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AITA for walking out of a job interview? | around this time last year, i was in the job hunt and was looking at tech sales positions in my area. i’d been in this career about ten years, and had been recently laid off.
i was granted an interview at a relatively large startup downtown, and after the initial phone screen, i did my research and went on site for my... | 19,744 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gqayhg/aita_for_walking_out_of_a_job_interview/ | 2020-05-25 13:28:04 | nta
from the sounds of it, they were 1 hr+ late and didn't offer any reason to you while you were there. that's an enormous red flag. | nta- the interview goes both ways. if they aren’t organized enough now or they don’t respect your time you can’t expect much different once you’re hired. | if the roles were reversed i gurantee you they wouldn't even interview you. job interviews go both ways, nta op. | nta. extremely unprofessional of them. even if it was an honest mix up or something, they were at fault and no way in hell you should have waited around any longer. you probably taught them a lesson (hopefully) and avoided an awful workplace.
if they were a decent company they would have ringed you the next day afte... | yeah, i ended up taking a job at a nonprofit. thanks! | nta- i would have expected to say 'there's been an emergency and vp is running behind but will be with you shortly" not just left you sitting waiting. totally rude to waste your time without an apology. | nta. red flags even before you start working. | nta. when i interview people, i am acutely aware that i am representing my company and as such, it’s as much my job to impress candidates as it is theirs to impress me. the way that company treated you was inexcusable. interviewers showing up an hour late tells me that upper management doesn’t value the time or efforts... | nta - i once had a strange interview like this except i was dumb enough to stick around for the interview, i went into a tiny box room with the two founders and when they revealed they expected me to work for free for the first two months, i stopped suppressing that dodgy weatherspoons curry i had for lunch, lifted my ... | so, to answer the initial question: the recruiter scheduled a follow up call with me a few days later to apologize and explain that they were having a busy quarter. i ended up telling her that my issue wasn’t largely with her (though a small part of it was), but rather with the vp who presumably wants to add me to thei... | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: around this time last year, i was in the job hunt and was looking at tech sale... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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around this time last year, i was in the job hunt and was looking at... |
AITA for crashing my wife’s birthday party and taking her home. | my wife turned 30 this week. i’m 26m. we’ve always had a strong relationship and i love her so much.
my wife has a best friend from childhood jimmy 28m. i didn’t know him that well but this year we’ve gotten to know each other and have gotten close. he’s my best bud and like an older brother to me in a lot of ways.
m... | 16,485 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/z4o1sz/aita_for_crashing_my_wifes_birthday_party_and/ | 2022-11-25 21:00:16 | yta. you didn’t use the critical piece of surprise party planning where you have her home at a certain time for a “good reason”. you just made it look like you were blowing her off, and she made other plans.
you honestly just made it look like you remembered her birthday at the last minute and went overboard to try t... | yta.
you told her you had plans on her birthday and she made her own plans. when you plan a surprise, it’s on you to make sure the person will be available.
the plans she made with her friends were not less important that your poorly executed surprise. | yta. you shouldn't be interrupting you wife's dinner for your awful execution of her birthday surprise. you also seem really hung up on the fact she went out which is odd to me.
perhaps the dinner plans only materlised that day.
friend: "hey op's wife, what are you doing for your birthday tonight?"
op's wife: "nothi... | yta. you tried to do something nice, but you went about it the wrong way. surprises are often a bad idea. this is a case and point. you told your wife you wouldn’t be free on her birthday, so she made other plans. you embarrassed her in front of her friends, friends who had taken her out for her birthday. of course she... | yta
you’ve been sneaking around and giving her vague half-@ssed excuses about where you go. the day of her birthday you tell her you have plans and will be busy…
so she makes plans on her own, goes and tries to celebrate her bday anyway because you’ve been acting distant and aloof. then you crash that and drag her ... | what is actually wrong with you? people were celebrating her birthday and you dragged her away? | wow… you *tracked her* when she didn’t answer you and then you *forced her to go home with you*. you sound insecure at best and fucking abusive at worst. absolutely yta.
editing to add based on your constant “she doesn’t go out ever, she doesn’t have any other friends, why would she have friends i haven’t met, why wou... | yta i'm guessing she thought you forgot and that jimmy did too, so her other friends or maybe her work friends took her out to try and cheer her up. i get you planned something very special for her, but in the future you need to at least say something like "don't make plans, we already have some but i can't tell you ... | info: why didn’t you just join the group at the restaurant? and tell her there is a surprise at home when she’s ready? did you say anything in the uber? did she see the flowers/decor and not say anything? how many days ago was this, and why haven’t you apologized for not communicating adequately yet? | yta. i hate surprise birthdays where the main message is “i’ve forgotten your birthday” you can do surprises without that part. i don’t know why people get such a boner for purposely hurting there loved ones before making them happy. | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | null | YTA | YTA | INFO | YTA | 0.00388 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my wife turned 30 this week. i’m 26m. we’ve always had a strong relationship a... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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my wife turned 30 this week. i’m 26m. we’ve always had a strong rela... |
AITA for bringing a really sassy doctor's note to school for a medical excemption? |
so my school made this dumb rule that nobody can have a water or drink bottle with them because a couple seniors got caught drinking vodka at school.
