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4pcrle	aita for wanting to celebrate my birthday	i turned 30 on monday. i don't have a problem with being 30 and i have never been big on having a party for me because i don't want to be the center of attention. things are incredibly stressful because we are cleaning out our condo, which we officially close on the 30th. we can't close on our new house until the 14th ...	nta	i think you know your nta, it seems like you just wanted to write out all your complaints because this whole thing is just a complaints list and a story of how no one considered you, your feelings or wishes for your birthday. you're always the team player, you're always the one adjusting to please everyone else. you'r...	definitely nta. i suffer from depression and anxiety as well. i avoid people on my birthday. i won't even tell them when it is because then i don't have to pretend to appreciate their good intentions.	15
89o0sd	aita for being	feed up with my gf. for 6 years ive supported her. literally every day all she talks about her fibromyalgia and her pain. 90% of what she says is about it. her pain. our entire lives revolve around it and all she does is complain. every single day. read my previous post for details. aita for being feed up with it?	nta	nta dude, call a hotline and report her, then gtfo. people go to school for years to manage these sorts of issues for other people. you need to live your life.	nta. i would quite literally lose my mind in your situation. i know you say you can’t leave but you need to find any possible way to. when she threatens to kill herself call 911 immediately, she needs to be taken care of by those qualified and you are not it. if she’s faking it she deserves the embarrassment. i wish y...	63
8d5qpg	aita for getting mad at an autistic kid?	so at the start of the school year. like any other year we got freshmans. but this is the first year we had someone with a disability. lets call this kid ryan. ryan has had trouble fitting in seeing as he has autism (not the high functioning kind) so he does tend to walk around alot. now recently he has started asking...	nta	it's tough but no you're nta. you are not trained to handle this kind of behaviour and you should not have to put up with him stealing from you. what you do owe the kid is standard respect and kindness as you would extend to anyone else. stick up for him if he was being bullied, say hi to him and talk to him sometimes ...	nta. my brother is autistic and i love him to death but he can be a major dick sometimes.	329
8f40sm	aita for playing a prank on my housemates?	sorry for format, using mobile. so a little bit of background before i get to the actual prank. i (19,male) am in my second year of university and am living in an apartment with 5 other uni students (2 girls and 3 other lads). knew the lads before we started living together so we were already friends. only met the gir...	nta	nta getting mad over walking up some stairs is ridiculous	not the most genius prank ever concocted, but i thought it was pretty amusing. your roommate sounds really high strung. nta.	70
8hh8q7	aita for asking my boyfriend to not be in the room when i take an online final next week?	so next week is finals week at my university and one of my finals is online. i have to take it on my computer at home. i live with my boyfriend who is also in school, and we have a two bedroom apartment with one bedroom being our computer room. he came in to ask me today when my finals were next week to see if i could ...	nta	nta. i ask my boyfriend to leave the room when i take exams too. you have reason to not use your laptop and theres no reason for your bf to need to be in there while youre taking your exam.	nta. that’s ridiculous. there’s no reason he shouldn’t offer that without you even asking let alone say no when you plead. he should appreciate the fact that he means enough to you that just being in the same room as him distracts you. my girl needs the room to herself all the time for work or studying and i let her be...	18
8m7rr9	aita: i don’t want friends to invite their friends to my house.	having a small bbq with a few friends this weekend, and bc of circumstances we had to invite someone’s brother and he is now asking if he can invite more people. we know the people he wants to invite but we don’t want them to come... 1. the husband is super obnoxious and complains about everything 2. they never leave/p...	nta	nta. “i’m sorry, but we have limited space and can’t add any more people” should suffice.	nta. he asked. this gives you the option of saying yes or no. choose no. never ask questions you don't want to know the answer to.	98
8rfy4j	aita for cancelling a date because she brought her cousin?	this is a girl i met online. we’ve been talking for about a week and a few days ago we planned a date for tonight. the date was originally going to happen on wednesday but she was feeling sick so we rescheduled for friday night (tonight). we were going to meet at the restaurant at 7:30, at 7:00 she texts me and says t...	nta	nta, in saying no you set a boundary, that can work in your favor big time in a lot of life. i find people respect someone who knows what they want over someone that just goes along for the ride, id dare say it makes you more attractive.	nfw you are nta, dude. she is. fuck that shit. i wouldn't give her the time of day if she did that shit to me.	427
8synt2	aita for feeling uncomfortable?	this is my first post on here so sorry for the formatting etc okay so i’m a barista and there’s a regular who only orders through the drive through and it’s always the same drink. well, every time he orders we ask “anything else?” and he replies “a beautiful smile from a beautiful girl.” this makes me very uncomforta...	nta	nta. if he wants a smile he goddamn earn one with some pleasant conversation, not a demand.	nta. you handled it pretty well by telling him you aren't comfortable with it.	277
8syuvr	aita for ditching on an out of town wedding, but still using the hotel room that was provided for me?	so...bit of a complicated one here. when i was thirteen, while at a family gathering thing, my fifteen year old cousin (technically my step-mom's niece) possibly drugged me (a medication i was taking had drowsiness as a side effect, and the bottle seemed to have been moved from where i left it, so i think she slipped m...	nta	nta but would it be possible to go to the ceremony and avoid your cousin as much as possible while still being there for your half sister? and i'm going to go out there really radically and say maybe this is a chance to, if you want, confront your abuser and maybe get some closure. if that's what you want.	i marked this one "not the asshole" because it appears you changed your judgement when you found out the wedding trip had already started, and half the people agreed...and mostly everyone else is saying nta.	1
8t3kzg	wibta if i brought my own food on a week-long family vacation?	next week, my family is going on a week-long camping “vacation.” the outing includes my mom, dad, sister, and her two kids. i (26f) have reservations in general about being pushed into going camping with my family for a week, as i find that overkill, but i digress: a post for another time. the biggest issue i have at ...	nta	nta! please don't let anyone shame you for trying to be better. they will probably give you a hard time, because they know they should eat better and seeing you do it, they feel like you're almost shaming them by not partaking. like an addict would. don't let their addiction make you relapse. stay strong!	nta. reading your post, i could identify with some of the family dynamics you described. except for the camping trip- my family would have never, ever suggested such a thing. my parents were quite content to criticize and ridicule right from the comfort of home. i’m in my 40s now and both my parents have passed, and i...	32
8tdess	aita for being nice? (or so i thought)	good old me is just walking through the supermarket while looking for some last-minute groceries when i enter the grocery section, which aisle in specific i know fail to remember. anyways, i’m slowly walking the aisle scanning briefly for things i may need but could have forgotten on the list, and i see a woman with tw...	nta	nta, she was probably angry about something else and took the opportunity to lash out.	nta. hell, if mine were distracted enough to giggle at another shopper, it was music to my ears.	22
