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AITA for not wanting my nephew to watch the TV in my room? | english isn't my first language so sorry if there is any mistakes.
i [m15] live with my parents, my older sister sofia [f19], sofia's boyfriend adrian [m19] and their child luke [m3].
luke is a difficult child and is a menace sometimes. sofia and adrian struggles to keep control of him. he is very hyper and destructi... | 1,852 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xheq95/aita_for_not_wanting_my_nephew_to_watch_the_tv_in/ | 2022-09-18 11:56:19 | nta - locking the door is your only option until you are able to move out. good for you for setting and maintaining reasonable boundaries.
i hope that this teaches you a lesson about having a kid at 16, don't be like sofia and adrian! | nta. ***i'd contact child protective services if these teen-age parents are just putting a 3 yr old child into a room and shutting the door to keep him confined without them watching him.*** maybe this child needs better, caring parents. don't either of the parents work or are they home all day? this room seems t... | nta. not your kid. not your boyfriend. not your problem. | nta, you’re being made the victim of your destructive nephew as opposed to your sister and her boyfriend parenting him.
unfortunately there’s also nothing you can do about it other than hope to reason with them or convince your parents to side with you, since it’s ultimately their house and you have little agency acco... | nta. why should you have to share your space, especially with someone who doesn’t respect it?
also, the kid has two parents, why does his mother needing a break mean he has to be in your room instead of being watched by the other parent? sitting a kid down in front of a tv all the time is also what is causing his be... | nta. if sofia and adrian think that it’s unfair, they should move out and rent a place of their own. | phrase it to your parents a different way.
"it's dangerous to lock a 3 year old child in a room by himself, especially with food. if he gets hurt, i won't lie to the authorities and i will let them know that sister is neglectful and didn't care about the risk to nephews safety. people will also know that you two knew ... | > sister: you only think of yourself.
> also sister: wants her nephew to stay in his uncle’s room because she doesn’t want to share a room with a toddler, so she decides to try and inconvenience her little brother.
nta. but your sister is, and both her and her boyfriend suck at parenting. | nta. it's your room and youe space and you get to decide who gets to be in it, especially if someone is destructive and makes a mess. incidentally it's also their kid and their responsibility...if they wanna keep luke in your room for a time the least they should do is watch him and clean up after him... | it is up to your sister to parent her child, not you. and it is up to your sister to tidy up after her child, not you. you are entitled to protect your property when she behaves in this way. nta. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: english isn't my first language so sorry if there is any mistakes. i [m15] liv... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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english isn't my first language so sorry if there is any mistakes. i... |
AITA For letting my friend sniff my girlfriend? | title sounds strange, i know.
one of my friends (23m) is a bit of a prankster and enjoys having fun. he is really beloved by our group.
i recently got into a relationship with a girl who doesn't really know my friends. so the 5 of us decided to meet up at an outdoor patio for drinks. we all met up there and immediate... | 198 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jbq3li/aita_for_letting_my_friend_sniff_my_girlfriend/ | 2020-10-15 15:48:47 | yta many women freeze up and do nothing when men do these things because some men become violent. being a "big girl" has nothing to do with it. our adrenal response is fight, flight, or freeze. she froze, you should have stood up for her, or learned and apologized and not let it happen again.
also it is not "funny" to... | yta.
your friend acted like a complete creep and you thought it was funny.
fyi your friend should not act that way when he doesn't know somebody's sense of humor. his actions easily could have come off as aggressive or harassing, even in a sexual nature. that's not okay, and you should have had your gf's back. | yta.
what he did wasn't cool. it was being creepy and shoreline rapey. you stood there and laughed while your girlfriend was standing there being violated. its not funny to get your personal space violated especially by someone who is new to you. it doesn't matter that "thats just his sense of humor". **no**.
its way... | yta 100%. your “friend“ is a creepy asshole, and you are just as big of an asshole, if not worse, for letting him treat your girlfriend this way and then being completely dismissive of her feelings. i hope that she breaks up with you immediately because you sound like an absolute shitty boyfriend. | definitely yta. the sniffing thing was gross and creepy, but essentially being pinned to a wall by a stranger (he’s a stranger to her, remember) while her boyfriend laughed was probably terrifying and humiliating.
the punch line of this “joke” was that it’s funny for a woman to be feel unsafe is not funny. because tha... | yta that is so disgusting. she was approached by a stranger and cornered while you were across the room laughing. it’s weird that you would allow your friend to do something like that to your girlfriend and make her feel unsafe. that’s sexual harassment | yta he sniffed her *and* said, “you look fresh,” while pinning her in place and looming over her? it’s the, “you look fresh,” line that sends me. you know what that means, right? you know what he intended to imply. he dehumanized her, treated her like a piece of meat, like sexual prey, like a walking bag of sexual orga... | yta stand up for your woman! what if some huge dude who was a friend of hers did that to you? she was terrified | yta. he was asserting dominance. it was 'funny' because she was trapped and couldn't stop him from doing what he wanted. a lot of women associate sniffing them/ their stuff with creepy guys. i had my hair sniffed by several guys back in hs and it was so creepy. you let your friend make your gf uncomfortable for la... | yta. what’s the punchline? “hahahah, you’re scared of a large man with no respect for your personal space! lol so funny!!!!” | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | YTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: title sounds strange, i know. one of my friends (23m) is a bit of a prankster ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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title sounds strange, i know. one of my friends (23m) is a bit of a ... |
AITA for calling CPS on my fiancé’s uncle? | preface: this all happened last year (june of 2021)
i (20f) was asked by my fiancé’s (21m) uncle to babysit his 5 kids (12f, 8m, 4m, 3f, and 2f) last year so his wife could start working to make extra money for their household. they were willing to pay me $300 a week so it wasn’t so bad. i always knew they were prett... | 952 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/txrufa/aita_for_calling_cps_on_my_fiancés_uncle/ | 2022-04-06 17:46:40 | nta - if a child is admitted to the hospital for malnutrition without an underlying medical disorder, the hospital will absolutely be calling cps themselves. whatever they had to deal with regarding cps would have happened whether you called or not. | oh honey, that’s such a shame. you did the right thing, which was to alert the right agency to the risk the children were facing. without someone intervening, it could have carried on like that indefinitely with more children becoming sick. and you don’t know if the hospital notified them, malnutrition in a child is a ... | nta
thank you. just thank you.
