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AITAH for not wanting to drop out of college to pay my parents bills? Mom refuses to work. | My relationship with my parents, especially my mom, has always been difficult. She’s emotionally dismissive, often mocks me and my sister, and gets angry if we react or are not constantly positive. When we try to talk about respect, she says we’re not entitled to opinions and laughs in our faces. There’s basically no b... | This is the type of parent you move a flight away from.
Don’t sacrifice your future for her. She needs to get a job instead of trying to ruin your future.
NTA |
UPDATE: AITAH for refusing to give a cat back after adopting her? Now being asked to pay additional money. | UPDATE:
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/BkSz6QRBS2
After my original post, things escalated further. The previous owner continued begging for the cat back days later and offered to send us money for another cat. Now her mom has also started contacting me (and my friend, her coworker), listing the ori... | Of course you are not the asshole. They seem extremely unstable and not concerned about the cat's best interests. At this point, you might be able to report them for harassment. But otherwise, block them. Do not pay them another cent.
Get the cat microchipped under your name and address. Take them to a vet for a check... |
AITAH for going on maternity while covering a maternity leave? | I’m a teacher and was hired to cover a 1 year maternity leave. Found out I was pregnant in September. I told my administration in December and feel they were upset about the news. I understand that it’s not ideal to find another teacher for the remaining months…but is it such a big deal? I like the school, and always w... | The only issue I would have is if we hired you with the intent to cover someone’s maternity leave and you knew that was the purpose of the hire and you were either (1) already pregnant and planning to go on maternity yourself or (2) were trying to get pregnant during that period. I know there are legal issues about wh... |
AITAH for ending this relationship? Or am I the crazy one? | My ex and I were just not compatible. We bickered a LOT and i acknowledge that’s on both of us, and I at times felt I had to mother him and let those feelings get the best of me. It’s been months but I cannot shake the feeling of extreme guilt over the break up and how awful I might’ve made him feel. He paid a bartende... | You can end a relationship for whatever reason you want. |
AITAH for refusing to let my grandmother make my bed? | I (16TM) split some milk on my bed the other day, and today I got home from school with the intention of doing a deep clean of my bed--laundering all my sheets, my blanket, pillowcases, stuffed animals. However, I got home to find that everything had already been cleaned by my grandmother (76F).
I thanked her for tak... | NTAH. It wasn’t about a mattress cover at all, it was about you trying to hold a very reasonable boundary after a long pattern of control and that reaction says far more about her behavior than yours. |
AITAH for making my mom tell me something she didn't want to and getting upset when she did tell me. | I 16 fem, want to take my boyfriend out on a date. Weve been together for months now and i recently just found out he hasnt seen lord of the rings or the hobbit. Perfect timing, lord of the rings is comign back to theatres for their 25th anniversary and i thought this would be the perfect time to take him. Hes been wan... | ESH- you for pushing. When someone says drop it, and you choose not to- you’re giving them permission to get rude.
Your mom for acting like that. You don’t get to make your kids feel bad just because you’re stressed about other stuff. Like she said it’s not her money or her time. |
wibtah if i (20f) leave my boyfriend (19m) for his incompetence despite him treating me nicely? | we have been dating for 6 months now. things are going well in our relationship. but there are a few things that makes me consider ending the relationship:
1. he is lazy, literally.
he spends most of his times video gaming or sleeping. he procrastinate on his assignments and chores, barely cleans his room. he would sl... | Being kind is bare minimum. You can’t build a future with someone you have to drag through basic adult tasks. You’re not wrong for wanting a partner, not a project |
AITAH for not liking my mums husbands dog? | Bit of a backstory, my mum has been married to this man for 18 years (who I once referred to as my stepdad), about a year and a half ago we found out he’d been cheating on my mum for over a year
All feelings of love I had towards that man disappeared the moment I found out
They are currently still together but are goin... | You dont hate the dog you hate what the dog represent. İts natural for you and your mother to feel this way NTA but this dog has nothing to do with your moms will be ex husbands actions so it would be best for you guys to give the dog to someone who will love it if you keep hating it |
AITAH for telling my best friend I got a puppy for my son | So I (26f) and my bf (25f) have been friends for about 9 to 10 years. I have a son who is 3 years, and I don't have friends who have kids but my bf we will call her (p) has always been a good and supportive friend. And my son who doesn't go to school or daycare doesn't have any friends and I thought he would love a pup... | NTA. You got your son a puppy, not a thermonuclear reactor! |
AITAH for being uncomfortable and getting aggravated at my Dad? | I (13m) have been really into roller skating recently, I met this girl I'll call Gigi. This other dude kept hitting on her and being over-all odd in general. Gigi made it very clear that she was a lesbian, but he kept going. Later I left and when I got back home, I told my dad about it since it was real odd. I mentione... | [removed] |
I told my brother in-law this is America AITAH | So this happened over the weekend it’s been almost a week. So to start off me and my family were making tamales and my brother in law had his cousin over and they were drinking, me and my family were doing our thing and my in law starts making comments on how we’re doing our tamales. They wouldn’t stop so we got fed up... | So they can talk trash but can't take it or make Tamales? NTA OP if they can't take it, then don't dish it out. Also they were TA for speaking a language that not everyone in the room can speak, specifically excluding you and talking trash about you which you knew, everyone knows when someone is shit talking them. That... |
AITAH for thinking my husband is at work getting aroused by women there | My husband came home from work today telling me he has blue balls and that he can't wait to see me in leggings later and I dont even wear leggings. It was really weird. Then I was like how were you aroused at work what happened? He told me that's not what blue balls ment and I looked it up and I was right and then I ex... | Blue balls means a man got extremely aroused but couldn't climax.
It's a very weird thing for him to say. It's possible he doesn't totally get the meaning. |
AITAH for not answering questions my partner could figure out? | Hi folks - going to try and pose this as unbiased as possible! I truly just want to know if I’m being the asshole here.
