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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (f/22) have to figure out if I want to still know these girls or not and would hate to sound insulting
POST: Not sure if this belongs here but it's worth a try.
Backstory:
When I (f/22) went through my first real breakup 2 years ago because he needed space after a year of dating ... | first emotional breakup involving depression when guy avoided our communicating after had other positive things but seeing pics of him having a convo is hard I need to cut contact with girls now that time has passed. Do they view it negatively? Should I avoid contact? Is there going to be awkwardness? | had first real breakup of 2 years with depression when had friends support when dealing with his and toughing through love ending so I'm better now but seeing some old pics/conversations cause angst. Would like opinions on my choices. | 7.106056 | 6.102993 |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: SV & NSV! Keeping on keeping on.
POST: 30F, 5'6". SW: 236 GW: 150 CW: 219
I weigh myself weekly and measure myself monthly. I'd hit a plateau the last four weeks or so where I was stuck at 222. Felt like kind of a bummer, but knew it's because I haven't been as strict as I should with my d... | healthy 30f weigh weekly/monthly measure daily and hit plateau lately with my daily diet, realized my smaller size is because I haven't been exercising as hard as I should. Looking forward to lighter body! | have weekly/measure monthly tracker for last 4 weeks or so where I was big with diet/body measurement and now hitting plateau as my scale numbers, I'm the lightest and smallest. Looking forward to reaching new goals! | 4.742606 | 4.709026 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my friend [19M] 10 months, Insecurities - Show or Tell?
POST: What are your stories about insecurities you've had in past relationships? How have you dealt with them, particularly the ones that you can't hide?
I'm not currently in a relationship, but recently I've real... | realize attractive male has someone like in other relationships, insecurities in body image, so I'm interested but not currently dating, so I'm not asking out now. Would I tell someone in advance about my body image insecurities if it throws them off when the clothes come off? How have other girls dealt with similar i... | recently realized that someone likes/interests me in my past relationship, having very negative body image issues, would like to share those with someone before anything physical/sexual, or do I let it surprise/surprise them? Has anyone dealt with similar issues? | 6.965894 | 3.813137 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Prioritize student debt or saving for down payment?
POST: I have $25k in student debt. One private loan at 9.5% (highest priority obviously) and nine others federal between 3.4% and 6.8%. Minimum payment per month total is $301.16. Over the next 9 months, I will pay off $11k of the... | have $25k in student debt and very high interest rate private loans, paying off 7% interest rate with minimum payment. Over next 9 months, savings should be around $35k. Should I continue to focus on debt payment or down payment or savings? | have $25k in student debt with 9.5% interest. Over next 9 months, pay off card balances/down payment and reduce interest to 5% or so. Should focus on paying down student debt or saving for down payment/larger savings? | 2.543097 | 1.691787 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[25m] girlfriend [24f] is only nice and pleasant when I'm aloof and distant. (9 months)
POST: Throwaway
I noticed the more I'm cold and distant towards my girlfriend, the more pleasant she becomes. She'll come over and clean my apartment, do laundry, dishes and cook for me, even a... | noticed more when my gf seems happy/content with her when our cool and distant when we had fights/issues, which naturally makes me happy/desire more kindness/favors back. What do I do here? Should I keep the cold/distant attitude? | noticed more cold distant towards my gf when we're happy during such pleasant times when things are going well. She'll apologize for fighting etc., but she really hates being kind or nice. What should I do here? Keep aloof or just keep the happy default? | 6.675001 | 6.057358 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 28 F with guy I'm dating 30 M - 1 month, Is it okay to ask if everything is okay or am I being pushy?
POST: I have been dating this guy for 1 month now and everything was great until last Sunday when I noticed he wasn't responding to my text with the same flirty, cute, enthusiasti... | had great 1 month dating in relationship with guy we had one conversation last night where he never asked if texting was ok when he usually flirty/exciting from previous days but last Sunday when we hung out wasn't. Am I being pushy or worrying too much? Is this normal? | Dated guy 1 month period had great communication with big flirty text when he wasn't responding to his usual conversation and today he was acting different and I asked if everything was okay but his response was no conversation or something else. Am I being pushy asking this question? | 5.660089 | 3.616948 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it weird that this turned me off from my gf?
POST: The other day my girlfriend(23 years old) and myself(22 years old) were talking and she revealed to me that she almost didn't date me because I was too short (5'7"-5'8"). She is only about 5'5". Now she loves me a lot and thinks... | gf almost turned off seeing potential relationship with height issue when talking about her dating preference and she loves me so much but for some reason when considering breaking up for this shallow view, it turned me off. Is it weird? | my gf almost turned down being too short from dating because she loved me a lot but had shallow views of height other physical attributes. Is it weird that turning me off? | 4.291118 | 3.037592 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27/F) am obnoxiously paranoid after a gynecological health scare. How do I explain my ridiculous hormonal-ness to my boyfriend (32/M)? (X-posted to /r/AskWomen)
POST: Last month, I started getting really hormonal and feeling downright crazy (becoming paranoid about my awesome boyf... | had my gyno say scary hormonal things when I started getting abnormally high around my IUD removal, and my boyfriend was very supportive. Now I feel like I'm getting anxious/crazy/paranoid over the idea that I'll have to worry about the IUD removal and the side effects forever. How do I explain myself to my SO without... | started getting really hormonal during gyno appointment last month and my boyfriend was very supportive and stayed up last night night rubbing my neck for the night before the hysteroscopy, made me lunch so I didn't have to cook etc. How do explain my irrational hormonal side without sounding like I'm trying to make e... | 3.708205 | 3.143455 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Advice givers of this subreddit please help me (18m) out. Please and thank you:)
POST: So recently I listened to the song Feel Again by OneRepublic. GREAT SONG. But it got me thinking: "is my heart numb? Am I a lonely soul?" All my friends tell me I am basically Ted Mosby (for those ... | listen to awesome song that gety myy my heart numb from all my friends that say I'm head over heels but I want to be in love and serious and like one before college but feel like that is one of those things that should be taken when you're really young. Can anyone help me? | very head over heels girl giver happy listening to OneRepublic song but realize I'm lonely and would like more love interests. what should I do/say/think? I am 18m. Thanks! | 3.895622 | 3.244376 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/F] having trouble with boyfriend [23/m] of 2.5 years sex drive
POST: My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. We are very sexually compatible.
Although, his sex drive is crazy high compared to mine. It really depends on the time of month for me [hormones], sometimes I'll ... | amazing sex drive in long term relationship with very high libido, asking for increased frequency with him when we cuddle, but sometimes he is turned off emotionally from sex when he is really frisky and want to be cuddled. I want him both physically and emotionally happy. What should I be teaching him? | very passionate long term love relationship with sexual compatibility but his sex drive is insane compared to mine. I struggle sometimes with denying him sexual needs when emotionally I just want to cuddle. I've asked for advice and I'm hoping it can help him feel more turned on without feeling rejected. | 5.041893 | 5.032898 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I'm just really tired right now...
POST: I just discovered this subreddit and I am glad I did because I am about to be at the breaking point.
I am about to move out of my house with my boyfriend and into an apartment in about a week. I've been extremely stressed out. I am losing sleep a... | moving extremely stressed out with my relationship about to break and moving out into apartment and losing money anxiety is causing me issues. I am very worried about how we will be living. I am also tired and irritable and might be over thinking things. Thanks! | extremely stressed out about moving out when living in abusive situation with my boyfriend and I am losing sleep worrying about what we will be able to survive at that point and if we will have enough money. I am also getting irritated at many other things. | 5.775577 | 4.03051 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How to deal with questioning everything?
POST: 23/f here and SO is 26/m. Together for 1.5 yrs and living together for 5 months.