the only exception is if you have a form signed by your doctor saying there's a medical reason you need it. and carry the note with you whenever you have a water bottle... | 18,637 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f1v41u/aita_for_bringing_a_really_sassy_doctors_note_to/ | 2020-02-10 19:08:54 | nta - water is a human right. screw your school. | nta she’s right, it’s vital for life, the school shouldn’t let those that were drinking vodka ruin it for everyone else especially since being hydrated allows your brain to work properly. do they expect a bunch of dehydrated kids to learn any info when their brains are malnourished? | nta
>saying medical exemptions were not a joke, it was a disrespectful thing to do, disrespectful to the school's rules and disrespectful to people who had an actual medical need, to treat it as a joke.
making a kid go all day without drinking water is a joke, water is an actual "medical" need for every human ever... | nta
> it was a disrespectful thing to do, disrespectful to the school's rules and disrespectful to people who had an actual medical need
and this teacher is acting disrespectful toward your doctor and your medical exemption. after all, there was no lie there. | nta. you school sound alike it's run by a bunch of dumbasses. not letting students drink water can lead to dehydration making it more difficult for you to learn besides all the other bad stuff that comes with dehydration. this is a horrible thing for your school to do to its students, you should leak this info to your ... | nta. it continually amazes me that public institutions in the u.s. are allowed to treat children less well than the geneva convention allows the government to treat prisoners of war. i get that kids can be little assholes at times, but that doesn't excuse schools treating the children under their care as some kind of h... | stfu you know you're not the asshole | nta. that policy is absolutely ridiculous. students are human beings too. hope that one teacher tries to take a different student’s note and gets in massive trouble | nta. that is so stupid. tell that teacher to call the number on your slip. let her enjoy a good scolding by a medical professional. | nta they can’t tell you you can’t drink water, especially if you have a doctors note. also you can put vodka (or any alcohol) in soda too sooo | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: so my school made this dumb rule that nobody can have a water or drink bottle... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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so my school made this dumb rule that nobody can have a water or dr... |
AITA for telling the judge of a scholarship competition that if she already knew who she wanted to win, to cut the crap and just let us all go home? | i'm in high school, we had a final presentation before winter break, and we had judges from the community come in to reward the best presentations. like not actual court room judges, just people who were involved in stuff locally. the prize was some scholarship money for college.
our classrooms judge was a mom who in... | 27,428 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f0rue1/aita_for_telling_the_judge_of_a_scholarship/ | 2020-02-08 13:53:24 | nta. this judge was not impartial and should not have been a judge in the first place. the fact that the school did not address that is an issue. | nta.
i'd see if there's a dispute process. it's obvious that this person should not have been judging this competition. | wtf is this country where we make children perform like show ponies to compete over meager sums of money to avoid generating crippling debt by continuing their education... | nta. but it sounds like you could have told her your opinion and still given the presentation. | hey, fyi, if she picked the person without giving good attention to the others and obviously picked who it was from personal favoritism... that's taxable. that's a gift. i'd go to the organization she's from and report what happened and also let them know that if there wasn't a proper look into why the judge wasn't a... | nta you called out an unfair situation and you should take it further | info was she the only judge? | nta this is why you need several judges | nta - you’re my hero. | nta- a judge should be completely neutral and respectful of everyone's efforts, and she was neither. you were right to call her out and well done for doing so- everyone was thinking it, you were just brave enough to say it. | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | null | NTA | INFO | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0.005167 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i'm in high school, we had a final presentation before winter break, and we ha... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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i'm in high school, we had a final presentation before winter break,... |
AITA for not paying for my siblings to go to uni? | i'm 29f, my siblings are 19f, 19f(twins) and 17m.
about a year ago i won a rather large amount of money. since then i paid off my mortgage, bought a rental home, paid for my parents to spent 2 months on holiday, paid off their mortgage and bought each of my younger siblings either a car or(in the case of my brother) ... | 21,346 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hmryph/aita_for_not_paying_for_my_siblings_to_go_to_uni/ | 2020-07-07 10:21:14 | nta. it's in no way your fault or responsibility that your mother squandered her own children's college fund.
if you want to help your siblings through college it should be at your discretion and not at her demand. | nta - she's toxic. it's money for your future you've already done more than enough for your family. you bothers can work hard and get a solarship or do what most do take out loans and work.
if you let then ride your coattails you won't be helping them in the long run. | very much nta. in fact, your mother seems ta here. she waisted your siblings' college funds on booze, trips, and gambling. if it were for keeping them fed or a roof over their heads, that would be different, but it was for cheep fun and thrills. you are in the right here and it is reasonable to deny her any money, espe... | nta. if their house is paid off, they can use that as equity to take out a loan to repay their debt to your siblings.
if you’re feeling generous, provide tuition money directly to your siblings. your parents clearly can’t manage finances. | nta
it's your money to do with as you please, if you decide to collect it all in cash and use for a camp fire that's your choice, no one has any say to what you use it for.