those kids are being taken care of now. you weren't trying to split the family apart. you were trying to make sure the family stayed alive and well. don't forget that. | nta. you prioritized the kids' health and safety, which is never an ah thing to do. good on you for caring about those kids. and, it seems like the situation ended up working out pretty well because they're much better cared for now. | lord god in heaven, nta.
in fact, you probably didn't even run them in yourself. nurses are mandated reporters. if they get a 2yo with malnutrition, they're gonna use the red phone that connect directly to cps. they were likely already under investigation at that point and unaware. | nta
obviously, you made the right call. them not talking to you is a small sacrifice for the health and safety of the kids. maybe someday they will look past their hurt pride and see that. | nta
the tipping point was the malnutrition. roaches happen, bed bugs happen. holes in the floor or other places don’t really matter as long as the temperature inside isn’t dangerously hot or cold. cramped living spaces aren’t a big deal.
too many people seem to think that calling cps automatically means kids wil... | nta, sounds like you gave them the wakeup call they needed, im glad the children are doing a lot better now | nta. seems like you did everything you could before you had to make that call. they also seem to be doing so much better because of that call. you did the right thing and those kid will have a better life for it. | nta. the hospital would have called anyway. malnutrition is a huge red flag and without an underlying condition that's basically automatically a cps call. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: preface: this all happened last year (june of 2021) i (20f) was asked by my fi... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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preface: this all happened last year (june of 2021) i (20f) was aske... |
AITA for being upset at my birthday presents | i just turned 16 a few days ago and this has been something bugging my mind. so 16 is a pretty big mile stone. lots of people usually get big presents. most of my friends got like new phones, air pods, new clothes. things like that. i don’t like to consider myself spoiled so obviously i wasn’t expecting something big b... | 280 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f72156/aita_for_being_upset_at_my_birthday_presents/ | 2020-02-20 23:38:14 | nta
lol the people calling you an asshole wouldn't have wanted a pillow when they were 16 i bet 😂 | nta.
honestly your sister kind of sounds like one. she hyped you up, had you thinking you were gonna get something super awesome. then told you that you were an ungrateful brat because you didn't jump up and down with excitement over a pillow. 😂
also you held it together and pretended to be happy out of respect f... | nta.
didn't expect it from thread title, but going with it.
yeah, yeah, nobody gets to demand better gifts, entitled, entitled, blah blah blah...
but... y'know... birthday presents are a thing, countries and communities that celebrate these things have certain expectations, traditions, assumptions and so on. presuma... | nta but your sister is the ah for amping you up the whole time.
you sound like a genuine person and mature for your age. you thought this all through and you’re trying to make sense of it. i don’t think that’s being ungrateful. you had expectations due to various reasons. it is a disappointing situation.
maybe have... | i really want to meet all of these people that are arguing that a walmart pillow & a brand of chocolate bar you don’t even like are acceptable birthday gifts.
i think you’re allowed to feel disappointed that your parents got you something that showed very little thought or effort, especially since your sister got... | info. are you the oldest? if not what did your sibs receive for their 16 bday? | nta
i was full on expecting you to be entitled and spoiled but a pillow and a chocolate bar? what?
i’m surprised your sister didn’t wrap a stick of gum and say that was her present to you. | nta i'm kinda surprised at the y-t-a s because if this was one of those christmas posts where a woman gets a vacuum or a guy gets deodorant / something that's more of a necessity, i'm pretty sure anyone saying be grateful you got anything would be downvoted into oblivion. | nta. first, happy sweet sixteen! second, what kind of pillow (not that it really matters)? was it something you had really wanted? i would think your family would put in a little extra effort since you turned 16 and it’s a milestone for sure. it doesn’t sound like you expected a new car or anything extravagant. expecti... | nta in your other comment you said your sister got a computer for her birthday and it was wrong of her to install you with false hope. plus its not like you said anything you did try to act happy | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | INFO | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0.003 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i just turned 16 a few days ago and this has been something bugging my mind. s... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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i just turned 16 a few days ago and this has been something bugging ... |
AITA For Staying Out Late? MIL Called Me A Bad Mother | a little backstory, my family (husband 30, me 26, kids 2&3) lost our home in a fire 3 months ago, and are living with my in-laws.