My partner and I have been together for quite a few years, living together for most of them now. We met when we were in uni. We are generally really good, but have a disagreement about a specific to... | So it depends on a few things.
Is he asking basic things like “How do I boil water?” Or is he asking things like “How do I make the Sunday roast taste exactly how your family makes it?”
Is he genuinely asking or is there weaponized incompetence happening?
I have autism and adhd and I have to genuinely ask my girlf... |
AITAH for not letting my daughter’s dad take her suddenly a day before my holiday? | My ex fling Mark (26) and I (19) had a one night stand about a year ago. I gave birth not too long ago to our daughter, Crystal.
Mark was not at the birth, even though I told him when I went into labour. During the pregnancy we spent the full nine months talking, planning, and discussing what we would do once she was ... | Take Crystal on your trip. You don't owe him anything. When you get back establish child support. Crystal deserves a man who steps up and comes through every time, not a once in awhile dad who comes and goes in and out of her life.
NTA |
AITAH for cutting ties with my mom and sisters | I'll try to keep this as brief as possible.
I have two sisters, one older and one younger. The younger sister has three boys (6, 4, newborn), the older sister has two boys (13 and 6) and I have one boy (4).
The younger sister's middle boy is 2 months older than mine. He has always been a bully and is worse when he ha... | Honestly this is one of those protect your kid first situations. The betrayal hurts but your son comes before keeping the family group chat alive. |
AITAH because I told my wife she needs to get out of her lease with her ex-husband at the end of it? | Long story short, we were married, divorced, and during that time she got her own place with her daughter and her ex husband moved in downstairs to help with rent. Says there is zero chance of anything happening between them, although when we got back together I had a feeling he was there with high hopes and ended up t... | Are you married or not? Because I can’t tell. You said you got married and divorced. So why are you calling her your wife? Why are you living separately and why is she living with her ex ex-husband?
None of this makes any sense |
AITAH for saying no to my BF having s3x w/his ex in front of me? | Background: we've both wanted a threesome with another girl. If we couldn't find another girl who was bi/bi-curious then I would try being in the room and watching him with someone to see if I like that. My guidelines with all of it were the girl had to be a stranger and never the same person twice.
Current: I recentl... | Asking to fuck his emotionally invested ex? Huge red flag. Your boundaries are valid. |
AITAH for telling my neighbor not to walk with me? | I need to preface this by saying I am a very sociable guy. My wife and I both are very neighborly. We know everyone that lives on our street, all the other dog owners in the neighborhood and most of the people that live on our dog walking path. We are absolutely that lame couple that stands in the driveway for two hour... | NTA, vibes are very telling. Trusting their gut gets people out of potentially bad situations! |
AITAH for considering a restraining order against my dad? | I’m a woman in my early 30s and I live independently with no financial or legal dependence on my parents.
I recently went no contact with my family after realizing a long-standing pattern of childhood abuse, boundary violations, and controlling behavior. There has been no physical abuse since I was a child, and really... | NTAH. Showing up at your work, questioning your coworkers and canvassing your neighbors crosses from concern into behavior that would understandably make anyone feel unsafe, especially given the history you describe. |
AITAH for questioning how my partner shows support? | I’m trying to get an outside perspective because I’m not sure if I’m being unfair or ungrateful.
I (F33) am dealing with a difficult period in my life right now, and my boyfriend (M27) has been helping me financially in very limited ways. I do appreciate that help and I’ve acknowledged it multiple times. This is not a... | You’re in the right, wanting consistent, unconditional support doesn’t make you demanding.. it makes you human |
Me and my mom almost made someone cry, AITAH? | I’m really sleepy and English is my second language so I apologize in advance, also all of this was said in our native language so it might seem fake written down in English.
So Yesterday my mom was wearing a tiny bit of lipstick that suited her really well, this woman who we’ve known for years made a snarky comment ... | This woman absolutely asked for it. She verbally attacked your mother--this wasn't even criticism, this was personal insults and haranguing. Your mother did nothing to invite this. She was patient. You were patient. This woman would Not Shut Up, she just kept attacking and being hostile.
And once wasn't enough. She c... |
AITAH for not sending an apology text? | Trying this again because it was removed. Not sure why?
CW - miscarriage.
This is a long one purely for back story. Apologies in advance!
Start of December 2024 I find out I’m pregnant, the same day I end up in hospital because I’m in so much pain. Docs say it’s likely ectopic so I need scans every week. We finally... | NTAH. Given the grief and how clearly you communicated your need for space, not sending a separate text doesn’t read as selfish so much as someone doing the best they could during an overwhelming time. |
AITAH - For sending an anonymous message | I sent an anonymous message to an ex friend saying that her boyfriend of 5 years is cheating on her.
Backstory: I used to be best friends/coworkers with this person, I’ll call her Sarah. We ended up having a falling out when she started dating her current boyfriend (the one I’m referring to). Basically, she didn’t wa... | NTA
Sarah deserves to know. Particularly as it is being openly discussed behind her back. |
WIBTAH if I lie to my friend and cause her to miss her dream concert? | I have friend I'll call sophia, I have been friends with her for the past 8 years. We have been in a trio with another girl, I'll call stella for the past 6 years, although I've been friends with stella for 12 years and eventually introduced the two to each other which led to our trio. Sophia and I have both been long ... | No you would not be TA, but you need to learn to chose your friends better. She’s clearly not even a friend, why is she still allowed to come to the friend group if no one likes her?
Losing possible access to an artist won’t be the end of the world for her - even if she WILL act like it - and she also caused this on h... |
AITAH for terminating my unplanned pregnancy with my bf of 9 months. | My bf(27) broke up with me (24) after 9 months together because I decided to terminate our unplanned pregnancy.