8u4x9i	aita for basically kicking some guy out of our hotel room	so for pride weekend me and 3 other friends decided to get a hotel room to spend the night in, the room had two queen beds that two and two would share. so we go to the festival and after that go bar hopping. we get a ride back to the hotel thankfully but one of my friends decides to invite some random guy over to our ...	nta	nta. how let's some random stranger sleep in your room? not me. enjoying drinks is one thing.	nta, but you handled it like an asshole.	162
8u5i48	aita for asking the uber driver to turn his music off?	so i called an uber, the guy picked me up, and he's blasting music. it's not my kind of music (no hate, but i'm not into songs about pimping hoes and selling crack), and i was pretty tired. i asked him to turn the music off. he looked really annoyed.	nta	nta. you paid for the ride. he can go 10-20 forgoing his jams. also, did he do it?	nta. you paid for the ride. last week i went to the airport and my lyft driver was singing along to his music. i didn’t care though because he was killing it.	84
8ubg5o	aita for snitching and exposing my bff's cheating gf?	huh. 2nd post in a week? i have too much drama in my life. well, sooo basically, i have my best friend and then he has a gf who he loves till death. well, the other day i was talking to her and i guess that she accidentally hinted towards her other "bf". so i had to squeeze who it was out of her. she told me no to real...	nta	nta. ever heard of suicide by cop? this is basically the relationship equivalent-break up by best friend. what she did to you and continues to do to you makes her ta	nta. things like this make me look back and wonder how any of us survived highschool/being teenagers.	77
8v93v7	aita for beinf crappy for demanding a key from my roommates	so i moved in to this house with 3 others after leaving an abusive relationship. the 3 roommates have not worked in sometime. one of them have been trying to get disability. so whatever she is excused i suppose. but the other two are just pretty lazy and don't do anything. anyways, the day after i moved in i handed ov...	nta	nta. lots of warning signs here. none of them work, no one to pay bills. you paid in advance, you won't see any cash back. my advice , move. you want to be an asshole? find a place, change the locks and offer them the keys only if they return your second month's payment. they may , or they may redo the locks again. e...	move out. shitty roomates and shitty people. nta	82
8vdbkv	aita that i don't want to go to my mother-in-law's house every single sunday?	so i'd consider myself a loving husband and we have a mostly good relationship. there are quirks to it, but it's fine with me. but one big quirk is that she goes to her mom's house religiously on sunday's like a born again christian going to church, except she is there all day. like she wakes up, heads out, and stays a...	nta	nta. i think you need to have a serious conversation with your wife about this, because it sounds like there's some growing resentment here, which is perfectly justifiable. she needs to meet you halfway. and the fact that she won't take a little time to celebrate your mother's birthday with you after she insists that y...	nta. in fact, your wife and your mil are both in asshole territory for missing your mom’s birthday. (even if your mil wasn’t invited, she should make sure her daughter goes. when i make the mistake of complaining about my mil to my mom, she scolds me for it, and she’s right-whatever i’m bitching about isn’t a big deal,...	517
8vj8dw	aita for unfriending someone on xbox for using his “depression” as an excuse to be a dick?	there’s this friend i had for about 2 months, he was nice for a while but eventually he started to act different, more assholey. we played mostly rainbow six siege, and had fun. we started playing less & less often, because when we played he would insult me about every move i make in the game. & not in a joking way eit...	nta	i've been diagnosed with depression, ptsd and anxiety, i somehow manage to not be a raging asshole for no reason. nta	nta. he was being manipulative, props to you for not enabling that behaviour and blocking him.	272
8vzkq6	aita for reporting my wife and her manager romantic relationship to their work?	caught my wife cheating on me with her manager three weeks ago. after they broke off contact, they remained texting "as friends." she told him that she wouldn't tell on him because she didnt want to be responsible for him losing his career, and told me not to report it. fast forward a week later, i went out of state a...	nta	nta, what did she expect when she cheated on you? you did the right thing op, you deserve better we hope you get through this well <3	you had me at the first sentence. nta.	1,880
8w7aab	aita for preferring to be with my family instead of with my girlfriend’s during the holiday because of a language barrier?	my girlfriend was upset because i chose to spend time with at my family’s party today instead of going to a party at her aunt’s. i wanted to spend time with her and everything but i don’t have a lot of fun when i go to her family events because everyone speaks spanish and i don’t speak spanish very well so i don’t unde...	nta	nta. you're already making effort to attend the smaller events. and it's not like you ditched her for funsies; you chose to spend time with your own family. not sure how you can be faulted for that. tbh, your girlfriend seems more of the asshole. the whole "i'm sorry my family sucks" thing seems like a manipulative att...	nta. my family is czech, and we always speak english when around other people...unless we don't want them to know what we are talking about. i was taught that it was rude.	30
8w7n7x	wibta for asking them to sleep elsewhere?	we have distant family coming in from florida, and they are going to be staying at my home. the teen son, who’s about my age [13] is going to be sleeping in my room, and i’ll be taking the couch. i really don’t want him in there because: • he’s really heavy. 5,7 and in his most recent facebook photos, 200+ pounds. my b...	nta	nta. i'd feel a bit violated and wouldn't let it happen as an adult, but because you are a teenager you probably don't have much choice as i am assuming it is your parents house. maybe tell them how you feel and see if he can take the couch. get them to say you have back problems or something and need to sleep in the b...	nta, but only from the perspective of the privacy and messiness issues. honestly, the ikea bed should hold him better than the air mattress. i mean they both should (i'm 6'7", 260 lbs myself) as long as the air mattress isn't too old or cheap. in any case though, i wouldn't bring up the integrity of the bed as a factor...	118
8w9ww4	aita for buying an expensive gift?	for my brother in law's 30th i bought him a rare bottle of whiskey for £2200. he collects himself and i thought it would be nice for him to have a flagship piece. when i gave the gift everyone loved it but they became pretty pissed off when they looked up its price, and basically told me i should have bought a holiday ...	nta	how is he your bil? is he married to your sibling? or are you married to his? that's a very nice gesture. it is petty for them to be upset with you for buying bil a very expensive gift and then suggest you should've purchased a gift for the family. it is not the family's birthday. was bil upset with the price you paid...	nta. reading this actually frustrated me! i’d be interested to know how the talk with your bil goes.	96
