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New rule: no political trolling | Hey all, quick announcement. Based on the recent uptick in posts more focused on arguing politics than asking if you're the asshole, we've added a more specific rule. Posts primarily focused on political trolling (i.e. trying to get a reaction, or multiple political posts in a short timeframe) will be removed and the a... | [ERROR] |
AITAH for only doing the bafe minimum when I got roped into babysitting. | My sister 38, invited me over for a family meal. Our parents were there too. After dinner my mom and I helped clean up while my dad and brother-in-law watched my nieces and nephew. Afterwards my parents left. Then my sister and brother-in-law asked me if I could watch the kids for an hour while they went for a quick er... | NTA. Your sister knew what she was doing, she just doesn’t like the consequences of her actions. |
AITAH for unplugging my neighbours car from the charging point ? It’s my charging point . | Four times a week I see this lady using my charging point ( that I pay for) to charge her car , doesn’t even ask me . I just get home from work and see she is using it , while she was clearly too occupied “ gardening “ I went up and unplugged it from her car . I’ve now left a note on her car saying ‘ any future plug i... | Buy a lock for your charger to put an end to any unauthorized access |
AITAH: I don’t want to forgive my sister even if it happened when we were young | My sister is 3 years younger than me. She had a huge crush in a guy her class and they were good friends. He was coming around all the time. He tried to ask me out several times and I said no every time. Then I went to college in a different city and I thought that was the end of it but I was home during Christmas and ... | NTA. You don’t just “get over” trauma. If she was apologetic and pushing for a relationship with you that you were constantly rejecting, I’d say maybe. But it’s clear you never got closure, and have no desire to be around someone that caused you so much pain with no remorse. Your feelings are valid |
AITAH for "allowing" my stepdaughter to wear stinky pajamas to school ? | I (31f) married my husband (37m) in December then moved in with him and his daughter (15f). The mom (41f) is in the picture but my stepdaughter lives us full-time.
On the 1st day of school after Christmas break for my stepdaughter, I was to drive her to school. When she was "ready," she was in pajamas that smelled li... | This is a 15 year old girl that doesn't care what she looks or smells like. There is a problem with all of you. |
I defended my fiancé against my maid of honor and she ended our 10yr friendship. But AITAH instead of her? | I asked my friend “Anna” to be my maid of honor for my wedding. She agreed and then later on suggested I switch to another friend whom Anna thought would be hurt if she wasn’t chosen. I declined saying she was my closest friend and she meant more to me.
During wedding prep, Anna was either in another state (winter mi... | NTA.
Some of these comments make no sense at all. Are these Y T A commenters failing to follow the timeline?
This woman agreed to be MOH.
She never once “requested” not to be MOH. All she did was suggest another friend on the grounds that that friend might be upset to not be asked.
Throwing a bachelorette is one of... |
WIBTAH if I tell my parents I don’t wanna fight cancer? | A couple of weeks ago I 16M was diagnosed with stage 4 Lymphoma, it’s a form of cancer that doesn’t often get detected till much later, I’ve been really sick for weeks before getting diagnosed and I had a really high fever and I stayed for over a week at the hospital and they did a bunch of tests on me to find out what... | [removed] |
AITAH for not giving my mom my bank account? | So for background context, I’m a 26 year old female, I just graduated uni and got a full time job. I’m making real money for the first time in my life. I was born here but I’m Asian background. My Asian mom wants me to give her my bank details because she wants to “manage it” and thinks that I don’t know how to manage... | You're 26. This isn't even a discussion. It ended when you said no. |
AITAH for not helping my stepson take a shower? | Married for 2 years, my wife has a 10yr old son with explosive temper disorder and an undiagnosed mental disorder. He is full functioning physically but he has no empathy and gets angry quickly if he doesn’t get his way every time. His reasoning skills aren’t developed. He can be very polite saying please and thank you... | I've been a special education teacher for 25 years. If your son can twerk in the shower there is no reason for either of you to be in there at all. Make him do his own self care. |
AITAH for not understanding why my husband got upset at our 4yr old for sitting on a pillow? | Today, I (f24) heard my husband (m23) scold our 4 year old daughter for something but i couldn’t quite tell what it was. However I did hear her start to argue with him and he was trying to get her to listen to him. But because she’s still trying to figure out feelings, she got upset. I walked in the room and asked what... | Your husband realized he was wrong while you were arguing with him and spouting nonsense is all he had left.
If it was because he didn't want her rear end on pillows because you all lay your heads on them, then he should have just said that. |
AITAH for refusing to share my inheritance with my "struggling" siblings? | Our grandmother passed away and left me her house because I was the only one who lived with her and took care of her for five years. My two siblings, who rarely visited, now want me to sell the house and split the profit three ways because they both have significant credit card debt.
I told them "no" because I gave u... | NTA. I think you made yourself pretty clear and why you’re saying no to them. |
AITAH for refusing to sign an NDA from an ex? | Years ago, I briefly dated my boss’s boss while working on a political campaign. I was 22 at the time and he was 24 or 25 I think. It was really intense and didn’t end well. Basically I was looking for a relationship, he just wanted to hook up, and it took me about 3-4 months to figure out that he was just feeding me l... | If nothing you experienced was illegal or unethical, it’s interesting that his team feels the need to lock you into silence now |
AITAH for stopping my husband’s wedding? | I had a court marriage with my husband in the US, he is a Hindu and I am a Muslim. We have been married for two years.
I filed for divorce a few months ago when I found out he was cheating. He had been paying hookers and cheating consistently through our marriage.
Our divorce is currently at a litigation phase.
I di... | NTA of course. Your “husband” is legally still married to you, so the wedding would have been a farce. You saved this woman and also managed to besmirch his reputation in his community while still maintaining the high ground. Well done. |
AITAH for gagging after unclogging my wife’s milk duct? | So My wife is breastfeeding and had a very painful clogged milk duct. She asked me to help unclog it by sucking, since that’s something that’s commonly recommended and nothing else was working.
