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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (f/22) have to figure out if I want to still know these girls or not and would hate to sound insulting
POST: Not sure if this belongs here but it's worth a try.
Backstory:
When I (f/22) went through my first real breakup 2 years ago because he needed space after a year of dating ... | Went through a break up & depression and have come out better but still have some emotional baggage and seeing old flame brings it up still. Cuts contact with old friends that he hangs out with quite often and would hate to sound insulting by cutting contact. Will they be hurt if I don't reach out? Any outside opinion... | Got over my first real breakup suffered depression and had second chance to cut all ties with previous guy. Found old friends who hang out with him still bring back old emotions and hurt so cutting contact is best to move on. Will they be insulted? Is there going to be awkwardness? | 3.10606 | 2.751921 |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: SV & NSV! Keeping on keeping on.
POST: 30F, 5'6". SW: 236 GW: 150 CW: 219
I weigh myself weekly and measure myself monthly. I'd hit a plateau the last four weeks or so where I was stuck at 222. Felt like kind of a bummer, but knew it's because I haven't been as strict as I should with my d... | Last 4 weeks I've been stuck between 222 and my starting GW of 150. Today when I weighed myself it went UP to 219. Measured down from last month, and I've lost 8 inches total body weight. I feel like a million bucks! What are your motivating phrases though when you're losing weight? | Hit a plateau where I was stuck at 222kgs in the last four weeks, but my measurements are now down from last month and my clothes are looser on the sides and waist! I've lost 8 inches from my starting point! Still keeping on keeping on! | 1.418924 | 0.606579 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my friend [19M] 10 months, Insecurities - Show or Tell?
POST: What are your stories about insecurities you've had in past relationships? How have you dealt with them, particularly the ones that you can't hide?
I'm not currently in a relationship, but recently I've real... | I have scars from a terrible acne condition which are now mostly gone, but I have insecurities surrounding body image and appearance, and someone I like might want to go further with our friendship before my fears can be addressed. Help! | Impending potential relationship with a new friend who enjoys my body confidence. Have insecurities in the realm of body image that I want to expose upfront before anything sexual. How did you handle these situations? | 1.762772 | 1.463288 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Prioritize student debt or saving for down payment?
POST: I have $25k in student debt. One private loan at 9.5% (highest priority obviously) and nine others federal between 3.4% and 6.8%. Minimum payment per month total is $301.16. Over the next 9 months, I will pay off $11k of the... | Current $25k in student debt. 9 months of minimum monthly payments coming to $301.16 will pay off $11k+ leaving $14k+ in debt. At the end of the 9 months, should I prioritize student debt repayment or growing savings/down payment for potential future home purchase? | $25k in student debt from 4 years of school. Can focus on paying money down or should I focus on growing savings/down payment for future home purchase? | 2.076517 | 0.671799 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[25m] girlfriend [24f] is only nice and pleasant when I'm aloof and distant. (9 months)
POST: Throwaway
I noticed the more I'm cold and distant towards my girlfriend, the more pleasant she becomes. She'll come over and clean my apartment, do laundry, dishes and cook for me, even a... | My girlfriend is more pleasant when I'm cold, distant with her. This makes her happy when I do favors and she seems content but she'll go on and on about how I'm wasting my time with my brother whenever I try to do her favors. How do I keep her interest and happiness when this happens? | GF is really happy when I'm aloof and distant with her, and not turn nice when I perform small favors. She'll turn bitchy when I start doing big favors. I feel cold and distant towards her and don't want to be that way anymore, so I want to change. What's the best way to go about this? | 1.493109 | 1.25426 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 28 F with guy I'm dating 30 M - 1 month, Is it okay to ask if everything is okay or am I being pushy?
POST: I have been dating this guy for 1 month now and everything was great until last Sunday when I noticed he wasn't responding to my text with the same flirty, cute, enthusiasti... | Dating guy has been in a less communicative state lately and I was wondering if it was because he wasn't as into the relationship anymore and if it was okay to ask if everything was okay between us if you're comfortable with that sort of thing. | Dating guy for 1 month who used to call me babe but hasn't since last Sunday has not been texting me the same flirty/sweet/cute way he used to and have asked me if he is okay after noticing he wasn't responding. Do you think I was being too clingy in asking the question? | 1.544287 | 1.128366 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it weird that this turned me off from my gf?
POST: The other day my girlfriend(23 years old) and myself(22 years old) were talking and she revealed to me that she almost didn't date me because I was too short (5'7"-5'8"). She is only about 5'5". Now she loves me a lot and thinks... | GF revealed to me that she almost didn't date me because I was short, turns me off that I associate height with all sorts of shallow characteristics that have nothing to do with height. Is it bad of me to want out of this relationship? | Girlfriend revealed that she almost didn't date me because I was too short. Now I am extremely turned off by this shallow view. Am I wrong to want to break up? | 1.012654 | 0.413559 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27/F) am obnoxiously paranoid after a gynecological health scare. How do I explain my ridiculous hormonal-ness to my boyfriend (32/M)? (X-posted to /r/AskWomen)
POST: Last month, I started getting really hormonal and feeling downright crazy (becoming paranoid about my awesome boyf... | had my IUD removed due to being on the verge of getting abnormally hormonal, and now I'm feeling sort of bipolar about worrying about it happening again in the future--but I don't want to come across as whining about how I'm just paranoid and unreasonable about it happening again. Need advice on how to explain my heig... | After getting gynecological scare, I became hysterical, paranoid, scared shitless about my upcoming removal of my IUD. My boyfriend stayed by my side (over and over again) and has been extra supportive. I feel like there should be light at the end of this tunnel but this irrationality is still lingering. How do I exp... | 2.770519 | 2.424394 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Advice givers of this subreddit please help me (18m) out. Please and thank you:)
POST: So recently I listened to the song Feel Again by OneRepublic. GREAT SONG. But it got me thinking: "is my heart numb? Am I a lonely soul?" All my friends tell me I am basically Ted Mosby (for those ... | Recently heard OneRepublic song Feel Again and its made me feel like my heart is numb and desensitized to love and relationships. Wondering what I should do to be more passionate about relationships come college time. Thank you for taking the time to read!! | recently listened to OneRepublic song Feel Again and I have been wondering if my heart is numb and I have not been in a relationship and I am wondering if I should take the leap and try something with a girl even though I know its not a good idea before college. Any advise please :) | 2.825572 | 0.886137 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/F] having trouble with boyfriend [23/m] of 2.5 years sex drive
POST: My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. We are very sexually compatible.
Although, his sex drive is crazy high compared to mine. It really depends on the time of month for me [hormones], sometimes I'll ... | my boyfriend's high sex drive causes me emotional impact and sometimes exhaustion and I feel like I'm giving him disappointment when I am not giving him what he wants when he is horny/passionate. How can I better ensure he is getting the sex he is wanting without him feeling rejected/neglected? | Boyfriend is very turned on by sexual interaction but I can't respond to him at my full capacity in terms of number of times a week. We have a great sex life, but his high sex drive can leave me emotionally drained and frustrated. I'd like to learn how to better cope with his needs without rejecting him as a person. | 1.99252 | 1.388101 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I'm just really tired right now...
POST: I just discovered this subreddit and I am glad I did because I am about to be at the breaking point.
I am about to move out of my house with my boyfriend and into an apartment in about a week. I've been extremely stressed out. I am losing sleep a... | Moving out of my house after living there for a long time. I am extremely stressed and getting tired. Worries about bills not being paid, food, etc. Any tips on calming my nerves would be appreciated! | Moving out of my house to an apartment in about a week. Worries about how we will have enough money and worry about not being able to put food at the table. I am stressed out about this and don't know if I am overthinking things. | 1.59272 | 1.075138 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How to deal with questioning everything?