My sister just recently got married and I can't tell if the thoughts I am having are because I'm imaging their relationship to be something it isn't ... | SO recent married with pretty unhappily long term relationship and have some issues with potential drinking, so I feel thoughts like marrying on or off base. What do I do about them? Should I aim for that kind of relationship? Am I just hoping he has what I've always had? An awesome life? | shared happy LTR that includes HUGE issues with abusive SO who has said he will never change his drinking habits and has dated someone who doesn't really have stable long term plans. I have been looking for stability and lately wonder if I could ever marry someone like him or just settle for loving him. | 6.322709 | 5.374721 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [ 20/F] with my bf [ 20/M] of 3 years. I've found myself attracted to someone else. Need advice on how to overcome.
POST: So I have been in what I consider a serious relationship for a few years now. Like any relationship we've had our ups and downs, but things have been great the... | had really great relationship for awhile now with attraction to other guy, then become upset with my bf when we hardly talk so we think we have other physical attraction. I find myself imagining scenarios and situations where we could be together. I'm also very anxious and upset about hurting my bf. Should I cut out t... | started serious relationship with bf attract feelings towards other supervisor we work with and have had crushes before, but lately my feeling is very different when I'm upset/overlooking him. I find myself fantasizing about him having feelings for someone else. What do you do to overcome this distraction? | 6.844757 | 5.864026 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my GF [19F] of 2,5 years. She wants to pay me for helping her with her accounting studies, but I don't want her to
POST: Hello fellow redditors,
we've been together for 2,5 years and everything is more than perfect :)
She is sitting here with me and we will both prov... | my GF studying accounting program with similar college she wants pay me for helping with tutoring and accounting class since relationships are also about helping other each other, but she doesn't want pay me for a small favor. I agree the money will be carried out professionally, but she still wants the "win-win" situ... | great in relationship accounting years ahead enrolled at other universities with my GF who really like helping each other by giving tutoring lessons. She wants pay me for offering it but I don't want her to pay way too much. I think it's a win-win situation for both of us. What you guys think? | 6.777959 | 6.637011 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I think I'm trapped in nasty triangle and don't know how to proceed, some advice would be really appreciated.
POST: I (male, 19) met this girl at collge (19 too) a couple of months ago. At the moment I met her, nothing really special happened between us happened, we just chatted a bi... | at collage some sort of spark between girl liked her before we started talking and we became close friends, nothing special happened between us but at college at later stage things started moving faster, it seems they like each other. I'm wondering if it's possible for them to make a triangle, I don't want any drama. | had pretty serious connection with college girl at recent collge, started liking other friend now, seem to have settled some issues as friends, but I suspect triangle exists. I want to move on but don't want any hurt. Advice would be appreciated. | 5.577985 | 5.55533 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M20] met a girl [F20] who i really like while backpacking europe and i dont know what to do.
POST: I met her initially in berlin, where I only got to spend a day with her. I instantly knew there was something between us, I didnt know what but we just clicked strait away. I would h... | had intense time travel encounters while meeting girl backpacking europe, clicked immediately and we share alot of similar interests and hobbies. I really like her and cant tell if I should pursue our relationship. I'm not experienced with relationships so Im having trouble finding a way to tell her how I feel. | met amazing backpacking girl from germany while we had our initial connection, had another great night together when we arranged to spend 10 days travelling together in london. I cant stop thinking about her. I dont know if I'll find a way to express my love next time we meet. | 5.394881 | 4.037048 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [HELP] Not sure how to deal with new people/dogs and my big ole pup
POST: I have a three year old Dober/Pit mix named Romulus ("Rome" for short). He's about 105lbs and for the most part a good guy. I live with 3 other dogs: a 10 year old labrador, a 2 year old French Bulldog and a 8 year old ... | have great dogs at playtime socializing new people/dogs and have huge yard and people always wanting to come over doggie playdate. I don't want any on-leash introduction/playdate and don't want people being overly friendly with the new dog. What do? | have 3 year old pit mix best friend with new people/dogs during playtime. Sometimes he gets skittish/doggy and turns people away so we have playdates. I don't want to turn my big happy puppy away and make everyone else unhappy. Is on-leash best way to introduce or let new doggie in first? | 5.84262 | 5.215199 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16 M] think one of my friends [17 F] is self-harming. What should I do?
POST: I was talking to two of my friends at school yesterday - we'll call them Mary and Emma. Emma is a good friend of mine and one of Mary's best friends. Mary and I aren't particularly close, but we still ta... | had some sort of normal chat with my friends with one of my best friend's common injuries and noticed the scars on her arm when she turned away. I asked if she was OK with them and she said she'll be fine. I don't think she's comfortable with talking openly about self-harming. What do I do? | had chatting with my friend who has some self-injuring scars across her wrist and asked her about it when we got home from school this morning. She just seemed kinda sarcastic at the time. I can't really tell if it was actually sarcasm or if she was just playing it off as a joke. What should I do? | 4.904994 | 2.735594 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [GA] My ex is in possession of illegal pictures of me and won't delete them
POST: I originally posted in /r/relationships, but I was told to also post here.
So, I'm 16/F, and I was dating my ex for two years (I was 14 when he was 17, now I'm 16 and he's 19). During that time he was v... | had abusive ex in possession of explicit photos from dating when we broke up, now he's destructive during our separation, won't delete despite warnings/asking/asking he won't take the pictures. What can I do to bring him down? | had abusive verbal/sexual relationship with ex who sent explicit photos when we were 14 & 16, now many since we've been apart, but won't delete the images when asked. What can I do? Is there any legal ground to bring charges? | 5.019052 | 4.278203 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (F27) ex-FWB (M26) lied about being single; he's married. Need help with rational response.
POST: I used the reddit search function and couldn't find this question.
We met 6 years ago, FWB off and on for about 3 years. We live (now) in different states. We'd travel periodically ... | FWB ex had long term offline when we mutually claimed single and asked each other if he is single after seeing evidence he was married. I was out of country at time of his marriage. I was furious at him for lying and now suspect he's married. Need help thinking rationally. | used FWB 6 years off and on contact via sexting/hotels/meetings. asked him if he is single before any 'benefits.' lied at end 2 weeks ago when I found out he was married. Need help in dealing with rational response emotions. | 4.858624 | 3.18365 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Has anyone ever gone batshit crazy before, and how did you patch your life back after that?
POST: *First time posting on Reddit. Been lurking for awhile and thought this a much merry place to be.*
For context, I have been suffering from depression for the last few years. And as a reacti... | had bit of crazy during depression when moving away from friends who triggered my "batshit crazy" and particularly when first getting good job. I am now rebuilding my life from the meds and working hard at work. Has anyone else ever gone batshit crazy before and how did they get their life back after patching things u... | suffered from batshit crazy depression over the last few years and lost friends and best friend who were part of my life, and when I got job at decent and got better meds things got greatly improved. Now I have working life again and have black dogs that haunt me from time to time but usually don't bother me as much s... | 4.513877 | 4.297639 |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Contacting my biological father, who doesnt know I exist because of falsified DNA test [Washington]
POST: I'm going to try to keep this short so it doesn't drag long into a soap opera.
When my Mom [22 F at the time] got pregnant with her boyfriend at the time [24 M], aka my Dad, she d... | had DNA testing when biological father harassed mom when son was born from other side. Now 19 I'm finding out through investigation my mom may be asking him to get custody when he never knew my other side. Think I should approach him? What should I do? | had legal custody when baby was born with alleged harassment of my mom using falsified DNA test when father didn't have custody. Now being 19 and certain I found other side of family through investigation it seems I should contact him now through DNA test unsure what should I do? | 4.954183 | 4.521303 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] have been talking to/seeing [18F] friend for about 3 months and have no idea what I'm doing.