8wgr0i	aita for not wanting to take a break from being vegan for a family reunion?	i have been trying to be vegan for a bit over a year now. when i say "trying" i'm mean i'm in college and vegan when i'm at school, but every time i visit home for more than a day or two i end up "taking a break" from it because my family gets so upset that i won't eat meat with them. not that i won't go to places that...	nta	totally nta. unfortunately food is closely associated to love and people can have very strong feelings if you refuse what they offer, especially if you repeatedly refuse and even if you do have a reason. however this is their problem, not yours. are you able to get just one family member "on your side"? someone wh...	definitely nta. i’m vegetarian, going vegan and my family hates it. i’ve just started bringing my own food to gatherings. look into some vegan meats to take with you? also if you’re eating at a restaurant, as long as you pay, they literally can’t say anything.	203
8yc5pf	aita for not tipping my waitress?	so, today i go out for lunch with my girlfriend. when we get there the hostess seats us and asks what we'd like to drink. we were unsure so she said she'd send our waitress back through. after waiting ten minutes, she finally comes around to take our drink orders and our food orders. our food takes a while to cook, ...	nta	at first i figured she handed you the check because her shift was ending, but if there was time for her to walk past the table 4 times, nope. nta in this situation. waitresses/waiters will be the first to complain about being stiffed for tips, but c'mon, then do your job correctly, it's not rocket science and stop ...	nta. the only thing i'd do differently is talk to her or a manager before (or i guess write on the back of the check if you're a reddit stereotype and hate talking to people ;) ). otherwise they just write you off as cheap/a shitty tipper. not that she's necessarily going to accept it but at least you tried.	51
8yl9a8	aita for getting leaving my job because they changed my pay.	so a little backstory. i work at a small local cafe in my small town and i am the head barista. when we first started out i was making minimum wage and tips while working 40 hours. after a few months they changed the pay of mine and two others, because we were "managers", to waiter pay with tips and they made us salary...	nta	why the fuck is this getting heavily upvoted? they’re clearly nta. only upvote things that either unclear or actually assholes people! makes it way more fun	nta: clearly they have decided to take advantage of you being a good worker. you confront them once and then they demote you? fuck them man. i’d look up your worker rights, and if they’ve treated you illegally ask for compensation and quit or threaten a law suit.	213
902g05	aita ? i don't look black and said i was a proud black woman	to start off with my genealogy. both of my parents are biracial, my mom is half danish/ half mexican and my dad is half syrian/ half kenyan. i personally look very mexican (probably a mix of the syrian and mexican) and looking at me you would not know i was danish or kenyan. i was studying for a test with some math fri...	nta	why did they even come in there in the first place? because you don't "sound black" through a wall? i say nta.	don't ever apologize for that. they get themselves riled up and then take that out on you throwing around the word microaggression. next time get in their face and ask if they have a problem with mixed race people and demand that you have a right to that culture as much as anyone. totally nta.	13
90697x	aita for disliking my gf’s male friend?	background, been dating my gf for almost 7 months now. basically there’s this guy we know from school who she started chilling with last semester. they started off as merely study buddies but now they’ll hang out and text every now and again. i don’t normally have a problem hanging out with other guys platonically, but...	nta	nta. i've been the woman in this situation and goddamn are some of these comments vile and misogynistic as fuck. it's really hard to have someone that you really like as a friend and really enjoy spending time with that is into you and just won't accept you don't feel the same way. boyfriend or not. it feels cold to ju...	>...and he’ll post stuff like “i wish you were crazy about me as i am about you” on his facebook wall. dude. that's a weird, kind of creepy thing for him to say. without that, i'd say you are the asshole, but he's clearly and openly pining for your girlfriend. it's reasonable not to like him. it might be worth talking ...	292
90paiw	aita for giving a homeless woman food instead of money?	i'm from the uk, and over here if you're a student you can get a free cheeseburger with the purchase of a meal at mcdonalds. i redeemed mine but was full after eating, so i put the wrapped burger in my bag in case i wanted to reheat it later (this is relevant). a few hours later i was walking down the street and a dish...	nta	nta. interesting story at the bottom of this post. this is an experience that anybody who frequently interacts with beggars will get, thankfully. the only people that should be given handouts is those specifically asking for food or water. if they're asking for cash or "anything helps god bless", it's 99.9% certainly ...	seems like today is post rude homeless people stories. keep em coming. i posted mine a few hours ago. your definitely nta.	174
90scd4	aita for getting mad at my mother saying it's my fault i don't have clear skin?	i'm 15 she, completely unprovoked (like literally, i was just making a cup of tea) said " you should wash your face more! i bet you never do. you always forget." i told her i did, once a day with facewash everyday + in the shower obviously. and she said it should be three times a day if not more, and that it's my fau...	nta	nta. if she’s your mother and genuinely concerned about your skin she would take you to a dermatologist instead of being rude and saying to just wash your face more. if that was the solution to acne no teenager ever would have acne. tbh if i could go back and be a 15 year old again i would stop spending so much time wo...	yes a million times yes. my understanding is if you rip too much of the oil from the skin it goes into overdrive and produces more oil. (not an expert, just someone lucky enough to be able to visit professional beauty clinics somewhat regularly) develop a good routine of cleanse, tone and moisturise with a twice weekly...	43
90u55b	aita for moving out because my roommates are having a baby?	so i (single person) moved in with my best friend and her partner to save money on housing. we are all approx. 30 and live in an open house (no separate living spaces, only space that is truly mine is my bedroom). prior to moving in, there was no discussion that the couple may intend to have a baby while we're living t...	nta	nta, they are changing the living conditions without consulting you, especially since she knew your feelings about children. it would be similar (slightly) to them getting a pitbull when they know you were afraid of dogs. on the bright side, the baby will now have a nursery...your old room!	uhh no nta. if ya don't wanna live with a child, then ya don't hafta.	255
9135oa	aita for for getting mad at my gf when she brings people who openly talk shit about me into my house?	as title suggests, for the past few days now my girlfriend has been bringing her coworkers/friends over into my house and normally i wouldn't have a problem with that, except with this specific group of people. she's a little younger than i am and all her friends constantly want to go to bars and clubbing but im not bi...	nta	nta. but i do suggest you sit down with your girlfriend and have a serious talk about your relationship. she shouldn’t be happily listening to someone who accuses you of cheating just because you are a a homebody and you shouldn’t be forced to accommodate people who are shitty to you talk to her, tell her how it makes ...	nta. firstly, what's the age gap between the two of you? she sounds really immature to be putting up with "friends" that openly insult her so to the point of accusing you of cheating. i would never allow that shit to fly with my friends if they had said anything like that about my wife. secondly, is the house solely yo...	217