After it seemed like forever I was able to unclog it and When I did, her milk shot into my mouth. I then started gagging and ... | Now you know what a blowjob is like. |
AITAH for telling my daughter-in-law to stop "borrowing" my clothes ? | I (51f) wonder if I'm the stereotypical evil mother-in-law. My son (27m) and daughter-in-law (27f) live close up. They come over a lot, which I don't mind.
My DIL and I are very close to being the same size. She keeps taking my clothes. The things that get put in the laundry, sometimes I am looking for an outfit just... | NTA. She's not borrowing, she's taking without asking. That's stealing. Your son needs to grow up and realize his wife is being disrespectful. |
AITAH for moving my car and saving myself? |
Ok so this happened earlier today.
I was with a friend (she was in the passenger seat) and her 8 year old daughter (in the back seat) and we were in a car (i am the driver) at a busy intersection waiting for it to be clear to cross.
There was a minivan ahead of us but I couldn't see who was in it at that time (or rath... | NTA. But you need to talk with a qualified counselor about survivor's guilt. |
AITAH for sitting on my phone at a party where everyone spoke a language I don't understand? | I was invited to a party by someone I know and decided to go because I didn’t want to be rude or seem uninterested. I arrived on time, greeted everyone, and brought food like I was asked to. At first, things seemed fine. People were friendly enough, and I tried to stay engaged by smiling, nodding, and listening.
After... | but being on ur phone is less rude than straight up excluding someone all night |
AITAH for wanting my ex-wife to pay rent or move out, even though it will force a custody change? | I’m a 44(M) and I am divorced from Ally (43F). We were together over 17 years total, and we’ve been divorced a little over two years now.
Ally and I divorced because she thought I was having an affair which I wasn’t. She believed I was being secretive and that staying out late meant I was seeing someone else, In real... | Your ex made the decision to be unemployed and to have another child. How long are you willing to bankroll her lifestyle decisions? |
AITAH for not cleaning our bathroom to prove a point that I am the only one who does so? | Okay, so first some context: I am a female, I live with my parents and my 2 older brothers, I’m not a child, but not a whole adult, the point is, we’re not very little or anything (.. obviously-), and pull our weight around the house.
I share a bathroom with my brothers, and naturally we all have to clean it, but I no... | NTA. You're not the maid, you're a housemate. Clear division of labor and responsibility is the backbone of shared living spaces. Gross chores included. |
AITAH for not making a female student cover-up even though her parents want me to | I (36F) am a teacher at a small conservative private Christian school. I have just joined the school as a teacher this year, and for the most part it’s been interesting but not horrible.
Our school has a uniform, but once a month we have a dress down day where students can wear whatever they want, within a pretty rea... | As long as the kid is adhering to the school dress code you have nothing to report. |
AITAH: Not telling in laws baby was born | My in laws are a nightmare, even my (29) wife (30F) agrees.
We have been together for five years, and I could write several books about the awful things her family has done to both of us.
My family lives close, about a five minute drive, and they are very respectful of our life and our boundaries. My parents will be... | If they can afford their own plane they can afford a hotel room |
AITAH for not taking my fiancé’s side? He wants my sister UNinvited to the wedding | Im 29 F, fiance is 34 M
we invited my two sisters Remy 34/ Lara 27 over for the weekend.
Hang out, play games etc
We played Uno
My fiance seemed overly irritated by round 2 or 3. It started with me and him bickering (he was trying to say things jokingly like submit and ill let u win. I challenged him like no i shall n... | You are seeing the red flags about if the groom should be invited dont you? |
AITAH for not helping my brother save his marriage? | A little back story, about 9 years ago my SIL found out that my brother was having an emotional affair with a coworker. All hell broke loose but eventually she stayed with him. They purchased a home close to 15 years ago in my brother’s name. They got a 15 year mortgage and this year they should be finishing paying off... | He cheated, stole from the marriage, gambled, and now wants to risk your parents' home. Absolutely not. |
AITAH for telling my sister it’s her own fault she’s in an unhappy marriage? | throwaway.
for some background. my husband (30M) and i (29F) have been together for 6 years, married for 3. we also have a 2 year old little girl.
now, some background on mine and my husbands relationship. he’s amazing. we own our house jointly (important for later), he did all the night feeds when our little girl ... | Your sister sounds like a real C U NxtTuedsay. Also why didn’t your mom chastise her for criticizing you and your husband’s relationship!? |
AITAH for bailing on my friend after I found out she allowed a +1 I can’t stand to come? | AITA for bailing on dinner because my friend text me as Im walking out the door telling me “oh btw” our mutual friend’s bf we both can’t stand is coming?
She knows I can’t stand this dude and neither can she but she didn’t have the balls to say no, he cant join.
The group is quite small and its a sit down dinner so I ... | She told you last minute for this exact reason.
Bail, feel no guilt. You're giving her the same warning she gave you |
AITAH for kissing my wife on the forehead instead of the lips because she had the flu ? | Me (24m) and my wife (27f) are newlyweds. While we were engaged, we got developed a routine where I would kiss my wife minutes after she wakes up, as I wake up 1 or 2 hours before her.
Early December, when I woke up, I suspected that my sleeping wife was sick. She was very sweaty, her body felt warm, and she was snori... | Your wife is a selfish person.
A person that cares about you would prioritize ensuring you don’t get sick rather than whatever nonsense she pulled.
Her being 27 is a surprise. Acting like she’s 16.
NTA |
AITAH? Ghosted elderly neighbor I used to help bc she yelled at me when I helped her | AITA?
I saw an elderly lady one day on the sidewalk with a walker struggling to walk. We were on an incline and access-a-ride or whatever service she had used had just dumped her on the sidewalk and she was clearly unstable and afraid to walk unassisted to her doorway (high rise).