We had been together for 9 months and he had been unemployed for 8 months bc he lost his job from being late. He has 10k in bank account and 10k in crypto. He was sure he was ready to be a father saying he ... | NTA. But seriously he did you a favor by breaking up with you. Unemployed for 8/9 months you've been together. Cries to mommy about your relationship. Verbally abuses you and threatens to take your child. What a winner. |
AITAH for wanting wedding talk out of the group chat | I’m in a large friend group groupchat of 15 gals who went to school together. We’re all in late 30s. One member is getting married this summer and we are happy for her! I like the guy! She is very openly talking about it in the chat. Stuff like “what weekends are ppl free for bachelorette?”, “add to our wedding Spotify... | NTA. This is a group chat for stuff that is relevant to the entire group. Since 5 are not invited, this is not an appropriate venue for her wedding discussion. The bride needs to create a separate group and owes the main group an apology first insensitivity. |
AITAH for being "too kind" to my ex | So I (35 F) have been with my partner (29 M) for almost 11 years at this point. We met during a very tumultuous time in my life. I was married to a man who was very abusive in our early years of dating and marriage, I will not go into those details. My ex and I have a daughter together, who is now 15, and were married ... | You are mistaking “kindness” for codependency and Stockholm syndrome. I broke off a relationship once because the woman I was with would constantly complain about her ex/babydaddy, but would also spend time on the phone with him everyday.
I told her I wasn’t going to watch her willingly keep throwing herself into sit... |
AITAH for putting my CPTSD over my wedding ? | I am engaged to the man of my dreams and we’ve done things backwards. First date I knew he was the one, moved in 6months later, 14months together we tried for a baby and were successful, now we have a beautiful baby. He has treated me so well. He isn’t perfect but I’ve accepted his imperfection the way he has accepted ... | NTA Can you get legally married elopement-style & then work with your husband on at least his family proving they can be relied on to actually show up if you were to have a wedding? Plan some other, smaller get-together & if most people flake, you can use that as justification for not doing a big wedding. If people sho... |
AITAH for leaving a child out | My Daughter does not get along with another little girl in her class. 18 months ago maybe I called her Mom and asked if she fancied a play date - the Mom became defensive and aggressive telling me that her daughter was a sweet little angel and mine was a monster, which led to the two of us not speaking since.
My da... | F all that noise. Your kid's safety is paramount. Tell all the other moms why you won't invite the little monster. Let's light this firecracker |
AITAH for cutting contact with my supposed best friend because of this situation? | This is a doozy so settle in. We had gone to the guy with this guy well just use initials A and A asked me and my fiance "are you going to this thing at B and C's tomorrow night?" C is supposed to be my best friend for context. And neither one of us had heard about it so we already knew we weren't getting an invite and... | NTA, sometimes you need to realise that certain people shouldn't be in your life if they don't value you as you value them. |
AITAH if I leave my boyfriend of 4 years? | Throwaway account
Hi Reddit,
I’m super bad at typing so if it’s all over the place I’m super sorry, anyway,
Me and my boyfriend of 4 years have been off and on. I really wanted it to work this time but I’m getting tired slowly.
After making a couple of other Reddit posts I’m starting to see I feel like a mother to ... | No one can be an AH for ending a relationship they no longer want to be in. Period |
AITAH for cuting ties with my disabled mother because she took my drug-addicted brother back in? | I'm 37, and I have a brother (33) and a sister (34). My brother has serious substance abuse problems (drugs and alcohol) and refuse treatment. He's very anxious and has low self-esteem, which he hides behind an unhealthy facade and crazy incel ideas. He probably has an undiagnosed mental illness. My sister has social a... | This is way too long. Can you shorten it? |
AITAH for not letting my daughter go over her grandparents house | Before I was pregnant my boyfriend had an issue with his father and somehow I became the reason why my bf doesn’t live with his parents. His father ended up calling me all sorts of name and being very disrespectful towards me that’s when I decided I didn’t want anything to do with him. Fast forward I find out that I’m ... | NTA - It doesn't sound like you are keeping daughter child away from grand*mother*, you're keeping them away from grand*father*. I'm wondering if he in turn is discouraging his wife from visiting if he can't.
edited because of formatting problems. |
AITAH for cutting off a mutual friend after he body shamed me in front of everyone? | AITA for cutting off a mutual friend after he body-shamed me in front of everyone?
I (21F) went to a party recently with my boyfriend and a group of mutual friends. I’m pretty extroverted, so I was moving around and talking to different people. One of the people there was a mutual friend Lance. I’m not very close to hi... | NTA! what a jerk!!
you go girl! (bonus points for good boyfriend response) |
AITAH for leaving my house and calling my father a sick person | I'll try to do long story short. Basically since I (f20) was a kid I lived with my dad, my grandmother, my grandfather and my aunt. Because we didn't have that much money we all lived there and it's not really a big department.
My grandfather was always a violent person, I have memories from when I was very little an... | NTA and good for you. Stay strong and never look back ❤️ |
AITAH for trying to get my sister’s abusive boyfriend deported? | My sister (27F) has been in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend (21M) for about two years. For the past year, I’ve (20M) been her main support when things escalate. Here’s how it goes: she calls me crying late at night, I pick her up, she stays with me for a few days, and then he picks her up when I’m not home.
... | Next event I would just call the cops on him |
WIBTAH if I moved back out of state and stopped taking care of my Mom and Stepfather? | This may be a long post just to give as much clarity as possible to my issue. I lived out of state up until 3 years ago when I got a call asking me to move home to help my mom and step father as his health is failing and my mother is almost 80. I left my great job beautiful townhouse and my friends to do just that. I a... | Just tell your mom that if she wants your continued help, she has to accept you being NC with your sisters. |
AITAH for not helping my fiancée with her schoolwork? | I (M23) and my fiancée (F22) have been together three years, living together for one year. We both started online college just last week. We both work full time jobs.
