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I don't want to live in the dormitory in high school. I'm afraid of feeling helpless and not being able to separate myself from the outside world without my phone. | Since junior high school, I have been very afraid of going to school. Whenever I am at school or think about going to school, I feel uncomfortable. I miss home a lot when I am at school, and when I return home, I feel unhappy and uncomfortable too. I don't want to speak, I just want to cry. I feel unsafe, mentally drai... | Emotions, depressive emotions, anxious emotions, emotion regulation. | [
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"answer_text": "The pace of growth cannot be stopped, and your problem lies in your strong dependence. You need to take the initiative to take an independent step. From the perspective of someone like me, being a boarding student is probably the happiest thing. You don't have to face constant nagging at home,... | 11,161 |
A second-year middle school student, his mother at home is very strict about his studies, would she beat him up if he doesn't listen? | My mother is very strict. I want to learn music, painting, and playing games, but she doesn't allow me to do so. Moreover, my mother feels that I am hopeless and not focused on my studies. She checks my phone records and phone bills every day, and doesn't let me call or message anyone. She even hits me when she closes ... | Family, communication with parents, family control. | [
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"answer_text": "On the day I received the college acceptance letter, I told my dad that I really don't like going to school. I've been studying for so long, and now I have to continue. My dad said it's because I'm not brave enough. If I give up and stop studying, no one can force me. After all, I am my own pe... | 18,441 |
Why do male teachers get nervous and blush when they come near themselves? | My male teacher is my geography teacher for this semester. He looks good and is gentle. He doesn't scold or treat people harshly. He is a typical kind-hearted man. On the first day when the teacher came to class, I felt scared. But slowly, I found that he is not strict at all and very gentle. I started to develop a lit... | Emotions, healing methods, guilt and shame. | [
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"answer_text": "Excuse me, are you a boy or a girl? How old are you? Why is there no punctuation throughout the text? Did you feel nervous and a little shy while writing this paragraph? It is normal for us to find someone or a certain type of person attractive because certain qualities of that person may attr... | 21,418 |
I feel like I'm really bad at speaking and I'm afraid of being disliked by others. How can I change this? | 16-year-old girl, my parents have always been saying that I speak without thinking, especially silly, saying whatever comes to mind. But I just can't develop the habit of thinking things over. My friends also say that I don't know how to control myself, and I'm really afraid of being disliked by others. How can I chang... | Growth, personality development, character traits, self-acceptance | [
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"answer_text": "Hello classmate, based on your description, I feel like you are a very straightforward person. Actually, straightforward people can be quite adorable sometimes. However, if our words hurt others, it may be necessary to make some appropriate changes. When expressing our opinions to others, it i... | 15,345 |
How to get rid of the influence brought by the original family and change this character to reshape oneself? | In 97, my three older sisters, on average, are 10 years older than me. My parents are in their 60s and there is a significant generation gap when communicating with them. My sisters are much older than me, and we don't have much in common, resulting in very little communication with my family. We only contact each othe... | Family, family relationships, parental communication, growth process | [
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"answer_text": "China's parents are the best parents in the world, but also the worst parents. They can give us everything they have, but in terms of thoughts, they often neglect us. It is so difficult to hear a word of recognition from our parents. I can understand the feelings of the OP because I grew up in... | 20,678 |
I lack confidence in my intelligence and always avoid thinking. What should I do? | It is possible that I was previously criticized for being stupid, and I am very worried about my intelligence. Every time I try to think, I always avoid it. I feel annoyed every time, and I lose my enthusiasm for thinking. Whenever I encounter unfamiliar knowledge, I tend to memorize it blindly. Even if I feel like I h... | Growth, character refinement, self-acceptance, and student development. | [
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"answer_text": "You may not be good at logical thinking, and that's okay. Everyone has different intellectual structures, and you may have talents in other areas such as memory, perception, aesthetics, sense of rhythm, etc., which are all normal. Look for and develop your strengths, you don't have to limit yo... | 17,094 |