a few nights ago, my husband and i were at a party with close friends. when it got to be around 130am, my husband decided to go home, but said i could stay and come home later. as i ha... | 152 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pa0uwq/aita_for_staying_out_late_mil_called_me_a_bad/ | 2021-08-23 14:23:57 | nta
you went out for the first time in 2 months and lost track of time - watching movies, not bar hopping!
your husband should have taken care of the toddler when/if he woke up.
i'm more concerned that your husband didn't defend you when his mother went after you in front of him.
i hope your house is repaired soon!... | nta, you're right that this is between you and your husband and he was fine with it. he should have stood up for you rather than staying silent and letting your mil come at you.
you say you messed up, how? it was discussed and agreed that you could stay out later, i don't see how you did anything wrong. eventually in ... | nta.
this was an agreement between you and your spouse. none of mil's business. | nah, except probably your husband.
you can certainly go out for the evening.
but your mother in law didn't call you a bad mother like your title says. she seems to be communicating that she shouldn't be the one to get up with your screaming kids at 4am. and she is right. especially since she's doing you two bi... | from the comments…yeah. yta. well,
your husband is but i would say you kind of are too. you say that you guys sleep in the basement and don’t have a baby monitor. so the kids woke up your mil and your husband didn’t take care them.
you do deserve a day off, but not at your in laws expense. husband needed to step up he... | esh, but very softly. no one wants to wake up at 4am to a screaming child, especially if they arent your kid. i understand why the mother in law could be annoyed the next morning, especially if they had work in the morning.
however, i understand you wanted to have more human interaction after quarantine, the fire, and... | info.
did your husband not take care of your toddler? in a comment you said that your children sleep upstairs and you sleep in the basement but you don't have a baby monitor, are the children waking up constantly and you and your husband are not taking care of it? | nta. part of being a parent is giving your parent an ‘off night’ you had an extra 4 hours to catch up with a friend and still got up in time to check on your kids. your husband consented it was fine. | esh... you live in your in-laws house. they all work, coming home at 6 am is disrespectful even if your husband is ok with that. | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NAH | YTA | ESH | INFO | NTA | ESH | null | 0.390935 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: a little backstory, my family (husband 30, me 26, kids 2&3) lost our home ... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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a little backstory, my family (husband 30, me 26, kids 2&3) lost... |
AITA for refusing to pay for my SILs fertility treatment? | i (32m) am very wealthy. i sold my startup to a big company 10 years ago and invested my money well since. my wife (33f) and i have been together since high school. we have 5 kids (13f, 8f, twins 4m and 1f). we had our first baby young and were flat broke, unplanned, not ready etc. we made it work and luckily, i really... | 4,659 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ugb93n/aita_for_refusing_to_pay_for_my_sils_fertility/ | 2022-05-01 22:37:23 | nta. the irony of someone looking for a handout calling you entitled is… rich. no pun intended. | nta. i feel bad for her because it probably pains her to see you with all your kids and she can’t even have one but it’s still not your responsibility to pay for it. | nta where does it stop. if she feels entitled to the treatment, will she also expect you to pay for daycare, private school, a house in a better county, college? it sucks for her, but once you open the wallet you’ll be on the hook every time she has trouble. | i think it’s weird that no one is bringing up the fact that this woman is 46. i feel like the success rate at that age is next to none. your money would very likely be wasted. regardless of her behavior, this would likely be futile.
nta | nta-being unable to have a child when you want children is heartbreaking but it gives no one the right to be an entitled asshole. | forgetting the money request, which is absolutely obsurd.
she's 46. by the time she has a baby she could be 47,. 48 or older
that baby will be so high risk of many many health problems and so will mom be. and with increased likelihood of major lifelong health problems or birth defects... comes increased cost. how i... | nta&#10;
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you are not responsible for personally paying for someone else's fertility treatments. | nta - what's going to happen if it doesn't work out? is sil going to come to you every time it fails? what happens when the baby arrives and there's still no money? she is not entitled to your money. | people amaze me with their boldness asking for other people's money. and then playing victim when the answer is "no."
nta. | nta.
your money. and you are in the middle of discussing it. you didn't say no to her. she wouldn't stop pestering you about it. you told her youd talk privately but then she blows up on you during your child's birthday?
perhaps your reaction made you an asshole. but she was an asshole tenfold.
honestly... she can ad... | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i (32m) am very wealthy. i sold my startup to a big company 10 years ago and i... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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i (32m) am very wealthy. i sold my startup to a big company 10 years... |
AITA for embarrassing my dad on FB over his post about being a single dad? | i’ve (m16) lived with my grandparents my whole life. my mom took off when i was a baby and haven’t seen her since. so my dad left me with his parents and they basically raised me. my dad was kind of around but not really
he’d sometimes come to take me to his house for the night every month, drop me off and be gone a... | 14,939 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kq706m/aita_for_embarrassing_my_dad_on_fb_over_his_post/ | 2021-01-04 11:34:48 | nta.
truth hurts i guess.
a once a month parent isn't as comparable to single parents whonhave their kids full time. he is only sacrificing one night a month to be with you.
though, a question does pop into mind, does he provide financial support to your grandparents for expenses? same goes with your half siblings... | nta being a father and being a dad are different things | nta, it sounds like both of your parents abandoned you, just one of them sees you occasionally when it's convenient for him. | >>my dad said i was being disrespectful and i don't know what it's like to be a single dad...