Obviously, we’re still getting used to the workload. I’ve been doing ok, I got all my assignments for the week done a day early, giving me this past Su... | Mate she needs to learn to manage her own time better, leaving half till Sunday night is mental. You showed her your work and made templates that's more than enough, you're not her tutor are you? |
AITAH for not inviting my friend to a trip? | CONTEXT : a year ago me and my 2 friends were planning to do a day trip out of the country but we postponed the trip because me and our other friend were at risk of losing our jobs and also because of money issues. keyword— POSTPONED
fast forward to today, we booked an out-of-town plane ticket on a whim (which was sig... | NTA. This was a spontaneous plan made by the people who were present and available. You respected their need for space when they said they were isolating, and there was no malice or intentional exclusion. Feeling hurt is understandable, but projecting blame instead of communicating isn’t fair to you. |
AITAH for blocking my mother after everything she's done? | If I got into my sob story we'd either hit the character limit or be here all night, but ya'll still need some context. My sister told me she'd be making another AITAH post with her own POV because she's much more open to blocking her.
Okay. So here we go. For most of my formative years, my sister raised me, and once s... | NTA. I’m sorry you and your sister are going through this with your mother. She needs help from someone trained to do so.
If you are not getting some sort of counseling already, I highly recommend you do so. They will help you cope with such a toxic relationship. |
AITAH for asking for something back that I gifted? | I (f30) gifted my friend (f45) a bunch of cat things because my cat sadly passed away, and I was so devastated I have sworn off any more cats for the time being. I knew she was planning to get her daughter a kitten. She gladly accepted bowls, a cat carrier, cat scratchers and toys, and pet stairs, among other miscellan... | You are NTA for asking for the stairs back for your dog. When she gave you the answer that *she would "rather not."* ,she was letting you know that your friendship didn't really matter to her. She is not a real friend.
It's most likely that she sold the items or gave them away. |
AITAH I think this girl isn’t interested in me but she says I’m projecting | I (22M) have been talking to a woman (22F). We’re in the early stages of getting to know each other, and I’ve been approaching it intentionally, trying to spend quality one-on-one time when possible.
The issue is that multiple times now, we’ll make plans together, and then a few days before, the plan changes in ways t... | Just let it go… it’s not worth it |
AITAH for "giving my mother her cancer back" everytime she's upset with me? | Repost: Exceeded the character limit in the previous post, so here's the shortened version
I (22F) am finishing my degree in veterinary medicine and still living with my parents because my house is near the university, and it helps save money. In a few weeks, I’ll leave to do an internship to finish college, and the ... | NTA. Start utilizing the mental health resources that are available on your campus if you’re not already and remove yourself from their home as soon as possible. Document signs of abuse you notice with your siblings and report them to the police |
AITAH for being pissed at my husband | I work doing gig deliveries. My husband finds is necessary to join all the Facebook groups for this specific gig. Follow all the topics and discuss with the other drivers. This pisses me off more than it probably should. I dont follow up on his company or coworkers, nor do I pry into his job and tell him how its done o... | Some people can't resist being know-it-alls. NTA |
AITAH for siding with my mom instead of my wife? | My wife and I have a son who is about to turn five. My parents, mostly my mom, have been providing us with free childcare since he was a few months old. My mom follows all our requests (no screens, no added sweeteners) and gives our son a level of care no amount of money could buy (and we couldn't afford even the infer... | If your mom has been babysitting for almost 5 years, she’s been giving you and your wife a financial benefit even greater than 2 years of rent.
She could have saved you all over 100k (at 2k a month)— AND she’s giving your child one on one attention which he wouldn’t otherwise get.
YOU and your wife, by extension, a... |
AITAH for saying this | AITAH I 19M and my situationship 19F been talking since early October we been intimate maybe a lil to intimate lmao but not the point if she asks to see me of course I come asap but when I want to see her it's a different story she already laying down she gotta clean her room or take a shower n blah blah id text her an... | NTA your message was honest and respectful |
AITAH for blaming my uncle for my great-grandmother’s situation? | She’s 97, and doesn’t have much longer.
My uncle got his daughter {15} a big German Shepherd about 2 years ago; my great-grandmother has a major soft spot for animals, so when she sees the German shepherd being neglected {not fed, cooped up, etc} she takes over the responsibilities. This has already led to the dog bre... | You’re not being unfair. Blaming the 15yo doesn’t make sense and blaming your great grandma definitely doesn’t. The adult who brought the dog into the situation and failed to handle it is the issue. That’s basic responsibility stuff. |
AITAH for getting angry at my fiancee for questioning my sexuality | Throwaway here, but AITAH for getting defensive/angry that my fiancée keeps questioning my sexuality after she found my stash of hidden away sex toys which included a dildo and a chastity cage?
I told her that I was embarrassed and don’t want to talk about my masturbation habits because it was in the past / private.
... | Maybe ask yourself why youre “angry” and why youre marrying someone you cant be honest with and feel you have to hide things from. |
AITAH for telling my mom that I don't trust her? | For reference I am 29 still living at home(times really be tough out here), in school getting my pre-reqs for med school, so all my money goes towards school, books, transport, etc etc. I cannot move out unless I wanted to be homeless. My mom has always been, shall we say, veryyyy overbearing. Not to say it's not well ... | Turn. Your. Phone. Off! Seriously, if you are at work, or a date, the phone should be the last thing on to interrupt, especially knowing your mom's behavior. |
AITAH for telling my ex SIL that her whole family is f’d up and will never get to be around my kids again? | Hello everyone, so this will be very long so buckle up. I’ll try to make every detail count, from the beginning to the end. I (35F) have 4 kids, and I’ve taking care of them by myself for years.