I parked my car and hurried to help ... | NTA. How does the old saying go? Don't bite the hand that feeds you? |
AITAH for not letting my mom call my child “my baby”? | Me and my wife just brought our newborn baby home from the hospital.
From the start my mother and wife never had a text book. Mother in law / Daughter in law dynamic.
Just a heads up, I’m the only one in my family that’s in an interracial relationship.
In the beginning of me and my wife’s relationship my mother st... | Other than the fact that there's a baby involved.
Why did you think anything would change? |
AITAH for laughing at my best friend when he said blonde hair makes a woman look smelly ? | Me (19f) and my best friend (20m) were at lunch. Another friend (19f) wanted me to see if my bestie would date her. My bestie said he's not attracted to her. I asked why and he said promise not to tell her the real reason. I promised.
He said when he thinks of blonde hair, he thinks of summer, then thinks of sweat. H... | Are they neuro divergent by any chance? I've grown up surrounded by spectrum positive folks from whom I have heard similar pickiness with regard to potential partners.
Also eew stinky colors. |
MIL wants to see to personalized notes on thank you cards for my baby’s 1st birthday party aitah | I made thank you cards with pics of my daughter from the party and a general message saying thank you for coming to celebrate with us. When we opened gifts we wrote down the names of who bought them and what they got so I can write personalized notes.
I finally got them in the mail and I asked her to send me the addre... | Oh oops it's too bad you forgot to take pictures before mailing them out 😇 |
AITAH for telling my brother in law he should have spoke to me before asking my toddler not to do something? | My brother in law is staying with us currently, I am a stay at home mom to my 3.5 yr old. I was upstairs with my toddler trying to do some cleaning/organizing, while my toddler was playing around and goofing off. My brother in law was downstairs. My son has been really into stomping his feet and pretending to be a dino... | YTA.
It’s completely normal to feel protective of your kid, especially when someone else steps in. That part makes sense.
At the same time, by your own account, the stomping was loud and directly affecting someone else in the house. That’s one of those moments where it probably would’ve helped if you’d stepped in fir... |
I shared a video with family of my cousin’s husband doing shady things. AITAH? | I live in the same house as my cousin (F 60) and her husband (M 56).
They have constantly been abusive to me by accusing me of stealing money and telling me that they wish I would just kill myself. So I had turned to isolating myself in my bedroom and had a camera installed so that when they do these things they are... | nta
Good you exposed him, what a creep! |
AITAH for allowing my niece to stay with my husband and I temporarily? | My niece is 19 and there is a 9 year difference between my niece and I and a nine year difference between my sister and I her being older. My sister is upset because she believes my husband and I are bad influences because of our differing views on how to live or as my mom put it “our political party” and for the recor... | NTA, but kindly your family is crazy. Good tor you for helping your niece. |
AITAH for unintentionally getting my coworker fired? | I (30M) work as a finisher is cabinet making, I started last August and have been in this feild for about 6 years. I mostly work alone as its a woodshop and the other people here are usually covered in dust, sawdust and debris so outside of my booth day to day I don't really see what's going on.
About 3 months before ... | You did nothing to him. You did your job. He didn't do his and apparently your boss didn't think he was coachable |
AITAH for prioritizing my finances over my relationship? | My (37f) boyfriend (39m) have known each other for about a year and a half. Early last year he confided in me that his credit score was “not good”. I have always prided myself on having a good one and with managing my money correctly in general. He asked if he could be put as an authorized user on my card. I was hesita... | NTA He played you. Time to move on. |
AITAH for wanting to cut off my biological father after he ignored my engagement and only contacted me after a mass casualty attack? | Backstory: I (25F) was conceived via IVF. My biological father left my mum while she was pregnant after having an affair. He was not involved in my childhood at all. We moved interstate when I was 7 and he never visited or called, even when we lived close by.
My mum later met the man I’ve called my dad for the last 21... | Don’t block him, don’t call him. Don’t expect him to be anything genuine. Accept him as a distant relative whose you don’t interact. Wait for your inheritance. |
UPDATE: AITAH for Wanting my step siblings in new home | First of all, thank you to everyone who commented on my last post. I read everything even the comments that were hard to hear. A lot of people told me to talk to a trusted adult instead of keeping everything bottled up, so that’s what I did.
I waited a few days first to see if my mom’s behavior would change on its own ... | I’m sorry your mother is so selfish. |
AITAH for telling my family I won’t attend gatherings anymore if they keep making comments about my life choices? | every family gathering becomes an opportunity for my family members to talk to me about my career, finance, and lifestyle. Every time, I’ve complained to them that it makes me very uncomfortable. However, they claimed that I am too sensitive. In our last family gathering, I told them that if they don’t stop, I wouldn’t... | Boundaries are important. My family has constantly questioned me based on religious or what they call moral reasons. Probably taken roughly 25 years to get to a point of what I find acceptable. They never liked the girls I dated nor the friends I hung out with. Things are good now but you can’t ever get comfortable and... |
AITAH for not wanting to give a colleague lifts to/from work? | The issue I’m querying is whether I’m the a**hole for not wanting to give a colleague a lift to and from work.
We both live relatively near each other, basically about 10 minutes out of my way on my route home. Our place of work is 25 miles away and our working hours line up most of the time though we work for diffe... | nta!
Especially on late nights, I wouldn't want to take even a 5 minute diversion from my home route. You aren't her driver. |
AITAH for refusing to let my boyfriend’s aunt stay at our house? | I (28F) have been living with my boyfriend (30M) for about five years. Two years ago, we moved to France (we are Portuguese) so he could be closer to his family and so we could build a better life.