I have sexual relations with my father and do not know what to do? | In the past few months, I have been having sexual relations with my father and it has continued until now. I don't know what to do. | Family, family relationships, family control | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, OP~ I don't know how old you are this year. Are you already an adult? You and your father have the closest blood relationship, and engaging in a sexual relationship is inappropriate behavior. If you are still underage, I suggest you explain your situation to your mother and try to move ... | 10,436 |
I have a same-sex friend, and during our conversation, she said she has no interest in men. | I know a married female friend. I am a woman with short hair and a slightly masculine vibe. I don't know how we hit it off, but we eventually became good friends. We have known each other for almost two years. During a conversation, she mentioned that she is not interested in men. I don't know if it's true or not, but ... | Love, sexual orientation | [
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"answer_text": "Title owner, hello. I apologize that I cannot answer whether your friend is of the same sex or not. I believe your main concern is whether she likes you or not. I don't know if your friend likes you, but I suspect you might have feelings for her. Whether it's a same-sex or opposite-sex attract... | 19,325 |
I am 27 years old, extremely low self-esteem, often thinking about death, unable to sleep at night and crying all the time. | All my friends around me are getting married, and my relatives are also urging me. However, I feel extremely insecure and fearful of dating and marriage. But I don't want to worry my parents. I stay up very late every night, and sometimes even contemplate suicide. I become extremely sensitive and take even the slightes... | Emotions, healing methods, anxiety, emotional regulation. | [
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"answer_text": "Dear friend, hello! I can see that you are feeling anxious, and I understand why. Besides not being married yet, what else makes you feel inferior? Take some time to really get to know and understand yourself. Recognize the compliments from your friends, appreciate the care from your family, a... | 7,956 |
In my freshman year, I feel like I am very plain and unsophisticated. How can I truly become confident from the inside out? | I am a freshman student, and my family condition is pretty good. My life is harmonious and relatively happy. My grades are also acceptable, but not outstanding. The aspect I am most unsatisfied with is my appearance and fashion sense. I feel like I look plain and unfashionable. When I encounter people who are exception... | Growth, personality development, self-acceptance. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello there! From your description, I can sense that you care a lot about your appearance and clothing, and that it has been bothering you. Sending you a hug. It is common for people to have a desire to look beautiful, so this is not your fault. We all want to better ourselves, and this is a c... | 3,414 |
A girl, who doesn't have many friends in class, what should she do? | Girls, I don't have many friends in class. Other female classmates always go out to eat and use the restroom together, but I'm always left alone. Previously, I used to hang out with them, but something happened and it seems like they don't want to hang out with me anymore, so I just naturally withdrew. Since it's a sci... | Interpersonal relationships, roommates, classmates, social adaptation. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello girls~ After reading your description, it seems that you are having a hard time fitting in with your four female classmates in the science class. Feeling excluded is making you frustrated and lonely, is that right? You mentioned that you used to hang out with them and had a good relation... | 11,024 |
Should I break off this relationship? I have developed feelings for my therapist, what should I do? | I went to the school counseling office in Japan to seek advice after a failed presentation in class. The counselor was a professor at the school, but we had no other interaction besides the counseling sessions. I have been going for counseling for two months. I was able to successfully complete the second presentation ... | Treatment, psychological counseling. | [
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"answer_text": "Author, hello! Reading your description, what comes to mind is transference of a sexual nature, where the visitor falls in love with the counselor. This type of transference often occurs in opposite-sex counseling relationships. The counseling relationship is a special kind of relationship, un... | 9,255 |
17-year-old girl, preparing for the college entrance examination, has poor mental state and is very anxious, how to adjust? | I used to think that I was doing fine. I could come up with ideas that my classmates couldn't think of. But since this semester started, I feel like my brain doesn't work as well. I have to think for a long time even for simple questions, and I often daydream during class. Even though I know I should work harder, I jus... | Emotions, anxious emotions, emotional regulation | [
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"answer_text": "Hi there, my friend! Reading your description, it seems like you're going through a crucial period of intense studying in your third year of high school, but you're having trouble adjusting your mental state. I completely understand your anxiety. Based on your description, it seems that your s... | 1,133 |