So I’ll start from my relationship with my ex husband, we met in 10th grade and from there we were attached together. Even t... | >she also said her mom wants to see her grandkids ( same grandkids you haven’t been around for years, never helped, never came to a birthday)
Just for fun tell them they have to pass a quiz first. Do you suppose they could tell you how many children you have, and what are their names and birthdates? Perhaps they would... |
AITAH for having a severely matted cat | So basically, I have a cat that I have had for years since he was little. My parents got him from a breeder when I was a kid so he was supposed to be a purebred short haired scottish fold. And he is a scottish fold, however for some reason he has super long fur like a siberian or other very long haired cat. My parents ... | Some of these comments are really exaggerating... I have a Maine Coon mix who has trouble grooming her back. She's had large patches of matted fur twice, so we took her to the vet clinic. They shaved it off and told me that it happens very often with long-haired cats and that they're used to dealing with it. You just s... |
Aitah for refusing to attend my graduation after my family turned it into their event | I worked for years to finish my degree while balancing work and stress. My family knew how hard it was for me. When graduation was announced they immediately started planning. They discussed outfits photos and guests without asking me. I was told where to sit and who to invite. When I said I wanted something small they... | NTA. It's not your party, it's theirs and you really don't matter to them in this. Opt out and go celebrate with your friends or someone else who cares about you instead. |
Am I the problem. Aitah | So myself 32M and my wife 35F have been together for 3 years married 3 months. We have 15 month old twins and a 13 Y/o son(bonus to me).
Our arguments have always been the same.
Money.
Work load
And attention to detail(against myself).
Shortly after the wedding things tended to yet worsen. I have been on the couch f... | Just reading the post, you’re making a lot of excuses for yourself. You say our arguments are against me, then you say you’re on the couch, which inadvertently says my wife put me here, instead of there’s a reason she is frustrated, then you said she has better money management so that’s why you contribute less, which ... |
AITAH for leaving church with my kids after a family member I’m no contact with said hi? | I have a family member (54 f) I am no-contact with and have been for years due to past issues. My parents (61 f & 71 m) know this and I’ve been very clear that I don’t want any interaction with this person. I’ve told them I’m fine being in the same building as long as we sit separately and there’s no contact.
Today, m... | Good for you for sticking to your healthy boundaries and leaving. I wish I could be like that! Definitely not over-reacting if that's what made you and your kids feel safe/comfortable. |
AITAH for helping my younger brother avoid the consequences? | Throwaway with slightly obscured details due to obv privacy concerns... Beware, VERY LONG post.
My brother, Jack (M23) and his girlfriend Carmen (F23) were in a relationship for a few years and lived together. I didn't know Carmen well, but met her a couple times and she seemed nice.
My wife and I were eating lunch w... | This reads like a creative writing exercise. |
AITAH? Overseas friend [M39] turned up at my [F35] house unexpectedly. I got spooked and blocked him | Per the title.
So a guy I've known from a personality theory focused (MBTI) WhatsApp group for a while, has been reaching out to me personally the last two months or so.
Before that, we occasionally said hi to one another, or reacted to each others status since we are friends in the group. He once asked ... | NTA. He’s being very weird and he wants to blame it on… what, his cognitive functions preference?
That’s a disturbing lack of accountability. |
AITAH for feeling hurt that my bf of 11 yrs comments on other girls TikToks, on his “secret” “personal” TT account? | I’d love to hear from the men on this one. Bonus points if you’re over 40.
Background: we share a business TT account, and \~5 years ago I called him out for *our* FYP being full of thirst traps, AND for scrolling bikini TT pages while we sit next to each other on the sofa at night.
His response was to get defensiv... | This is the world YOU’RE CHOOSING to live in. This is the “man” YOU’RE CHOOSING to be with. No, you don’t need to get over this, you need to rediscover your self respect and CHOOSE to leave this loser. |
AITAH for feeling neglected in my relationship? | Hi Reddit,
This is my first anonymous reddit post and English isn't my first language, so I'm sorry about that. Now I (19F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for almost a year. I truly love this man. His humor, how intelligent he is and his personality in general. I really see a future with him and this relati... | It sounds like you are more invested in this relationship than he is. NTA/NAH, but this is who he is with you. You don't have to accept it. You can move on and find someone who will not make you feel neglected. I don't think you two are compatible. A year is not a long time, it's good to find out now rather than later. |
AITAH for not wanting my mum to live with me… again | For context, previously mum left a toxic 14 year relationship. Me, my partner and sister were in a 4 bedroom rental so we had the space for her and we took her in. Mums old house was a drinking house, so when she moved in with us we only had 2 rules for her. No partys here and no bringing her ex around.
In the beginn... | [removed] |
AITAH For kicking out my best friend even though they had no where to go. | Ok for context I am a 20f living with my boyfriend 29m in a pretty big bedroom apartment in the middle of my city. We have it pretty good we both work, him as a chef and me as a bartender but we make ok money. I used to have a pretty bad dr#g problem a year or so ago, I'm not proud of it but it's needed for the story. ... | NTA
You don't owe people your peace of mind, let alone a room in your home. You should not have to live with fist fights, dr#g problems, money issues and cheating happening under your roof |
WIBTAH If I Continue My Court Case? *trigger warning, DV abuse* | Hey there,
Throw away for obvious reasons. I (29f) don’t know if I am WIBTAH or am being gaslight again. I know those closest to me are on my side but they could be bias so I’m coming to Reddit.
My ex fiancé (32m), let’s call him X, called begging for me to not request any child support.
For context, we were in a co... | Child support is for your children. You are not the problem, and since he helped make the kids he needs to help financially support the kids.
As a fellow DV survivor, I URGE you to get therapy because you are still very much in the part of the abusive cycle where you are blaming yourself for his actions. |
AITAH for manipulating my ex when he was a narcissist (super long sorry) | Me (F19) and my ex (M28) met last year, when we were 18 and 27, while I was at work. He was a patient (not mine) and everyone working with me told me I needed to go talk to him. I didn't until about a month later when I was single and decided it was time for me to extend my branches back into the dating world. So I was... | So, NTA to him, he for sure deserves all. But I think you're hurting you so much. I don't know how his mind works, but if he is talking to three women at the time, having one more that comes and goes it doesn't sound like a problem to him. Stop playing games with that man, just stop answering him at all, he doesn't des... |
AITAH for withdrawing from intimacy from my new husband | nothing on paper is wrong. I love my husband deeply. We’re newlyweds. We’ve known each other a long time but intimacy wasnt in the cards for us until we got married (religious reasons).