In December 2025, we rented a two-bedroom house because my boyfriend has a daughter who lives in Portugal with her mother... | NTA. Reasons valid. Ask them why you should allow someone that has not made any effort to befriend you, treat you kindly and has done the exact opposite to you, stay in your home and expect hospitality from you and see what they say. |
WIBTAH for wanting to end my Marriage that feels like a chore, and I don't know if I'm overreacting |
Hiiiii guys, I need advice or help or whatever it may be. I'm 28(F) and recently married in 2025 to my 35(M) husband. I feel like our relationship may be fizzing out, and I don't know if we moved too fast or what the issue is.
Some context: We got married, and I have no kids of my own, but he does from previous marri... | NTA - this is why you are wife #3. |
AITAH for disengaging from my friend group on a graduation trip and effectively ending the friendships? | I (23F) went on a two-week graduation trip with four other women (all early 20s). We traveled through three European countries by train, starting in Spain and ending in Germany.
Before the trip, we tried to be organized and fair. Each of us “took charge” of a city/country and presented a PowerPoint itinerary. We discu... | What friendships were there to begin with? Nta |
AITAH for refusing to take care of a sick relative after they treated me poorly? | A few months ago, my cousin, who I’ve had a complicated relationship with for years, fell seriously ill. In the past, they have often been rude, dismissive, and at times manipulative toward me. Despite this, when I heard they were sick, I considered helping out. Friends and family immediately assumed I would step in, a... | You’re not obligated to sacrifice your mental health for someone who treated you badly for years. You tried to help in reasonable ways and were met with reproaches. It’s normal to set boundaries when a situation starts to affect you. |
AITAH for not wanting to wear jewelry with my partners name on it. (I also never wear jewelry to begin with). | Started as what I thought was a simple interaction of my GF asking me if I thought a pinky ring was cute that could have her name on it. I Told her that I'm glad she likes it but she knows I don't really wear jewelry (which she knows) and that even if I did find jewelry I liked, I don't like the idea of wearing a signi... | >This turned into her saying that I don't want girls to know her name when I'm not with her and that I'm unfaithful because I don't wanna entertain this idea.
That's just nonsense. |
AITAH for siding with one brother over another? | I have two brothers that live together, and they live with one of their girlfriends. Let’s call them bro1 and bro2. Today they called me up asking for advice because they can’t agree on something. Bro2 wants a friend / potential gf to visit them and stay with them for a week. This girl lives in a different country and ... | NTA
If Bro 2 pays equal parts of the rent he has every right to invite a friend over to stay for a week.
I understand bro 1 and gf perspective. Tell them to just lock their bedrooms doors for a week whenever leaving the house. |
AITAH for Keeping My Ex Blocked After He Spiraled Publicly? | My ex and I broke up after a relationship where he was extremely emotionally dependent on me. He needed constant reassurance and contact, spiraled if I didn’t respond quickly, and relied on me to calm his panic attacks. He talked early on about quitting his college sport, transferring schools, saving for an engagement ... | NTA Keep that door firmly closed and if you haven't already, talk to your sister about blocking him too. |
AITAH for not making my daughter change the emoji for her Dad's contact that's actually an inside joke about his small appendage? | I (31F) had a daughter "Lilly" (now 7) with my ex "Cory" (32M). When Lilly was 4 months old, Cory went to his best friend's bachelor party. He was mad he wasn't the best man which led to him paying for everything all trip (strippers and shots), something we later had one of our biggest fights about. This included payin... | That was super inappropriate.......but also lmao YTA |
AITAH? My ex husband asked to see our bio son and I said no. | My (26F) ex husband (29M) had a son (5) together. It was extremely toxic and I ended up packing up the baby at around 6 months old and leaving while he was at work for fear of physical retaliation.
I lawyered up, had him served with divorce papers going for 100% custody and allowing him a limited amount of supervised ... | NTA.
I do not like that "one last time" part. I'd be afraid he was going to do something drastic to the child. |
AITAH for not wanting to go to my own birthday party/trip? | My birthday is late December. I’m the youngest of four.
In my family, the rule was always that everyone gets their own birthday trip, and if you want to go on your siblings’ trips, you pay for yourself. Because I wasn’t 21 yet, I wasn’t allowed to go on anyone else’s trips. I was told there was “nothing to do in Vegas... | NTA.
If you don’t want to go anymore just say you don’t want to go. Maybe they will remember the reason WHY the trip happened in the first place and try to talk to you about it. And from there you open up calmly about how you feel. |
AITAH for getting annoyed with my Husband every time he gets drunk? | My husband acts like an annoying 6th grade school boy when he drinks alcohol like putting his index finger on my lip and rubbing my lip ..gross like did u wash your hands??? or comes up to kiss me with mouth all the way open like a big mouth bass or bringing that cat over to me telling me kiss the cat while I’m trying ... | NTA I was that husband. For all three of my wife’s (two exes). YOU ARE GOING TO get FED (sorry for the caps) up with that and dump him cuz at one point all the pain and misery of a breakup will be less than the shit he does now. From a fella that knows. |
AITAH for telling my husband he shouldn't blame all his problems on his mother? | Throwaway account because I don't want him to see this.
We have been married for 2 years and something irks me about how he speaks about his mother. I don't remember him ever talking like this before we got married.
His father is a present 'absent father' and was his whole life. His father works for 4 to 7 hours a da... | It's certainly disturbing that everything wrong is Mom's fault, and not Dad's.
Is it all going to be YOUR fault soon?
Look into books on C-PTSD, because just about every adult who grew up in a dysfunctional family is thus diagnosed. There are ways to work through it, but your husband has to want to do the work.
I'll... |
AITAH for moving away for college when my parents rely on my for child care (long) | I (19F) have two younger siblings 15 and 6. Six y/o we will call B. 15 y/o we will call M.
Now B was not expected. My parents had already had their kids and most were independent by the time B came around. B is my older brothers daughter that my parents took custody of. Since B was a newborn (me being 13) I have had ... | Not your monkey not your circus.