POST: 23/f here and SO is 26/m. Together for 1.5 yrs and living together for 5 months.
My sister just recently got married and I can't tell if the thoughts I am having are because I'm imaging their relationship to be something it isn't ... | Sister got married and living happy relationship. I keep comparing ours to hers and wondering if I could settle down with someone who doesn't have a serious flaw when it comes to drinking. Don't know what to do about my jealousy. | sister's husband is perfect in everyway..but I am questioning my relationship with mine because of these thoughts that I can settle for a relationship like that (they seem perfect together). I just don't know what to do about it. | 1.969145 | 1.592276 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [ 20/F] with my bf [ 20/M] of 3 years. I've found myself attracted to someone else. Need advice on how to overcome.
POST: So I have been in what I consider a serious relationship for a few years now. Like any relationship we've had our ups and downs, but things have been great the... | Have come to feel attracted to someone else beyond the physical aspect of my relationship. I know that this won't go anywhere, but it makes me guilty nonetheless. Need advice on how to cope with this feeling when it arises. | Found myself attracted to someone else from my past. Although we have been in a serious relationship for a few years now, I find myself thinking about this other man more than I should. Need some advice on how to overcome. | 2.540096 | 0.85495 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my GF [19F] of 2,5 years. She wants to pay me for helping her with her accounting studies, but I don't want her to
POST: Hello fellow redditors,
we've been together for 2,5 years and everything is more than perfect :)
She is sitting here with me and we will both prov... | GF wants to pay me for helping her studying effectively in a class that I am great at. I don't want her to pay me much and I am okay with giving the time without expecting anything in return at all. Would appreciate some insight of what others would think of this situation. | GF wants to pay me for giving her studying assistance. I don't like to be paid for this work and would prefer to do it for free. The end I'd feel bad if she spent so much time studying with me if I could spend the time doing something else. Also I couldn't give her anything in return. | 1.186401 | 1.009848 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I think I'm trapped in nasty triangle and don't know how to proceed, some advice would be really appreciated.
POST: I (male, 19) met this girl at collge (19 too) a couple of months ago. At the moment I met her, nothing really special happened between us happened, we just chatted a bi... | met a girl at college that seems to like my other friend who apparently is trying something romantic with her, I fear that I'm stuck in a triangle and don't know how to proceed. I'd love to make things work between us, but I don't want to hurt my friends. | met a girl some months ago, just chatted a bit, we have a lot in common, started to connect more rapidly, found out that another friend had liked her a long time ago and is trying something with her again, I'm not certain about some other friend's feelings, don't know how to proceed. | 1.054755 | 0.91989 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M20] met a girl [F20] who i really like while backpacking europe and i dont know what to do.
POST: I met her initially in berlin, where I only got to spend a day with her. I instantly knew there was something between us, I didnt know what but we just clicked strait away. I would h... | Met a girl whilst backpacking europe who I instantly knew I had feelings for. Had another great time with her when we met again a couple months later. Can't tell her how I feel yet but I'm sure I will next time we meet. What to do now? | Met a girl while backpacking europe and I really like her. Had amazing time together but now I dont know what to say to her when we meet up again next week and I've never been more excited for anything in my life. I havnt been able to stop thinking about her since we last seperated. | 1.298668 | 0.866256 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [HELP] Not sure how to deal with new people/dogs and my big ole pup
POST: I have a three year old Dober/Pit mix named Romulus ("Rome" for short). He's about 105lbs and for the most part a good guy. I live with 3 other dogs: a 10 year old labrador, a 2 year old French Bulldog and a 8 year old ... | my big ole Dober/Pit mix gets skittish around new people and is generally charming and affectionate if I make a big happy greeting noise when meeting them. I'd like to have a party with doggie play dates so I don't have to worry about new dogs biting off my dog's playtime. How do I introduce them or let my dog meet th... | 3 year old Dober/Pit mix loves meeting new people and strangers and isn't too afraid of other dogs until playtime. I'm hosting summer doggie play parties and want to allow dogs to be brought. My dog is very protective of his playtime time and doesn't like new dogs. How do I approach this situation? | 3.102233 | 2.079612 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16 M] think one of my friends [17 F] is self-harming. What should I do?
POST: I was talking to two of my friends at school yesterday - we'll call them Mary and Emma. Emma is a good friend of mine and one of Mary's best friends. Mary and I aren't particularly close, but we still ta... | Talking to my close friend Mary about scars on her wrist that I now realise she says she self-harmed. I feel powerless to help and worried about how she'll take the situation. Should I try and do something? | Had a conversation with one of my friends in which she mentioned self-harm scars. Didn't realise it was anything serious until afterwards. Thinking about not being able to help her and feel helpless. Don't know what else to do. | 2.277473 | 1.342257 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [GA] My ex is in possession of illegal pictures of me and won't delete them
POST: I originally posted in /r/relationships, but I was told to also post here.
So, I'm 16/F, and I was dating my ex for two years (I was 14 when he was 17, now I'm 16 and he's 19). During that time he was v... | Ex repeatedly threatened me with sending me photos and then when we broke up he still had all the photos I sent him. So now he won't delete them but I have no other evidence to take him down with suggestions? Also should I contact authorities about the photos? | Ex who verbally and sexually abused me sent all of my photos without my permission and won't delete them even though I've asked and warned him of the dangers. What can I do? Should I be able to bring him down with me or do I need proof of actual harm? | 1.247274 | 1.155132 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (F27) ex-FWB (M26) lied about being single; he's married. Need help with rational response.
POST: I used the reddit search function and couldn't find this question.
We met 6 years ago, FWB off and on for about 3 years. We live (now) in different states. We'd travel periodically ... | ex-FWB lied about being single and being alone when I asked each time we met for more than 3 years. He's been married for 2 years. Should I confront him now or let anger rule out confrontation? (I know cheating is wrong.) | ex-FWB lied about being single, was married 2 years ago. I want a clear rational response from my anger towards him. Don't want to turn this relationship sour. | 1.862372 | 0.439188 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Has anyone ever gone batshit crazy before, and how did you patch your life back after that?
POST: *First time posting on Reddit. Been lurking for awhile and thought this a much merry place to be.*
For context, I have been suffering from depression for the last few years. And as a reacti... | Having suffered years from depression, I went batshit crazy time in that period. I lost some close friends, worst being the best friend who failed at being a friend when I needed someone to be there for me. Now recovering from meds and getting a proper professional diagnosis, and rebuilding my life after that dark tim... | Had depression during years which saw me lash out at friends and family, lose some close ones, and get job scammed by that "expert friend" who was instrumental in bringing me down. Now trying to rebuild life after almost a decade of that dark place. Looking for anyone else's experiences of how they rebuilt their lives... | 3.481017 | 2.448985 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Contacting my biological father, who doesnt know I exist because of falsified DNA test [Washington]
POST: I'm going to try to keep this short so it doesn't drag long into a soap opera.
When my Mom [22 F at the time] got pregnant with her boyfriend at the time [24 M], aka my Dad, she d... | My mother had a fake DNA test done to hide her relationship with my biological father. He was harassing her and took me away from her (for a good reason) when I was born. I want to contact my Dad who I know exists but I never knew about this genetic thing that was used in court to hide him. How do I go about approachi... | My biological dad harassed my mom for years, when I was born was sent to another country and never met him. Blood test came out he wasn't my father, but I found out the other side of the family through investigation. What should I do to contact him? | 2.074541 | 0.30941 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] have been talking to/seeing [18F] friend for about 3 months and have no idea what I'm doing.