I didn’t really expect that when things emotionally felt off / feel off that I’d withdraw so much. I feel bad because my husband evid... | Withdrawing from intimacy when you feel "off" emotionally is totally normal. Pushing yourself to do it anyway will only make you resent sex and your husband eventually. You need to address whatever issues you're having. Don't sugarcoat it with "nothing is wrong". Your body is telling you something is wrong. |
Aitah for yelling at my fiancé’s brother? | Am I the asswhole for yelling at my fiance's brother? (also english is my second language sorry if some parts sound off also throwaway because i dont want any of our friends seeing this post)
Me (28 male) and my amazing fiance (26 female) have been dating for three and a half years engaged for a year! ( and hopefully ... | NTAH. You hit a breaking point after a long pattern of disrespect and, while the history explains his behavior, it doesn’t excuse repeatedly undermining your relationship or ignoring boundaries you and your fiancée have clearly set. |
AITAH for not wanting my bf to see his dying dad after he walked out on him and hasn’t been in his life for years? | To start, I don’t care if my bf sees his dad. Obviously I’m not gonna stop him that would actually be mean and ridiculous. I just feel like his dad deserves to die alone? His dad raped his sister, beat my bfs mom, drugs alcoholic, walking out etc. my bf self destructed for years over this. He always talks about how he ... | NTAH but it's an esh. My mom died a few months ago and she was a horrible sociopath that did horrible things. I lothed it but I was there at the end after no contact, made the decision when there was nothing else doctors could do, then picked up and packed up her life. As much as I hated her and never thought in a mill... |
AITAH for telling my fiance I didn't like how he talked about my weight while discussing strategies to defeat his mom in a game ? | To make things simple, I will refer to my future in-laws by their soon-to-be in-law status. My (25f) fiance (25m) and his family are athletic, competitive, and obsessed with professional wrestling. My mother-in-law is the "champion" of the women in their family. She works out and she's 5 feet 10 inches. She has a six p... | This family sounds psychotic |
AITAH for considering divorce because my husband doesn’t want to live in the city we agreed on before marriage? | Hi, this is my first post so please bear with me.
I (F24) moved to Florida a little over a year ago to be with my husband(M23). We met in Florida when I was visiting a friend, then we did long distance for a while. Eventually, I decided to move to Florida to give the relationship a real try. That’s where he proposed ... | NTAH. Get out now before kids are involved. |
AITAH for going home? | So I work at a cafe with minimum wage
I worked 45 hours last week
I am working 40this week
I’m contracted for 30
I’ve worked 6 days on one off (therapy day) and then 6 on again
Today I worked 630 till 330
I got asked to stay even tho I told everone I had to be gone by 330
I worked a 12 hour then closed then ope... | Nta, your boss needs to hire more people then, not be mad at those she has who are working doubles for her. |
AITAH for not want to see my Aunt, Oncle and Cousins ever again. | TLDR: Grandad died everyone showed their true Color. 10 Years ago and I am still mad
Before my Grandad died my oldest Cousin (C1) of three helped, but also manipulated him. Mainly that Grandpa spends less money. He had Private Caretaker. C1 fired them instantly as he got the chance and instead put him in a Retirement ... | Nope. NTAH. Holding distance from people who repeatedly showed disrespect and harm, rather than a single mistake, sounds less like holding a grudge and more like choosing peace after a long pattern you didn’t create. |
PLEASE, AITAH for not wanting to hang out with an extreme introvert? | PLEASE be honest, I want the judgement.
We have a girl in our class that has extreme anxiety. She never speaks and all she does is shake. When one of my friends noticed this she took it upon herself to include the girl. My friend would hang out with her in her free time and she would include her in our friendgroup. T... | I watched a documentary once it was about people who were unemployable because of a disability. There was this guy who had autism. He never spoke. He was phenomenal. So the tv show got him a placement to test for errors in the code. He found an error and fixed it within 3 steps. His boss said it would have taken him da... |
AITAH for wanting to breakup with my boyfriend over his family? | so.. im not sure where to begin honestly. but i (19) have been together with my boyfriend, lets call him alex (19), for 1 year. i have met his family but only his parents and sister on some occasions, like brunch or dinner. it was pretty awkward but still tolerable cus yk it was still the early stages ygwim?
so one da... | You’re not obligated to stay just because nothing “bad” happened. Feeling consistently unwelcome is enough. Maybe it gets better with time, maybe not. But you’re allowed to decide this dynamic isn’t what you want long term, especially this young. |
AITAH for wanting to distance myself from my situationship due to his “mixed” signals | I need some outside opinions because my brain is looping and I don’t trust my own judgment anymore. This isn’t the usual “we act like a couple but aren’t dating” thing. It’s more like we do couple stuff, we post each other, everyone around us thinks we’re together, but we still aren’t officially dating and I’m genuinel... | You need to have a real talk about it.
Put the limits and , if he doesn't accept, then take your distance |
aitah for not responding right away? | there was this argument me (F) and my friend (also F) had a long time ago, and i genuinely think—while i could have responded better to the situation—i was not in the wrong. she, however, does not think she was wrong. if anything she thinks i was being an asshole. so now im going to let reddit decide. was i the asshole... | Girl bye I’d be ignoring her toxic ass on purpose to piss her off. NTA |
AITAH for talking to my cousins ex boyfriend | Hi! This is my first time posting and I’m not sure how to format this, please be nice lol. I, 17F and my cousin, 16F are pretty close. We grew up together and our families are also very close. Lily has always been the one to be over the top and is why I need unbiased advice on this situation.
To give a bit of back st... | YTA. Dating/talking to your close cousin’s ex is messy in a small town, and you knew it would blow up. If you value the family relationship, back off and find someone else. |
AITAH for giving my Disney+ account to a female friend after taking space from my best friend who is now in a relationship? | I(20M) have had a very close friendship with my best friend (F22)for about 5–6 years.