Remember you gave that poor kiddo 5 good stable years. You did more than you should have, more than her father did, more than her grandparents did.
She's not yours and sadly no matter what you hope or want, it's going to boil down to what her actual guardians decide.
Don't destroy yo... |
AITAH for pushing back when another trans person said me sharing my deadname is offensive to them? | So today I shared to some people I don't really know my deadname (if it can even be called that, my name now is my birth name just male now), and made a joke about how in movies my birth name has always been villainized.
Well someone there then replied that I should not be sharing my deadname and it's dead for a reas... | I don't understand how some people think they're entitled to sticking their opinion on others.
NTA and you're good! |
AITAH: He hates me. I have no reason to stay. | My bf (37m) doesn’t support me, not when it matters, not when it doesn’t matter. For over a year we talked about moving my stuff from my aunt’s house to my house because I have left them there when I had to move out of my place in a hurry and, back then didn’t have money to pay for a moving truck to move them to my par... | Leaving is the right thing to do..this is a clear pattern of neglect and imbalance.. you give a lot he gives very little, and your need’s aren’t met. Walking away from that isn’t selfish, it’s self-respect |
AITAH for blocking my sister? | I’m honestly really confused about the situation. For context, me and my sister have always had a very turbulent relationship. It’s felt more like a friendship than a normal sister relationship, especially during my super early teenage years. She’s called me ugly before and I’ve said things back, but the difference is ... | Listen to me. Setting boundaries is essential, especially when someone’s toxicity drags you down. You’ve shown support, but your sister needs to take accountability for her choices. This isn’t about throwing blame; it’s about protecting yourself from endless drama and emotional manipulation. Her shouting doesn't make h... |
my parents forced me to go to my university graduation that i loathed, dreaded, and did not want to attend. i did, but i was not happy, did not smile, and was resentful. they gave me the silent treatment for the rest of the day. AITAH? | this story is a year old but i am still not over it and might never be.
to make it very short i finished university last december. i am not proud of it, i did not want it, i did not want to go to that school, i made no memories at that school, no friends, no boyfriends/flings, not even a normal major (i dropped my o... | legit feelin ur pain rn. I mean, uni ain't always the dream it's all talked up 2b, especially when you're forced into it. Tbh, everyone's path is their own, man. Nobody should be guilt tripped into celebrating something they ain't proud of just coz the 'rents forked out the cash. Stay strong & remember, it's ur life! I... |
AITAH for cleaning up a biohazard my roommate said wasn’t her responsibility? | I (23F, college student at the time) lived with my roommate in a 2BHK apartment during my third year of college. We had separate bedrooms and shared the living room and kitchen.
Everything was fine until our apartment started smelling… questionable.
At first, I assumed it was the drain, trash, or something in the kit... | Next time throw it in her room. |
AITAH for not maintaining contact with my father and changing my surname? | I (20f) have never had a good relationship with my father. For context, I’m openly queer, atheist and have quite liberal opinions. My dad is homophobic, catholic and intensely conservative with his views.
My mother remarried when I was 9 and recently I decided to socially (not legally) change my surname to match my mo... | NTAH. Choosing a name that reflects the people who actually made you feel safe and supported is about identity and belonging IMHO. |
AITAH for resenting my fiancé for asking me to take down my risqué photos off the internet? | I, F(35) am engaged to my fiancé M(36). In my 20’s and early thirties I did some light modeling and had a lot of the model pics on my Instagram when we met. I used to own a photo studio so I would take a lot of selfies and do photo shoots with people in the creative community. Mostly harmless photos but a few photos we... | >While he was looking through my photos he was calling me slutty, telling me that I must have not respected myself at all and I should be very ashamed of myself.
Please don't marry this man. |
AITAH for wanting my GF to manage her time better and pull her weight? | She is 33, works part time and still has not completed her Bachelors. She also does not help much in the household. Because most of her free time is occupied with talking to and visiting her parents and siblings.
She spends roughly 30-40 hours/month on the phone talking to them an then another 50-60 hours visting them... | NTA for wanting a fair split chores and supporting her education, but telling her exactly how much time she should spend with her family comes off controlling. Focus on teamwork, not numbers. |
AITAH if I go no-contact with in-laws? | Over the weekend, I snapped about my in-laws overstepping our boundaries with our one-year-old. I am a quiet person and barely raised my voice. I brought up a couple of issues, but my FIL immediately begin yelling, asking, “that’s it?!”, disagreeing with my feelings, pointing at me, and saying I have a “shitty attitude... | Just completely cut them off. If they can't be nice, they don't get to see their grandkid.
And where the hell is your partner in all of this!? |
AITAH if i refuse to change my graduation photo outfit despite my friend refusing to take photos with me? | 1. we are going to take graduation photos with our friend group
2. theres no set dress code but most girls our year (including my friend) are wearing black dresses. i am wearing sparkly dressy black top and dress pants. i like my outfit and have no desire to wear skirts/dresses
3. i post a picture of my outfit to my ... | No. But your "friend" is. |
WIBTAH if I donated or threw out my ex boyfriend’s clothes? | EDIT: I spoke to a police officer this afternoon and will be following his advice. Thank you all for letting me know I could be hit with a theft charge. It was the unknown push I needed lmao
I (20F) recently broke up with my boyfriend (22M) because he sexually assaulted me. Since then, he’s been texting and calling no... | Retired cop, with 23 yr old daughter. First thing you should do is pack all the clothes in a hefty bag and set them outside. Next is to text him a message to come and get them. In that message also tell him to no longer try to contact you. No coming by your house or work. No text messages, emails, phone calls, soc... |
AITAH for ripping out my dads beard? | DISCLAIMER: I put TW Abuse just in case, but I genuinely don’t know if this counts as abusive. I wasn’t outright attacked, and the marks left on my arms faded in less than a hour, but there was still quite some aggression involved. From both parties. A mandated reported herself stated that she had no idea how this woul... | This wasn’t about a beard, it was about safety. You were restrained, panicked, and trying to get out. That’s not you being “disrespectful,” that’s survival mode. Your dad needs help with his anger, and it’s not your job to sacrifice your sense of safety to protect his feelings. |
AITAH - For not wanting to go to my brothers wedding | Hey all,
As the title alludes too we are having a few issues regarding my brother’s wedding so I thought I’d ask here if AITAH or him. It’s quite a long story so I’ll try and lay out all the facts as best I can. My brother has been engaged for quite a while so this story is over a few years.