Is it true when they always say everything is for your own good? | Is it really for my own good when you always say that all of this is for my own good? I just don't feel it. | Interpersonal relationships, deception and trust, interpersonal boundaries. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, I believe that many people will experience situations like the one you described. In our daily lives, we often hear things like that, all for your own good. Whether it's from parents or relatives and friends, they might all say the same thing. But whether it's good or not, I think each ... | 11,928 |
Aunt Flo is coming soon, and I get easily irritable before her arrival. How can I control my temper? | Before Aunt Flo comes, my emotions are always bad. I'm easily irritated and extremely sensitive. How can I avoid feeling so agitated and irritable? | Emotion, emotion regulation, emotional intelligence | [
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"answer_text": "\"Louzhu, hello~ First, let me give you an encouraging hug. I completely understand how you're feeling right now. This is actually a very normal phenomenon, and many little fairies experience Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS). Although the causes of PMS are still unclear in the medical field, it is ... | 1,248 |
Should older single young women stay in first-tier cities or return to their hometown in third-tier cities? | I graduated at the age of 24 and moved to Guangzhou. Now, I have been drifting in Guangzhou for 8 years. My career hasn't made much progress, and I am a 32-year-old single woman. My hometown is a third-tier city, and it is very difficult to find a partner at the age of 32. The working environment is not good, and there... | Growth, stress management, work and learning, the meaning of life. | [
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"answer_text": "Actually, this issue is essentially a lifestyle problem. First of all, you should understand that people have social attributes and are not machines that work without any thoughts after being switched on. People need friends and social activities, otherwise they are prone to psychological prob... | 4,223 |
I feel empty inside and always hope that someone can take care of and pay attention to me. | I recently always involuntarily do things that attract attention or evokes pity. I really hope to have someone to take care of me and pay attention to me, but I can't find anyone. I feel empty inside, and I always subconsciously seek attention from others, which makes people look down on me. What's wrong with me now? H... | Behavior, please, stay up late, emptiness. | [
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"answer_text": "Hug, OP~ I can totally understand how you feel. Everyone craves to be cared for, and it's completely normal. [Problem Analysis] The main issue for the OP is the desire for attention, leading them to do things that seek attention or sympathy in the hope of being taken care of. This leads to a s... | 14,347 |
20 years old, especially lacking love (warmth in the family), especially feeling insecure. | Why do other people's fathers love their children so much, always thinking about them and considering them in everything? My father always ignores me and tonight he even scolded me because I accidentally dropped a pot. I'm already 20 years old and it's been a long time since someone scolded me like this. I really don't... | Family, family relationships, parent communication. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, hug you, who is already twenty years old, but was scolded by your dad for breaking a pot. It's indeed a bit frustrating. Have you tried to communicate with your dad? Can you guess why your dad made a big deal out of this small matter? From your description, it seems that there is not mu... | 14,754 |
I do not like my husband's family, often having suicidal thoughts, but I cannot bear to leave my child... | and her husband got to know each other and dated for a year and a half. They met each other's parents a few times during this period, once at her parents' house, and each time she would carefully prepare gifts for his parents. The time they went to her house, she led him to the supermarket to buy things. They got marri... | marriage, concept of marriage, marriage management | [
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"answer_text": "OP, this will have an impact on both your body and the baby's. Your parents have good intentions, and your husband also cares about you. However, there may be different customs regarding dowries due to regional differences, which lead to different beliefs. I understand that you may feel angry ... | 5,497 |
How can I forget the person I love after breaking up? | I am deeply in love with a girl. We were very happy together. After knowing each other for 7 months, I started to doubt her. For example, I expected her to respond to my messages instantly, and if it took too long, I would think she was chatting with someone else. At the beginning of our relationship, our meetings were... | Love, heartbreak | [
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"answer_text": "You love the girl very much and pay a lot of attention to her. However, love often makes people worry and doubt, causing them to have uncontrollable thoughts. These thoughts will unconsciously affect your behavior and attitude, causing cracks in the relationship. Why do we always remember past... | 8,681 |