91kozj	aita for not forgoing my 'upgraded' seat on the plane so a single mother with two young children could have a spare seat next to them.	this happened a few months ago on an 11 hour long haul flight. i fly on staff discount, so i do not get a choice of seats, which usually means i get the shit seats no one else wants. the plane was a large airbus a380, i was seated in economy and in seat '45b' (so i'm seated between the window seat and aisle seat on the...	nta	nta, my parents routinely book the window and aisle hoping no one will book the middle. if someone books it, they suck it up...however they don't move. mother took a risk booking those seats, it's her problem her gamble didn't pay out.	nta. i'm a flight attendant, so initially reading the post i was beginning to think you were a jerk nonrev. but really, as many have already said, the mother should have bought an extra ticket for the baby. i just flew with my 14 month old daughter on my lap on a 2 hour flight. i can't imagine doing it on an 11 hour f...	1,344
91qgip	wibta if i moved my roommate's stuff out of his room?	tldr; roommate went back home, is vague about when they're returning, and the person subletting their room is eager to make the space their own. so, my friend who i've lived with for years went back to his hometown some months back. his mother recently passed away and he wanted to be with his father. totally understand...	nta	nta. tell the original dude that you're sorry about his situation but that you can't be in a financial bind of paying both rents or continuing to spend your time and efforts finding his sublesee, and that you have found a suitable new tenant that wants to stay permanently. if he wants the room, he can start paying for ...	nta, from an outside, objective opinion. but dude, his mom died and it sounds like he's dealing with a lot. no one is ever ready for that. the timeline for getting your shit together after losing a parent isn't a straight trajectory, it's messy and hard and there's tons of setbacks. if you want to preserve the friendsh...	20
92n7xx	aita for not giving up my aisle seat for a middle seat when two old ladies asked me to?	i was on a flight back to my hometown and i had seats next to two old ladies in their early 60’s. they asked me to give up my aisle seat to switch with a middle seat in another row because they wanted to sit with their friend at the back. am i the asshole for saying no? i selected my seats online earlier just to get an...	nta	if this was a bus you would be, but on an airplane the seat is your temporary property. nta	maybe a little stingy, but you're right. nta.	10
92pqcx	aita for not giving my childhood friend our wifi password?	so my neighbor and i were childhood friends. he moved away when we were like 12 and has now moved back in with his grandma (my neighbor). he has been gone for awhile, with short weekend visits every now and then. anyways my friend’s fiancé comes to our door while i’m at work and asks my mother for the wifi password cau...	nta	would they do the same thing for you? probably not - nta	it kinda depends tbh. do you have unlimited wifi? if you have unlimited, then i don't see why you can't just give your friend the password. if it's limited, i get it. either way, nta.	243
92udsh	aita for being honest to my mother about how annoying and overbearing she is, causing her to not only cry but ignore me for two days now?	when i first got social media at the age of 16 my mother wanted to be involved in every single aspect. who my friends were, what i wrote, what groups i joined. everything. since i was a minor and still living under their roof, i had to comply. seven years later and i’ve been using a new facebook, one that i had blocked...	nta	nta. your parents are assholes though. if i were you, i would cut them out of my life. you’re an adult and they have no right to treat you like a 10-year old child. as others have commented, other subreddits can guide you and help you out of this situation. i am sorry you are going through this, i hope it all works out...	nta. if they won't go to therapy, go without them. since you travel, try phone counseling.	463
93mda6	aita: ordering food 5 minutes before closing time?	i got hungry at night yesterday and decided to go to subway at 10:55 even though they close at 11. i dont know if thats a dick thing to do.	nta	having been the closing person at a fast food place, i’m gonna go ahead and call this as nta. like, yeah, it sucks to have to maybe re-clean things or unwrap product, but you’re still open for a reason.	nta. kinda sucks for the workers, but they are open till 11, that's on them. how are they supposed to pay expenses if they don't sell their product?	40
93vvch	aita for yelling at kids who walked in front of my car?	simple post: basically my mom was driving and i was in the passenger seat, and as we were driving through a relatively quiet suburban neighborhood some kids, probably about 13-15, walked in the road in front of our car and just dabbed. i almost got out of the car but instead i just yelled “what the fuck are you doing? ...	nta	they're teenagers, not idiots. they know they can cause an accident in the road, the risk is the majority of the thrill of such behavior. totally nta, its self-evident to move off the road for cars if your playing sports so you get back to your sport as fast as possible. they were pushing boundaries and testing the lim...	nah, nta tbh being aggressive and angry towards a situation can be helpful sometimes rather than being quiet about it. doing so emphasizes the lesson being thrown unto them. you stood up for their safety, so that's alright.	226
940skn	aita for telling management after someone told me to kill myself and provided me with the noose to do so?	so on friday i was having a pretty awful day, i got to work late, i was struggling to carry out basic tasks at work and was just generally in a bad mood. now i work as a welder, and in the uk, not sure about the rest of the world, but in any trade there is a lot of manly men whos banter tends to be mainly taking the pi...	nta	you'd have to be mighty friendly with someone before joking about suicide in such a tangible way would be acceptable like that. if they were really good friends and it was just banter, maybe, but these guys just sound like some co-workers that went too far with taking the piss. i'd say nta, but it depends on your relat...	not the asshole for your choice... but things are not simple. you have the full right to maintain a professional relationship between you and your coworkers.... but it is a two way street. if they are your friends and it is acceptable for you to be teased by them... then you should have talked to them first and explain...	282
9421vx	aita for wanting my friend to take down a picture of me?	had my birthday last night and someone took a picture of me and my (ex) best friend and sent it to her. i have repeatedly asked her to take it down because i feel like i look horrible in it and the picture is making me feel self concious. she does not want to take the picture down so i blocked her on all social media...	nta	nta. whether ending the friendship was over-the-top can't be gleaned from this tiny bit of information, so i won't comment on that. but when you asked her to take it down, she should have done so. full stop.	nta for asking to have it taken down, but slightly asshole for the insane overreaction.	3
949xth	aita for getting upset over a rabdom guy in my apartment	so i have 3 roommates, very cool responsible guys. so basically one of them has this friend that they bring over who literally looks like a bum. he just comes in our apartment and starts cooking shit in our kitchen without asking, using our bathroom without asking, touching our food in the kitchen without asking and ea...	nta	nta. this is an issue around boundaries and respect. if this person is coming in with permission of x, then x needs to be responsible for their behaviour.	hell no, nta... your apartment should be the only place in the world where you don’t have to deal with strangers getting in your space. get rid of the guy or get rid of the roommate	21
94c3ez	aita for reporting a pa who said she wouldn't help me for accidentally cussing?	i've been having some pain in lower back, hips, and thighs lately. it ended up getting really severe about 4 days ago. it had me crying and unable to move much. i waited thinking it was just a bad day for my back. but it never got better and got worse. not being able to take it anymore, i finally went to the er yesterd...	nta	"if you continue to bleed or cry in my er, i cannot help you anymore." - prob pa later that day. nta	nta she should be more understanding and have thicker skin, she works with people under stress and pain.	551