About 18 months ago we go... | NTH
Ask him to cover your full costs on a interest fee loan payable in 50 years and if he says no, then it’s not about having you there , it’s that he’s being a grade A - - - - |
UPDATE - AITAH for showing my coworker what 'just being honest' can be like? | Well I had my meeting with HR and it went relatively okay, first of all I went on detective mode and I found out one of the HR guys (Dylan) was related to Jake, they're mom's are cousins so they don't have the same last name or anything but I found Jake's mom's Facebook and then a picture with Jake's mom, Dylan and his... | I remember your first post and am glad to see this update.
I'm guessing that Dylan's employment in the HR department is how Jake has managed to get away with this stuff up until this point since clearly no one knew about the connection until you pointed it out - that syncs up with what you said in your first post abo... |
AITAH for not going to my sisters baby shower because I didn’t even know she was pregnant until I was told to bring gifts? | So I honestly didn’t know my sister was pregnant. I found out when my mom texted me about the baby shower and asked what gift I was bringing. I thought she was joking at first.
Turns out my sister has been pregnant for months and pretty much everyone knew except me. She never told me, and it was never mentioned to me ... | NTA
She didn't think it was serious enough to tell you herself that she's having a kid, so she shouldn't think it's serious that you don't come to the shower. |
AITAH For not replying back? I feel so guilty | So, this guy and I have known each other for 8 months (Long Distance online). We were in a dynamic (bdsm) sorta with no serious relationship commitment. Until he said recently how hes tired of being lonely and want a relationship.. But he wants different things like for example.. I wanna be married- he doesn’t want mar... | NTA. u were right to decide not to reply anymore. do not feel guilty, because his ignoring u is already proof that he did not think about u or respect u. He also invalidated what u said and feel. do not waste urself on this, u can still find someone who can truly meet u halfway and who shares the same wants and goals i... |
AITAH for protecting my paternal grandmother's jewelry from my maternal cousin? | I (28 years old F) have a cousin (25years old M) named Eric.
Eric and i used to be close as relatives but in time,we lost every contact. Years pass by and Eric found my mother's phone number. My mother was thrilled to hear news from Eric,from his grandmother and from his mother.
My mother it's the elder sister of E... | Well you can now remove Eric from your life for the long foreseeable future. NTA
ETA: Hide that box. Your mom already tried to give them to Miranda once...she will try to get it herself again. This one is going to come back |
AITAH for telling my husband it's his fault that I can't sleep? | I (30f) have chronic insomnia, diagnosed at 19. I have trouble sleeping even if I use prescribed medication or OTC stuff like melatonin. I am also a very light sleeper, so if I wake up in the middle of the night, I won't be able to fall back asleep for awhile. the average amount of sleep I get is between 4 to 6 hours. ... | If you want this relationship to last I’d get beds in separate bedrooms. I’m serious. |
AITAH for feeling like I'm not in the wrong? | Me (19f) and my little sister (16f) have a strained relationship. It can be great one day, and in the next sentence I say she can completely blow up on me out of nowhere. It's started to make me feel like maybe I'm doing something wrong, or not responding in the right way. Let me give an example of a situation:
At nig... | NTA
Your sister is 16...and acting like she's 16. This is a time in most people's lives where they're still trying to figure out exactly who they are, what they like and what they don't. That is going to mean some behaviors that may seem a bit annoying to those past that age. I know it's hard, but just do your best to... |
AITAH for letting the guy I’m seeing think I’m broke? | Throwaway because I use my main for things relating to my work.
I (22F) have been seeing “Alex” (24M) for 4 months (but we barely saw each other in December because I was away for most of it). It was going great. Alex works an entry level job in marketing. I work for a fashion house as an intern.
Just to get it out... | I personally think that's a lot of dramatics for a relationship of four months. I'm not sure you should apologize for the miscommunication. How did he think you paid for your apartment if he thought you were broke? |
Family friend cheating with step son, AITAH for telling her husband? | My wife came home from a visit with a friend of ours. (Her friend from before we got together) apparently the friend confided in my wife that she had fallen in love with her 21yo step son and that they were planning to move out while her husband was working several hundred miles away (he’s 2 weeks on 2 weeks off). The ... | You gave him the info. What he did with it was his choice. |
AITAH: Partner Intimacy | AITAH: My partner had a porn problem and has been doing great at recovery. (Some rough patches but we worked through it). One of the big problems is that our intimacy is lacking and Ive addressed it twice. My drive seems to be higher which is crazy considering the porn addiction my partner had. If I initiate I’m told I... | NTA- "Too forward"??? I'm assuming you are a woman and he's the man? That total BS. Equal partners can ask for sex equally! Otherwise, you have a chauvinist as a partner.
Counseling is the only way to see if this relationship is salvageable. If he won't go, you go so you'll be clear headed about why you'll be bre... |
AITAH For Choosing Not To Tell My Dad When I Have Kids? | Okay, I’ll try to keep this short.
I haven’t talked to my father in over four years. I cut contact shortly after moving away from my hometown where he resides to a city over 1000 miles away.
I am an only child. My parents had me young, in fact my mother was pregnant with me when she was 17. My father is a little less... | NTA, you’re not obligated to hand your future kids over to someone who traumatized you just because biology says “dad” and anyone calling that selfish can fuck all the way off. |
AITAH for telling my husband I don't want to give away clothes that is uncomfortable now because of my weight gain ? | Let me (29f) try to make this simple. I weight gained and a lot of my clothes are too tight. I want to keep those clothes so I can wear them again when I lose the weight.