give the money to her and she's 100% going to gamble it away, your folks obviously have a gambling addiction. the fact she's trying to manipulat... | nta
she didn't want the money for your siblings, she wanted it for herself. | you won a chunk of money and with it paid off their mortgage and sent them on a 2 month vacation? that is an extreme level of generosity. plus the vehicles on top of it for your siblings? sooooooo nta. you have every right to spend your money the way that you see fit. period. the fact that your parents squandered... | nta you've been very generous and she's being extremely pushy. you already bought all your siblings cars which will help them support themselves through college, and paid off your parents debts. it's your money and you can do whatever you want, including having a nice wedding.
even if you do change your mind later an... | [deleted] | nta, but i think this is fake. she spent the college fund on alcohol? seriously? that’s a grocery item that you would not withdraw from a college fund to buy. it all just sounds too stereotypical, like it’s being written by a 15 year old kid. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i'm 29f, my siblings are 19f, 19f(twins) and 17m. about a year ago i won a rat... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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i'm 29f, my siblings are 19f, 19f(twins) and 17m. about a year ago i... |
AITA For not telling my BF about strippers at a bachelorette party | my bf and i have been together for almost 4 years. we met in college, started dating our junior year and are part of the same friend group. a couple friends of ours were supposed to get married last summer, but had to delay it to this year. we are both in the wedding party and were invited to the bachelor/bacheloret... | 4,102 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oxcfi3/aita_for_not_telling_my_bf_about_strippers_at_a/ | 2021-08-03 20:41:16 | yta, how did the other girls "make you stay"? why couldn't you go to the hotel bar? and why didn't you tell your bf and explain the situation? | yta - how would you not be the asshole here? you made a big stink about the idea of him going to the strip club, yet you participated in the exact same thing. and then lied about it, too. plus, i actually kind of agree that your situation is worse (private room thing vs strip club itself)
objectively, you're a hypocr... | yta. obviously. how are you even asking this?
> but the rest of the girls pretty much made me stay.
no they didnt. you could have left but you probably put up minimal resistance and got convinced to stay incredibly easily.
> i don't know why i didn't tell him, i just didn't.
you know *exactly* why you didnt ... | yta. you glossed over how the rest of the girls "pretty much made" you stay. it sounds like they exerted social pressure. of course, that was the same kind of social pressure your boyfriend faced, although he had advance notice. you asked your boyfriend to conform to your standards, but you did not conform to them your... | yta. you're a literal hypocrite. you didn't want your boyfriend doing something, and then you turned around and did the exact thing you didn't want him doing. no one /forced/ you to stay, you just had 0 backbone and got peer pressured into staying. yikes. | > he said that was way worse than any strip club and that i was a huge asshole and hypocrite for it.
is there something in his assessment you disagree with? | yta. and a hypocrite. how could you possibly not be ta?
you told him he wasnt allowed to have strippers in the full knowledge there were strippers at your bachelorette party . and then didnt tell him about stating afterwards when there was a 100% chance he would find out.
"made you stay". how exactly? exactly in the ... | yta. you chose to stay in the room with strippers. unless they tied you up, knocked you out, or put a gun to your head, you were not forced to stay. you could have chosen to leave.
you chose to lie (by omission) to your boyfriend. you were hiding things from him, and he's right to feel hurt by it. | a classic "rules for thee, but not for me" situation.
clearly yta
short of them welding the doors shut i doubt very much that they made you stay.
and you should have told your boyfriend. i'll bet any amount of money if the tables were turned you'd be furious at him. | yta you're a liar. no reason he should trust you. | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | null | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my bf and i have been together for almost 4 years. we met in college, started ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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my bf and i have been together for almost 4 years. we met in college... |
AITA for refusing to change my daughters bedroom for my pregnant SIL? | my sil (28) is visiting for christmas and was sleeping in my daughters (16) bedroom. from the first day she's been here all she's done is complain about how my daughters bedroom is decorated.
her walls are black and she has a bunch of rock posters on her walls. my sil is very christian and she says that it's evil and ... | 19,079 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k5k7nt/aita_for_refusing_to_change_my_daughters_bedroom/ | 2020-12-02 22:36:07 | nta - she is a guest in your house: your house, your rules. how dare she infringe on your hospitality by telling your daughter how to decorate her bedroom. if she doesn't like it then she can book a hotel room or airbnb.
your wife is also an ah for enabling her sister and using the situation to undermine your daught... | nta - but christmas is still 20+ days away, and it is completely unreasonable to make a teenager give up her room for that length of time for someone who destroys their belongings and disrespects them.
maybe point out to your wife that choosing her sister over her daughter will effect the kind of relationship they h... | nta. only ah here are your wife and her sister. way to alienate her daughter and clearly show that the sister/aunt has priority over the teen that lives in the house. | nta-, why the fuck is your sil staying for an entire month? if i was your daughter i would be pissed about having to share my living space with a grown child for an entire month, what a breach of her privacy and sense of home.
is your wife not your daughter's mom? i can't imagine telling my daughter or niece that i w... | nta. sil's behavior shows a complete lack of respect for your daughter as a person. hopefully you have a non-demonic couch for her to sleep on. | nta!!!!!! wow, fuck off old aunt and let your teenage girl (who sounds fucking rad as hell btw) live her life. my god, they are posters lol.