94rrin	wibta if i left this play?	so in around april this year i got the main role in my school's play. it's about 40 pages of script and i'm in every scene. at first, i though these were all going to be serious kids who actually wanted to put some effort in it. my school is known for having terrible students so i am a bit of a loner... but i thought i...	nta	nta. tell the teacher just what you said here, emphasizing the "to focus on getting better grades" part. then find a local community theater group. if you like acting enough to take it seriously, you should explore it with folks of like mind.	nta. first of all, your teacher should be a little more responsible and either find a whole new set of kids to perform in place of the ones who aren't committed, or he/she should cancel it. you are 1 person. you cant hold the whole thing together. secondly, all the time and effort you've put into this could've been spe...	154
94urvq	aita for not accepting help?	for background: my father-in-law, despite being old and very out of shape, has a weird “macho” thing going on, where he feels he has to do things that show how manly he is — for example, moving heavy items. the problem is that he’s not really capable of it, but does it anyway. when my wife and i were moving into our fi...	nta	nta. sounds like your father-in-law is in denial about himself not being in shape, but that's just what i can see.	definitely nta. your father in law needs to get over it.	14
95hye8	aita for narcing on the girl scouts who asked for tips?	the scouts and their parents had their usual cookie table out, except this table had a tip jar. now while i think the culture of tipping in the us is dumb, i want people stuck in that situation to be fairly compensated so i'm a pretty generous tipper in restaurants, etc. but i'm not happy with the proliferation of tipp...	nta	nta. former girl scout here, that is a definite no-no. you did the right thing this way - you didn't name names so the specific girls won't get in trouble and hopefully it will stop before the troop gets disbanded.	nta. if they wanted a donation jar, maybe, but a tip jar is a definite no.	178
95mpxs	wibta if i didn't go out with this autistic guy?	i'm 19 and met this guy in a support group. we're both autistic but i believe i'm higher functioning. i'm terrible at social cues so i didn't know he was interested in me. he added me on facebook 15 days ago and inboxed me today asking if i would go out with him to the cinema. i replied but then got freaked out and blo...	nta	nta* deep breaths. you have got this! just tell him via messenger that you think you would make better friends, and that you don't see him like that.	nta, you don’t have to go out with anyone you don’t want. it would be more wrong to give him special nice treatment just because he has a disability.	155
95msc7	aita? my girlfriend and her family seem to think so.	i’ve been dating this girl for a year now and things have just gone to total shit lately. she has a bad family situation where, long story short, her parents are incapacitated and unable to help her do anything. over the past year, i’ve spent many, many hours working in their house which is fallen apart because of natu...	nta	nta, you're being used.	nta. leave. you're the family workhorse. and not even appreciated for it at that. the longer you stay,t he worse it will get. leave.leave.leave. you're not an asshole. you're allowed to have boundaries for yourself and how you're treated by people. they all are overstepping their mark.	346
95sydz	aita for making a little kid cry by asking her dad for the live fish he was about to throw back so i could cook it?	i was fishing with my roommates, and there was a dad with his 5-6 year old daughter next to us. we weren’t having any luck, but the dad and daughter caught a fish worth keeping and cooking. they threw it back unharmed. a little later, they caught a decent-sized bass. it looked like they were going to throw that back t...	nta	definitely nta, some kids aren’t emotionally developed like others. the dad did a nice job of not trying to shelter her.	by the way the father is talking, it sounds like they eat meat. nta. you still wouldn't be the asshole if they didn't eat meat, it's just now your really not the ass.	59
95xao1	aita for not going on my sister's birthday trip	my sister is planning a trip to spain. the plan tickets is looking to be $1000+. it will us up most or all of my pto. it for a week and the cost looks to be more than i am comfortable to spend. my sister thinks i should just dip into my savings but i afraid to do that as my savings is really for emergencies or educati...	nta	nta. if you can't afford it, you can't afford it.	nta! don't feel guilty either just because you're siblings. she gave you short notice & you said you were down when it was just casually talked about. don't dip into the savings. don't make exceptions. just be open & communicate how you feel.	134
961cel	aita for being a prude, inflexible stickler about the rules of my apartment complex?	ok, on mobile so forgive me for formatting and spelling issues. also this is my side piece account, not my main. i live at a gated apartment complex. or well, it is /supposed/ to be gated. of the six months i've lived here, the gate has worked a total of two weeks, and stands lamely open and useless most of the time. t...	nta	nta, but it also didn't help that you lost it. i'd be super frustrated if i was you, but lashing out at this woman helps nothing. if you see her again, i'd apologize, but this will most likely blow over.	nta, but you need to move. i lived in a gated complex and it was great the first year. then management changed. the gate started to be kept open during the day. then they would forget to set the automatic close for overnight. it never got better. we moved. i drove by the place on my way to work for a few months and it ...	78
962pde	wibta if i refused to step in and help?	i’m really torn here. it’s long, but bear with me. i’ll put a tl;dr at the bottom. i’ve got a long term friend (nearly 20 years of friendship) who i’ve just ceased to understand. i don’t agree with a major life choice of her, but more than that i don’t agree with how it’s effecting everyone around her. about ten year...	nta	nta, but i do wonder - how much autonomy does she have here? my understanding of the "quiver full" movement is that it's pretty male-dominated - the woman has to be subservient to the wishes of the man, and it's not like they can use birth control or have abortions. in that situation, it seems more like the woman is in...	nta - it’s tough. i don’t know there are any easy answers for you. is there family that can help raise the kids? my sister had 6 kids in 8 years. i told her husband i would castrate him with a rusty knife if she had more. i could see he realised i wasn’t kidding. perhaps someone needs to have a similar chat with the ...	212
963g80	aita for constantly pointing out to my white friends how its mainly white people featured in high end ads?	buddies keep calling me mexican (i'm south american not mexican) as a joke for years. for a solid week i kept pointing out how white people are catered to in advertising in our area (high end vehicles, watches, perfume, vacation brochures etc) with the token non white person in the background. they got annoyed about h...	nta	nta. at all.	nta. i think you hit a nerve.	16
963tad	aita for telling my sister her husband tried to unlock my phone?	anon for obvious reasons i was at my their apartment and asked if i could use a charger. i went to the other room for a bit. i have a password photo taker app on my phone when the password is incorrectly pressed more than 2 times, it snaps a photo. his photo showed up 2 times, which meant that he tried a total of 4 tim...	nta	there are some details missing here. do you and your sister's husband have the same model of phone or similar looking phones? what's your gender? - if you're female, this looks really bad on his end. what is his behavior like around you in general, besides the fact that he's "trustworthy"? how did your sister react? yo...	nta, and although obviously you shouldn’t feel obligated to update i am extremely curious about why he would do that.	117