14-year-old girl, parents divorced when she was young and have been quarreling. Then both found new partners. | When I was young, my family was quite wealthy. However, my father loved playing mahjong and ended up selling the car and house to invest in a distant relative's business. But that relative took the money and ran away. After that, my parents always fought. First, my father had an affair, and I think I found out before m... | Emotions, healing methods, anxiety emotions, emotional regulation | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, seeing your situation, I feel very sorry for you and want to give you a big hug! Your parents' divorce has caused you harm and made you feel insecure, especially now that your only source of support, your mother, has a boyfriend. You are afraid that she will leave you like your father d... | 11,660 |
It's very sad and dark, nothing has meaning anymore, and I want to end the pain by committing suicide. | I just want to know if there is any suicide method that is painless and not distressing, as I feel very sad and dark, and everything seems meaningless. | Treatment, psychological crisis. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, I'm glad to answer for you. I understand your pain and feeling that many things have no meaning. What happened to you that made you so sad? Or is it something else? Since you are in this world, you should live for yourself. My situation now is similar to yours, and I also feel that life... | 4,067 |
How to overcome the fear caused by wandering thoughts? | When alone at home, sometimes a person may inexplicably worry if there are bad people hiding behind the door or under the bed. They may wonder if there are thieves or burglars breaking in. How does this happen and how can one avoid scaring themselves with such imagined thoughts? | Behavior, hypochondria, anxiety, confusion | [
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"answer_text": "Hello ~ I understand your feelings very well, sending you a hug ~ Sometimes having such thoughts is quite normal, but it may be due to some underlying insecurity. First of all, I suggest closing the doors and windows when you are at home, as it will give you a sense of being protected. Secondl... | 8,467 |
16 years old, in sophomore year of high school, always feels inexplicably anxious, occurring every two days, lasting for a year and a half? | Eighth grade, first semester of high school, physical discomfort combined with stress and some academic matters, I always fall asleep in class, which then leads to anxiety. I thought this could be resolved, but even when I try to adjust and restore my study state, this anxiety comes back every two days. I break out in ... | Emotions, healing methods, anxiety. | [
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"answer_text": "\"OP, hello~~~ Sending you a warm hug. From your description, I understand that you are currently troubled by some inexplicable anxiety that occurs periodically. I don't know how to deal with it either. First, let's try to identify the reasons for our anxiety. In your description, you mentione... | 10,080 |
I am a mother of two children, how can I determine if I am mentally healthy? | I think I have some psychological problems. I was very introverted when I was a child, and I hardly had any friends. Even now, as a mother of two children, I still don't have any friends. I worry that my eldest child will be like me, having poor interpersonal relationships, and I don't know what to do about it. | Treatment, disease diagnosis, psychological counseling. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello~ I completely understand your feelings, sending you a big hug~ If you have any concerns about your mental health, you can go for a professional and comprehensive mental health test. This method will help you have a better understanding of your psychological state and also provide you wit... | 5,415 |
"People say that even if it is advice, it is difficult to have a positive attitude to face it." | During the meeting, I happened to overhear something that wasn't of much use to me. I glanced at my phone, and at that moment, my aunt didn't purposely lower her voice and said, "Playing with your phone is better than not attending the class at all." I felt extremely embarrassed internally and had a particularly awkwar... | Growing up, improving one's character, personal qualities, and self-development. | [
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"answer_text": "We can start by understanding what negative evaluation means. Negative evaluation, in most cases, refers to others evaluating the methods of others from their own perspective, without considering the feelings of the individuals involved or trying to see the problem from the other person's poin... | 1,467 |
Lovesickness, feeling like there is no escape, how should I face it with what kind of mindset? | I don't want to like her, but I can't do it alone. I have gone far away, leaving my hometown and cutting off contact with the people around me. I thought that a new place and new things could alleviate this condition, but in the past two years, I have gained nothing. I have returned to my hometown again, and it has cha... | Love, love management, affection | [
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"answer_text": "Got it, you will no longer long for it. It seems to be saying: Longing, to some extent, brings you some wonderful experiences. This makes you afraid of not longing anymore. So, what are the \"benefits\" that longing brings you? This is worth thinking about. After exploring, maybe you can see i... | 3,627 |