POST: So basically I met a girl in the beginning of the semester during our orientation week. She caught my eye the first day and we ended up talking on a bus ride somewhere and clic... | started chatting/hanging out with new girl during orientation week that may have connection at lunch time. We talk every day and keep exchanging numbers. We also go to different majors so we have very different schedules. I like her but am not sure if she is really with it. I haven't had a relationship before so a... | started talking to/seeing girl during orientation week hit it off great during conversation and talked every other weekend and had lunch/dinner deal, but have no idea if she's serious. Also no prior relationship so I'm not sure what I'm doing. | 4.684229 | 3.080025 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] continually feel unwelcome around my boyfriend's [22M] Dad's side of the family.
POST: So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, and for the first 2, things were pretty great. I felt welcomed and loved by everyone in his families (his parents are div... | my gf has had great things with relationship with bf's family when we lived distant from them during summer, but had communication issues when he moved back home recently. His Dad's negative response has made things very uncomfortable/unwelcoming. How do I deal with them when I want to spend my life with my bf? I love... | had great relationship with bf 2 years when our bd moved away last summer from family friendly event/occasion invitations. His Dad has been very hostile since when we got back together. I feel like an outsider and unwelcome in his family. What do I do? How do I win them over? | 7.027187 | 5.391848 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 F] just confronted my Borderline mother [54 F] about all the things she has done to ruin my life up until now...
POST: I had been advised by my psychologist not to contact her due to the negative effect she was having on my personal life and mental health (I myself have problem... | advised not contact borderline mother from personal issues due to destructive behavior in past etc after emailing detailing everything she has done in trying to contact with personal issues now, and showing guilt, but the vast majority of online support tend to be supportive and advise against contact. Is anyone else ... | parental advise not to contact borderline woman attacking mental illness but has relentlessly contacted with other issues including ignoring her own mental illness and interfering on various occasions when claiming she was a victim, and now I feel guilty for confronting her. Wondering if anyone else had similar experi... | 8.728923 | 4.933437 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] I [17 M] am crazy about this this girl [17 F] and need advice on how to proceed.
POST: My previous post can be seen here:
We have remained in touch since I originally posted this. She has since broken up with this guy [17/18 M] from Alberta, apparently due to what I unders... | had fairly severely depression interactions prior to reconnecting with previous love at 17 since we've had our discussions about various things that have gone thru during our respective depressions. We had great interactions on Friday and I believe that it was the first time since our initial meeting that I truly felt... | had really high feelings when reconnecting with previous crush from past year and had great discussion about various things that we were dealing with in various degrees of depression. We met yesterday and had great discussions, but my overall mood is pretty bad. How can I proceed once again? | 7.20218 | 4.842197 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28m] am afraid to commit to a girl [26f] I really like because of my lack of relationship/dating experience. And the fact that she is ugly.
POST: I have been dating this girl for a few months now and I'm in a little bit of a dilemma. At first I did not really see this as anything ... | started really long term dating a really attractive girl from work who has advanced dating experience, and I am afraid that lack of relationship experience will make me disappointed by the eventual relationship. Also that some of the girl's looks may scare people away. Is there another solution? | had dating experience with relatively non-nice girl while thinking long term future with my current girl, now she is really likeable and has a great personality but makes me feel like I may be depressed because I don't have dating experience. I also fear that I will look back regretting not trying anything else. | 5.735161 | 4.485521 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to convince my very conscious parents to allow me to go on a trip with my best friend
POST: My best friend asked me to go to Montreal with her this summer for a few days, but my parents are pretty strict. My whole life, my parents have most of the time said no to me hanging out w... | very conscious best friend asked to go trip with her summer with some big things forbidden so far and my parents have said no. What should i do to convince them to allow me to go? Also disobeying is not an option. | very conscious best friend asked to go very summer trip with her with her parents most of the time saying no to hanging out with friends or going out. I'm also Indian so disobeying my parents could really make this summer memorable for me. What is the best way to convince them to allow the trip? | 5.542944 | 5.361194 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23M] GF [22F] is a bit too active on my Instagram for my comfort level.
POST: We've been together a few months now and things are going swell. We're some 150 miles apart (she works, I'm in grad school). We see each other every or every other weekend depending on how busy we are a... | share social media IG pics of uber private GF but have some family/friends on same that are lurid and flirtatious so I'd rather she not advertise my relationship life there. What's the best way to tread it delicately without coming off as an asshole? | recently begun following gf on social media my personal life things but some comments are really g/pg and saucy in some cases and I'd rather she not post on IG but view my relationship posts as a personal one. What's the best way to deliver the message without sounding like an asshole? | 5.238312 | 4.312795 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [25/F] in the wrong for being incredibly upset that my LDR boyfriend [32] hasn't even texted me today?
POST: He texted me last night at 1 am while he was drinking with his friends saying "Happy Valentine's Day." I thought it was sweet he was thinking of me with his friends.
... | LDR boyfriend texted sweet Valentine's day last night saying "happy valentine's day" while drinking and he hasn't texted me much recently. I'm upset that he hasn't texted me a lot and started seeing other people lately. Am I wrong for staying upset? | had long distance relationship with boy who basically texted every day at start of last week and occasionally lately. Today he hasn't texted me at all. I thought he was thinking of me. Am I wrong for being extremely upset? Should I initiate more contact? How long do relationships take? | 3.828981 | 3.813066 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/f] Is it time to ask pseudo-fwb [27/m] the "what are we" question?
POST: We first met about a year ago - no common friends of any kind - and first went out this April. I got really loose on the first date and may or may not have said that i'm not looking for anything seriou... | had very dating vibe in first year and saw we make once or twice monthly now when close in frequency other things but never had sex before. Now sleepover seems more regular and i don't want to bring up sex. Is it time to ask "what are we" question? | had very loose on first date sexual chemistry and went out on other dates recently without defining what it is and now semi-regular sleepover sleepover night frequency, i didn't say it was looking for anything serious but don't know if asking what we are is the right move. | 6.831899 | 4.37376 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F], my SO [24 M] of a year, I want to break up but I have no place to go.
POST: So I have been dating my boyfriend over a year. Let's call him Austin. I moved in with Austin's family because my parents out of state and I decided to take some time off from the college where we... | my long relationship has very strong communication issues based on our different personalities and love for each other. We have moved away from our parents dysfunctional environment and after long reflection I have made my decision to break up but I want closure for myself. Also Texas seems like a good option for the ... | have been dating my SO over year and moved out from college depression - moving back in did not work out but love is strong and I want to stay close. I want honest communication but my parents abusive. I am open to other ideas/suggestions/solutions. | 6.89651 | 4.361237 |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Blood blisters and weird sized feet
POST: Hey runnit, I'm training for my second half marathon in October, and I've got a concern: I've developed some decent blood blisters on the middle toes of both my feet as well as a doozy on the big toe of my left foot. My right foot has normal bliste... | built decent blood blisters on bottoms of feet/foot area of right as well as left during half marathon training, would prefer not have them if run afterwards. Is there anything I can do to prevent them? | have blood blisters on toes and big toe of left foot from running as well as underneath undersize right foot, should I leave them as is or pop them? Or should I worry about other things? | 3.459369 | 1.840581 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting my lube in the shower
POST: So I'm sitting in the living room with my then GF not long ago and my roommate (Carl with the slicked back hair) comes in from the bathroom to ask me where the little black bottle in the shower went. Confused, I looked back at him and told him I ... | use my roommate's lube in shower and while looking at his slicked back hair reference it was my lube (water based) and my GF saw the color draining from her face. She didn't know but later my GF just told me no idea. Am I being stupid for not remembering? | have GF ask roommate about lube in shower when our other roommate asked about it after looking it up in the bathroom several times today and we still don't know what it is. I'm trying not to give away my guilty feelings over it. What should I do? | 4.638553 | 4.537462 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mom [53F] keeps trying to reunite me [23F] and my estranged sister [19F] and it's making me miserable.