967vsg	aita for wanting to rearrange our apartment a little for when my family (including 18-month-old niece) comes to visit?	my biggest concern was a 55 inch tv that’s balancing on 2 bar stools in the guest bedroom where my brother, sil and niece will sleep. my bf (who mounted the other 2 tvs in our apartment) was too lazy to mount this one and it’s been sitting like this for 9 months. we are about to move again, so he doesn’t want to mount ...	nta	nta. bf reaction seems a tad passive/aggressive. maybe he feels intruded upon by your family's visit. ask brother to help you retrieve the stand and move the whole thing to the floor. if you can find some ties to prevent it tipping over, that might help.	def nta. rearrange for the little girl.	71
969i9n	aita for giving an ultimatum, as it is either me or the confederate flag?	long story short, i am half black. i know the history behind the flag and it offends me. however i understand it is your right to wave whatever flag you want, but it is my right to be able to call you an asshole and disassociate myself with them. my fiance just received a confederate flag from his brother. he wants to ...	nta	nta. if you've already had a talk about it with him and explained why it's offensive and he still doesn't get it, he's not worth staying with.	nta. if he wants to accurately represent his history, then he should be hanging up a white flag.	663
96fid7	aita for leaving my family?	so my family are conservative muslims and i'm a closet atheist. i'm also secretly engaged to a white, non muslim guy. i would get disowned if i came clean about this and it would be ever worse if i came clean whilst living under their roof. my life isn't sustainable anymore and i want to move in with my fiance and actu...	nta	nta if your family doesn't love you despite your beliefs and choice of partner, they never loved you to begin with they loved the idea of you get out before that situation festers and turns even more toxic for your well being also, semirelated: r/raisedbynarcissists may offer some advice	nta. i am the male version that was in a similar situation. the difference is that i am a bit older and financially able to support myself without any assistance from my family (i'll expand on this a little bit later). my only suggestion would be is to look at your predicament like this. think of a time in your life wh...	286
97apx9	aita for gifting an empty jewelry box?	i just got back from a business trip in italy, where i bought a beautiful leather jewelry box for my wife, complete with her initials stamped in gold lettering. currently, she uses a cheap jewelry stand from wal-mart, so i thought she would love it. the gift actually made her angry. she said that it's an insult to gift...	nta	you are definitely nta. your wife on the other hand...	nta, and tbh if i was given a pretty jewellery box as a gift, i wouldn't even open it to see if there was something inside. i would just assume the box was the gift. it sounds like she felt embarrassed that she expected something else (like when you open a birthday card thinking there's money in it and there isn't and ...	26
97kirc	wibta for telling my mom not to get the tattoo she wants?	so my mom has had this tattoo planned for ages. basically it's a tattoo of my name and it has a butterfly because of the butterfly project and the logo of a band i liked when i was 13. her story is that those were the things that made me stop self harming and she thinks this band like kept me alive or something. the is...	nta	nta. do something now before she gets inked. she has the story wrong from your pov, the one that matters here.	nta. i also recovered from self harm, and personally i'm very shy and embarrassed about my past. my mom can't keep _anything_ to herself, she tells random people about my (treated and controlled) mental illnesses and chronic illness, and uses them to get sympathy from others. as a result i stopped sharing anything pers...	328
97tj39	aita for slapping a girl who grabbed my junk repeatedly after i made it clear i wasn't interested and didn't want to be touched that way?	i was at a bar when this tipsy girl comes up and starts hitting on me then she starts rubbing all over me i told her i wasn't interested and to stop touching me like that.this goes on for a while she starts touching my junk i tell her to stop and she just keeps it up finally after the 5th or 6th time i slap her face am...	nta	she sexually assualted you, you did what you had to in order to defend yourself. your repeated requests for her to stop were ignored. nta	that was 100% sexual assault. nta.	863
983bzu	aita for using pics of fat people i know from school on instagram, as motivation to lose weight	everytime i feel tempted to eat too much all it takes is a quick look at their pics on instagram to "scare" myself. hey, i also look at my past fat pictures if it's any consolation.	nta	nta as long as you're not reposting photos, publicly shaming them or making fun of them to their face	i hate to be that guy but everyone judges everyone over social media. chances are they have judged you based on your posts too. so i guess nta because at least you get something constructive out of it.	191
989737	aita for getting pissed/annoyed at my girlfriend because she procrastinated and ruined our vacation?	we had a 3 day weekend vacation planned in a couple of weeks. we didn't book any hotel room but i did book it off work. since early july my girlfriend committed to a project at work that would keep her at work extra during the last 2 weeks of august. she changed her mind and all she had to do was tell her boss so that ...	nta	nta. is your girlfriend afraid of her boss or work? maybe it just slipped her mind? there's two sides to everything. as a fellow busy person who's always dealing with huge projects, i want to give her the benefit of the doubt and say it just had to be pushed to the back burner. even things we're excited for. it just......	i think people on this sub don't understand how relationships and vacation as a couple works. first: nta for being pissed. you would become the asshole if you keep being mad. people do shitty things, but that's no reason to stay pissed. try to cancel and get a refund, and try to get back to your job. as you said: your ...	287
98cnhi	aita for getting annoyed by my bf pouting when i go out of town?	i (26f) currently live with my boyfriend (31m) of 6 years. my entire life revolves around him, my job, and my family. i live ~6 hours from my family, and i try to make trips back home to visit when i get a chance, because i never know how long it will be before i get to come back again. also, my grandparents are not...	nta	lol nta it sounds like your dating a child.	nta. he needs to grow up. you need to talk to him and tell him pretty much what you posted here. do you really want to be with a baby?	33
98d232	aita for breaking up with my girlfriend when she got fat? (long)	i broke up with my girlfriend of four years around 5 months ago for being too fat. (have only recently discovered r/aita) she was always slightly above average weight-wise, never bothered me, been with bigger girls before. she had a the most beautiful smile i’ve ever seen. incredible charisma, thoughtful, generous, hi...	nta	nta. if i didn't read the text i'd say otherwise, but it seems like you really gave it the college try.	nta. if you read your same story with alcohol or drugs replacing food you wouldn't even question it would you? food addiction is real and she is clearly suffering from it. you can't help an addict who won't help themselves. you tried. the only thing you can do is save yourself. good for you for not taking any mor...	1,341
98iofp	aita for running to find the parent who was leaving their baby in their car while they went to get coffee?	i went to starbucks for coffee today and as i was getting back into my car, i noticed the minivan next to me had a baby—maybe 18 months old—moving around in the van. the van was on and presumably air conditioned, but i couldn’t see anyone else in there. i ran around and looked in all the windows. saw no one. the baby w...	nta	nta. the mother completely overreacted for someone that showed more concern for their children's well-being than she did.	nta. i had someone do this at my work, the kids put the car in gear and ran it into a light pole. luckily at a low speed and the damage was only to the car and pole.	20