POST: So basically I met a girl in the beginning of the semester during our orientation week. She caught my eye the first day and we ended up talking on a bus ride somewhere and clic... | Met a girl during orientation week and we talked quite a bit over the three weeks we continued to texting and hanging out. We actually went on a date with our hangouts once and ate ice cream and lost track of time. I don't know what I'm doing or even if I'm even with this girl. | Met a great girl early in the semester, texted, hung out a few times, never paid for her lunch, now I think we're basically dating. Don't know what I'm doing. | 0.94209 | 0.250951 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] continually feel unwelcome around my boyfriend's [22M] Dad's side of the family.
POST: So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, and for the first 2, things were pretty great. I felt welcomed and loved by everyone in his families (his parents are div... | My boyfriend's side of the family welcomed me back after we broke up early last year, but the rest of the family (his Dad's side) have been cold and uninviting since then. Not sure how to proceed to win them over and have felt like the outsider ever since. | Boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now, things were great with his parents, but his Dad's side of the family has been cold and uncaring to me since the breakup, even though the rest of his side has been embracing me back in return. How do I win them over? | 1.969534 | 1.12438 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 F] just confronted my Borderline mother [54 F] about all the things she has done to ruin my life up until now...
POST: I had been advised by my psychologist not to contact her due to the negative effect she was having on my personal life and mental health (I myself have problem... | Confronted my Borderline mother about all the destructive things she has done to ruin our lives up until now. I know she will deny everything and play the victim, but cope with the guilt at the same time. How has anyone coped with such situations? | confronted my Borderline mother about all the negative things she has done to ruin my life up until now including emotional neglect and abuse, ignoring my mental illness, interfering in our relationship and trying to end it numerous times. I can't help but feel guilty. | 1.241652 | 1.022054 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] I [17 M] am crazy about this this girl [17 F] and need advice on how to proceed.
POST: My previous post can be seen here:
We have remained in touch since I originally posted this. She has since broken up with this guy [17/18 M] from Alberta, apparently due to what I unders... | Met up with girl that I had previously mentioned in my depression ranting post. We spent time talking about our own experiences with depression and bonding over this made the time go by much more pleasantly than it otherwise would have. Need advice on how to proceed from here. | Reconnected with a girl that I had previously met when suffering from depression. We had an open discussion about our respective situations and both seemed to connect on a level that I haven't experienced before. Looking forward to meeting again. | 2.265391 | 0.729665 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28m] am afraid to commit to a girl [26f] I really like because of my lack of relationship/dating experience. And the fact that she is ugly.
POST: I have been dating this girl for a few months now and I'm in a little bit of a dilemma. At first I did not really see this as anything ... | I am in a relationship that I see potentially lasting forever because I have spent my entire life working hard to find a career path, and suddenly find myself in a situation where dating experience is suddenly very attractive to me. And because of the ugliness factor, I fear that I will never fully commit to a relatio... | Having had very little dating/relationship experience, while already in a great relationship I find myself worried that I could potentially be missing out on something good by not looking further. Because of this reason I fear committing to my current girlfriend. The girl is ugly. Is there any way to overcome this hur... | 3.314186 | 2.886076 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to convince my very conscious parents to allow me to go on a trip with my best friend
POST: My best friend asked me to go to Montreal with her this summer for a few days, but my parents are pretty strict. My whole life, my parents have most of the time said no to me hanging out w... | best friend asked me to go to Montreal with her this summer but my parents are very strict and said no in the past, how do I convince them for me to go? I'm 19 years old and Indian. Also disobeying them is not an option. | Best friend asked me to go on a trip with her and my parents just simply say no which I don't understand because I've never been in trouble when hanging out with friends or doing anything fun in my whole life. How can I convince them to let me go without it looking like disobeying them? | 1.363809 | 0.601898 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23M] GF [22F] is a bit too active on my Instagram for my comfort level.
POST: We've been together a few months now and things are going swell. We're some 150 miles apart (she works, I'm in grad school). We see each other every or every other weekend depending on how busy we are a... | GF of a while on social media is a bit saucy in her comments. I find this distracting from the rest of my IG and don't want to come across as an asshole by telling her off directly. How do I tread this without sounding like an ass? | GF is a bit too active on my IG. It puts me off but staying private/ignoring, is it rude to ask her to tone it down or find another IG account/platform I can use? | 1.448806 | 0.108279 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [25/F] in the wrong for being incredibly upset that my LDR boyfriend [32] hasn't even texted me today?
POST: He texted me last night at 1 am while he was drinking with his friends saying "Happy Valentine's Day." I thought it was sweet he was thinking of me with his friends.
... | My LDR boyfriend hasn't texted me in a week for the past several days and I just can't understand why. Am I wrong for waiting for him to initiate contact or is it unreasonable for me to expect that he'll just bring himself into my day in some way - text, call, snapchat, FB, etc. Thanks for your feedback! | my LDR boyfriend hasn't texted me for a week. I'm upset that I haven't received any word from him today. Am I wrong for waiting for him to text me first? Do I have a leg to stand on when I stay upset he hasn't texted me today? | 1.059164 | 0.195618 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/f] Is it time to ask pseudo-fwb [27/m] the "what are we" question?
POST: We first met about a year ago - no common friends of any kind - and first went out this April. I got really loose on the first date and may or may not have said that i'm not looking for anything seriou... | Fwb has frequent sex with me, but I don't want to settle down yet - i am willing to casually date if the chemistry is there, but just want to know if its time to ask what we go for in this situation? Thanks! | pseudo-fwb comes over often and rarely sleeps over, sex happens, i don't know whether it's time to ask him what we are and how should i bring it up? | 1.165096 | 0.183467 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F], my SO [24 M] of a year, I want to break up but I have no place to go.
POST: So I have been dating my boyfriend over a year. Let's call him Austin. I moved in with Austin's family because my parents out of state and I decided to take some time off from the college where we... | my relationship has lacked communication and respect recently. After long reflection I have realized my relationship will not work out in my current stagnated life situation and I want to break up with my boyfriend. Do I have any other viable options for getting my life in order? | Moved into a new town alone with no job or transportation - I have decided to end my relationship with my boyfriend of a year because we are so different. I am conflicted about moving back with my overbearing/abusive parents who are the source of my depression. | 2.507514 | 1.175938 |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Blood blisters and weird sized feet
POST: Hey runnit, I'm training for my second half marathon in October, and I've got a concern: I've developed some decent blood blisters on the middle toes of both my feet as well as a doozy on the big toe of my left foot. My right foot has normal bliste... | Developing some nasty blisters on my middle toes and big toe of my left foot, which don't bother me during training runs but do afterwards, and don't know if I should pop them or leave as they are. Also wondering about keeping blisters at bay for future races. | Developed some decent blisters between my big toes on both my feet, along with a doozy on the big toe on my left. Not sure if I should leave them as is, or pop them. What can I do to stop blisters from happening? | 2.213322 | 0.347672 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting my lube in the shower
POST: So I'm sitting in the living room with my then GF not long ago and my roommate (Carl with the slicked back hair) comes in from the bathroom to ask me where the little black bottle in the shower went. Confused, I looked back at him and told him I ... | Roommate asks where my little black bottle of lube that he keeps referring to went. It turns out that what it really was was my bottle of lube. GF hides it from him and hides her face when he asks about it. Furious, I tell him I still have no idea where it is. Never told him. | Roommate asks where my bottle of lube that I keep in the shower went. I didn't know what he was talking about and now my GF knows. /sad face emoji. | 2.233328 | 1.416984 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mom [53F] keeps trying to reunite me [23F] and my estranged sister [19F] and it's making me miserable.