Feeling scared and useless when comparing oneself to others, what should I do? | At first, my friends were not as good as me, but later they all developed better than me while I remained unsuccessful. The neighbors always bring it up, and I feel very sad. I feel so useless. | Growth, self-growth, self-acceptance | [
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"answer_text": "Hello. It seems that your neighbors are not doing so well either. In this era, successful people encourage and inspire others to progress, while unsuccessful people talk behind others' backs, hoping that others don't do better than themselves. Therefore, there is actually no need to care about... | 16,253 |
The workload is enormous, I am on the verge of a breakdown, and there are risks in both resigning or not resigning, what should I choose? | The workload is extremely heavy and there are still unfinished old tasks when new ones come in. The clients are constantly chasing after me as if it's a matter of life and death. I feel like I owe a loan shark with the long-term pressure causing extreme anxiety and even breakdown. There are some minor physical issues, ... | Career, career management, work pressure | [
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"answer_text": "Hi! The main concerns mentioned in the text are: 1. High work pressure, 2. The pressure of being pregnant at the same time, and 3. The importance given to how the company views pregnancy. Based on the psychological knowledge mentioned in your description, it seems to be related to the issue of... | 16,704 |
"Counselors may question what the visitor is saying for what reasons?" | Today I had another unpleasant consultation experience. I miss the counselor I met before and think I should go back to find her. It's really annoying when someone leads the conversation in a negative direction. For example, they asked if I've ever thought about suicide, and I said no. What about self-harm? No. Auditor... | Growth, stress management, work and study, self-acceptance. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, I'm not sure what you have been through. How the conversation with the counselor went, it seems like you have been receiving psychological counseling for some time. I applaud your wisdom. When we are unable to break free from our established patterns, we often face many difficulties. It... | 19,270 |
My mother has chronic nephritis, which is a serious illness that has weakened her significantly. What should I do? | My mother has chronic nephritis, and her condition is very serious and weak. She said she doesn't want to live anymore. What should I do? I really don't know what to do. I comfort her every day and take care of her, but she is still suffering a lot from the severe illness. | Treatment, psychological counseling. | [
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"answer_text": "Rest well and take care of yourself and your mother. Do more good deeds and blessings will multiply. Stay united with your mother. Believe that she will get better and show her that belief. Right now, it's tough, but there is still hope. Don't be sad. Also, ask the doctor if there is anything ... | 12,095 |
I had been in a relationship for exactly two years, but it ended. I feel very suffocated and upset. | Love lasted for exactly two years and ended. I knew it wasn't right, there were many dissatisfactions, and we often argued to the point of breaking down. There were even instances of betrayal. But why is it that, even after the breakup, I still feel suppressed and upset? | Love, heartbreak, infidelity, arguments. | [
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"answer_text": "OP, hello~ First, give you a warm hug. I really understand how you feel. Almost many people have similar experiences, that is, when we really break up with someone we don't like, we find ourselves feeling sad. This is not a mistake in our own feelings, nor does it mean that our personality is ... | 470 |
I belong to the typical type of student who is textbook-oriented. What should I do if I am isolated? | Usually I am more introverted, I am a typical studious student, but my grades are only average. I have heard some classmates mocking me in private, saying that I am working hard for nothing, lacking talent, and stupid. Over time, I also stopped participating in any collective activities. Even though we are in the same ... | Interpersonal relationships, roommates and classmates, interpersonal boundaries. | [
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"answer_text": "Title owner, hello, give me a hug~\nAfter reading your description, it seems that you are in a state of being excluded from your class. Initially, you may have wanted to focus on studying on your own, but later your behavior was not understood by your classmates. When you wanted to integrate i... | 3,367 |
I would feel that I have angered the other person, how can I change my introverted and sensitive personality? | It is in a foreign language. | Interpersonal, social anxiety, communication. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, OP! Hugs to you~ From your description, it seems like you are particularly sensitive and suspicious when it comes to interpersonal relationships. You always try to please others and feel exhausted. You're also particularly sensitive to awkward atmospheres, and I truly sympathize with yo... | 2,799 |
The pressure of the entrance examination is too overwhelming, and my family is too strict. I feel like I never want to study again. | I have been studying for the postgraduate entrance examination for a month. These past two days, I have been feeling restless and annoyed, and I don't want to study anymore. But my dad still asks me almost every day how my studying is going and if everything is okay. It's really my mom who, on the day I gave myself a b... | Growth, stress management, work and study. | [