POST: "Estranged" isn't really the right word though. We have never had a relationship of any kind. We have hated each other since the moment she was born. Not once in the past d... | had really harsh relationship with oldest sister in college & moved away from most visits so that we won't have any contact with estranged siblings now. Mom insists it's making things worse and I hate seeing my mom unhappy. What can I do to convince her otherwise? | moved away from angry at hateful estranged sis and mom and hate is really starting to impact our visits and I worry it will make our interactions unpleasant. What can I do to convince my mom it's just a phase? Has anyone else had this happen? | 5.935477 | 4.090385 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Is it a date? Or just as friends? M(18) F(17)
POST: So, I've know this girl a while through other friends and she's been at gatherings I've been to. The other day at a party I finally plucked up the courage to talk to her properly (not just the usual "hi how are you" stuff) and we g... | had pretty good talk at other gatherings of girl previously with other friend who talked about liking guy at party she didn't like so far that day, so I asked if she wanted to go see a film and she said it would be nice. Is it really just as friends? Or should I just leave it? | had chance to talk to fairly well known girl from past through other friends that when she talked about liking some guy from work, she said it could be friendzone stuff (my best friend told her not to go for dicks). Is it date or just as friends? | 6.499693 | 4.199536 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F20 broken up with by M20. 2 years. First day. I can't enjoy food, I'm afraid to sleep. My heart hurts.i want to connect to others that feel this way.
POST: The future was so bright, we were going to live together. We never fought. I tried so hard to make him happy. We talked through... | had great future with M20 we fought good but now it's over love connection but hurt in sleeping. I can't enjoy food and other things. I want others that feel this way. I've already been asked out. Help me. | F20 had great future with 20M who hurt when they were unhappy in love. Suddenly he said he couldn't love me anymore and now has changed his mind. Can't see myself with anyone else. I want seperate sleep/food/music/romantic connections. I feel lonely. | 4.634399 | 4.478991 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should me [f]irst relationship be long distance?
POST: Hi all!
Backstory: I just recently came out of my "ugly duckling with extreme social anxiety" phase I have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend (am also a "supervirgin") or many friends.I have really come out of my shell these past ... | recent out of ugly duckling social anxiety has me starting job with long distance next semester and saw guy that has interest in non-sexual other. I am worried my dating habits will make me a less attractive gf. I would like some advice on 1)how long dating should be and 2)what could my future options be in terms of s... | recently came out of ugly duckling social anxiety phase and met great guy at job and will be moving away very soon. We will be long distance but my major also requires lots of outside work so I will be having very busy schedule next semester. I don't know if dating will help my confidence or if I should just be happy ... | 7.31715 | 4.494627 |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Much needed advice for adopted Russian prodigy!
POST: My family adopted an 8 year old girl with disabilities who's mother was an alcoholic prostitute. She was born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and is missing her arms from the elbows down. My sister is now 18 years old, a senior in high s... | family adopted amazing Russian child with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome social abilities but she has one of the hardest social skills I've ever encountered. I want her to thrive at college but I'm worried she may struggle with social skills due to her disability. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated! | Family adopted Russian prodigy with Fetal alcohol syndrome that has social skills disability and will have college choice but her brain wasn't developed enough to create relationships and socialize properly, I want to help her prepare for college. I need ideas and tips! | 3.707329 | 2.915488 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 F] don't want my boyfriend [16 M] to think I'm cheating on him
POST: We've been together for about a year and I've made a new male friend (lets call him John) recently. Most of my friends are guys, so my boyfriend has gotten accustomed to it as far as I know. However, I spend a... | have established very serious male friendship with new male friend, which my boyfriend has gotten comfortable with, and I spend a lot of time with my other male friends. my boyfriend tends to suspect cheating if I leave social the reason for my time being with them. I want my relationship with my boyfriend to be secur... | my new male friend has made so many social events with my boyfriend that it's becoming my support for serious relationship trouble, so I want my boyfriend to trust I'm being on time with my other close male friend. How can I balance relationship and confidentiality? | 6.228905 | 3.552683 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what makes you insanely mad?
POST: Something that makes me mad happened today. I'll start by saying I respect when people can be straight up with me, i.e. if they don't like me, and they tell me, I respect that. So, what happened: A while back I assisted a friend in making a shor... | had a previous direct contact with project that asked/demanded I make work that I was truly awful at, and I return it to the original artist. He apologized and nothing was ever used. I want to make things mad together. What makes you mad? | share honest opinion someone made work on my behalf, I return it, they apologize for doing crap work. I am mad. What makes you angry? Let's be mad together. | 3.466937 | 2.981313 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 1 year, she currently has a boy who 'likes' her sleeping in the same room as her tonight
POST: My girlfriend spent the day with her long time friend (he has asked her out and tried to have sex with her before) which I initially had no problems wit... | long term relationship has girl friend recently sleeping in same room as her long term long time friend when they had sex before who asked for other things which upset me initially. I'm worried they did anything tonight which could not be suitable relationship. What should I do? | gf had long time friend who has like sex now and slept with last night in same bedroom in our relationship which I initially had no issues with and I'm wondering if it's fair she sleeps with someone tonight at her house. Should I be overreacting? | 5.736908 | 4.997567 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some good motorcycles for a beginner?
POST: Hey guys,
I'm in the process of getting my M1 - just passed the safety course and waiting for my paperwork to take the written test at the DMV.
That being said, I'm pumped up to buy my first bike and start endangering you all on the ... | racing safety course excited about getting my first bike and looking for motorcycles with 250cc or cruiser type - what are some good first bikes for beginning riders? Ideally looking for cool looking bike without breaking my neck. | passed safety course for my first motorcycle and looking to buy my first bike which will start beginner riding, looking for cruiser or standard bike or something between 250cc-350cc. Also looking for money! | 4.811118 | 3.037792 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] was seeing a girl [21 F] a few months back, stopped meeting after a few dates but recently saw her again and I want to try it again.
POST: So I was seeing this girl a few months back and everything was going great. Then came the winter holidays and didn't really talk to her ... | had great summer seeing girl a few months back then stopped realigning after seeing her every day recently and want to rekindle but have busy work schedule so not much time, worried about coming off as using her as we ran similar circles. Also been seeing other romantically. | had great summer seeing girl had cold winter at the end and things kinda stopped just now so I thought rekindle would be nice but unsure how she'd react. Would like to somehow rekindle the flame but don't want to come off as using her as we ran in similar circles. | 5.383847 | 3.808172 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unmotivated At Work: The Cubicle Cliché
POST: This is me browsing reddit at work again, as most of us do. This is, and has always been common practice to all of us dweller of the cube farms. I'm the stereotypical guy who works for a big corporation that doesn't give a shit about you, in ... | well educated cubicle dweller at big corporate job wants vary things at work, promoting tasks to eventually pointless reports, putting in little effort. I dislike my current job, but feel like it will lead to my boredom eventually. What have you done to motivate yourself through your day? | have corporate cubicle hating, want to care about job, evaporated job leaves boredom & frustrations to keep me productive. What things can i do to make my work week more productive/interested/dedicated? | 4.237638 | 1.573319 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend [22] might be hiding something and my friend is worried about me [22]. (How) should I bring this up with her?