POST: "Estranged" isn't really the right word though. We have never had a relationship of any kind. We have hated each other since the moment she was born. Not once in the past d... | My estranged sister and I rarely have any contact despite living together and going to school together, yet my mom keeps trying to reunite us with each other. It makes me feel unhappy and crappy about my time with my mom when she is visiting so my sister is there. What can I do to convince my mom to change her behavio... | My estranged sibling and I hate each other, and my mom keeps trying to bring us together, making me miserable and ruining time with her. What can I do to convince her that this is making things worse? | 2.155989 | 0.478761 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Is it a date? Or just as friends? M(18) F(17)
POST: So, I've know this girl a while through other friends and she's been at gatherings I've been to. The other day at a party I finally plucked up the courage to talk to her properly (not just the usual "hi how are you" stuff) and we g... | Met a girl at a party who we got on well. Then she started chatting with another guy about not liking him etc. Now I'm looking to get together again and she suggested coffee as a "date" thing. I don't know if it's just friends hanging out or something more serious as a date. | Grew to liking a girl at a party, then found out she was talking to another guy about how unsure she was about liking him, so I told my friend who told her not to go for dicks, so it's more than just friends. But, should it be a date? Or just as friends? | 1.916183 | 0.996676 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F20 broken up with by M20. 2 years. First day. I can't enjoy food, I'm afraid to sleep. My heart hurts.i want to connect to others that feel this way.
POST: The future was so bright, we were going to live together. We never fought. I tried so hard to make him happy. We talked through... | F20 broke up with with 2 years of being so close. We talked about everything. He said he couldn't love me anymore. Don't know how to function with the hurt, sadness. I can't eat the food I ate with him those times we were together. My heart hurts. I need to connect to others who feel this way. | F was SO close with M but has bailed out last minute with no explanation. My heart hurts and I can't enjoy my food or sleep. I try to connect with others that feel this way. | 1.826456 | 0.986071 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should me [f]irst relationship be long distance?
POST: Hi all!
Backstory: I just recently came out of my "ugly duckling with extreme social anxiety" phase I have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend (am also a "supervirgin") or many friends.I have really come out of my shell these past ... | Moving 4 hours away from my first boyfriend of my social isolation phase to university I plan to start a relationship with. I have never had a crush like this before and don't want to ruin it with a long distance relationship. What should I do?! | Becoming more social with my career start, new guy asks me out just before moving 4 hours away to a university. Worried distance will make me a bad girlfriend. Not sure what to do. | 1.335062 | 0.963955 |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Much needed advice for adopted Russian prodigy!
POST: My family adopted an 8 year old girl with disabilities who's mother was an alcoholic prostitute. She was born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and is missing her arms from the elbows down. My sister is now 18 years old, a senior in high s... | Adopted Russian prodigy with disabilities whose mother was an alcoholic prostitute was born without her brain and socializing skills are an issue. Where do I start with helping her socialize/communicate so she can better prepare for college? | adopted Russian prodigy with disability faced with social awkwardness and may have trouble in college because of it. Looking for tips and advice on how to help. | 1.211368 | 0.606507 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 F] don't want my boyfriend [16 M] to think I'm cheating on him
POST: We've been together for about a year and I've made a new male friend (lets call him John) recently. Most of my friends are guys, so my boyfriend has gotten accustomed to it as far as I know. However, I spend a... | My boyfriend has come to accept me hanging out with a male friend casually, and I've become quite close to him too. However, I don't want him to think I'm cheating on him by spending so much time with John. What do I say to reassure him? | I don't want my boyfriend to think I'm cheating on him when I hang out with a male friend, although I'm really spending my time with him for support and other reasons unrelated to romance. What do I do? | 1.738984 | 1.044125 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what makes you insanely mad?
POST: Something that makes me mad happened today. I'll start by saying I respect when people can be straight up with me, i.e. if they don't like me, and they tell me, I respect that. So, what happened: A while back I assisted a friend in making a shor... | Someone who asked someone else to edit a short film I assisted send back bad work, apologizing profusely. I want to destroy things. What makes you mad? Let's be mad together. | someone told me I did a crappy job on a film a while back. I was told it was pointless. I want to destroy things. What makes you mad? Let's be mad together. | 1.422892 | -0.341824 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 1 year, she currently has a boy who 'likes' her sleeping in the same room as her tonight
POST: My girlfriend spent the day with her long time friend (he has asked her out and tried to have sex with her before) which I initially had no problems wit... | Girlfriend spending the day with long time friend who has asked her out and tried to have sex with her before (but stopped) he is now sleeping at her house tonight in the same room as her, I don't know how I feel about this and am worried that it's inappropriate for a relationship. What do you think? | Girlfriend currently has male friend who has invited her over and is asleep in the same room tonight despite being friends which I think is a bit inappropriate / overbearing but I don't know what to do about it - relationship is my first real relationship and I love her but this worries me. | 1.574482 | 1.525615 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some good motorcycles for a beginner?
POST: Hey guys,
I'm in the process of getting my M1 - just passed the safety course and waiting for my paperwork to take the written test at the DMV.
That being said, I'm pumped up to buy my first bike and start endangering you all on the ... | I'm getting my motorcycle safety license and I don wanna get a fancy sport bike but also wanna have a healthy cruiser around 250cc or so. What are some first bikes that'd be easy to learn on? | I don know very much about motorcycles, but I want to get a 250cc bike to get around without breaking my neck. What are some good first bikes to start with? | 2.956308 | 1.225707 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] was seeing a girl [21 F] a few months back, stopped meeting after a few dates but recently saw her again and I want to try it again.
POST: So I was seeing this girl a few months back and everything was going great. Then came the winter holidays and didn't really talk to her ... | We were seeing one another a few months back but didn't really talk over the holidays and then didn't want to call it off but now I've put the busy work and Christmas party out of my mind I've seen the girl again and want to give it another go. Don't know how she'll react given the circumstances. | Previously started seeing a girl but cold feet at the end of NYE holiday period, didn't contact after, saw her again and have strong feelings for her and don't know how she'll take seeing me again. Not sure how to act or if I should try to pursue the flame again. | 2.507777 | 1.942428 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unmotivated At Work: The Cubicle Cliché
POST: This is me browsing reddit at work again, as most of us do. This is, and has always been common practice to all of us dweller of the cube farms. I'm the stereotypical guy who works for a big corporation that doesn't give a shit about you, in ... | i want to care about my work. A boring "report monkey" job that amounts to the same "Onging" task every week has lead to my lack of commitment and eventual job loss, leaving me feeling unmotivated and apathetic. what do i do to maintain some sort of motivation? | im stale at my job, feel like im doing little or zero to contribute, looking for ways i can change that and be productive. | 1.289925 | 0.422364 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend [22] might be hiding something and my friend is worried about me [22]. (How) should I bring this up with her?