this christian cult lady sounds like an absolute nightmare and i would be kicking her to the curb just as soon as she replaces your daughters art. this is your house that you fu... | esh you shouldn’t have kicked your daughter out of her room for your sil in the first place and once she started destroying and changing your daughter’s room, she should have been out of there. she doesn’t get to come into your daughter’s space and change it around or destroy her property. your wife is as ridiculous as... | info: does your wife and daughter have a good relationship? it sounds like your wife cares more about her sister than her own daughter. | nta. your sil and wife are tas. it's your daughter's room. like you said, if she is uncomfortable, she can sleep somewhere else. your sil should also pay for the poster that she destroyed. | nta but also kinda info - is this you and your wife’s child? or is wife the stepmom? either way i’d be concerned at your wife telling a 16 year old that she would rip up all her decorations because sil doesn’t like them. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | ESH | INFO | NTA | NTA | 0.032022 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my sil (28) is visiting for christmas and was sleeping in my daughters (16) be... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA thinking of leaving marriage because step-daughter got herself knocked up... | yeah, i know this sounds awful.
my (32m) wife's (35f) daughter (16f) recently announced she is pregnant.
she claims she doesn't know who the father is. i suspect she actually does and doesn't want to say, for whatever reason. i mean how much unprotected sex is a 16 year old really having? it can't be that hard to na... | 18,431 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/bmywa5/aita_thinking_of_leaving_marriage_because/ | 2019-05-10 14:22:35 | nta. your wife is an asshole for saying "**we** will support her". this is the only life you've got. if you don't want to be a step-grandfather at 32, that's for you to decide not her. | nah
i think you need to start the conversation with your wife again, with less focus on what your step daughter should or shouldnt do, and more on what this means for your marriage and your future as a family, whether you still plan to have a child etc.
that is the real focus, and you should be careful in the conver... | nta. your wife is in her 30s and her daughter is 16. how old was she when she had her daughter? she probably sees herself in the situation and is overly defensive because of this. how could she tell her she can't do something she did?
either way, your life would be completely changed by this and the fact that your wif... | i don't have an opinion but this sub is so fucking weird sometimes. i fully expected to come in here and see yta's across the board. i guess you caught them on a good day lmao.
for what it's worth, if you're going to cut and run over anything, this is probably the right thing to cut and run over. you're getting hit wi... | nta but tell her as soon as is humanly possible that you are not sticking around. don't linger and be wishy washy until the 38th week. gather them together and tell them both "i am not raising a child i had no say in bringing into the world. i do not support this so i will be taking a pass. if you two want this, i won'... | so, ultimately nah for me (cause i'm female and i can definitely understand emotionally being unable to go through with an abortion but i get your feelings too).
one thing i wanted to mention, is your daughter may have been with someone older (adult male in her life, coach, that weird guy whose graduated but hangs aro... | nta. she had a kid at 19, and now she wants her kid to have a kid at 16? get the hell out before her kid's kid's having a kid when you're 45, and you're supposed to take care of that one, too. | nta - that's your decision to make. you have zero obligation to be financially responsible for this.
would like to point out that your wife must have been a 16 year old mom, too. what was that like for her? how much did her parents help her? maybe she just thinks that's the norm. | a totally unrelated red flag:
the daughter says she doesn't know who the father is- i bet she does. and i bet he's a lot older than 16 and knows he will go to jail if she tells the truth. or it's some dumb kid who doesn't want to be a daddy or pay child support and he convinced her not to tell anyone.
you guys need to... | nta.
it's a sad story and a difficult decision that do make it sound like you're the asshole, but i think your reasons are justified. she's 16, she not supposed to be having children now. if she and her mother want to ignore all the trouble this kid will bring, it's extremelly unfair to drop it all on you, which is w... | NTA | NAH | NTA | YTA | NTA | NAH | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | 0.06929 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: yeah, i know this sounds awful. my (32m) wife's (35f) daughter (16f) recently ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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yeah, i know this sounds awful. my (32m) wife's (35f) daughter (16f)... |
AITA for wanting my daughters birthday party to be about her? | my daughter (6) just had her birthday party today. there’s a little girl with special needs in the class and according to school policy, we had to invite the entire class including the special needs girl. my daughter isn’t friends with her so there isn’t a reason for her to be invited or have to come.
not only did we... | 5,355 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/zos98m/aita_for_wanting_my_daughters_birthday_party_to/ | 2022-12-18 06:45:26 | yta. not once did you mention your daughter's feelings or reactions in all of this. you don't actually care about putting her first, you just don't want to accommodate a special needs kid. you are literally grouchy because you have to be nice to a six year old.
that is about as ah as you can get dude. | yta
it doesn't even sound like your daughter minded the unicorn costume, the special food, or the extra room.
your wife is accommodating and inclusive. you're not and that's unfortunate.
i understand wanting your daughter to feel special at her birthday party. what i'm failing to understand is how accommodating a sp... | yta 100% your wife did a wonderful thing to include a little girl who probably gets left out a lot. she didn't make the birthday party about her, she made it so she could be a participant in the party. no one sang happy birthday to her. no one brought her presents. everyone's focus was still on your daughter, except... | yta
as a woman in a wheelchair, let me school you on your ableist behavior.