My husband (29m) wants me to give them away. He said I don't need them anymore. I said I want to keep them, he said I should give tjem to charity. ... | NTA
He's being unreasonable. We're coming off the holidays, a lot of us gained weight from overindulging in baked goodies. Unless the clothes have sat there over a year and are taking up space, he needs to back off. |
AITAH by Befriending My Partner's Best Friend? | Hi Reddit! I really need your unbiased opinion here. Appreciate all the suggestion and advice (if any).
“My boyfriend (33M) and I (34M) been together for about 6 months now. We decided to get together fairly quick since we both feel clicked with one another. TBH it’s been great. He’s great and I love him very much.
M... | I think it’s totally fine to be friends with someone your partner introduced, especially if it’s not crossing any boundaries. That being said, if your boyfriend keeps making comments that make you feel uncomfortable, it might be worth addressing with him. It's possible he’s feeling threatened or jealous, but it's impor... |
AITAH for breaking down after becoming the only person caring for my bedridden fatt | I’m 25 (F) and my father is bedridden. He cannot move on his own, cannot get up, and cannot take care of even the most basic needs without help. When this first happened, my family talked a lot about support. There were promises to help, promises to take turns, promises that I wouldn’t be alone in this.
Then time pass... | NTA. You need to get a home carer or get him into residential care. That is not a burden for one person alone to bear. If anyone else in the family has a problem with that, they need to step up to take on the responsibility themselves. |
AITAH for getting my sister flowers for her birthday? | Context. My girlfriend is graduating Beauty School, and I’m out of town. So I planned to get her flowers delivered for her graduation. But she ended up finding out and now she is complaining that it doesn’t feel special because one week ago I got my sister flowers for her 13th birthday. I was also out of town. I don’t ... | YIKES dude. This woman is jealous of your 13-year-old sister?! That is an insane level of insecurity.
There's no helping someone with this mindset. You just gotta bounce before she starts expecting you to cut your family off entirely.
NTA |
WIBTAH for not attending my son's wedding after finding out his fiancee is causing conflict? | My son [28M] and his fiancee [22F] are getting married in September. This isn't his first engagement and this isn't the first time he's treated me like shit over the person he's with.
My son and I have always had a tumultuous relationship due to his father who I divorced 14 years ago. He is also Bipolar and does no... | NTA
Stop interconnecting your financial life with your son. Evict your son, his fiancee, and anyone else from your house and either sell the house or move back in with just you and the kids. |
AITAH for not responding to a longtime friend and setting a boundary when she suddenly reached out? | I (middle-aged woman) have known this friend (middle-aged womam) since middle school. Around 2005, I moved out of the area, and from that point on, staying in touch required more effort. For years, I was the one who initiated contact, including birthday and holiday greetings, as well as general check-ins. She usually r... | Protecting your peace is not selfish especially when the friendship had become one sided |
AITAH for me 21m breaking up with my 22F gf because of her sleep schedule | Well shes not my girlfriend yet but we're trying to see if it works, but i have one problem and its because she has a terrible sleep schedule.
We both live in the same country but we are LDR . We're both gamers, most of her friends are overseas(america) compared to us in northern europe.
I have friends overseas aswel... | You two just aren’t compatible. You don’t even have to break up if she isn’t even your girlfriend yet. Just say you aren't compatible and it wouldn’t work. |
AITAH for being hurt that my mother in law didn't reach out after my miscarriage? | I experienced a heartbreaking miscarriage. My husband broke the news to my mother in law. Not once has she reached out to me. All she had to do was send me a simple text message. I am beyond hurt. AITAH for not wanting to spend time with her anymore? | I’d wait before burning the bridge. Tbh some people don’t know how to handle someone else’s grief OR assume you need space and wait for you to open the door.
I’m very sorry for your loss |
AITAH for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend going to his college friend’s beach house to party? | I (18F) have been dating my boyfriend (19M) for over a year. When we were 6 months into our relationship, he decided he wanted to go to a college super close to my house. This was difficult for me but after a few weeks I adjusted and I was very happy for him to go there and never once said that I was uncomfortable with... | You can be uncomfortable, but if you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. Girls are EVERYWHERE. Don't be controlling. |
AITAH for getting frustrated at my bf for telling me I need to make more money to get married | I (female 22) am frustrated with my bf (male 24) because he said I needed to make more money before he would talk about marriage with me. For backstory we have been together for around 2 1/2 years and I’ve been through a lot together. I will probably sound like an idiot in this post, but I need honest opinions on this ... | He’s not going to marry you even if you make that much money. He’s already made it clear he doesn’t want to marry you. So leave. You won’t get what you want from him. |
AITAH for planning to leave my partner when his father dies? | My partner (45M) and myself (49F) have been dating for 3 years. After one year of dating, I relocated to be close to him, moving nearly 2000 miles.
In the two years since I’ve been here he refuses to introduce me to his family, using reasons like, “They won’t like that you’re divorced”, “they won’t like that your pre... | NTA but.... ummm kinda sounds like his elderly parents are his wife and kids if he's only seeing you once or twice a month NGL |
WIBTAH if I didn't invite my parents to our elopement? | Myself (30f) and fiance (31m) are planning on getting married this October. We're best friends and have known each other since we were 13. Our families have known each other before then too. His parents have known me long enough to say they remember when I was just a little squirt.