POST: My girlfriend (A) and I have been "officially" dating for about a month now. Out of the blue, I get a call from an old friend (B) who is pretty close to her.... | Girlfriend might be hiding something about the past four months that could affect my future relationship with her, and a close friend is worried about me getting hurt. Should I bring up this with my girlfriend? How? | Girlfriend (who we've been seeing for a month now) is hiding some things in the past that are worrying her old friend (who we'd never met) about me. How should I bring this up with her? | 0.580363 | 0.471514 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [25F] might get a job in another city and I [26M] am thinking to follow her
POST: Hello r/relationships,
I will try to be short. My girlfriend [25F] has an interview for a job in another city, let's called it C because it is the third city in our equation. I [26M] am f... | My girlfriend might get a job in another city and might move there too and I will follow her. What is your opinion on that? Should I follow her or not? Or should I change something in my career? | My girlfriend might get a job in another city and I am thinking to follow her (maybe in order to follow my career). What is your opinion about that? | 1.070881 | 0.13165 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Should we adjust our high student loan repayments while my wife stays home with the kids?
POST: My wife and I both have pretty large amounts of student loans ($72,000 for my PhD, $83,000 for her 2 Master's), which are all Federal Direct Stafford Loans. The payments on these loans ... | Both my wife and I have high student loan payments ($1,780/month) which will come out to $1800-$2000 after paying routine and incidental expenses. Should we accelerate our repayment schedule once my wife returns to work, knowing that paying off the loans together will take many years? Is this a good idea? | Wife is staying home with our first child until age 5, and we have large amounts of student loans. Should we reduce our student loan payments to ease off a bit while she stays home, or accelerate once we know she will be able to work again? Is this a good idea? | 1.605878 | 0.967344 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21/M] girlfriend [21/F] constantly looks through my phone while I'm asleep. Time to end it?
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been getting along great our entire relationship. My family loves her, her family loves me, and we usually got along great.
However, she always goes thro... | My girlfriend goes through my phone while I'm asleep looking for reasons to bring up every little thing she thinks I've been doing wrong. Time to end it? My guy friends say its messed up and tells my girlfriend to stop. | Girlfriend always goes through my phone while I'm asleep looking for evidence of cheating, I don't think it's normal. Will it end our relationship? | 1.823502 | 0.064112 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] don't know how to start a relationship with a girl [16 F]
POST: Well, a little context first, I've been in love/attracted plenty of times over my life, but never I've been able to be with a girl. I've been rejecter every time.
This time the girl (let's call her Caterine) I ... | I like a girl, we talk a lot, I start to like her a lot and I take my time in knowing her before I start acting, but if I express my feeling now she could reject me. I want to start being/becoming interested in a relationship with her. How do I do it? | I like a girl who appears in my life and we could talk a lot. I took my long ass time to express my feeling towards her and now I'm friendzoned. How do I start a relationship with her?. If I don't do anything she could start dating some other guy. | 1.397615 | 0.642665 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I feel like my dad is cheating me out of a large amount of money. What do?
POST: I'm currently 17. I lived with my dad my entire life. My mom died in 2009 and I began receiving social security checks every month for about $600. In November (2010) part of our house burnt down and we got a... | My dad is saying that only the one thing he can't afford on my social security check is my car insurance and that the rest of the money is being used elsewhere. I feel like he is in the wrong financially and am questioning where the rest of my money is going. | My dad is saying he can't afford to pay for my social security check and my car insurance, yet he always pays for me when I need anything. Where else is the money going? | 1.564774 | 0.051193 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does writing a few papers on a band make you "obsessed"?
POST: So far in my college career I have taken all of my humanities courses on the subject of music (they tend to interest me more than others). There are always research topics that we are allowed to choose. During my first semest... | wrote research papers on a band that was chosen by the teacher for us to research, have since racked up a few good grades on this research topic. Does this make me obsessed with that band? | chose research topic on a band in my humanities classes, ended up with decent grade and was considered an expert by both faculty and students, am I obsessed with that band? | 1.245646 | 1.072705 |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Acquired cat! Now a question..
POST: So, I just got a lovely little cat named Luna. She's about a year, a year and a half and pretty tiny. I live in an apartment located on the 5th floor of my building. My apartment doesn't have AC (I'm in NYC) and I usually like to leave the windows open for... | Acquired tiny cat who has been slipping through child bars. She came back into the apartment and decided it was safe now that she's been out in the fresh air. Should I leave the windows open or seal them tight? | Acquired a tiny cat and she slipped through child bars to come onto a very narrow ledge above a sidewalk. Should I trust her cat instincts and leave windows open or seal them and keep a stuffy apartment in order to handle the dead cat situation? | 0.987737 | 0.805453 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By befriending a cannibal in grade 4-5.
POST: As usual this didn't happen today, it actually happened around 10 years ago when I was in grade 4 or 5.
I was not the most popular kid in school back in the day, probably starting from around grade 2 nobody liked me and my friends. It did su... | befriended a weird kid, started talking with him and he then bit me when I ignored his advances. Said it was because he was hungry. He got laughed at by everybody. | befriended a weird kid that kept nibbling on my arm without saying anything about how terrible it felt, teacher let him off scot-free. | 1.514193 | 0.623426 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [16 F] (4 months) - I'm constantly paranoid i'm screwing up my relationship and it's having bad effects on me
POST: Let me preface this by saying I love my girlfriend very much, and most of this is probably my fault.
Alot of time whenever I'm talking to/... | My constantly worrying about my girlfriend being negative/annoyed with me is having a negative effect on my own personal well being, and I don't know what to do about it. Please advice. | My worrying about my girlfriend being upset with me whenever i'm talking to/skyping/etc with her has caused me to become insecure about my relationship which has had negative effects on myself. How do I stop this from happening? | 1.259329 | 1.015374 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Girl had nip slip in photo, Blamed on me.
POST: I was with friends and we were going through pictures on facebook when we came across this photo from this years prom where a girl has a nip slip. It is barely visable, but we noticed it. (I should have reported the picture for nudity, but ... | Had photo of girl at prom with nip slip, everyone hates school kids spreading lies that i lied about it, should i try to throw person under bus or leave it alone. (its cumulative effect on school) | Girl had nip slip in photo, kid spread rumours about everyone having seen it, now everyone finds out, i didn't do anything. Should i "throw him under the bus", just as he did to me or should i leave it be now. | 2.555495 | 1.090428 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Pride only hurts, it never helps.
POST: Me 26 Her 28
Having a tough time on my own with this one. I'm realizing how much my pride and ego are controlling a recent incident and if they're good indicators on wether I should take my gf back or not.
My girlfriend and I have bee... | Girlfriend slept with someone on a trip only to come back and tell me she messed up. My pride and ego are controlling how I feel about the whole thing and I hate how it's turned our relationship back to zero. Have accepted her remorse but hate watching any hope for us fade. Need advice. | After getting back together with my gf after a dip in the relationship, she slept with someone while gone on a trip. I'm angry and hurt. Not sure if I want to continue the relationship with this lingering hurt. | 2.174937 | 0.990119 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: confused.
POST: I am not biased towards religion nor am I biased for or against atheism. I try not judge people by their personal beliefs because I know we are all different, either through evolution or through some supreme being. It doesn't matter to me if you think that God created us,... | I do not see any particular atheist subreddit that is not made up of groupthink followers that have decided there must be only 1 right belief and that all others are wrong. Is that type of mentality just a dying breed? | I don't personally believe in any religion or non-religion, yet I see that /r/atheism is another religion too, and I see that most of its followers are intolerant and judging others. Feeling confused. | 1.658932 | 0.70127 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Letting my Brothers onto an Social Experiment I was Planning.