1. she's not a “special girl”. she is a girl with a disability. if you want to talk about your issue with having a disabled child at your kid's birthday party, then don’t be an asshole and learn the correct language. your daughter sounds more... | as someone who’s disabled kid has been excluded at every turn, yta. your wife is teaching your daughter how to be a kind, empathic human, and you’re having a temper tantrum over a disabled 6 year old being allowed to exist equitably with her peers. come on… | yta. how did you type this out and think that you’re right? | is this what the world is coming to? you’re teaching your 6yo daughter “its all about me” did you ever consider that your wife and daughter might actually like the other little girl? or do you think she’s an unlikeable monster bc of her random differences? royal yta | yta and i’m sure the special needs girl felt extremely included in the event, shame on you for trying to dim her spotlight | yta. sounds like the girl is on the spectrum, and a 6 year old autistic child receiving accommodations is not the end of the world. | yta. i’m not sure this is real. could anybody be that dumb? | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my daughter (6) just had her birthday party today. there’s a little girl with ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for asking my tattoo artist to lower my price for my tattoo after she constantly got up to go to the bathroom? | my tattoo artist charges $125 an hour, my tattoo was done by the hour and in the end, i was there for a little over 2 hours, so in the end before a tip my tattoo was $270.
i wouldn’t have had an issue with this, but my tattoo artist had gotten up 7 times to use the bathroom and was gone for at least 5 minutes each ti... | 19,358 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/n15b9v/aita_for_asking_my_tattoo_artist_to_lower_my/ | 2021-04-29 14:16:52 | nta. you should reply and provide a review on yelp and other sites that of your two hours for which you were fully charged, she spend nearly 40 minutes of it in the bathroom on 7 trips and did not stop the clock. that's a definition of being unprofessional. if she was sick, she should have still discounted 30 minutes t... | nta you should review her online to make others aware. you shouldn’t have even given a tip.
side question by why would you tip someone who charges 125 an hour anyway? you have paid for their time and talent and they are not a waiter or waitress on a tipped minimum wage? they get the whole thing as the artist. would yo... | nta at first i was gonna say yta but 7 times!? in two hours no less? i would leave a review of the shop saying that. it's unfortunate she turned you down, but that's her choice. it doesn't mean you shouldn't warn other people of her practices. | nta i get 90 minute specialty massages. if my guy leaves for even 5 minutes he adds 5 min to the end. if you charge by the hour, you better be there the whole hour | i would say nta. if she is using a timer to get an exact work time she should pause it when she has to go to the bathroom. i get if she was having a bad tummy day or something but it's a bit unfair to charge you for that. | nta lmao she doesn’t want you to book her again because you caught on to how she’s making alittle extra $$$ i’d say email her boss or something | nta.
find an artist who only charges skin time, my uncle owns a shop and him and the other artist will only ever charge skin time. | nta
sounds like she was padding her time. either way, she charged for time she didn't work. that is unethical and you should let the owner know and write a review if they aren't going to do anything about it. | nta - 35 mins in the bathroom and still charging you for it? no way. | assuming you were looking at the timer and are not being hyperbolic when you say she was gone for 5 minutes 7 times, that's over half an hour of time she wasn't actually working on the tattoo and imo should not be chargeable.
she does charge for part of an hour (125 x 2 is 250 so the extra 20 before tip came from som... | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my tattoo artist charges $125 an hour, my tattoo was done by the hour and in t... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for asking my husband to check on me while playing video games? | my husband is an avid computer gamer - mostly wow-type games. approximately five nights of the week, he'll play games online from the time that our son goes to bed at 8:00 or 8:30 to about 12:30, so at least four continuous hours. that in itself is not at all an issue for our relationship. he spends plenty of time with... | 25,533 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hnn6gj/aita_for_asking_my_husband_to_check_on_me_while/ | 2020-07-08 19:03:54 | nta - my so is a gamer similar to yours and in between games he has always came to check on me, kiss me etc. he has always done this from when we were dating to now living together. i think it’s really important, not only to check up on you but to let you know he is thinking of you (or maybe i have gotten used to it!!) | nta i think that’s a fair compromise for him playing wow 5 nights a week for four hours | nta. i don’t know much about wow, but every game has some kind of breaking point in it that leaves time to go and do little things (like going to the bathroom). all you’re asking for is some peace of mind that he, as your husband, should be happy to do for you. | nta, there's a story somewhere on reddit about a guy upstairs playing games with noise cancelling headphones. people broke in and attacked his wife (possibly sexually assaulted her, i can't remember). this is a totally valid request. | nta: i do it all the time for my wife, don’t see why he can’t. | nta. this is a basic courtesy you are asking for from someone who is your partner and is supposed to care for you.