We were never officially a couple, but the friendship was emotionally intense at times. At one point, we were very close to becoming something more, but she ultimately decided to pursue a relationship with another guy. I accepted tha... | You need better friend cause that one is just hurting your feelings. |
AITAH for asking my husband for a divorce after finding out he was still talking to his high school lover? | I found out my husband was still in contact with his high school girlfriend. This wasnt the first time. Every time I found out before, he promised me he would block her and stop talking to her.
He promised me 3 different times that he had cut off contact. I believed him each time and tried to move on because I wanted ... | NTA.
It is YOUR relationship. Do not listen to outsiders that don’t know how YOU felt when he disrespected you.
He broke the promises over and over. Nothings changed . |
AITAH for getting mad at my bf for saying sexist(?) things | for some reason me and my bf randomly got into talking about feminism and blah blah and he likes rage baiting me by saying ‘independent career driven women’ are weird. i know he’s joking when he says that so i just laugh it off but then i was joking saying im a misandrist and i don’t like men. he started talking about ... | NTA | Thats a major red flag, consider finding a new bf |
WIBTAH if I gave my fiancé an ultimatum? | I want to preface this by saying that my (26 F; autistic) fiancé (26 M; ADHD) of 4 years is an incredible person, like genuinely so kind and would do anything for anyone.
In February last year, we moved out of his parents house and into a flat on our own. The issue is that he can't make a single decision for himself ... | NTA. You’re his fiancé, not his babysitter. If he’s unable or unwilling to be an equal partner for you, then he’s not a good fit. |
AITAH for hanging out with my “best friends” ex | so for background information this is my childhood best friend, 10+ years at this point. she’s never been a very good friend, we’ve fell out many’s of times over the years especially over men. she was always a bit boy crazy and she never wanted to hang out if boys weren’t involved or she’d forget about me whenever shed... | Light ETA we all have those moments. Some friendships dont last. Ive had that friend thats in their own world before and it just sizzled out, I felt like they never hmu to just say “how ya doing?” Yk |
WIBTAH if I told my friend to stop venting to me about sex? | I don't think he's going to see this. I have a friend who I've been talking to for over a year now, and we've both been helping out each other a lot in things. Most of the time, he's extremely respectful about it, and he sometimes says I'm better than his actual therapist. (I don't know if I should be concerned on that... | You need to learn to say, "Woah, TMI. No one wants to hear that shit." Then change the topic. And, "Don't say fucked up shit like that." Then lecture on consent. And then there's, "I'm not hanging out with C. I have better things to do with my time." Then do something without them.
Now he'll respect it and problem so... |
AITAH for deleting a hookup chat and ignoring the guy after I told him I was done? | I (28F) hooked up with a guy (28M) recently. It was purely casual.
Afterward I decided I did not want to continue because the sex was honestly terrible. So I told him:
“Hi. Sorry. I won’t do hookups anymore.”
He asked why. Then he followed up asking if we could meet “one last time,” even casually adding that we woul... | NTA, you don't owe that man anything. You didn't vibe, said you were done, and he didn't respect that. |
AITAH for not feeling bad because I screamed at a possible homeless man in walmart? | I personally don’t think I am because of the situation. I, 18F simply wanted to get a pink toothbrush case from Walmart. My grandma drove me to Walmart and I told her to stay in the car since it was going to just be a quick run in and out thing. Anyways I walk to the toothpaste/brush isle and I see a homeless looking g... | NTA. Basic security guards have to do a lot of cya but if there is a law enforcement officer doing a side gig, they are licensed by the state and have more protections and authority. |
AITAH for wanting to distance myself from some family members because I feel angry and resentful? | I (21F) am considering distancing myself from certain family members, but I’m unsure if I’m justified or if I'm being ungrateful and emotional.
Growing up, I was considered an easy child. I didn’t cause problems, didn’t ask for much, and was often the one keeping the peace emotionally with family. Because of that, I t... | NTA you don’t need an excuse to distance, if they haven’t been fixing that issue with you, then why bother? if it’s a gradual distance, the ones who are more worth keeping around would probably notice and either ask you about it, or would try and fix some things |
AITAH for refusing to comply when a man shouted, threatened me, and gathered a mob over public parking? | I 23(F) regularly go to a library with my younger brother to study. At night it is cold, so we usually take a car.
The library is inside a house, but the house owner and the library owner are different people.
The library owner rents space from the house owner.
Students pay the library owner, not the house owner.
I... | Couldn't you have called the cops? |
AITAH for "not listening" to my friend? | A month ago, me and my friend group decided to invite each other out to a party room to celebrate two of our friends' birthday. Another friend and I both decided that we'd meet at 10am — Pretty early, but we decided that so we could have more time to do other things after our time at the party room was over.
When we f... | NTA. Narcissists love telling you that you’re the narcissist. DARVO (Deny Attack Reverse Victim Order.) If you’re worried about being self centered then you’re likely not a narcissist. This all could have been resolved with better communication. She needed to speak up about truly not liking the time and asked for a com... |
AITAH if I responded to a relative in this way? | So i'm going somewhere with my parent, but they told me the way I responded to them was rude or disrespectful.
So she was looking at specific times we can go to a certain place, but the times that are available only took place during the night. She was saying it in a tone of voice where it was complaining or a bit ir... | My guess is she was irritated at the way you put it, can you remember your exact words? |
Aitah for ending this or is this how a normal relationship is?? | Hi reddit
I (29f) am currently just over 1 week post breakup from my ex (28m) after a rather traumatic experience and I'm left wondering whether I was in the wrong or whether I dodged a bullet.
For context, my partner let's call him Jack, and I, were together just over 2 years in total. I am anxious attached leaning ... | You seem to have a lot of empathy and compassion which also seems to make you excuse and tolerate poor situations. Being thoughtful and fair and giving the benefit of the doubt is commendable, but can also be draining. It’s good to be able to analyse a situation but you seem to use therapeutic speak and analysis to rat... |
AITAH for not giving money to a relative in medical emergency? | One of my relatives asked me for 3 lakhs INR for a medical emergency. I was shocked because they had recently borrowed money for another medical issue.