POST: Not so recently, my grandma was put into a personal care home due to a broken hip and both of her daughters just not having the time to be able to care for her as she needs to be. More recently, the pitbull that the c... | named a beautiful shy little pitbull pup after an animated pony from a TV show, everyone else in our area knew the story, but not my brothers who question why the pup is named after an animated pony from a TV show. | Named my youngest brothers pups with the name of a TV show pony adopted by a person from the game 'Amnesia', turns out one of my brothers knows the story of the pony through Amnesia and connects the dots from my naming the pups to the TV show's main character. | 1.06151 | 0.537656 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: There is a 80% chance I (20F) can't have children, but my boyfriend (24M) will not stop bringing up wanting to have his own kids. I don't know what to do.
POST: I found out recently that I have a medical condition that makes it very difficult for me to conceive, and very, very risky ... | I found out that it's extremely difficult for me to conceive and have a baby, which means I probably won't ever be able to have children. However, my boyfriend will not stop bringing up wanting to have his own kids. I wish I could just show him that I have accepted this, but it's impossible in the short term. | I found out that it will be very hard and risky for me to have children, but my boyfriend is not letting go of the idea of his own kids one day. I wish he could be sensitive to the fact that this is not realistic for me. | 1.298006 | 1.054077 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] ended a very new relationship with a long time friend [24 F] because we seemed to want different things out of our relationship. She seemed to agree when I brought it up to her, but now I am not sure if I did the right thing.
POST: So I had met this girl when I started this ... | Had a new relationship with a long term friend who seemed to want different things from our relationship than I did. Ended it because I realized I was pursuing something else than what we both wanted out of our relationship. Now I feel I have thrown away a chance at a good relationship. | Broke up with a good friend of mine after beginning a very casual relationship because she wanted something else out of the relationship than I did. Now I feel like I may have made a mistake by ending that relationship. | 0.94291 | 0.936229 |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: really need your help with my cat, Never seen him act like this
POST: So my brother comes over my house a lot and he is really scared of my cat, my cat is 2 and has always been a sweet heart so I never de-clawed him but today well I was working on my computer the my brother came home I didnt ... | my brother came home scared of my cat, it freaked out screaming at me and went running to my gun thinking someone was hurt real bad came out and found my brother had a scratched up leg, my cat isnt freaking out anymore but still locked up somewhere inside my house, want to know when is safe to let him out and what got... | my brother came home and scared of my cat screaming and defending himself with the cat and gave me a quick his and growl, the cat is locked up not letting us do anything about it wtf should I do.. | 2.302193 | 0.750446 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] love my boyfriend [24M] dearly, but I don't want to move in with him...
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years.
Our relationship for the most part has been pretty good. We get along well in nearly every capacity - life plans, sex, etc. I'm very happy with h... | Boyfriend asked me to move in with him. I don't want to, but realize it will interfere with being able to see my family often, and perhaps having my parents live with me in the future. Do relationships often end in this type of situation? Why do I feel this is important to mention? | Boyfriend wants me to live with him temporarily to look for a job. I have a growing desire to be alone. But I don't want to live with him. My reasons are silly. Please help. What should I say to him? | 1.299432 | 0.389268 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] 6 months, girlfriend talks to exes and gets mad when I talk to girls
POST: So my GF is my first sexual partner, my GF has had many.
She talks to guys from her past. She talks weekly to 2 exes, which I'm fine with, but we recently got into a big fight, bec... | GF talks to guys from her past, that she breezed through sexual encounters with, she's pissed that I'm talking to one friend who has a bit of innocence to her about the past, and doesn't want to be used for sex. Won't let go that she has a past, wants it to always be secret. I don't have a past so I don't care. And I ... | GF talks to exes, gets mad when I talk to one good looking friend from elementary school, puts ulterior motives on, she says she's a slut. I don't have exes, so I can talk to anyone. Her approach makes it impossible for me to have actual friends. | 2.827384 | 1.955486 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Help, i feel like my step mom is being very unfair...
POST: So, lets start off by saying im a freshman, so, yes, im young, but i still need help. Last night i was watching Netflix in bed (It was about 12) and my stepmom texted me and told me to turn it down, so i put in headphones, problem... | Made situation perfect for step mom to complain about respecting other people, im able to bypass the parental controls time block settings by controlling the modem, but wont get caught, what would the repercussions be for the lying? other than not being allowed to watch netflix past 10. | Turned down my step moms request to lower the volume on netflix, ended up bypassing the parental controls without getting caught and now im thinking about doing it for a larger issue, is it worth getting caught? and what would the punishment/ consequence be? | 3.552191 | 1.567887 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [discussion] Dog very injured and I'm emotionally terrified of what might happen
POST: So my dog turned 11 two days ago, we celebrated and he was so happy. I'm 18 now and we basically grew up together and of course have become attached. Yesterday my father went for a daily walk with him and a... | My dog attacked another dog yesterday and suffered bite wounds. He might be dead if he were a smaller dog and I'm scared of losing him. Please help me emotionally process this. | dog turned 11 turns vicious when attacked by another dog and has large bite wounds that could kill him. I'm worried because I'm emotionally attached and don't want to lose him. | 1.330668 | 0.908739 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My close friend [both 20F] is getting married abroad but I don't want to go. Am I being selfish?
POST: We've known each other since teenagers and been through a lot together. She recently got engaged and is planning on having her wedding in Morocco because that's where her family (a... | close friend is getting married abroad but I don containingly don't want to go despite wanting to be there for her special day. Am I being selfish? | close friend is getting married abroad but I don't want to go as I have negative experiences there and wouldn't enjoy myself there. Am I being selfish? | 1.402128 | 0.201545 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F21] feel frustrated with my boyfriend's [M24] laziness. Am I justified?
POST: I [F21] have been with my boyfriend [M24] for 2 years, lived with him for one year. Maybe it's just because of finals, but I've been feeling increasingly stressed about life over the past few months and... | Feel under appreciated and stressed about busy life by my boyfriend who doesn't seem to want to do the little bit of housework he doesn't have to do or work on an important assignment I've asked him to help with. Feels like he doesn't care about our relationship at all. Am I justified to feel frustrated? | My boyfriend doesn't do one bit of housework while I'm stressed about my deadlines at school and I feel under appreciate, he seems like he's only concerned with his video game playing. Am I justified in feeling frustrated, or should I just not put so much onus on him in life? | 1.883128 | 1.101 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Alright Reddit, What is the worst/craziest thing you've ever done at a party?
POST: I only think it is fair I should begin.
So growing up in a small town everybody knows everybody but once in awhile we got a rare chance to go to these massive house parties out in the country. These part... | Went to a huge house party drinking waay too much passed out. Wondered if I could pee FAST enough to avoid passing out systems critical. I managed to get my pants down and mean time had to run away as this smell permeated the house and soon everyone was looking for the source of the smell. Dad came downstairs screamin... | Went to this massive house party out in the country where there was never any chance to socialize with the hosts. As a result drank waaay too much and passed out. When I woke up systems were beyond critical and I needed to pee. As I did I hear some weird hissing noise and everyone trying to find where it was coming fr... | 3.21532 | 2.270479 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I just saw my ex boyfriend for the first time in a year.
POST: We had an extremely emotionally intense relationship. Together for 2 years, lived together for the second year. We didn't have a crazy break up, we were both so numb and exhausted that we just said this is it and kind of d... | saw my ex boyfriend for the first time in a year, it was good but confusing because I miss aspects of our relationship and know that I can't emotionally handle his intensity. I'd like to give it another go but I know I won't be emotionally equipped to handle it. | saw my ex boyfriend for the first time in a year. I feel like emotional baggage is holding us back and knowing it won't work in the long run leaves me wanting to try something new. I want to ignore what I know about us as a couple and try it again. | 1.492735 | 0.957268 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [25 M] seeing this Girl [24F] for a month, doesn't do oral..