We originally wanted a beautiful cer... | NTA. This is your marriage, not a family mediation session. Given the history of manipulation, conflict, and emotional harm, it’s completely reasonable to protect your peace on such an important day. You’re not obligated to include anyone who has a track record of making milestone moments stressful or about themselves.... |
WIBTAH if I bought cheaper household products? | About a year ago my daughter and her boyfriend (both 22) moved back in with us, making our household size 8. After a couple of months she suggested paying rent, and said $300. My husband and I felt that was too much and said $250. We buy everything for the house, as well as her sundries and feminine products. About a ... | She has Crohn's, and she's eating out every day? She isn't prioritizing her health, so why would you?
She is extremely entitled.
Get the 1-ply. |
WIBTAH if I leave a bad review | I have gotten waxed "down there" for the past 8 years, almost every month, occasionally every other. I usually go to the same person, as she does a very good job and has her own business, which I like to support someone doing their own thing more than a Corp.
I got a lot going on in my life right now, and I went 3 mo... | NTA
OFC YOU SHOULD LEAVE A BAD REVIEW!
They might be giving other women this treatment!!
edit: omygah first award? |
AITAH for not driving 4 hours to see my sister. | I f44 have an older sister 49 that stays overseas, she moved there 2 years ago. 6 months ago she started planning a trip to her home country. The problem is her itinerary includes the city our father resides in, and 2 other holiday destination cities, but not her hometown where my 75 year old mother, myself and brother... | “No, that won’t be feasible for us. If you want to see everyone, you know what city we live in. Hope you’re able to come by”
You don’t need to accommodate this nonsense.
NTA |
AITAH For flipping out on my dad after he loudly stated in front of everyone at my family gathering that I need to hide my sex toys | So I (M17) am just chilling downstairs in the living room with my cousins (they're all adults dw) and I'm having a nice time, when out of nowhere from upstairs, my dad, loudly exclaims for everybody to hear, "OP, make sure to hide your dildo!" And I immediately go run upstairs and put the dildo back in my hidden compar... | ESH. Him for obvious reasons, but also, don't just leave your dildo lying about. |
AITAH for hitting my boyfriend? | Okay so strong title I know. But there’s context. We just got in a massive fight with him saying he’s gonna start to full swing on me if I don’t quit laying hands on him… I don’t just swing on him in disagreements because he didn’t do the dishes. 95% of the time it’s when he is putting his hands on me making me uncomfo... | NTA
He is abusing you and intentionally violating your physical boundaries until you snap so that he can turn things around and call you the abusive one. You say you've had thousands of people tell you to leave, so I'm not sure why you're here asking if you know you're being abused but are not prepared to leave.
If y... |
AITAH for checking my partner's messages which led to relationship ending? | Hey guys and girls - over the last few months I've been dealing with the breakdown of a relationship after 3 and a half years and have gotten to the point where emotion is tucked away and I can start questioning exactly what happened and I'm really struggling to work out if I screwed up as badly as she makes it out to ... | I'm going to go with ESH
You suck for invading your GF privacy by checking her group chat messages
Your GF sucks by spending more time bitching about you to her friends instead of having open discussions with you about her needs and wants.
This was a relationship that needed to die |
Aitah for not jogging with my cousin in the mornings? | Hello Reddit, this is my first post. I'm writing on a phone, so don't be surprised. This is a throw-away account, since people know my main account.
So I (15M) have been jogging every morning. I do this for my mental and physical health, as I used to have a little chub on me (not an excessive amount). I have worked ha... | NTA. There are days when you don't feel like running and that's valid. And I do not blam you for not wanting to jog with him. Are you asian by any chance? Because I know they value others more than their own kids. |
AITAH for being mad that my friend is accusing me of a crime I never committed? | I (19F) got scammed out of a lot of money for tickets.
Half the money was this girl I was friends with. We weren’t really close but we were getting there with a nice friendship. She’s a girl that I’ll be forced to see often.
Anyways, I texted her when I found out I was being scammed apologising for everything.
I s... | What were the tickets for? |
AITAH if i don’t offer to pay my own way when my family invites me out to dinner? | My son and his wife both have high income jobs while I am living off of my Social Security and have to watch my spending very carefully. They enjoy eating out at local restaurants with their children at least once a week. Every few months they ask me to join them. I am happy to be included. However, I have only offered... | If your family is inviting you out to dinner, you don’t need to be paying at all.
Offering to leave the tip is a nice gesture, but probably also unexpected by your family.
Do you invite them over for a home cooked meal once in a while? That would seem to more than make up for their occasion treat of a dinner out for... |
WIBTAH for not inviting my friend to my graduation | I have 2 very close friends and I also have 2 friends I’ve made from school and work who I’m not close with yet. The two friends in close to I’m very grateful for but one of my friends has terrible social anxiety and doesn’t ever want to go anywhere in public and my other friend is always with her bf so her free time i... | [ERROR] |
AITAH for being disappointed over Christmas presents from my girlfriend? | Ive been with my girlfriend for four years. For our first Christmas together we got each other quite a lot and really seemed to make an effort. She lived at home at that point so had more disposable income.
The couple of years following that we still got each other a few things but it was less due to us having less d... | NTA. |
AITAH for getting mad at my boyfriend for hiding an affair from his sister? | For a little context, I 18F have been with my boyfriend 19M for almost a year now. Due to us being in a "medium-distance" relationship I still haven't been able to meet any of his close family (a bit odd I know but that's an issue for another post).
Recently, me and my boyfriend got into a fight in which he revealed t... | NTA. Ask him if it's alright if his sister contracted venereal disease. |
AITAH for not wanting to go to the US? | I have been dating my boyfriend(20M) for more than a year. We met in my country in Europe and he’s been staying in my country ro study here. Every Christmas and summer he goes back to his family and one summer he asked me to come along, I agreed and I booked the flight, I went for a month and this was slightly after tr... | NTA
It's too dangerous for foreigners to go to the USA.
You can be arrested and held for months without having any chance of getting help for made up reasons, as it happened for example to a german tattoo artist who was visiting a friend in USA legally (!)
And if that happens to you, you will get villanized by the ... |
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