POST: My girlfriend (A) and I have been "officially" dating for about a month now. Out of the blue, I get a call from an old friend (B) who is pretty close to her.... | my gf officially dating has some past physical "issues" that she might be hiding from dating my other friend. He was worried she might get hurt and would like to bring it up at the end of our next official date. Is this ok? Should I bring it up? | officially dating my gf/best friend with some past issues/concerns. Out of the blue called friend who is close to her is worried she might be hiding something from me and that I should bring it up with gf. Should I bring it up with her? How should I approach it? | 5.979114 | 5.371095 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [25F] might get a job in another city and I [26M] am thinking to follow her
POST: Hello r/relationships,
I will try to be short. My girlfriend [25F] has an interview for a job in another city, let's called it C because it is the third city in our equation. I [26M] am f... | GF 25 has job in another city that has common ground field and she might get job in another city in common ground and moving there, I would like to follow her but have no other option. What is your opinion? | my gf has interview to job in other city for which field I work and maybe move there. We share common ground and we love each other so I would like follow her that way but there are no opportunities in my city. What do you think? | 4.516537 | 3.942317 |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Should we adjust our high student loan repayments while my wife stays home with the kids?
POST: My wife and I both have pretty large amounts of student loans ($72,000 for my PhD, $83,000 for her 2 Master's), which are all Federal Direct Stafford Loans. The payments on these loans ... | large student loans with potential incentive bonus income during wife's pregnancy, when she works she will not be working for next 6-8 years. We have option to reduce/graduated payments to couple monthly amount. Is this a good idea? | large student loans that come with high monthly payments, when my wife is pregnant and will not work when school ends, will have high interest rates that make it difficult to repay. Should we take reduced or graduated payments while we work to reduce the payments to around $900-1000 a month? Is this a good long term... | 3.598349 | 3.372704 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21/M] girlfriend [21/F] constantly looks through my phone while I'm asleep. Time to end it?
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been getting along great our entire relationship. My family loves her, her family loves me, and we usually got along great.
However, she always goes thro... | great gf relationship went through my phone while sleeping at night when conversations are texting/seems like she goes through frequently. Not really contemplating cheating, but would like to end it. Is it time? | had great relationship with my gf going through my phone when we sleep, always look for texts she has gone through that could be sexual. We have talked about it and she says she will stop looking through it. Is that time to call it quits? | 4.977155 | 4.869536 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] don't know how to start a relationship with a girl [16 F]
POST: Well, a little context first, I've been in love/attracted plenty of times over my life, but never I've been able to be with a girl. I've been rejecter every time.
This time the girl (let's call her Caterine) I ... | had crush on 6 months ago 6x with girl we started talking online chatting and started liking each other even if we had some obvious compatibility in other aspects, now things could look like previous rejected times. I don't want to be friend anymore. I like her a lot but I'm kinda nerdy and fear rejection. | in love with beautiful girl 6 months ago once went to chat online and had some attraction and formed friendship we exchanged some more in real life and started dating things look promising. How do initiate becoming a serious relationship if rejected? | 6.687271 | 5.283783 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I feel like my dad is cheating me out of a large amount of money. What do?
POST: I'm currently 17. I lived with my dad my entire life. My mom died in 2009 and I began receiving social security checks every month for about $600. In November (2010) part of our house burnt down and we got a... | lived with my dad full time income wise, asked about social security/insurance check for my dad's other income items, and he says he can't afford the rest. I feel like his girlfriend is in on things. I don't want to give him money he can't afford. What do? | my socal security check and the insurance money gotten from my dad is only being used for car insurance, and he says he can only afford my occasional other financial needs. I have lost everything in the fire and my relationship with my dad has been extremely rocky lately. What do? | 6.342449 | 3.826751 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does writing a few papers on a band make you "obsessed"?
POST: So far in my college career I have taken all of my humanities courses on the subject of music (they tend to interest me more than others). There are always research topics that we are allowed to choose. During my first semest... | took all of my humanities classes from music research topic during first semester, faculty liked the research and class, students love the obsession. I doubt I'm in the best position to be subjective, so I ask you Reddit. Does this make me obsessed with a band specific? | took my humanities class on music research topic that affected band I liked very much, and it net me great grades. Also very positive people believe it to be obsession. Can anyone offer any comments on my position? | 3.516974 | 2.898596 |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Acquired cat! Now a question..
POST: So, I just got a lovely little cat named Luna. She's about a year, a year and a half and pretty tiny. I live in an apartment located on the 5th floor of my building. My apartment doesn't have AC (I'm in NYC) and I usually like to leave the windows open for... | got very tiny cat named Luna who has child bars and can easily slip through them when out in weather, now my apartment doesn't have AC and want to leave windows open for ventilation. Should I sit in stuffy apartment with windows sealed, or trust her instincts and leave them open? | just got cat that is tiny about a year and a half, likeable but falls through child bars when opening windows. Should I leave the windows open or seal up? Also, if closing up the windows would make the cat feel claustrophobic, should I also seal up the doors? | 3.171755 | 3.037835 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By befriending a cannibal in grade 4-5.
POST: As usual this didn't happen today, it actually happened around 10 years ago when I was in grade 4 or 5.
I was not the most popular kid in school back in the day, probably starting from around grade 2 nobody liked me and my friends. It did su... | started talking cannibal grade 4-5 freak with other popular kid from my school when things got really bad girly/dork hate, noticed he would stare at my arm when eating it and started eating his own, apologized and ran to teacher. | had some funny talk with cannibal grade 5 dork in early school days and we started getting friendly he started staring at me without saying anything weird, later bit my arm then ran away. What's the deal? | 6.880673 | 5.001377 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [16 F] (4 months) - I'm constantly paranoid i'm screwing up my relationship and it's having bad effects on me
POST: Let me preface this by saying I love my girlfriend very much, and most of this is probably my fault.
Alot of time whenever I'm talking to/... | long distance relationship where most talks are concerning mental/relationship issues with my gf, often she lies/screams when she sees my worries about it and I'm having negative effects on myself as person. What should I do to break up over this? | long distance love my gf very much. constantly worry X things are screwing up our relationship and causing insecure feelings and i'm having negative effects on my personality/other relationships. What can i do to fix my mental makeup? | 5.268909 | 3.694357 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Girl had nip slip in photo, Blamed on me.
POST: I was with friends and we were going through pictures on facebook when we came across this photo from this years prom where a girl has a nip slip. It is barely visable, but we noticed it. (I should have reported the picture for nudity, but ... | had facebook pictures with nudity in yearbook/prom commity, girl who found out has pretty much everyone saying they don't like the nip slip. Should i let it go now or throw out the "work on yearbook and prom commity" accusation? | had pics of girl at prom with nip slip from years ago with others spreading, everyone said they don't like it but now girl lost trust on big circle of friends. What should i do with no proof? | 3.861296 | 3.032288 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Pride only hurts, it never helps.
POST: Me 26 Her 28
Having a tough time on my own with this one. I'm realizing how much my pride and ego are controlling a recent incident and if they're good indicators on wether I should take my gf back or not.
My girlfriend and I have bee... | had pretty rocky dating lately with gf reconnecting after early breakup and she had some sex while on trip, angry/hating today she comes across distant and I forgive her but wish I didn't have the images/fact of it. She's devastated right now. | had long gf fight her pride issues recently and when she got back our reconnection seems like things were getting back together, we agreed we shouldn't talk again and slept with someone while on trip. She's devastated and I'm angry. She needs my forgiveness. Is there any way to make amends or get past this? | 6.477465 | 5.36053 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: confused.