POST: Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Now I've posted here because no, I haven't spoken to her about this and would like some advice.
Been seeing this girl, let's call her Stacey, for about a month or so. She's attract... | been seeing girl for about a month, sex has been great so far but she doesn't seem to do oral like other girls I've dated before and this has put off my attempts at giving her oral (I've done it before enough to know the basics) what should I say to her about it? | seen a girl for a while now but sex seems to be pretty much just like oral, is there anything I should say to her about it not being her thing? | 2.670529 | 0.221655 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21F] and my boyfriend of a year [21M] are starting to face a long distance relationship and I don't know how to handle it
POST: Me and my boyfriend have been friends for four years and dating for a year, the past year has been one of the best years of my life. We don't fight we co... | My boyfriend of a year is moving for school in a few months and we will be far apart for the first time in our relationship, we have discussed trying distance but I worry that it will ruin our wonderful times we have had together. Are we crazy to continue after only dating for a year and sacrificing seeing each other?... | Starting long distance relationship with boyfriend of a year we have only been dating, facing distance but not losing sight of wonderful times we have had, wondering if it is worth it to risk what we have becoming ugly if we decide to continue together. | 2.074683 | 1.140307 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 F] think that the guy I've been seeing for a couple months [39 M] is hiding a smoking habit from me.
POST: Short backstory: I've known him for about 4.5 years, he got divorced last year, we've been seeing each other for about two months. As long as I've known him I've never see... | I've known the guy I've been dating for a couple of months for years with no smoking habits that I've noticed until now, but it sounds like he may have had a pack or two in his pocket once last night while we were out drinking and socializing. Not sure how to bring it up without seeming like I'm judging him too harshl... | Guy I've been seeing for 2 months doesn't smoke, but I have seen cigarette residue after he made a phone call. I am uncomfortable with the habit, but don't want to cause a breakup because I think it's nothing big. How should I bring this up with him? | 2.106997 | 1.285461 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) of 5 years are taking a break....but we still live together in seperate rooms. This feels weird. How can we make this break work?
POST: I posted this about a week ago for anyone that wants to read a more detailed version of why we went on a break:
We... | Going on a break from my boyfriend (we have been together for 5 years) - want to come back into the relationship but don't want sex or anything else like kissing/hugging/etc. before then. How to maintain a seperate lifestyle when back together? | Taking a break in our relationship but still live together. Needs to review what our needs are, try to fall back in love. Rules are minimal talking, no sex, no sex with other people. Only he stays in the spare bedroom. | 1.717821 | 1.45212 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I *Might* be a father again. How am I supposed to handle this? [25M]
POST: I had a fling for about a month with a girl back in September. We had unprotected sex but I pulled out.... which I know isn't perfect. Yesterday, she called me and wanted to talk. Apparently she is pregnant an... | Had a fling with a girl who we know has now become pregnant. I don't know if I am the father and its complicated so I don't want to be. How should I handle this? Should I have nothing to do with the baby? Is there any way around being the "father" legally? | Had a casual fling with a girl. She says she is pregnant and I may be the father. I don't want to be the father and its complicated that I'm married. What should I be doing? How should I approach this? | 1.593034 | 0.994686 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] want to ask my coworker [??F] out but I never get an opening. Need suggestions..
POST: I work in retail with someone who I seem to have a good chemistry with and I think she would agree if I were to ask her, but the problem is that we never have a moment where I can do that.
... | Work with coworker who seems like she has a good connection with me but we never get an opportunity to talk that are alone where I can ask if she wants to see a movie or something for a date or whatever. Is its okay to just waltz up to her and ask? | I want to ask a coworker out but never seem to get a chance to when its so rare that we are alone and brief encounters happen. Is a simple note enough or should I consider asking out in front of coworkers? | 1.443609 | 1.019536 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22/F) think I have feelings for (25/M). Can't tell if it's mutual (x-post from r/wemetonline)
POST: Heyooo,
So, I met this guy online on a non-dating website 6 months ago. We started talking every day, we've video chatted a few times, and we've exchanged literally thousands of me... | Met online guy who I've been talking to every single day for 6 mos. Starting to get feelings for him. Don't know if there could be any more there beyond the friendship. Can't tell if we're telling each other what we're feeling because our online communication isn't as deep as a face-to-face type situation. What do you... | Met online guy 6 months ago. We talk literally every single day and when I told him I could come to meet him he said he'd love it. I feel like there could be something more there but also that it could be completely platonic if we've been talking so much for so long. Help! | 1.490551 | 0.765257 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] suspect my Wife [29 F] of 2 years may be cheating. Need advice.
POST: My wife and I have been growing apart lately (lack of intimacy for about 3 months) and I've noticed a couple strange things that I want some unbiased opinions on.
She goes to the gym 5 days a week for a ... | My wife goes to the gym 5 days a week and I've noticed she has suddenly opened a text program to browse amazon when I clearly haven't seen her looking at her phone or laptop. How do I tackle this without destroying our marriage if she refuses to answer any direct questioning about this? | Wife seems to be texting directions to the gym while browsing the internet and making it obvious she's looking something up. Paranoid me questions if I should do anything about it or take it as just innocent coincidence. | 1.317371 | 1.063854 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my ex [25 F] broke up and I feel guilty and sad since I initiated it
POST: We had been dating for about six months and things were going reasonably well. I liked her and she liked me. I'd say there wasn't a very intense passion to the relationship, but there was defini... | Been dating girl for about 6 months, something was missing in the relationship for me and I wanted more. She never seemed to be comfortable taking things to the bedroom and I'd drop it whenever, so I felt like there wasn't passion between us. Had a falling out recently, feeling awful about it because I hurt my ex's fe... | Had been dating girl for about 6 months. Something was missing in the relationship. Feeling guilty about initiating the breakup, mostly because I know I hurt her feelings. Sadness because ending the relationship is painful to me. Not sure how to handle it. | 2.326907 | 1.524507 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Frustrated with these people...
POST: So, here's the gist of the situation. Got a girl, who broke with a boy, decided she hated him, then got back together with said boy after about 2 weeks, when he came crawling back.
The girl and I are in a close relationship, and she tried to hid... | girl who broke up with guy, then got back together, I'm annoyed with her attitude towards the guy, turnaround so soon, seems callous and just dismissive of my concerns. Help appreciated! | Got a girl, who broke up with a guy, got back together with said guy after about 2 weeks. She's frustrating me when we aren't in person, talking face to face. I know she should be dealing with the breakup, but choose this guy over me. | 2.047295 | 1.057975 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf wants an explenation from me [Both 24]
POST: This is a fight we had 2 times before, it's hard on our relationship, and if she doesn't get an explenation that it isn't going to happen anymore it's the end. Relationship of 2,5 years.
We are 2 outgoing people, we do alot of fun t... | gf is out alot, partying, drinking, and when i end up unhappy with her behaviour upon seeing her in a bad mood, all my anger comes up out, causing resentment untill exploding in her face. I regret that now and want to figure out what's causing me this unhappiness. | my gf is 5/7 drunk every week, causes negative qualities in my relationship, cause of frustration, i regret it now, what can i do to bring some trust back in the relationship? | 1.891711 | 0.680182 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my BF [27 M]: His housemate wants me to pay rent and bills just for staying there.
POST: I don't think I'm being unreasonable by asking WTF kind of backwards thinking is this:
*I've been with my boyfriend almost 18 months.