from the sounds of it, neither does he.
nta. | nta and good for you. you spoke your truth which was a verifiable fact. he deleted it because he knows you’re right. it’s not your fault that the truth makes him look bad, it’s his. | nta but your father certainly was for posting that on facebook. sure there could be more to it like he's working a lot to help his parents take care of you, but in the end he wasn't there for you and that is what being a parent is so yeah definitely not you, but him. | this is tough but if he is really as absent as you say, nta.
he doesn't deserve the accolades (he is giving *himself*, no less) for something he isn't doing. it was petty, but his posting and patting himself on the back while neglecting his kids is damn tasteless and since *you* were the one used as a prop for likes,... | nta. your dad is mad because you corrected him, but he's the one who involved you so that's on him. he made you a part of his lie and you have every right to set the record straight. you aren't a prop, you are a person.
moral of the story: don't abandon your kids if you want credit for being a good parent. | nta we like it wen people call out bs from shitheads. | nta.
>after i thought about it for some time i guess it was petty to embarrass him by calling out his bs
right here, you are demonstrating that you are fully aware what he is doing is wrong. you know what he's doing is bs. and yet you're still worried you might be the a-hole. i want to make sure you're aware that ... | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i’ve (m16) lived with my grandparents my whole life. my mom took off when i wa... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for refusing to go on a family trip if my cousin goes? | ok a little context my(18f) cousin(18m) and i do not get along. i believe he’s rude, inconsiderate and just a bully.
me and him have never been close because he’s loud and rude whereas i like sitting quietly reading a book or playing a game with friend.
anyways my family had been planning a family vacation for a whi... | 162 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/v6lj58/aita_for_refusing_to_go_on_a_family_trip_if_my/ | 2022-06-07 03:36:33 | nta, why your parents are thinking that it's even appropriate for you to share a room at your ages, let alone putting you in this position considering his past behaviour is beyond the pale. | nta it’s completely inappropriate for a start to be forced to share a room with opposite sex if you don’t want to. they should protect you from your cousins behaviour. you won’t enjoy the trip so bowing out is fair enough | nta.
just your cousin, not his parents? who all in one hotel room - just you and cousin? you with your brothers and cousin?
you have every right to refuse to share an experience with a bully. i don't think you should be forced out of your trip to accommodate the jerkass cousin. if your parents choose him over y... | your cousin handled your bras and underwear? he body shamed you. what’s wrong with your parents? if a non-related boy in school treated you this way they would most likely loose their shit, but it’s your cousin so it’s okay.
stand your ground. watch out for your “family” tricking you and saying your cousin isn’t go... | nta - you have completely valid reasons for not wanting him to tag along this family vacation. it seems like he’s the only one outside your immediate family that is coming so it shouldn’t be an issue for your parents to tell him it’s just going to be you guys without him. | nta.
>the second is that the last family trip he came on he hid most of my clothes and all my undergarments and laughed as i was panicking trying to find something to wear to a fancy dinner.
why the fuck do you parents think it's safe for him to be around you. | nta yikes | nta your cousin is a bully i don't understand why your parents would invite him if it was a family trip. dot they know what he had done and said to you?
stick to your guns about not going p, at the end of the day a holiday is supposed to be relaxing it seems to me it would be hell for you. | nta. you have to share a room with this guy? who disrespects you and brings random girls to the room? i would stay home.
info: why are they taking him? | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: ok a little context my(18f) cousin(18m) and i do not get along. i believe he’s... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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ok a little context my(18f) cousin(18m) and i do not get along. i be... |
AITA For treating my half siblings differently? | my mom and biodad were never in a relationship and my mom got pregnant with me from a one night stand. my biodad didn't totally fuck off, but he ended up marrying one of my mom's friends since they were in the same social circle, and they very much had their life and my mom had hers.
my mom ended up moving in with he... | 509 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dwnas3/aita_for_treating_my_half_siblings_differently/ | 2019-11-15 07:26:50 | nta. you can't invent feelings you don't have. your dad's the asshole for expecting you to have feelings for people when he didn't put forth the effort to ensure that you spent time with these people in order for any feelings to develop in the first place. | nta
this is a convoluted mess of your parents’ making. it isn’t the children’s responsibility to make sure they have a relationship with family members and see them regularly. | nta.
this was your biodad's responsibility to fix, not yours. he could have taken you to vacations, family reunions, made an effort to put you in same hobbies. he didn't.
>my biodad also said my halfsister didn't like being an only child and would still feels sad about having no relationship with me.
yeah, no. wh... | nta. you're entitled to how you feel and if it hurt your dad, then what can you do? there's clearly no relationship there with your step-family and if your dad wanted there to be, he could have put more effort earlier. it's never too late to build a relationship with someone, so you can think of this conversation as a ... | nah
i have a half sister and brother ( we have the same dad, different moms) and we weren't raised together. i don't feel like they're really my siblings, especially because my bio dad cheated on my mom while they were married, with their mom, so they're not supposed to exist. they try to hang out when they're in my a... | honestly op this is real tricky but i’m gonna go nah (except for your bio dad)
it’s reasonable that your half sister wants a relationship but it’s also reasonable that you don’t feel you can provide one - you barely know her and don’t seem to really want to. which is fine!