it's funny because this is something that actually happened-ish to myself and my husband a few years ago. i was taking a bath and he was playing video games. i dropped something and it made a very loud n... | nta. i had this same issue with my husband the other day. he was playing with headphones on and i was in the kitchen putting dishes away (i’m pregnant btw) and the whole cabinet came off the wall and almost crushed me! i reacted super quickly and caught it and began screaming for help and nothing. a neighbor came in ru... | nta. this reminds me of the post where the guy was gaming with noise cancelling headphones on and didn’t realize his wife was being raped downstairs. she was being assaulted for 10 mins before he realized something was wrong... | how about only one ear covered by the headphones? could solve both your problems.
i nta. but i think the timing is off as he thinks you're simply doing this simply because you fell down. which to men doesn't necessarily make sense | nta
i was engaged to a gamer who would literally play all day (lost his job and refused to get another one). we’re talking wake up at noon, game until 4/5am.
one day i fell in the shower - products smashed all over the floor, tile broken etc. loud. absolutely no reaction whatsoever. luckily i was ok apart from a few b... | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my husband is an avid computer gamer - mostly wow-type games. approximately fi... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for taking back my dresser from my stepdaughter? | f30
when i first married my husband (m36) and moved in with him i decided to give my stepdaughter my old dresser and nightstand from my parents house. my set was much nicer and she loved it so we got rid of her old dresser during the move.
it’s been about 4 years now and my husband and i have a 2 year old daughter a... | 3,522 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yxzmyy/aita_for_taking_back_my_dresser_from_my/ | 2022-11-17 19:48:54 | yta.
i have no idea who you think you are. but you are one thing, a extremely terrible stepmother who is very selfish and apparently only cares about her own flesh and blood.
your husband is still required to buy his own daughter things even though he is paying child support.
you gave her the dresser and night stand... | yta.
you and your husband.
that poor kid.
you are making a massive difference between her and *”your”* child, and it is gross.
she existed when you married your husband, you do not get to treat her like an inconvenient third wheel.
and shame on your husband for actively going along with this crap. | yta. way to make sure your stepdaughter knows that you don’t consider her your daughter and that she comes second to the new baby. | you’re really leaning in to some unpleasant stereotypes about step parents.
yta | yta- why wouldn’t you have just bought a different dresser for your step daughter if you knew you’d be wanting this for your own kids one day. it’s definitely a slap in the face to your step daughter… like “oh sorry my “real” child is here now so you’re not important enough to have this” … the fact that you aren’t even... | yta. a big one. you gave your stepdaughter something. then you are trying to take it back for your 'real' kid. as if this child isn't going through enough stress having a new half sister. now you are making her feel she has been replaced. major ah move. the irony is, you probably could have sold her on buying her a new... | >i have always wanted my children to have my old things from my childhood and that included the dresser set.
and you did that. your kid has your things. just not your bio kid. but she is your kid nonetheless.
yta. | yta
you keep saying that you gave the dresser to your stepdaughter. you didn’t seem to tell your stepdaughter that you were letting her use your old dresser until your real children needed it.
now you’re not only taking back the furniture but you’re also telling your stepdaughter to downsize and that you’re done spen... | yta!!! you are talking about your stepkid as if she doesn't mean anything.
the damn dresser is in your house who cares which one of your three daughters are using it!
if i would be your stepkid i would be thinking that i was good enough before your own kids ce along but now that you do have them im nothing anymore.
w... | yta
if you knew you wanted to give your biological child your childhood dresser, you could have:
* not given it to your stepdaughter
* bought your stepdaughter a new dresser of her choosing and framed it as something good/her growing out of the other dresser
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AITA for playing music over my Bluetooth speaker on a public hiking trail? | where to begin with this...
i guess i need to say up front i'm not an outdoors type person. but i was sort of excited to go on a hike yesterday. we are in san diego for the fourth of july and my cousin said it would be really fun if me and my friends went on a hike while she (cousin) had to work. we went to a place ca... | 6,301 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/c9490s/aita_for_playing_music_over_my_bluetooth_speaker/ | 2019-07-04 16:02:34 | yta and the worst kind of ass hole.
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there is a time and place for everything. except forcing your shitty musical tastes on other people in public. there is never a time for that.
terrible hiking etiquette and terrible attitude when confronted about your terrible hiking etiquette.
&#x200b; | yta, you should have used headphones. nobody wants to hear your music while they are hiking to enjoy nature. | yta. most people hike to get away from top-40 hits, and those that don't are typically courteous enough to bring headphones. it's also a safe bet that people who feel the need to blast their music around random strangers usually have a poor ability to read the room as far as taste goes.
yta because "everyone sucks her... | yta.
i almost went with everyone sucks here because i completely disagree with her calling you a fat bitch, but she and others had asked you before it escalated and you still said no. there’s rarely a time or place for anyone to listen to their music without headphones in while in public. | > she said that it didn't matter most people were trying to enjoy quiet nature
yta. completely agree that people go on hikes to enjoy the naturalness of nature. loud music can disturb that. i understand that you're with a group of friends but you're on a hike, not at a party. | yta. i love hiking. i want to get out in nature. away from the busy life. hear the sounds of birds, the wind, flowing water... it's very peaceful and mentally refreshing.
you blasting music ruins that. can you seriously not enjoy a hike or being out in nature without being unplugged for a day?? enjoy the scenery and b... | yta for sure. people who blast their music out loud in public places and especially on hikes are the worst. | yta. if you were in a waiting room, still the asshole. if you were on a bus, the asshole. walking down a sidewalk with a few people around, the asshole. in line for a ride at an amusement park, the asshole. absolutely no one else wants to listen to whatever shitty noises are coming from your phone. the guys coming down... | yta.