POST: I am not biased towards religion nor am I biased for or against atheism. I try not judge people by their personal beliefs because I know we are all different, either through evolution or through some supreme being. It doesn't matter to me if you think that God created us,... | browse /r/atheism and see that atheism demands the most attention from the subreddit followers/lurkers and hate intolerance; I would like to see some other subreddits that speak of universal tolerance, kindness, caring, etc. without the need for religion or non-religion. | browse /r/atheism and see some VERY religious people posting hateful threads whose sole purpose is their personal belief system. They too follow another subreddit that shows indifference towards others and hate intolerance. I wish to see if there is anyone lurking that believes in being kind, generous, loving, caring ... | 4.049487 | 3.255686 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Letting my Brothers onto an Social Experiment I was Planning.
POST: Not so recently, my grandma was put into a personal care home due to a broken hip and both of her daughters just not having the time to be able to care for her as she needs to be. More recently, the pitbull that the c... | had grandma put personal care home with the pitbulls that have had puppies from the previous litter with names that have been out of reach due to shyness, when i decided to name the pups from the social experiment and see if prospective parents catch on, they connected all the dots and questioned why I named the pups ... | grandma put some very small pups into personal care home that were all likely to be adopted in our area by how many prospective adopters catch on to the name and my conservative decision to name my beautiful shy pitbull an Alfalfa was the cause of my fuck up. I'm upset now. | 5.535104 | 3.523325 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: There is a 80% chance I (20F) can't have children, but my boyfriend (24M) will not stop bringing up wanting to have his own kids. I don't know what to do.
POST: I found out recently that I have a medical condition that makes it very difficult for me to conceive, and very, very risky ... | had very difficult medical condition that makes it hard to get pregnant in my future, let my boyfriend know it will make it very difficult to have kids, he still brings up wanting his own kids. I don't know what to do. I just wish I could be the pregnant woman he wants in the future. | have very difficult medical condition that makes it very risky for me to have pregnancy and very difficult to conceive, let my bf know I would not be interested in having kids, but he still brings up wanting them someday. I don't know what to do. | 4.298221 | 2.766231 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] ended a very new relationship with a long time friend [24 F] because we seemed to want different things out of our relationship. She seemed to agree when I brought it up to her, but now I am not sure if I did the right thing.
POST: So I had met this girl when I started this ... | had pretty long term crush in my social circle during new relationship after meeting other dating, after awhile things seemed to end sour, talked about maybe moving past it, but after some days things seem distant. I may have done wrong by choosing different things from my relationship. | had very new long time mutual crush crush come up feelings in new relationship, then out of the blue kissed, seemed to reciprocate, only for distance later. Made me view relationship as not as fulfilling. I may have done wrong. I feel like I lost some potential relationship. | 6.411752 | 5.253148 |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: really need your help with my cat, Never seen him act like this
POST: So my brother comes over my house a lot and he is really scared of my cat, my cat is 2 and has always been a sweet heart so I never de-clawed him but today well I was working on my computer the my brother came home I didnt ... | my brother comes over my house alot his scared my cat might act like gun crazy and hurt him when we argue over action on handling the cat other then just locking him up I need help determining what really happened and what got over him when he acted like that and made growling sounds of the cat. | work forever brother comes over feels fearing my cat and acts like weird noise when he comes home and drops dead his leg looks horrible the cat locked him up so I had to take him out before he defused the situation. I really need help with the cat he acts like that all the time it scares me. | 4.815871 | 4.178096 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] love my boyfriend [24M] dearly, but I don't want to move in with him...
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years.
Our relationship for the most part has been pretty good. We get along well in nearly every capacity - life plans, sex, etc. I'm very happy with h... | love long term relationship, get very happy in every aspect of our relationship with my ex moving in we have big family issues, but I don't want living with him in the future. Should I say something to indicate my love? Is this really a big issue? | love relationship very good, but moving in with my bf after college impede my ability to see family often - I don't like living with him longer than a few days at a time. What should I say/do to him to make up for this? | 5.895803 | 2.601056 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] 6 months, girlfriend talks to exes and gets mad when I talk to girls
POST: So my GF is my first sexual partner, my GF has had many.
She talks to guys from her past. She talks weekly to 2 exes, which I'm fine with, but we recently got into a big fight, bec... | GF talks sex/past exes in group chat, hates when GF talks past sexual stuff, now upset her when I talk to other attractive girls who had pasts that talked dirty. She gets mad when I talk to good looking female friends from elementary school. | gf talks to past exes relationships when we talk infrequently, having big fights over them when she talked to other girls, talking makes her mad that I talk to certain good looking females. I need to make it clear she said she's going to talk to who she wants to. She seems to have ulterior motives. | 4.60029 | 3.992276 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Help, i feel like my step mom is being very unfair...
POST: So, lets start off by saying im a freshman, so, yes, im young, but i still need help. Last night i was watching Netflix in bed (It was about 12) and my stepmom texted me and told me to turn it down, so i put in headphones, problem... | watch parental controls time block with my stepmom, just turned off headphones, and dad says disrespecting other people and inviting them to watch netflix past 10, can i get away with it without getting grounded etc. i dont want moral advice, its simply allowing me to watch netflix in the evening past 10, no one els... | had kids watching obnoxious parental control at night, stepmom asked for my respect and when i told her i would only remove settings she got mad i had more control than she did. should i do it or risk being caught? | 5.21372 | 3.528299 |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [discussion] Dog very injured and I'm emotionally terrified of what might happen
POST: So my dog turned 11 two days ago, we celebrated and he was so happy. I'm 18 now and we basically grew up together and of course have become attached. Yesterday my father went for a daily walk with him and a... | grew up with happy 11 year old standard that attacked other dog and now dad has severe bite on neck and vet says if dog was smaller it would be dead if attacked. I'm scared and emotionally traumatized. Would love some opinions and insight. | dog turned 11 turns happy when we celebrated growth of relationship and now attacked at vet when dog would probably be dead if smaller dog. Is my emotional fear of losing my dog too great? | 4.927765 | 2.425269 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My close friend [both 20F] is getting married abroad but I don't want to go. Am I being selfish?
POST: We've known each other since teenagers and been through a lot together. She recently got engaged and is planning on having her wedding in Morocco because that's where her family (a... | had close friend get engaged abroad planning wedding abroad and she recently got cheated on multiple times so has bad past with regards to her people/mannerisms etc and scared she could make a horrible impression on her upcoming wedding. Should I/we go through the expense and worry about it ruining her day? | made great connection through high school but recently got engaged in planning overseas wedding and have cheated/drunk multiple times. I don't want to travel with platonic love and hate of the place. Am I being selfish? Should I just stay home? | 4.994701 | 4.82385 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F21] feel frustrated with my boyfriend's [M24] laziness. Am I justified?
POST: I [F21] have been with my boyfriend [M24] for 2 years, lived with him for one year. Maybe it's just because of finals, but I've been feeling increasingly stressed about life over the past few months and... | been busy with life over the past few months expressing stress about my upcoming school work and my boyfriend tends to lazy when playing video games, my request for housework was just ignored. Feeling under appreciated. Am I justified in feeling frustrated? | been feeling stressed about life lately about my well paying part time job with my boyfriend that he doesn't really care about doing, he often times lazily plays video games or does other housework, I asked him to do some things but lately things have been feeling under appreciated. Am I justified feeling upset? | 5.131205 | 4.640842 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Alright Reddit, What is the worst/craziest thing you've ever done at a party?
POST: I only think it is fair I should begin.
So growing up in a small town everybody knows everybody but once in awhile we got a rare chance to go to these massive house parties out in the country. These part... | party throws rare chance you never see kids at huge house party where you need to pee and the countdown timer starts in your head when you see the smell. You start peeing as soon as you wake up. Nobody cares or talks about the horrific smell. | party brings out very rare chance god takes me peeing and I start running towards my worst guess and holy shit I pee that smell and my system is already critical. I hear some weird hissing noise just before I finish. | 4.799696 | 4.538069 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I just saw my ex boyfriend for the first time in a year.