it seems like your dad is so gung-ho about ... | nta you didn't grow up with your half sibling. that's not your fault | info: how old are you? your half sisters and your brother? | null | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NAH | NAH | NTA | INFO | null | null | 0.022097 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my mom and biodad were never in a relationship and my mom got pregnant with me... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for saying something to my mother in law? | i have been a bigger person all of my life. recently though i went from weighing 275 pounds to 192. i worked my ass off and i’m still a while away from where i want to be. however from a size 20 to a size 12, is something i’ve never been able to achieve but i finally did it.
i also recently got married to the love o... | 3,415 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duiapv/aita_for_saying_something_to_my_mother_in_law/ | 2019-11-10 22:08:07 | nta and your husband had better start supporting you now | nta. your mother in law is out of line to say you might sell your wedding dress without discussing it with you first and for commenting on your weight. your husband sucks for not telling her to knock it off. | nta - i find it hard to believe she didn't intentionally got your size wrong, there is just too much of a difference between size 24 and 12 for her to be that far of the mark. and then offering your dress to a stranger looking for a cheap dress? at best that is just really callous so your husband should understand why ... | nta your husband is for not standing up for you & his mother definitely is. | nta
your husband and your mil are!
your mil shouldn't have broadcasted to an unwanted audience what she assumed your clothing size was, let alone name who the person she was recommending was. she could have privately come to you, made you aware of the person looking for a dress and asked if you were interested.
your... | nta. r/justnoso and r/justnomil | [removed] | nta. why is your husband ok with your mom offering your wedding dress to someone? he should be sticking up for you. | info what were you exact words?
cause if you say to her.. oh my dress was size 12 not 24 and i’m also not selling it. i don’t see why your husband would call you an asshole unless you said something rude? or your husband is an asshole... | nta mil needs to mind her business about your weight. congratulations by the way! that’s hard work. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | INFO | NTA | 0.00388 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i have been a bigger person all of my life. recently though i went from weighi... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for telling my siblings their parents did them a disservice by raising them in an all white town? |
i was adopted at a very young age and i have a lot of other siblings who were adopted by a few different families. we are black, and three of my siblings were adopted by a white family. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and people who adopt children who need homes are amazing. but there are major differences... | 213 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/q46xsi/aita_for_telling_my_siblings_their_parents_did/ | 2021-10-08 21:10:54 | nta for calling their parents racist because they are.
esh for thinking all black people need to be raised a certain way. i've seen some pretty strong sentiment lately that black people who get typical "white people education and white people jobs" are not black enough and don't be in the black community because "they... | nta. i was adopted and raised in a white family/neighborhood and i totally understand the concerns you have. i wasn't really around people who looked like me until college, and the feeling of racial/cultural isolation that preceded that was very real. | nta and your siblings raised in a white environment are going to have a helluva wake up call throughout their lives whenever they leave the adoptive families' bubbles. | nta
i’m white and i can’t imagine how badly it has to screw with a person’s head to be raised as “one of the ‘good’ black people.” | oh dear. nta, and i hope your siblings figure out how racist their upbringing is without hurting you or anyone else. | nta. you don't need to apologize. their parents taught them to be self-hating black people by perpetuating ignorant racist stereotype like black people are criminals and that black people are uneducated. we are not a monolith and you are not a racist for pointing out blatantly racist comments. however, i wouldn't waste... | nta. you came to the wrong place for a discussion like this. most of the people on reddit do not have the cultural competency for this situation. that will not stop them from giving their opinions, though. it will take your siblings time to recognize the racism they have been taught and have internalized. | nta- i'm white and i totally agree with this. it's very sad they've basically been taught this and not been taught the rich culture they come from. | nta
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AITA for giving my brothers girlfriend a place to stay in secret from him? | my older brother nick has always been a little troubled but a few years ago he met a girl i'll call mia who seemed to get him on the straight and narrow.
i met up with mia for dinner recently to catch up. she seemed anxious and upset and after a while she opened up about how nick was getting really jealous and control... | 7,312 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oyo30v/aita_for_giving_my_brothers_girlfriend_a_place_to/ | 2021-08-05 18:05:59 | nta, but lets say what you did: *help her escape an abus!ve relationship*
your brother is controlling to the point she doesn't feel safe leaving him. the ah here, apart obviously from your brother, is your mom, whose golden child can do no wrong: if she was like this every time he did something wrong growing up, it is... | nta you need to get her away from him. your brother is controlling and abusive. he called her professor to say she can't be in any groups with men. that's insane. marrying your brother would be the biggest mistake of her life. but it's also not right that she is staying with him so he will pay for her school. | nta, and the response to your mother was absolutely on the money. she just didn't like it when her double standard was called out.
sorry to say this but your brother was being controlling and emotionally abusive.
good on you for saving her from having to deal with potential further abuse and helping her to finish h... | nta. the hero. so many people side with the abuser because the abuser is the member of their family. you believed her and gave mia a safe place to stay and a way to finish her degree.
unfortunately, it probably isn't safe for her anymore, because your mom is definitely going to tell him where she is. | nta. your brother is an abuser. your mum is enabling that abuse (heading towards engagement when she’s scared of his reactions? *really*????) | nta and your brother needs help. would your mom be cool with a guy contacting your professors to make sure you aren't allowed to be in groups with men?? i'm surprised her professors didn't refer her to campus counseling.
it sounds like you've been a good friend and have your priorities in life straight. | nta for giving her a place to stay and helping her out. it's unfortunate that your mom found out and that she might no longer have a safe space to stay and finish school.
your brother nick is a massive asshole and controlling prick if he's emailing professors and telling them she can't work with men. that's absolute... | nta
women don't ghost people like that for no reason. | nta by a long shot! what you did or rather wanted to do was great! ...however sometimes you need to see the extent of how much you can help vs how you want to help. you wanted to provide a safe supportive environment for mia, but you can't do that as long as you're letting your (toxic or enabling?) family come visit | nta
your brother was being an abusive as agile and mia should have absolutely left him.