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"answer_text": "After reading the question, I have three \"don't understand\" in my mind: your parents don't understand you, you don't understand that boy, and that boy doesn't understand you (if the environment you mentioned that only brings you pressure includes that boy). It is not uncommon for parents to ... | 14,045 |
I'm afraid to go back to the life where I lacked self-confidence. Does this kind of psychological suggestion have any meaning? | I used to be a child without confidence. Due to family and personality reasons, I am now aware that I need to change. However, I often remind myself to be confident because I am afraid of returning to my previous life of lack of confidence. My previous life caused me to miss out on many opportunities and the joy of lif... | Growing up, self-growth, work and learning, self-acceptance. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello! Hug to you! From your statement, I understand that due to family and personality reasons, you have become an insecure child. First of all, it can be affirmed that you have been striving to become more confident. Regardless of the results, we are always on the journey. It can be seen tha... | 6,756 |
I am constantly troubled by money issues, how can I solve them? | I am sensitive to colleagues who owe money because it is normal in the workplace for people to borrow money and sometimes forget to pay it back. Lately, I have become extremely petty, feeling very uncomfortable whenever someone owes me a few dollars. I can see her body tensing up inexplicably, and it's really torturing... | Interpersonal relationships, deception and trust, interpersonal boundaries. | [
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"answer_text": "Hello, thank you for inviting. I understand your sensitivity to money and the emotions and interpersonal reactions that may arise from it—times are tough, and not repaying debts is a form of interpersonal violation. Wealthy people are not obligated to bear this burden, and those of us who are ... | 21,029 |
I am a freshman in veterinary medicine. Why don't I find dissecting classes bloody and disgusting? | Recently, I attended my first anatomy lab class. A few people in a group dissected a rabbit. First, we administered anesthesia, then made an incision in the abdomen and removed the small intestine for experimentation. We then placed it back and waited for half an hour before taking it out for observation. However, it s... | Treatment, psychological counseling | [
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"answer_text": "Title, hello, give you a hug~ After reading your description, you are a medical student. During the experiment, the scene of dissection shocked your soul. I sympathize with your experience. According to your description, you found that your behavior was different from others during the experim... | 677 |
If we don't argue, will my girlfriend have a period of time when she doesn't want to talk to me or meet up with me? | I and my girlfriend didn't have an argument, and nothing happened. She just suddenly went through a period of time where she didn't want to talk to me or see me. I don't know why. Can anyone help me? | Love, sense of security, love management, good feeling | [
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"answer_text": "You and your girlfriend didn't have any arguments, nothing happened at all, but suddenly there was a period of time when she didn't want to talk to you or see you. You feel confused, not knowing why. Why doesn't she want to talk to you or see you when everything was fine? You must be very sad ... | 77 |
Sometimes I feel very troubled, I dislike myself, and it's difficult to deal with this feeling. | When I bought a phone case at a physical store, I thought it was good at the time. But then I saw a better-looking one online and I really liked it! I regretted buying the one at the physical store. When I mustered up the courage to say I wanted to return it, the shopkeeper's attitude immediately turned sour. They aggr... | Behavior, confusion. | [
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"answer_text": "Desire, when reaching out its tentacles, gets bitten by reality. When dealing with desires and needs, it's only necessary to sift and differentiate. Reasonable needs are what safeguard rights and interests. Comparing prices from three different stores is a way of assessing the situation; makin... | 10,894 |
A 5-year-old boy refuses to write and always says he doesn't know how to write. What methods can be used to motivate him? | A five-year-old boy only knows how to write the number 1. He always says he can't write the homework assigned by the teacher. His family patiently teaches him to write, but he still can't do it, and more often than not, he doesn't want to write and just wants to play. The teacher also tells the parents that the child i... | Growing up, child's growth | [
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"answer_text": "Hello. You are too anxious... Of course, what the kindergarten teacher said is also a source of pressure for you. And you are worried about the fear of your child \"falling behind others\". This layer upon layer of pressure and anxiety, when conveyed to the child, the child will instinctively ... | 4,058 |
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