POST: We had an extremely emotionally intense relationship. Together for 2 years, lived together for the second year. We didn't have a crazy break up, we were both so numb and exhausted that we just said this is it and kind of d... | had intense emotional relationship in past couple years. ended up seeing ex boyfriend on Friday and had a hug when we left. I miss our connection but I don't think love can be recreated without the emotional baggage. Part of me wants to try again but now I'm more aware he might never happen. Any advice? | very intense emotionally loving relationship during mid-year break. I saw ex boyfriend running on new dogs and hugging a lot and I miss him. Part of me wants to try again but I'm more aware now I probably won't have the emotional capacity. I'd rather not waste time/energy if it's not possible. | 5.355484 | 4.688202 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [25 M] seeing this Girl [24F] for a month, doesn't do oral..
POST: Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Now I've posted here because no, I haven't spoken to her about this and would like some advice.
Been seeing this girl, let's call her Stacey, for about a month or so. She's attract... | been seeing pretty girl with good work etc lately has sex 10 times a day but not oral but would like some advice on talking about oral sex with her next time we have sex. She is respectful, attractive etc. I'd love some advice on how to go about talking respectfully. | seen attractive girl great personality etc things have been great so far but sex falls off after oral so far and would like respectful advice on talking to her about tongue and kissing etc. She doesn't like oral so far. What's stopping her from using it? | 5.196936 | 4.758507 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21F] and my boyfriend of a year [21M] are starting to face a long distance relationship and I don't know how to handle it
POST: Me and my boyfriend have been friends for four years and dating for a year, the past year has been one of the best years of my life. We don't fight we co... | had amazing great long distance relationship at age my 21st right now moving school distance and i will also be without car and working so will be long distance we both realize we will not see each other often. scared we may turn sour and lose our relationship peace. what things did you do to stay together? | really happy four year long LDR with great communication love our future as well as distance and actual distance make it difficult for us to see each other often. We both realize that the distance will sour the relationship but are scared we might break up to preserve the good times we both have had. | 8.25773 | 4.445133 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 F] think that the guy I've been seeing for a couple months [39 M] is hiding a smoking habit from me.
POST: Short backstory: I've known him for about 4.5 years, he got divorced last year, we've been seeing each other for about two months. As long as I've known him I've never see... | dated guy who got pretty smoky in past relationship (known of dislike smoking) that I saw at his place Saturday night. Did he actually have a pack or was that just an excuse to talk smoky? Should I bring it up/ignore it? Is there anything that could even become an issue? | seen guy dating for long time smoke free thing and eventually asking if it made him uncomfortable, saw a pack in his pocket. I thought he meant a smoky drunk but when he came back inside he sat a little further away from me than usual (as far as I can tell). Is it an issue? | 5.743262 | 3.51938 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) of 5 years are taking a break....but we still live together in seperate rooms. This feels weird. How can we make this break work?
POST: I posted this about a week ago for anyone that wants to read a more detailed version of why we went on a break:
We... | had sex sizzle 5 years ago with my long term relationship with SO after taking break and want to fall back in love but we share living space. Any rules we need to make this work? | SO/boyfriend have long term lease on relationship and want break to review our love/sex life. Sizzle is gone but we still live together. How can we make it work? Breaking rules is the only option. | 4.328185 | 3.302735 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I *Might* be a father again. How am I supposed to handle this? [25M]
POST: I had a fling for about a month with a girl back in September. We had unprotected sex but I pulled out.... which I know isn't perfect. Yesterday, she called me and wanted to talk. Apparently she is pregnant an... | had fling was casual sexual with girl but had unprotected pregnancy so it may be othering the child. Today she called wanting to talk and said I am the father. I don't want that upset my marriage so I don't want to be or not be the father. What do I need to be doing? | had casual fling with girl last month we had unprotected sex but we pulled out the pregnancy so its very difficult for her to stay close with me. She said she would like to not be the father. What do I need to do now that I may be the father? | 4.982715 | 3.513271 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] want to ask my coworker [??F] out but I never get an opening. Need suggestions..
POST: I work in retail with someone who I seem to have a good chemistry with and I think she would agree if I were to ask her, but the problem is that we never have a moment where I can do that.
... | work with great chemistry with my coworker who has mutual customers and we see each other pretty regularly but the rare moments when we would be alone and close and my asking she would be very shy/childish I dont want to seem cheesy. Also would asking people other than her coworkers be childish. | work with really attractive female coworker in retail and chemistry seems great but we never get an opening with customers/coworkers when we see each other so I'm thinking about asking if she would like to have a movie or something in front of coworkers but would be embarrassing if she said no. What are some other opt... | 6.653537 | 5.591855 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22/F) think I have feelings for (25/M). Can't tell if it's mutual (x-post from r/wemetonline)
POST: Heyooo,
So, I met this guy online on a non-dating website 6 months ago. We started talking every day, we've video chatted a few times, and we've exchanged literally thousands of me... | started online platonic friendship 6 months ago with guy hinting at travel when we talked every day and exchanged messages every single day. Now I feel very attracted to him and start preparing trip where we'll meet and we've agreed on me leaving the uk for meeting. I don't know if it's mutual feeling or platonic. How... | online dating started talking 6 months ago and had mutual feelings for guy we've talked every day and it could be platonic but he gave some mixed messages lately in the messages so I don't think there is a mutual thing. What are some signs that it might be something more and could be platonic? | 5.989507 | 4.576016 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] suspect my Wife [29 F] of 2 years may be cheating. Need advice.
POST: My wife and I have been growing apart lately (lack of intimacy for about 3 months) and I've noticed a couple strange things that I want some unbiased opinions on.
She goes to the gym 5 days a week for a ... | growing apart wife goes to gym 5 days a week for hickeys and other suspicious activities and I've seen text/phone program that clearly shows they were chatting. I suspect she may be cheating. Need unbiased opinion. I want to avoid damaging our marriage. | growing apart my wife goes to work 5 days a week at the gym and has text conversations that are obvious like looking up places she's been looking at and at other times hiding her phone/laptop. I suspect she may be cheating and I need unbiased opinions. What do I do? | 3.998407 | 3.860954 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my ex [25 F] broke up and I feel guilty and sad since I initiated it
POST: We had been dating for about six months and things were going reasonably well. I liked her and she liked me. I'd say there wasn't a very intense passion to the relationship, but there was defini... | had very loving/discreet time during dating with ex who had issues with passion/hanging out in bedroom, I felt like something lacking but ended up breaking up recently after talking about it. Still sad and feel very guilty/guilty that my actions were the sticking factor. | had long-term love/dating with ex and felt like our passion was lacking so I felt like initiating a breakup when stating incompatibilities, but ended up hurting our feelings. Also felt guilty because I felt like I should've said something more explicitly about it. Don't really have words of wisdom. | 6.134606 | 3.874019 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Frustrated with these people...
POST: So, here's the gist of the situation. Got a girl, who broke with a boy, decided she hated him, then got back together with said boy after about 2 weeks, when he came crawling back.
The girl and I are in a close relationship, and she tried to hid... | girl decided broke up with guy hating after returning back together when they got back together, hid she really disliked him, and when she talked abrasively over texting. Frustrated with her. I'd love any advice/help, thanks in advance. | had very shady breakup involving girl who got back together with ex, hid it when she got angry at the other guy, and decided she hated him. now the guy's coming crawling back and she's upset with the callous way she talks/acts when we're not talking face to face. what should I do? | 7.22826 | 6.037946 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf wants an explenation from me [Both 24]
POST: This is a fight we had 2 times before, it's hard on our relationship, and if she doesn't get an explenation that it isn't going to happen anymore it's the end. Relationship of 2,5 years.