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Aita for not making making my fiance dinner? | i work third shift. my fiance didnt work for 7 years due to a back injury. weve been together for 2. he finally went back to work last may. he does security work, mostly from a desk. up until 2 months ago it was 7pm to 7 am friday saturday and sunday and occassionally shifts during the week. now hes with a company that... | 474 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/flzo65/aita_for_not_making_making_my_fiance_dinner/ | 2020-03-20 18:08:57 | nta, wtf is his deal? and you plan to marry him? better rethink that. | nta. waking you multiple times in the middle of your night is beyond inconsiderate. i am actually stunned you were as nice as you were when you found out there was cooked food available for him. i predict this is going to get locked as a breakup thread. | nta he's a grown ass man he can cook for himself | info: is your fiance not capable of putting a frozen pizza in the oven for himself? | nta and this is a warning flag for you. clearly he sees you as his kitchen service. | nta. you're on different shifts. it is unacceptable for him to expect you to wake up and make him dinner. he is a grown man who two functioning arms and, i assume, the capability to read instructions. he can make his own food. | nta
if my husband woke me up to ask me to make him a meal i’d laugh in his face. this isn’t 1950. it’s not my job to make him dinner just like it’s not his job to pay all my bills.
you’re absolutely correct that you’re not your fiancé’s cook or his mother, and it’s not your job to feed this grown ass man dinner. ... | nta. 🚩🚩 is he always like this? because if he is, are you sure you want to vow til death do us part to this treatment? | nta. grown man can make his own dinner | nta so for me, this would be like asking me to make food right after i went to sleep/as i was getting ready for bed, then again waking me up at 1am then again at 3am. that is something a sick child does (better be actually sick too) not a grown man. working nights does not mean you don’t deserve sleep. | NTA | NTA | NTA | INFO | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0.003 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i work third shift. my fiance didnt work for 7 years due to a back injury. wev... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for telling my (23m) gf (23f) it's not her friends' responsibility to support her small business? | my gf recently started doing vintage clothing curating as a side hustle, she started on instagram and a couple months ago was invited into a shop, so does fri-sun selling at the shop. she'll be doing it until july when the block the shop is in gets torn down to make apartments.
we both work full time in the tech indus... | 201 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/lilhld/aita_for_telling_my_23m_gf_23f_its_not_her/ | 2021-02-12 21:40:41 | nta.
i don't think she was ready to face the harsh reality of being an entrepreneur. i cant agree with your gf when she says her friends are fake for not supporting her business. . maybe she should reevaluate what the term support means. it doesn't always have to me monetary or show a physical presence. also, i'm sur... | nta. your girlfriend is extremely selfish for wanting other people to support her lifestyle at their expense, just for her convenience. her friends have no obligation to effectively transfer money to her just to keep her inefficient and noncompetitive glorified hobby horse afloat because she doesn't want to support her... | nta. she literally wants people to pay for the privilege of being her friend. does she pay her friends to spend time with them? | nta, also, your girlfriend sucks for literally gentrifying _thrifting._ i know it's popular these days, but ahs like your girlfriend are the reason poor people have literally zero chance to pick up something decent-looking at goodwill. i am _dead broke_ and goodwill is how i looked presentable for my job and interviews... | nta
you’re totally right. maybe you didn’t need to snap but your sentiments are fair.
i have a friend who started a clothing business a couple of years ago. some of her pieces are gorgeous and some are the most horrendous things i’ve ever seen. i’ve spent a fair amount of money with her business, even on some custom ... | nta.
running a business is way harder than getting your friends to buy your stuff. what she’s describing is a mlm, which is definitely not a business.
she can succeed but she’s got to market, find her target audience and advertise to them. it’s a lot of hard work and why many small business never can quite make it ... | nta.
if her friends are capable of making or breaking her business by spending funds there, she's not doing it right. she might as well be running her own little mlm product page at that point. she's got a hobby, not a business. the sooner she realizes it, the better. | nta. anyone who has a successful business didn't become successful by relying on friends to buy things. unless you're opening something like a grocery store or another essential product, people just can't always afford to buy random things. especially random things they don't want, or can't use. she's in a niche market... | null | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | null | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: my gf recently started doing vintage clothing curating as a side hustle, she s... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for not letting a lady go in front of me at the checkout? | i'm new to reddit and posting here, so hopefully i'm doing this right.
i didn't think i was ta in this situation, but the other lady sure seemed to think i was, so now i'm not sure if i was or not.
i (40f) was doing some grocery shopping today. i have several children so it was a reasonably decent size shop (though n... | 397 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ylpuv6/aita_for_not_letting_a_lady_go_in_front_of_me_at/ | 2022-11-04 05:29:12 | nta, she will be in hell first! who cares! | nta
other lady sounds entitled, tbh.
but nobody deserves ro cut in line just because they have a smaller load, and nobody should expect it. | nta ....