1)listen to your music on your headphones like an adult
2) if you want to listen in a group do not do that in a public place.
3) if you find hikes so boring don't go on one.
i don't agree with the manner in which you were confronted, but the fact that you are still actually questioning whether it was asshole ... | yta. everyone hates the group blasting shitty music. go somewhere else if you want to do that. | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: where to begin with this... i guess i need to say up front i'm not an outdoors... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for telling my Fiance to get over himself? | i'm engaged to my fiance (sam/41) and we're getting married soon. i will say that he was married before and had a 13 year old son who passed away 4 years ago. let me tell you he is still pretty much grieving, not judging him for that but his grieving can and will cloud his thinking sometimes.
we're currently in the we... | 14,235 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/u4wb9h/aita_for_telling_my_fiance_to_get_over_himself/ | 2022-04-16 12:00:35 | yta. a wedding is about both of you. he offered a comprise. you're putting your foot down...why? what he wants is harmless and also really sweet.
'guests will be asking questions and will think he's mentally unstable.'
'i don't people to laugh at us.'
so...don't invite ahs to your wedding?
i'm sorry but given how... | yta unequivocally. a huge gaping one. he lost his child. you don't get over that. you made him sob over a chair. think about that for a minute. the way you're approaching this is disgusting. you're the one that needs to get over yourself. if i were him i would be calling the whole wedding off. the disrespect is unreal. | you are right about his grief clouding his thinking sometimes. he must've been totally clouded over when he agreed to marry you.
you come across as a very cold hearted, self obsessed person.
you don't deserve him.
yta | yta - leaving a front row seat open at the ceremony and having an “in memory” table with some pictures of loved ones you wish could attend at the reception are both very common wedding practices for people who have lost close family members. | yta. no one is going to think he's mentally unstable or insane, thats all in your head. its quite common to have emty chairs for this reason, if you place a photo on the chair its clear what you are doing. they are usually in the family section where they belong not as an afterthought in the back.
interestingly you f... | yta. a massive one. like....couldn't be more of one. he should not only get his empty seat at the very front, but there should be a photo of his son in that seat. he will always be a father and the fact that you're trying to erase his son from an important day in his life and belittling his feelings is a really big ind... | yta. that is a beautiful way to have his deceased child still included in the wedding and everyone who would laugh at that or think him 'mentally unstable' should not be someone you want at your wedding anyway | yta. wow. never seen an easier one on this sub ever | yta, majorly.
i''ve been at multiple weddings where an empty chair was reserved for a deceased loved one. there's no reason any guest will make fun of you or think he's unstable. it's not going to ruin the aesthetic of your wedding...cuz that's what you seem to be worried about.
secondly, how dare you try to inva... | i have never seen anyone post on this site who was more of ta than this. | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | null | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i'm engaged to my fiance (sam/41) and we're getting married soon. i will say t... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA For banning my former Mother-in-Law from my house because she keeps showing up and letting herself in? | my former mother in law is 52 years old and i am 32 years old. back when i was 23 i married i got my then girlfriend pregnant, we married soon after and she gave birth to our little girl. 2 years after my wife got extremely sick and passed soon after, leaving me with our daughter.
i decided to move several states away... | 19,346 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/lnmcyv/aita_for_banning_my_former_motherinlaw_from_my/ | 2021-02-19 18:08:00 | nta because of three main reason:
1. this is your house
2. this is your kid
3. this is your life
you lost your wife (i’m genuinely sorry for your loss), you grieved, you accepted your loss and then you moved on. you’re not cheating on anyone and you’re well within your right to not allow her into your property. keep h... | nta, you've warned her multiple times, if she wants to see her grandchild she should call you and ask either come over or take your daughter out somewhere. i would not give the keys back. | nta. why does this woman have a key/access code to your home?
she is 100% the ah. good locks make good neighbors. i wouldn't recommend giving anyone a key who doesn't live in your house unless you're going to be gone except one person whom you can trust to not do this (like your parents or a friend). | nta
you are entitled to your own privacy and it should be expected for an adult to respect another adults private and personal space. showing up constantly and letting herself in... that’s too much.
however, i’d remember that your deceased wife’s mother is clearly without anyone. her only child is dead. her only gra... | she crossed the line and you are nta. change your locks asap.
i would highly recommend giving her time with your daughter that is not at your house, and be clear that you are an adult allowed to make your own romantic choices and she should not be discussing that with your kid.
either supervised visits at a park, o... | nta. she is violating boundaries big time! the loss of her daughter does not entitle her to invade your home and your life. your wife died, you did not. it is completely reasonable to move on when the time is right. | .... cheating on your deceased wife? she just bypassed all boundaries and went straight for alarmingly delusional. before i was thinking “this woman has no boundaries” now i’m thinking “this woman needs therapy and you need to change your locks” (taking her key works just as well hopefully).
i do you think you’ll eve... | i’m gonna play devil’s advocate up until she accused you of cheating etc.
she lost her daughter, son in law and grandchild in different ways, she obviously hasn’t dealt with the grief or loss in a healthy way which has manifested itself this way.
she crossed a line when she accused you of cheating on your wife who ... | if i read correctly, your wife has been gone for at least 5 years. nta. your mil needs grief counseling and boundaries. | nta - but you should change your locks regardless. you don't know that she didn't make copies. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my former mother in law is 52 years old and i am 32 years old. back when i was... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for sleeping with my cousin? | this is a throwaway account which i will probably nuke.