I can arrange the money, but I would need it back. In the past, my close family members have lent them money, and none of it was ever returned. They have two adult kid... | IF this relative already has an unpaid debt to you (and apparently others), there's no reason to give them more. Also, the explanation is easy: "I love you and want to help, but you don't repay people when you say you will, and I'm not in a financial position to give this as a gift".
It's tough when it involves a me... |
aitah for yelling at my bf abt drug use | M16 started smoking weed a lot more lately. and it’s been bugging me bc of my past relationships with just bums. i fell in love with this sober awesome funny guy. now i smoke weed but i’ve been sober bc of school a while ago i F17 brought up the idea of tripping for an art project. and he flipped his shit. he would alw... | Also, ya'll are minors. Drugs are so destructive. |
AITAH for refusing to hug my own mother? |
Some context, I am a 35 year old female and my mother is 60. We are both Mexican-Americans so the tradition of greeting people with a hug and a kiss on the cheek is ingrained in our culture.
Growing up, I have never been a fan of this. Being forced to physically greet people never came easy to me. I honestly don’t kn... | Sooo, I come from a similar background, so I feel for you a bit. My mom was the strong, conservative, religious, rancher type, she left home at 14.
Anyway, I think you should go to therapy. The fact that you can easily show physical affection for one side of the family but specifically not the other suggests there’s a... |
AITAH for being the reason a girl lost her friends after exposing her to them? | this is my first post because i watch smosh read reddit stories and thought i could come see how people think of this, im also a rambler so this might be confusing.
I (17f) am a junior in high school, i am the second oldest of four kids, my youngest brother, well call him jay for this, is thirteen and in seventh grade... | Okay so NTA.
No because why is a grown ass woman being homophobic to a little ass kid then gets mad when her secrets out? Thats deadass all on her and shouldn’t have done that. |
AITAH for feeling like I’m missing out on life because of my long-term relationship |
I am 23F and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend 25M since I was 17 or 18. It’s going into 7 years now. We live together in a one bedroom apartment and while we’re committed I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve missed out on the dating and exploring part of life
Before him I only had one other semi serious r... | This isn't an AITAH post. For the actually question. Sometimes the grass is greener and sometimes it isn't. Your life and choice. |
AITAH for getting a kid I babysit a birthday present | I (18F) have been babysitting a girl (7F) for like 6 months now. Very sweet kid. I have a form I require all parents I babysit for to fill out with general information like emergency contacts,health issues I may need to know about,allergies etc. As well as their date of birth.
A few weeks ago I was contacted by the m... | **NTA.**
You acted kindly and with good intentions based on information the *parent herself* provided. A small, age-appropriate birthday gift from a babysitter of six months isn’t weird or inappropriate in most households — it’s normal and thoughtful. You immediately apologized, complied, asked for rules, and respecte... |
AITAH for being annoyed by my husband struggling? | I (44F) have been married to my husband (46M) for almost 13 years, together for 15.5 years and we have two kids - 7M and 9M. For the entirety of our relationship I’ve been the breadwinner and there have been several long periods when he didn’t have a job at all.
In 2022 he had his kidney removed because it was blocke... | NTA. Sounds like he is depressed, but not really trying to do anything to help his situation. It also sounds like you are really frustrated and exhausted from carrying the load and it’s growing into contempt. I think you both should consider counseling or else divorce might be in the future if changes aren’t made. |
AITAH for leaving my mom’s house during the holidays and booking an Airbnb after she was rude to me and my partner? | I (21M) came back to Brazil from another country to spend the holidays with my mom (50F). I don’t live here anymore, and this trip was specifically to see her and spend time together. I brought my partner (24F) with me.
While staying at her house, she repeatedly made rude and mean comments toward me and my partner. It... | Your Mother sounds like she has some issues and feels the need to compete with your partner. NTA |
AITAH for wanting to be this girl's friend before I blocked her? | Back in 2023, I (M15, then bigender 13) used to make content on YouTube, and one of my biggest fans was a Brazilian girl (F13, then F11) who I'll call "Emi" (short for Emilia). She would always comment something positive on my videos.
Since I was born a girl, bigender, and Emi was Christian, I'd just let her call m... | No idea why she randomly switched on you but maybe there’s more to this that we aren’t aware of |
AITAH for not wanting my husband to bring a gun home? | I have told my husband repeatedly that I do not feel comfortable with a gun in our apartment and that if he wants one, he can live somewhere else or keep it somewhere else not around me. I've probably had bad to say this a dozen times now.
Yesterday he got a gun and when he came home I asked him where it was and he s... | You're allowed to set boundaries for yourself. You're allowed to leave him if you don't wanna live around a gun. Not sure how the battle cry of this sub is always you can leave anyone for any reason until a gun gets involved and now you have to stay and compromise. Nope, you can still leave if youd rather. |
AITAH for using my roommate's groceries to feed my friends and giving her money to replace them. | I 22F love in a condo my parents bought for my brothers, my sister,and I rouse while we went to university. They did this to save money on dorms and a meal plan. Also to have an investment property after we were all done school. All four of us have used it and except for the years when my brothers and my sister and I o... | I would help her pack. |
AITAH for even applying? | Context: I applied for a pt bartending position at a small restaurant in a small town that specializes in fancy beverages
I am a recent college grad and at the time needed a pt job to make some extra cash, I have waitressed since I was 16 and worked in multiple bar settings as well as managed one. Nothing overly fanc... | The fuck did they even schedule an interview for??? |
AITAH for being upset at my friends not staying the night for my bday | I’m gonna start off saying that this is my first post on here so I’m sorry if it’s not written properly. I, 17f am turning 18 on Sunday. I invited my close friends to come over Saturday to celebrate with me. When I texted the group chat I made, no one said anything at first. I had to send multiple texts saying for them... | NTAH. Makes sense to feel hurt when something important to you ends up feeling like an afterthought. |
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