1. she had a basket full
2. your stuff was on the belt
3. it's a courtesy not a requirement
maybe she had a bad day .... or she's the ah. | not the asshole. it's not your fault that you've got a crazy lady behind you in line. it's fucked up that she said that to you. you sound like a totally reasonable person. | nta there is no rule requiring people with more groceries to let someone with fewer go first. | nta. she had a whole basket. if you let her go, surely you'd need to let the next person with less items go too? and the next and the next and the next.. where does it end?
also the nerve of her! i assume she actually believes in god and hell and to condemn you to an eternity of suffering for not letting her go first ... | uh yeah, easily nta.
i'd have had some really choice words back for her. | nta, and the audacity of her entitlement!
letting someone go ahead is a kindness, not a right. | nta. i hate when people with a few items purposefully line up behind me, even though there are other checkouts open, because they just expect me to let them go first. it happened to me today - i was halfway through unloading my cart and this woman lined up behind me and as soon as i made eye contact i could see she exp... | nta. she sounds unstable. there are a lot of ahs in the grocery store but you aren’t one of them. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i'm new to reddit and posting here, so hopefully i'm doing this right. i didn'... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for not wanting to share my snacks with my coworker(s) anymore? | i like to bring snacks to work almost everyday to munch on in the afternoon. i usually bring some chips,cookies,popcorn, mix trail etc, basically snacks that i can eat throughout a period of time. my coworkers has noticed my habit of bringing snacks to work and would eat some,which i don't mind at first. however, it h... | 2,921 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/j4di4s/aita_for_not_wanting_to_share_my_snacks_with_my/ | 2020-10-03 10:23:36 | nta.
honestly with the pandemic it isn't great for someone to be sticking their hand in a bag of chips that you are eating either way. you don't know when they last washed their hands, etc. i know that's not the point but still. | [deleted] | i had a co-worker like this once. it was so painful.
instead of holding onto resentment and then snapping, probably just tell everyone, “hey guys, i’m going to stop providing snacks for everyone now as i can no longer afford it.” i’m not faulting you for snapping, because i’m like that too - i get more and more resent... | nta. stop sharing your snacks as of now, embrace the title of mean ol' stingy, and feel perfectly fine in doing so. you're under no obligation to feed the office and those snacks cost money. don't get defensive about it and just shrug when they whine. 'not my problem if you don't bring a snack, dude. there's a convenie... | this might be just me, but if anyone comes to me and complains, this person is not sharing, i would ask them, and what did you bring to share? i also never like entitle people. people should never assume that the brought snacks was for sharing. nta. | nta. if your co-workers want snacks, then they should bring their own. you are not obliged to take care of their catering. | nta. tell them to get their own snacks | nta. tell your coworkers that if they each give you $5 (or some amount you deem reasonable), you will buy snacks for all and put them in a central location. if they don't contribute, cut them off. | [deleted] | nta. and ewwww!! who the hell walks up and sticks their dirty, germy hand into a bag of food that you’re eating??!!!! during a pandemic???!!! | NTA | null | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | null | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: i like to bring snacks to work almost everyday to munch on in the afternoon. i... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for taking my son to a concert instead of my wife? | so me (45m) and my wife (46f) both love this small indie band that's kinda local, however due to their size they don't really have any large-ish scale concerts, however i found out they were opening for this other band, so i got us tickets, i thought worst case scenario, if we hate the main band we can just go out to d... | 3,764 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w1x6a4/aita_for_taking_my_son_to_a_concert_instead_of_my/ | 2022-07-18 11:40:01 | nta. she is playing a weird game with you that i don't really understand. if she wanted to skip the concert and just go to a nice restaurant or something she should have been upfront with you. enjoy your concert with your son and do something with your wife another day. | nta
maybe next time she won't lie to get out of doing something seeing as it bit her in the ass here.
she doesn't get to be mad after she misled you too believe she was working when she wasn't. she doesn't get to be upset when she lied about it. | nta. you went by the lie she told you. | nta. i dnt get why she lied. why not just ask you to sell the damn tickets, and still plan a nice night out? it wasn’t that serious. i’d just let her be upset. she caused this unnecessary nonsense instead of just properly communicating with you. i dnt get it. | nta. sounds like you’re wife (and maybe you with her) should go to some counseling and work on learning how to better communicate. she attempted to manipulate the situation instead of just being honest with her partner about how she was feeling and she reaped the consequences. | nta. she should have been honest with you from the start.
besides, you're taking your son who loves the band. it's not like you're taking some other woman. | nta.
so your wife lied to you, refused to answer direct questions, and said she was busy, but now this exact day is the most important day ever for a date.
you should be clear with your wife:
1. you didn't want to go to the show and would not directly answer questions about other plans.