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me and my family have a big country house and my parents decided to have my uncle, his wife and their son (who we'll call tom) over this last weekend as the weather seemed quite lovely. tom isn't blood related to me as he was adopted one year before... | 5,687 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/budy1w/aita_for_sleeping_with_my_cousin/ | 2019-05-29 12:17:30 | yta.
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he's still socialized as your cousin, and hooking up at a family country house while your entire family is there is a dick move. sleep with who you want, you're both consenting adults, but yta for putting your family in the middle of it. | what in the yeehaw fuck. he was adopted the year before you were born so you’ve always known him as your cousin? nah i guess? but weird and pretty gross. | yta you fucked your cousin and your mother had to hear it. blood related or not, he is considered your cousin. fyi, parents don't want to hear their children having sex, with anyone. | esh. like i get that he’s not blood related to you, but come on you still have that familial tie. and now imagine how every family event is going to go from now on. nsa or not there will still be that “hey i slept with you” association. | yta wow maybe my family is just ugly because there are a lot of family sex stories lately and i don't like looking at my family never mind... 😝 urgh no.
oh you're not related. still keep it private. no one wants to explain to great aunt ellen with dementia that you're fuckin.
if you want to make this into a thing t... | yta
seriously, not sure how anyone comes to a different conclusion. glad you didn’t engage in incest, but cmon...that shit is weird.
if you really needed to get laid maybe leaving the home you were sharing with your families would have been a good start. as it stands, your decision was selfish and obviously caused ... | if you had an adopted brother, would you justify having sex with him just bc you aren't blood related? no. its the same logic with your cousin. | yta i was adopted when i was a baby and i’ve never thought of having sex with any family member. i’m technically not blood related to any of them but i still see them as my family. | [removed] | alabama? | YTA | NAH | YTA | ESH | YTA | YTA | null | YTA | null | null | 0.042848 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: this is a throwaway account which i will probably nuke. &#x200b; me and my... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for telling my girlfriend that she needs to shave her legs? | here me out, before you all throw the misogynist card. i'll keep it as short as possible.
as background information, my girlfriend is very high-maintenance. she doesn't wear makeup or do fancy things with her hair, but she's always spending money on creams and oils and masks or whatever to put on her face and skin. sh... | 5,373 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ffeu01/aita_for_telling_my_girlfriend_that_she_needs_to/ | 2020-03-08 16:25:42 | yta
> told her that it's gross that she doesn't shave her legs because it's a huge turn off and it's disgusting. it's bad enough that she doesn't wear makeup or heals or normal things girls are supposed to do.
a) lots of girls don't wear makeup or heels*, b) if you want a girlfriend who wears those things, go get ... | i have heard you out and you are a misogynist yta | yta showering is hygiene shaving is cosmetic. you can’t compare them. | >doesn't wear makeup or heels or normal things girls are supposed to do
well fuck me with a broomstick i've just found out that after 24 years i've not been a girl doing girl things after all. thank you for enlightening me to the fact i am, apparently, some weird alien creature and not a normal girl, oh great wise... | yta, not showering at night or in the morning is gross. she called you out on it because you stunk, and i am surprised she even agreed to sleep in the same bed with you without washing. a bit of clean hair on her legs is not gross, and it’s awful that you called her natural body disgusting. then you insulted her about ... | yta. she doesn't "need" to shave and women aren't "supposed" to wear makeup or high heels. some choose to, some don't. if it's such a turnoff for you that she chooses not to and you find her unshaven legs gross and disgusting, why are you even with her? | yta
high maintenance? really? so her trying to have nice skin is high maintenance now? how does this play into anything?
she keeps you on top of cleaning. i personally need that kick in the butt. your examples and your hyperbolic statements don’t even match.
and i don’t thing you actually care about her shaving her ... | "here me out, before you all throw the misogynist card."
lmfao.
yta. you actually think a little hair on the legs is disgusting, but using cologne to cover up not showering is fine? you're a piece of work. | op:
>before you all throw the misogynist card...
also op:
>it's bad enough that she doesn't wear makeup or heals or normal things girls are supposed to do.
what's does "normal things girls are **_supposed_** to do" even mean?
not shaving is not the same as not showering for 2 days. it's not unhygienic to no... | yta absolutely. don't know why you told people not to throw the misogynist card right before telling a super mysoginist story, but here we are.
to be fair, your gf doesn't sound amazing here either, but you are a much bigger ah in this scenario. honestly not sure why you guys are dating bc from your telling it doesn't... | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: here me out, before you all throw the misogynist card. i'll keep it as short a... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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