98l11i	aita: remarried and don’t want to change my name	i got married when i was very young and had a child. we divorced amicably 7 years later. during this time i built my career and in fact my brand is based off my name. i became quite successful. i’m now 35 and got remarried. during our dating and engagement i made it clear i would never change my name from my first hus...	nta	nta i'm curious as to why this is such an issue for him suddenly. i'd bet that someone gave him shit about it or otherwise brought it to his attention.	nta, he is for getting angry after presumably being cool with it. i took my husband's name because i was young and immature and thought i would face disapproval if i kept my name. a couple of months later i told him i wish i hadn't changed it, and felt like i had lost my identity. he reacted much like your husband, so...	440
98z0va	aita for not hiring a girl because her dad initiated the process?	i manage a store and one of my customers started emailing me about wanting his 16 year old daughter to get a job here. i sent him an application and told him to have her send it back to me. he sent it back to me a day later. and he has emailed me two or three times in the past 10 days to check on it. i've yet to even s...	nta	nta. either way, the interview will teach her something. she may blow your socks off, or she may totally blow it. it won't be her only job interview, there's plenty more ahead for her. i interviewed for plenty of jobs knowing full well i wouldn't get them, but did them anyway so that i'd get the hang of it and not be ...	nta. it’s not your job to give constructive criticism to applicants. it’s your job to find and hire the best applicants. anything more than that would be you going out if your way to engage a helicopter parent. you can if ya want but it’s not required.	707
994qem	wibta if i told a friend that i don't want to be friends anymore/started ignoring her/told her to change her ways	tldr; confront my friend with how i feel and make her depressed/bitter/choose a side, or just suck it up and let her enjoy herself? i feel i would be starting unnecessary drama ------------------ my friend set me and my ex girlfriend up. the friend had been friends with both me and my ex for a while. i would say in...	nta	nta. just let it die. no drama needed	buddy, i hate to tell you this, but you're not the one breaking off this friendship here. this question is the "you can't fire me, i quit!" of friendship dynamics. nta for getting onboard with what she already started.	2
994wos	wibta if i messaged my friends mum about her drug addiction and crippling debt	myself, my friend (l) and another friend (f) have all been friends for years and last year we all went to separate unis all across different countries. myself and f have kept in regular contact and despite me being ill and resitting a couple of exams we've both been very successful in our first year and have become bet...	nta	nta in my opinion. this is, however, a divided concept and there will be people on both sides of the argument. some people value privacy over responsibility, while others value responsibilities over privacy. neither is right or wrong, they're just different types of moral viewpoints. you are doing what you think is ri...	nta due to your good intentions. if she doesn't want to get clean or isn't ready, she won't, his what you're doing is risking her relationship with her parents. if it's that bad her parents will find out soon enough. if you know her parents to be the type who'll be entirely sympathetic and in no way judging or condemni...	105
99d35e	wibta for not hiring someone based on the fact that they were awful to me in high school	i recently got promoted and am in charge of hiring a whole new team. i’ve been doing interviews all week and i have a woman coming in tomorrow who i just realized was my high school ‘bully’ for lack of a better term. she has a different last name now so when i called her for an interview i didn’t realize who she was, a...	nta	nta for sure. follow through, allow her the interview, be professional, never mention your recall of the past, and then do not hire her. i get that it seems kinda petty to people who maybe weren’t subjected to that kind of abuse during their formative years and maybe she’d be a great fit for your company and blah blah...	imho, nta. even if you decided to let bygones by bygones and call her in to interview, it’s pretty obvious that you’d still have some underlying biases. i don’t think i’d want to hire and manage someone who was awful to me for 10+ years (assuming grade school through hs). not good for my sanity or the flow of my team. ...	45
99dl5q	aita for not wanting my husband to go on a stag do (bachelor party) the week before my due date?	my husband's friend is getting married a couple of weeks after our baby is due, and his stag do is the week before my due date. i've had a complicated pregnancy and there's a chance i will need to be induced early anyway, but my husband has agreed to go to the party if i'm not being induced/looking like i'm going to be...	nta	nta, it's a perfectly reasonable concern. and while i wouldn't necessarily blame the husband for wanting to go to the party, the least he could have done was make arrangements himself for someone to take you to the hospital if needed. i mean, fuck's sake, it's his child!	nta. due dates aren't an exact science. if i were you, i'd be really worried about my spouse not being there if i had a complicated pregnancy and there was any risk of things not going as planned especially since you don't drive and (i assume) he'll be getting too drunk to drive you there anyway. you've given up alcoho...	4
99yo3c	aita for not wanting to cook my mother-in-law a turkey on thanksgiving	my wife and i are vegetarians, much to my in-laws vocal annoyance. last year, we visited her family for thanksgiving, and to their credit they made sure there were enough yummy vegetarian side dishes that we could fill out plates with more than just mashed potatoes. on that same trip, my wife's mom invited themselves t...	nta	nta. it's your home; you can and should set boundaries. send an invitation clearly stating your intention to serve a vegetarian meal. each family member should feel free to accept or decline with no judgment. because they have boundaries and deal breakers too. the last time i hosted a big holiday, i was really stressin...	if they want turkey... they can bring their own. nta	353
9a26sz	aita for deleting my boyfriends grandmother off of facebook?	my bf and i have been together for nearly 4 years. the relationship is as perfect as one could get, except a little hang-up about his grandmother. his grandmother has lupus, and she lives 3 hours away from us. his grandmother and i have tried to get along, but i’m not really crazy about her because she’s very opiniona...	nta	do you think she became petty as an old lady or was she petty her whole life? nta. however you could have just blocked her.	good lord. that is some immature nonsense. nta, but very childish to even bother to do that. it did nothing but cause drama, and create a situation for there to be contention. his grandmother sounds terrible, but it doesn't make deleting her off of fb less petty.	49
9a42vd	aita for not wanting to comfort my girlfriend when she fucked up and it affected me?	basically she got drunk, passed out while trying to take a bath, and flooded our second story apartment. it leaked to the apartment below us and they had to shut off the water to the building at midnight. we got an angry voicemail from the landlord about how this was clearly our negligence, we will have to cover all co...	nta	nta. also if you have renters insurance the cost of this maybe something the could help with. i would check with the r/insurance sub to see.	nta, but you could probably be dealing with things better than you are, it's all a bit blocked at the moment. how you feel about the incident is about you. some people could laugh it off as "it's only money, nobody died", but it's bugging you more deeply than that. are you feeling helpless, blamed for something you d...	439
