Sounds like a healthy friendship so long as you maintain distance from her bf and your ex, at least for now! ###### |
This happened two years ago when my daughter was just 9 months old.
I'm Australian but I live in the UK. I went back to Australia to visit my family and introduce my daughter to some elderly relatives who couldn't make the trip anymore. Obviously I knew that flying with a 9 month old would not be easy so I prepped as... | NTA
Sometimes people with babies need to fly. Sometimes babies cry. Such is life.
As long as the parent is doing their best to keep their baby quiet I take no issue with them. If you had ignored your kid completely and popped on your own noise cancelling earphones *then* you'd be an AH. But you were trying to keep ... |
I went out to dinner with my husband and our neighbors. My husband is a native Spanish speaker and I am mostly fluent. During the dinner, I got a few texts from the babysitter saying that my son had diarrhea in his pants and was crying from an upset stomach. Another came a few minutes later saying he didn’t have a feve... | NTA
Someone is insecure (it’s the other husband) and is projecting his insecurities on you.
Yes it’s generally rude to carry on full conversations in another language in front of non-speakers... but in this circumstance it was truly appropriate and not rude in the least. ###### |
There's this candle company that makes candles based on different locations and the majority of them are jokes. The one for Ohio is unscented and says something to the effect of the state being boring and uninteresting. I decided to share it with my family, especially my sister, S, because she lives there. When S saw i... | NTA
Someone has a 'total sense of humor failure' ###### |
I really like to draw and my mom supports me on that. Recently she got me a new sketch book when she went out, I've had the book for 1 month or so then a couple days ago she told me that she looked through the book, I was visibly upset ( I've told people before that i do not like it when they look through my sketch boo... | NTA
Some parents just don't understand transfer of property! If she bought something for you, that makes it yours! Even if she bought it! ###### |
So my parents love movies like fast and furious and movies with lots of action and guns. (Die hard ect..)
They do occasionally pick a different movie but that’s incredibly rare and so it’s normally a die hard clone or a movie with some super buff guy shooting a gun.
I’m not a huge fan of those types of movies and woul... | NTA
So they told you to make a choice, and then told you that you couldn't make *that* choice? They're T A. ###### |
My ex and I broke up 6 months ago because he cheated. I asked him to reconsider but he said nothing could change his mind and he doesn't want to see me ever again. I respected that and didn't b try to contact him after.
A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. At first I was still hurt by his words and actions an... | NTA
So he cheated on you, blocked you, and is upset you didn't tell him you're pregnant with his child?
I have a feeling he's the asshole, not you. Hopefully you find a partner who will love that child as their own. Stay strong. This is a terrible situation regardless of who the asshole is ###### |
I'm at the Outer Banks on vacation with my large extended family (mom's side, about 20 people) and I am using a prescription face medication that causes my face to be dry. If I go in the ocean, my face will get very painful and I will have a burning sensation for a few hours.
However, for the past few days, my family ... | NTA
Smart thinking actually ###### |
Backstory: I passed my driving test in April last year and ever since then have been parking my car in the allocated parking space outside the house. (The house does not have a driveway).
Up until the last month or so, I have had no problems with parking my car here. Since the lockdown my neighbours parents have been ... | NTA
Since it's your space per the lease, call and have them towed next time. ###### |
I am currently 21 and going to graduate college soon after the summer semester. I'm currently getting towards the end of the spring semester. My mom passed away 5 days ago at 46 yrs old, so I notified all my professors and they all gave me extensions and were very understanding and compassionate, including the professo... | NTA
Simply taking points away isn't an alternate assignment. Not only was she too lazy to make one for you, she lied about it in front of the class to look better. ###### |
My SIL and BIL had a....quick romance. They started dating after a month of knowing each other, got engaged after 4 months of dating and got married a month after being engaged.
They'd planned on a year engagement but wanted to move in together. (Sex. They wanted to lose their virginity. Think Westboro Baptist 'Christ... | NTA
SIL sounds very entitled.
Who sends people money for their 6th wedding anniversary? ###### |
So my 2 step sisters who share a room, I guess they haven't gotten along and arguing a lot. My mom and step dad's solution is to break them up in the room and move me and my step brother into a room. I have had the same room since we all first moved in and I was like 7 or something. I have protested this hard, cause I ... | NTA
Shit parenting, shit situation. Fight with your brother a lot. Byt their logic, that should get you your own room. ###### |
So, I have pretty horrendous eyesight. Well, I used to, because I got LASIK pretty recently. Because of this, I have a habit of leaning closer to the TV or laptop screen or whatever while I’m watching TV. When I say leaning I’m just sitting straight upwards and not leaning back into the couch or bed or whatever. Even a... | NTA
She’s physically controlling how you sit. Not OK. ###### |
So a few years ago I moved out and my mom would occasionally bring me food, napkins, toilet paper, etc. when she visited. She would also sometimes give me money, nothing big, just enough for 2-3 days of food. This was all done without me ever saying that I'm short on money or needed it or wanted to borrow it.
Now ... | NTA
She's your mother and she was helping take care of you, even though you asked her not to. You don't owe her that money back, as that was not the agreement at the time. ###### |
A few years ago when my daughter was 13 she begged and begged me for a dog till I was so fed up that I gave in. It was a huge mistake but at the time I didn't think it would be since my daughter promised that since it was her dog that she would take care of it and I would just buy it what it needed.
I finally got her ... | NTA
She's saying you didn't care about the dog? She's the one who would not walk or feed the dog.
You warned her many times. She can still see to the dog.
NTA. She didn't take responsibility and is taking it out on you. ###### |
My wife and I have custody of my son, she’s legally adopted him now. His mother was opposed to abortion but also is staunchly against having children, so she was going to give him up for adoption. I wanted my son, so I took full custody.
He had her last name, and she failed to inform me of his birth so he got a first ... | NTA
She's not there. The child can change the name back or choose to go by it later if it means anything for him. ###### |
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