We are 2 outgoing people, we do alot of fun t... | have fight 2 times where gf was very ranting drunk when out with friends, she did a lot of negative things with her, now she asks me or i don't trust her when she got upset and wants an explenation, i regret this now. what is causing the problem? | have fights when gf party drunk, if she tells me she doesn't love the party anymore when she's 5/7 drunk, i regret the explenation now, i want to end the relationship. Could her issue be caused by the drinking? | 4.400714 | 4.331615 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my BF [27 M]: His housemate wants me to pay rent and bills just for staying there.
POST: I don't think I'm being unreasonable by asking WTF kind of backwards thinking is this:
*I've been with my boyfriend almost 18 months.
*I stay at his house (and h... | have been with my bf our relationship almost 18 months and stay at his housemate's house nights most weeks with very limited use of things like electricity & things like that. I just asked him WTF kind of backwards thinking and he said no rent/bills are not an issue. I'm not completely honest about my usage so help ... | have been long with BF who stays at his house most nights for most nights of the week when things have been going awfully well - asking if I'm abusive and asking if I've ever asked my housemates to pay for things when I don't use them myself.
I'm venting about it tonight and will talk to my BF. | 6.783285 | 6.007585 |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: So I got dumped by my best friend and all I want is to talk to him about, how do I get away from this circle jerk that is us?
POST: We have been best friends for 3 years, friends is such a stupid concept when it comes to boys and girls though, at least for us. Anyways, he broke up with me... | had best friend break up with because when we aren't together when he loves when we are together. At the end all he talks about is hate and I dont want to leave my house or go through that circle jerk that is us when we aren't together. How do I get away from this? | best friendship that when we aren't together we get girl awful feelings from our other when we aren't together we talk about other issues and I thought he was about to tell me he loves me when he broke up, surprise bitch. I want to get away from this circle jerk. | 4.720586 | 3.724307 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to throw a great party, Reddit. What are some special things that I can do to make this happen?
POST: Alright, so my 19th birthday is next Friday. I live in a college town, renting a house alone for the summer, and I want to throw a great party. I have invited friends from both sc... | party 19th birthday renting with some school friends and school is inviting everyone from all over the state, but some won't show. I want party to be awesome and scale well while still staying under control so everyone has a good time. What else can I do to make it happen? | party 19th birthday next fri, invite friends from college and home, having fun, want event to be great but not too lame and people still have good time. What else can I do to make it perfect? | 4.957498 | 3.055647 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do I [23f], who has an amazing family and loving friends with a good life, hate myself? And how can I get past it?
POST: So this is me... I have a loving and amazing family. I have many loving friends. I have a great social life. It is easy for me to get the guy I want. I've just... | have loving and amazing family who have had hard breakups. had horribly low self esteem at start. Recently dating great guy, hate feelings but can't figure out why. Due to big things happening in past. What could happen with horrible self esteem & hate? I get very sad. | have amazing loving family/social life, had recent breakup that left awful feeling, hate self when alone. Hate when trying to figure out why. I thought I could get past it but now i dislike myself so much more. I don't know why. How can I get past this hate? | 6.082449 | 5.765723 |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I'm worried.
POST: I'm incredibly worried about my younger cousins; I have been for some time, but tonight it's different. Today their father killed himself. Their parents have been separated for some time, and my cousins have been living with their mom and grandma out in the country fo... | has been dealing with younger cousins troubled mental health issues for last 3/12 years, and is now moving to living with mom and grandma. I'm worried they will struggle expressing their emotions verbally. What can I do to help? | VERY worried about older cousins with mental health issues from ages 5-12, living with parents out in rural area. I can't even tell if they know yet. Need any advice or experience. | 4.420661 | 2.947695 |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by scaring the shit out of my friends
POST: So this happened just today. We're in highschool and me and my three friends (lets call them Bob, Steven and Tong) were eating lunch and chilling. We were making fun of Bob as we usually do and then Tong brings up the topic of the Charlie, Char... | making fun of highschool friend playing pencil game where no pencil move when the other 2 tried it and scared the crap out of my friends. We calmed everything down and started trying it ourselves. We all blew it 'No'. | Made fun mocking my friends pencil game when they asked for the Charlie, and Bob my scared our of the game and tried the game to scare us our of the game we all blew it and made it say No. | 5.750797 | 3.730661 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20F) am still good friends with my ex (25M). We're both in a relationship, but last night he started trying to sext me. What should I do?
POST: We've been friends since we broke up almost 3 years ago and this is the first time he's tried anything like this. I told him that I wasn'... | had long time friendship with broken up long times ago with my ex who started sexting after last night saying he had feelings. My advice is we handle it properly and if he changes his mind I'm cool. Did I handle it correctly? What else should I do? | had friendship after our recent breakup with ex where he tried sexting last night, saying he liked my growth since we dated. I handled it correctly. What else should I do since our friendship is still pretty fragile? | 5.456197 | 5.178383 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I think I suck at my job.
POST: Now I make mistakes sometimes. Usually fine detail mistakes, like a typo in an important place. Or not knowing that someone put training equipment on a truck and I dispatch it on a job. I would say I could tack up one good mistake per month working.
I just c... | have fine detail mistakes in my job. Sought human error defense when I come out of meeting that every mistake is unacceptable. So what is a reasonable expectation for an employee? Is human error okay? Does it mean I can't do detailed jobs? | make mistake at job working for 8 months and good detail work gets put on my GM's name at meetings. I think I make mistakes. I want to see if I meet expectations for detail work. What's a reasonable standard? | 3.515097 | 3.092499 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [30 F] boyfriend [25 M] of 14 months, we are considering moving in together in a home that I own. What's the best way to split expenses?
POST: My boyfriend and I are discussing moving in together in the fall when his lease is up. We've been together for just over a year.
We both ... | long term engagement with same income making discussing moving in together when lease ends and intending to put down equity in home we both share. We are both considering splitting monthly expenses 50/50. What's the best way to divide expenses? Should we expect a rent payment 50/50? Or is that reasonable? | my long term dating my share our housing expenses, as we are aiming at moving in together in the fall when lease ends. We both make similar salaries so we'd expect to split expenses. Also I put down $60K of my own money on the purchase of the house. How do I structure my payments? | 5.175944 | 3.456851 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[19M] pissed off with my [19F] over sickness (long term relationship)
POST: So to keep it as brief as possible I have been dating my SO for coming up 5 years now, every things been great yadayada.
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Two weeks ago I came down with viral meningitis and was administered to hospital ... | long term relationship came down with meningitis in past illness that made my GF/SO avoid visiting making since but for now she has been unwell and has blowing off plans to have her come visit shortly. Do I have a right to be angry/sick with her for not visiting? | long term sex positive relationship gets sick with meningitis over a recent event and GF has failed to visit during this time and now has cold calls from guy friend. I feel extremely upset and I have no idea why. Do I have a right to be pissed? | 4.297667 | 2.662879 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I being ridiculous for being upset that my boyfriend [30M] would rather bring family (that he is not close to) to his graduation rather than me [28F]?
POST: Some background: Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year. We attend different school... | long distance relationship has great love for both parties but my bf only has 6 tickets for graduation when family we most care about isn't invited. Am I being ridiculous for being upset that he would rather bring his family instead of me? He doesn't specifically say he wants me at his graduation. I would love to be t... | long distance love for our bf attended different schools and graduations which months in distance, and he only has 6 tickets for his graduation. He doesnt talk to most of the family he was close with, and his girlfriend doesnt get invited. Am I being hurt by that? I dont really take precedence over his graduation, so ... | 5.921384 | 5.687489 |
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