*I stay at his house (and h... | Recently moved in with my boyfriend's house where his 2 housemates want me to pay rent and bills just for staying there. I don scenario makes sense to me. Advice? | My boyfriend's housemate wants me to pay rent and bill payments just because I stay there, despite me never doing any of the things that would incur these costs. I'm not paying up just because I love staying with him. I need some reassurance that this is crazy and unreasonable. | 2.168852 | 0.773983 |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: So I got dumped by my best friend and all I want is to talk to him about, how do I get away from this circle jerk that is us?
POST: We have been best friends for 3 years, friends is such a stupid concept when it comes to boys and girls though, at least for us. Anyways, he broke up with me... | best friend broke up with me because he loves when we are together but not when we aren't, I want to talk about it but I don't want to see him because of the circle jerk we have going on. How do I get away from this circle jerk that is us? | Best friend dumped me because he loves when we are together but when we aren't he doesn't see it working, how do i access my emotions without dealing with his mother and a circle jerk of us hanging out? | 0.719104 | 0.604792 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to throw a great party, Reddit. What are some special things that I can do to make this happen?
POST: Alright, so my 19th birthday is next Friday. I live in a college town, renting a house alone for the summer, and I want to throw a great party. I have invited friends from both sc... | I want to throw a great party for my 19th birthday next week, however some people may not be able to make it because of the distance involved. What can I do to make sure that the party stays fun and people still work together? | I want to throw a great party for my 19th birthday and need ideas for making sure that everyone mingles, things stay under control while everyone still has a good time, and the party is memorable. | 0.874268 | 0.512595 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do I [23f], who has an amazing family and loving friends with a good life, hate myself? And how can I get past it?
POST: So this is me... I have a loving and amazing family. I have many loving friends. I have a great social life. It is easy for me to get the guy I want. I've just... | Recently after a really devastating breakup I've been feeling awful because I hate myself, despite having a loving family and great friends and a great social life. It has taken months but I can now feel absolutely nothing but anger towards myself. What's wrong with me that others would throw away so easily? And how c... | have a loving family and good friends. But I hate myself because I have been hurt in the past by men. And when I try to figure out why I hate myself so much it is because I can't find a reason why. It makes me feel terrible inside. Help??? | 3.055264 | 1.241268 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I'm worried.
POST: I'm incredibly worried about my younger cousins; I have been for some time, but tonight it's different. Today their father killed himself. Their parents have been separated for some time, and my cousins have been living with their mom and grandma out in the country fo... | My cousins father killed himself, leaving their parents separated, and my little cousin who struggles with emotional issues has been living with their grandmother out in the country for a while. I'm worried about them and what their future might hold. | I'm worried about two of my cousins who have serious mental health issues, and their father has killed himself. I realize there's nothing I can do but help comfort them if I can. | 1.101809 | 0.540911 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by scaring the shit out of my friends
POST: So this happened just today. We're in highschool and me and my three friends (lets call them Bob, Steven and Tong) were eating lunch and chilling. We were making fun of Bob as we usually do and then Tong brings up the topic of the Charlie, Char... | Made my friends scared by blowing a pencil to play the Charlie, Charlie pencil game my way, they believed that if it says 'Yes', you have to hide from the paper for three hours or Charlie will find you. | Tried the Charlie pencil game, blew it to 'Yes' and scared my friends with silent terror. They believe if it says 'Yes', you have to hide from the paper for three hours or Charlie will find you. Fuckin hell is up. | 0.762196 | 0.471307 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20F) am still good friends with my ex (25M). We're both in a relationship, but last night he started trying to sext me. What should I do?
POST: We've been friends since we broke up almost 3 years ago and this is the first time he's tried anything like this. I told him that I wasn'... | ex boyfriend tried sending a sext last night despite my telling him that I'm not comfortable with it. He told me that its nothing more than words and that he'll stop if I say I don't like it and that im wrong to consider emotions and attraction from it. What should I do? ive been friends with him for so long and its t... | My ex tried to sext me. I told him I wasn't comfortable with it and he backed down. He said words behind the actions, but were sincere and that he wouldn't stop. What should I do? Should I try to maintain our friendship? | 2.680238 | 0.919514 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I think I suck at my job.
POST: Now I make mistakes sometimes. Usually fine detail mistakes, like a typo in an important place. Or not knowing that someone put training equipment on a truck and I dispatch it on a job. I would say I could tack up one good mistake per month working.
I just c... | I have a fairly good track record in my job, but have trouble with detail oriented work. I make mistakes from time to time. Is that okay? Is my career standard reasonable for mistakes? | I think I suck at my job. I make mistakes. Is human error okay? Does it just happen? Does my focus on detail mean I cannot do detailed jobs to meet career expectations? | 0.901613 | 0.203612 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [30 F] boyfriend [25 M] of 14 months, we are considering moving in together in a home that I own. What's the best way to split expenses?
POST: My boyfriend and I are discussing moving in together in the fall when his lease is up. We've been together for just over a year.
We both ... | My boyfriend and I are considering moving in together but would like to share expenses and split bills equally. My share of expenses includes building equity in the house I own. Currently I have relatively low monthly expenses. I would be willing to contribute more if needed. What's the best way to split the bills? | My boyfriend and I are considering moving in together, in a house that I own. He makes more than me but we are both open to having discussions about sharing expenses and sharing the bills equally. What are some suggestions for what to share in terms of expenses? | 2.047331 | 0.884897 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[19M] pissed off with my [19F] over sickness (long term relationship)
POST: So to keep it as brief as possible I have been dating my SO for coming up 5 years now, every things been great yadayada.
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Two weeks ago I came down with viral meningitis and was administered to hospital ... | Viral meningitis and resultant spinal headaches have left me bed ridden and my gfs inability to visit has left me with a slight anger level towards her. | Long term relationship fell ill with viral meningitis, ended up having a lumbar puncture which has created a case of spinal headaches, girlfriend blew off plans to visit me once throughout this ordeal and its made me angry. | 0.859405 | 0.792706 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I being ridiculous for being upset that my boyfriend [30M] would rather bring family (that he is not close to) to his graduation rather than me [28F]?
POST: Some background: Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year. We attend different school... | My boyfriend has 6 tickets for his graduation while I don't get invited. He hasn't told me he wants me to come down there. Its been months since we've talked about the subject. Is this being unreasonable for me to be upset about? | Boyfriend wants to bring family members to his graduation, even though he isnt close with them, while I amnt close with some of them and get no special treatment. Do I have grounds to feel hurt about this? | 1.401022 | 0.066566 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (age 22) of 5 months can't handle how many sexual partners I (female - age 23) have had.
POST: I've been with 29 other people, and he brings it up almost every day. I've also had a threesome, which he talks about constantly. He feels like he can't please me sexually (eve... | My bf of 5 months can't handle how many sexual partners I've had and constantly brings it up. We have long conversations about it and it makes the relationship seem so frustrating. I also have a threesome with a guy and don't think that makes me any less of a sexual partner to my boyfriend. I don't know how to handle ... | My boyfriend feels like I cannot truly be in a relationship with him after sleeping with so many other people sexually - we have long discussions about this and it drives me crazy every time. I am just not sure what to do about it. | 1.756489 | 1.270306 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] and my best friend [22F] got into a relationship - I need help
POST: We have been best friends since high school, we talked about everything and everybody and always had a good time together. She was the perfect "best friend", someone who would stay with you, the rest of yo... | I fell in love with my best friend and got into a relationship with her, but I am not ready for this and want to be single afterwards. Can we somehow manage to stay friends? (or at least not hate each other) Anything else you guys might have to add? | Got into a relationship with my "best friend" - I want to be single afterwards but want to continue our friendship. Any advice will help. | 0.494682 | 0.173972 |
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