2. you lied to me and said ... | nta, she manipulated you and lied making up an excuse for you to sell the tickets. your son was excited, you liked the opener and he liked the headliner.. win/win. next time maybe your wife can be honest instead of manipulative. play stupid games, win stupid prizes. now you have the chance to make some father/son m... | is this representative of your usual communication? because going to all the effort of lying about having work & then becoming free again instead of just saying "can we do something else this night" is a crazy choice. especially being cold to your son. is it really that infrequently that you go on dates that's made... | nta. is she always like this? lying to your spouse and playing head games like this is rather toxic. why can’t she just tell you she didn’t want to go? she sounds like a royal pain in the @$$. i assume she has redeeming qualities? | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: so me (45m) and my wife (46f) both love this small indie band that's kinda loc... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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AITA for not letting my brother and SIL move in? | i(34m) and my wife(36f) got married in may. we found out that she is pregnant and decided to move from our small apartment into a house with 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms. it's enough space for the kids and for us. we also have a small house in the back that has 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. my wife's plan is to have her pa... | 1,024 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pt89d2/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_and_sil_move_in/ | 2021-09-22 14:06:09 | nta. even if you all got along great, having extra people living with you while you’re settling into a new house and *your wife is pregnant* sounds incredibly stressful. just because you have the physical space doesn’t mean you have the emotional space. add into the mix that you aren’t close and your wife *actively doe... | nta-
your own family doesn't like the woman who bullied your wife.
remind them of this.
btw- you and your brother can have a relationship of your own without your wives. it's kinda normal | nta. if you love your wife, you shouldn’t be putting her into a justifiably uncomfortable situation for a half year. | nta, no should force your wife to be uncomfortable in her own home. the family wants you to do this so they don't have to put up with sil for that long time. your brother only seems to want to repair the relationship when he needs something nit before. also good on op for not only putting wife first but for also asking... | this is a hill to die on! you should not be forced to accommodate a bully with a well developed track record. if you give in now, sil will walk over you and your family forever. hell no! tell your family members, who are spouting nonsense, to take them in themselves or stfu! | nah. look, if you want a relationship with just your brother then do that. who says your wives have to get along too. make the effort to hang with him and if he can’t do that then make diatance. | nta. you are not obligated to take anyone in, especially since your brother’s and sil’s situation is not an emergency.
in addition, you are completely correct not to expose your wife to someone who put her through hell when she was younger. as someone who was the target of bullies all through school, i can completely... | nta .. it would only open a new can of worms !!! your wife doesn't need that kind of stress while pregnant, plus 5 to 7 months your in laws will need to be there by then. your parents can invite them to stay with them . | nta. it's horrible that your family wants to dump this on you. your family knows sil is difficult, and it almost sounds like they're trying to guilt you so they don't have to deal with it. besides, having so many people living around an infant at this time is just unsafe. has anyone in your family considered that? | nta. this is an especially vulnerable time for your wife since she's pregnant. exposing her to her previous bully will cause major fluctuations in her emotions which is good for nobody and is dangerous.
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AITA for wanting my sisters in law to stop | am i the asshole for wanting the entertainment at my wedding cut short. backstory. i am getting married tomorrow to my amazing fiancé who i love. we planned this wedding pretty quickly but it finally seemed like it was all coming together. we’ve had a lot of ups and downs planning this wedding because we have very diff... | 561 | https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pqiz4b/aita_for_wanting_my_sisters_in_law_to_stop/ | 2021-09-18 08:58:04 | nta. this is your special day, and decisions about large details such as venue, food, and music lie between you and your future husband, not your family. although i'm sure it was done in good faith, it was in poor taste for them to bring in the obligation of this having this group play, especially when you already made... | first, nta.
second, take a breath.
how about this: thank your sister’s-in-law. yeah, i know you don’t want to but do it anyway. and you can do it like this, “thank you, i appreciate you want to join in our celebration. i have a dj coming that has already been paid to come for the night. but the dj will need a break, s... | they did not plan this as a "surprise for you", they planned this because it's the music they want to replace the entertainment you wanted. nta a wedding surprise is planning a fun dance or a toast, not hijacking the night's entertainment. | 4 hours????
damn…
nta, that’s too much. i wouldn’t even cut to half (still 2h), i would say 30min max!
i was born in venezuela but i live in europe. i married a portuguese guy. we had latinos and portuguese at our wedding.
my dj had music for all tastes and it was pretty good. i wouldn’t “force” my english guests to l... | nta again nta
that is not a surprise it’s high jacking your wedding. she is basically trying to throw a completely different party in the middle of your wedding!
you do not surprise someone with anything at their wedding. it’s just that simple. | nta this is you and your fiancé’s wedding. its planned in detail for a reason. its only a nice present if she had booked your fave singer or band to sing 2-3 songs. what she is doing is gatecrashing your wedding and stomping all over it without permission.
ignore your parents - some people waste their life being polit... | info: where is your fiance in all of this, and what does he want at his wedding? | nta - find out who the group is, call and cancel that’s absolutely ridiculous they are trying to hijack your wedding. | damn nta.
4 hours, and who gives a surprise entertainment show during a wedding as a present.
weird. | nta- wow, i'd be so stressed i don't think i'd attend my own wedding if someone did this. that surprise isn't for you, it's for them. | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | NTA | INFO | NTA | NTA | NTA | 0.003 | Classify the interpersonal conflict as either 'you're the a**hole (yta)' when the writer is causing the conflict or 'not the a**hole (nta)' when someone other than the writer is causing the conflict and explain your choice. Conflict context: am i the asshole for wanting the entertainment at my wedding cut short. backst... | <s>[INST] <<SYS>>
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