9a7de3	aita for continuing to ask for the birthday present my boyfriend claims he bought but has yet to give to me (birthday was 3 months ago)	so my boyfriend and i just had a full blown argument over a birthday present he said he bought but never gave to me. birthday was in may this is august. he says he has it but he is tired of me ‘throwing it up in his face’ that i haven’t received it yet. mind you the days leading up to my birthday he kept talking abo...	nta	nta. he's not your boyfriend, he's a guy who finds you convenient. find someone who values you they're out there.	nta. also, he doesnt care about you. i wouldn't be surprised if there is someone else already.	583
9a7j6v	aita for not liking my girlfriend's friendship with this guy who dated my sister?	using a throwaway account. so, i have been seeing this girl for over a year and a half, let's call her dawn. she and i got together and our relationship was damn near perfect. we had the most perfect honeymoon phase you could imagine. walks in the park, late night movies, going out to the fair, movies, etc. well, a g...	nta	nta. get out of the toxic situation. it all sounds shady as fuck. can't complain about getting wet as you stand outside watching the clouds roll in. you clearly know what's up.	nah you’re nta, you should dump your girlfriend for deleting those messages, if nothing else. as for rob, “when someone shows you who are, believe them the first time”. damn, your sister cheated on her bf with this guy, then dumped the guy to patch things up, but you all still hang out with him anyway? honestly, rob,...	26
9acwum	wibta if i quit my job?	i work as a delivery driver for a place that only recently started delivering. over the summer they had built up a handful of drivers and were able to rotate through fairly consistently, but now most of those kids are going back to school. there is now only two drivers, me and a guy. it's a minimum wage job. in the caf...	nta	if they really needed you they would treat you better. they don't want you to leave, but they don't need you. if you died tomorrow, they wouldn't go out of business. you're nta for leaving a job you don't like. it's not slavery. just work your two weeks, don't burn any bridges and you're fine.	nta. they need you, what do you need. more money, you aren't going to get it there. you aren't crippling them, they are crippling themselves by not having foresight to hire more people, and pay the people they have more $$$. they are screwing you, not the other way around.	33
9ah24g	aita for not wanting to keep eating italian food to accommodate my vegetarian friend?	i’m on holiday in spain with two girlfriends. one is vegetarian. we have eaten at italian restaurants 4 times in the past week. my favourite thing on holiday is eating out and trying new stuff. today i said i don’t want to eat italian because i don’t mind it but it’s boring eating the same thing every day. she won’t ...	nta	nta. i'm just impressed that you could eat italian 4 days in a row when you're in spain. there's lots of awesome cuisine there to try with plenty of vegetarian options so they definitely need to broaden their horizons.	nta, just eat separate meals. my boyfriend eats meat and loves fast food, i'm vegetarian and like health food. we just eat separately and then do everything else together 😁	8
9aihlg	aita for calling my friend out on his behavior	we both were on a vacation at the time and we both are 27 years old. we went to a mall and we were having a good time joking and horsing around. i saw an action figure store which seemed from a distence that it was a nice place and it would be expensive; which it was! so we entered and saw the first figure price tag an...	nta	nta i mean everyone can have their own opinion but he could have said it in a nicer way	nta, opinions are like assholes. everyone has one, they all stink, and no one cares about yours.	1
9ao5ss	aita for feeling resentful that my gf is sometimes feel to 'anxious' to do household chores?	sorry, bit of a wall of text. my gf and i are meant to take turns cooking and cleaning. if one cooks, the other does the dishes. the sharing of this work is important to me as we both work and have little free time at the end of the day. sometimes on the days i cook my gf says she feels sick or anxious and goes to bed ...	nta	nta, leave the dishes for when she feels better.	nta, but honestly. i do feel like she's using it as an excuse not to do dishes. if she did it when she needed to cook, than i could understand. but on the other hand, every time it's her needing to do the dishes... just tell her because of the fact she's too 'anxious' every night for dishes, you want her comfortable. s...	112
9atcjy	aita for reporting a photo of a guy holding a gun captioned "dont go into college on the 5th" to the college?	in a closed facebook group our college course uses for discussion and sharing files a student posted a photo of him in a shooting range holding a gun and it was captioned "dont go to college on the 5th" i reported the post to facebook but nothing happened so then i posted it in a group i'm in where i was told to report...	nta	nta. even if he wasn't planning anything, this is insanely stupid and irresponsible of him to do.	nta. see something say something. probably a good idea to follow up and make sure the police are investigating and will catch the poster.	11
9b4f3b	aita for letting my family help me?	i dislocated my knee on sunday, and have been bound to crutches since. as a result i can't carry anything that can't stay in my pockets, so i need my family's help a lot, getting a glass of water, a plate of food, etc. i can't help but feel like an asshole for letting them do all this. without my help.	nta	nta. just make sure they know how much you appreciate their help. on a side note, when i was on crutches, i got really tired of not being able to carry liquids or anything larger than my pockets, so i got a crutch pouch and carried around a water bottle. it made life significantly better. crutcheze black crutch bag...	nta. you got hurt. that's what family does.	9
9b6imh	aita for looking at people's tattoos?	i wouldn't describe myself as a "tattoo person" (and i don't have any myself), but i appreciate a good tattoo. and when i see people with tattoos, i can't help but look at them, especially large and/or intricate designs. now, i always want to be polite, and of course i don't make a big show of staring at people. but ...	nta	nta but... this is not a black and white issue. simply because we’re talking about the body. and whether or not someone made a choice to decorate it or wear it a different way does not necessarily welcome comments or questions. i am a heavily tattooed woman. i am immersed in the tattoo culture and i am proud of collec...	everyone is different, but i got my tattoos as an outward expression of things that i like or are meaningful to me. if i didn't want people to see them, i would have got them in hidden places or not got tattoos at all. i like it when people ask me about my tattoos, especially because they're quite obscure book/film ref...	28
9bgwha	aita for shunning a close friends girlfriend for cheating on him?	so a very close personal friend of mine's girlfriend just got busted cheating. she had been texting a guy a couple states over for months, telling him she loved him, wanted to be with him, etc. all while hiding it from my friend, who we will call jim. when forced to confess to jim because she had been caught, girlfrien...	nta	nta. cheating shows a lack of fidelity- to everyone. if you cheat on your partner, what's stopping you from being dishonest to others close to you? her response to being caught is even more telling. at best, you could say she showed a huge lapse in moral judgement, but the more likely guess is that she has shit morals ...	nta at all and matter of fact, jim is the asshole for thinking everyone should forgive a cheater like his girlfriend, who will do it again to him because you said it best; he doesn't know how to be alone. that is a toxic situation he set him, you & other friends up in - so don't be surprised if you see him less because...	254